Will delete this later. I just hope I can talk to someone. Sobrang hirap kasi na I can’t comprehend myself. Hindi ko rin magawang mag-book ulit ng therapist like I still have a distrust due to experience and it’s not like it’s free rin naman for me to try over and over.
Hello! I want to gain women’s perspective on how to do this kasi struggle to sakin as a person like I keep beating myself up for this.
Physically, hindi ko talaga kaya alagaan ata sarili ko? Like I cannot balance my life and it’s one of my frustrations. Having a full-time job, I do not have the energy to engage in other activities like gym, or going out, or “me” time. Pero I remember, nung unemployed ako, nagkaron ako ng time so nakapag-explore ako ng activities. It genuinely made me happier as a person and scared about losing it once magka-job ulit. Then it happened na nga nung nagka-work ulit ako so literal na work-bahay pahinga na lang ako. Yung extra time ko, sa chores na lang siya napupunta.
Surface level, it’s like a time management issue pero di ko alam parang for me it’s like wala talaga akong energy. Drained. Sobrang bigat. Baka may advice kayo ladies or may mga nasa similar situation with me?
Na-onboard kasi ako sa small company and konti pa lang policies namin. Now may concern ako kasi we want to conduct a salary deduction pero wala pa kaming actual process pero indicated naman sa contract na the company can do deductions for lates or losses.
Pano po ba siya ginagawa ng mga companies? I know that due process should be conducted. Pero may perspective kasi na “sa mga companies dini-deduct talaga, ganon talaga” which is not a problem naman for me if may due process.
I’m seeing kasi na don’t want any room kasi where sa process ng investigation, pwedeng i-deny ng worker yung fault then walang mag-ttake accountability.
Baka po makapag share kayo ng insights/experience/or process niyo?
Title. Curious lang ako if hypothetically better or not siya sa PH setting.
Doble pagod lately dahil sa init ng panahon. As someone na from active to sedentary lifestyle ulit dahil sa work, grabe yung bigat ng pagod sa pakiramdam. Hindi na sapat yung tulog at napapa-stress eating pa minsan (na hindi naman healthy).
Hi ladies! I grew up fending for myself while I had a mother expected princess treatment from her children because my father did. To be truthful, I have both mommy and daddy issues so feeling ko tuloy ako yung problem 😆 anyway, when it comes to a group setting, I want to be treated as an equal like hindi yung kailangan para akong damsel in distress whereas with my partner, I want equal respect but ofc I tend to crave for princess treatment.
Now here’s the tricky part: when I’m in a group conversation and napupunta na sa usapang babae vs lalaki, I get identified as a feminist and when the topic gets deeper parang minsan nasasabihan pang double standards because I tend to express my expectations honestly. For example, not paying the bill on the first date while not giving out sex din. Mga ganyang arguments kumbaga. Automatically biglang galawang gold digger kinemerlu kahit for us women, I believe it’s just a standard dating expectations especially when we’re the ones who were asked to go out.
Anyway, I’m just curious bc somehow this part of me is something that makes me split when it comes to my sense of identity. As a woman, I cry about all our common struggles (period/hormonal problems, how we are perceived by society, disrespect thru catcalling/name-calling) but yea at the same time it feels flawed to want to be taken cared of by a man when you’re expressive of being a manhater.
Just scrolled from a Billie Eilish video. This woman is a known-singer but she is also a child. I love her songs and vibe and all but I won’t lie that she is disrespectful af — something that a few of her fans love her for.
The video was about her turning narratives like it was something between meat consumption and being vegan and her telling her fans something about cognitive dissonance.
She has a fair point but yea hindi mo madedeny na it’s just her being out of touch.
Look at the recent James Charles issue nanaman about a someone messaging them and dropping a go fund me link. It’s easier to ignore but as an influencer with a following sometimes their visibility just gets over their head.
Getting back to the title, a lot of people are like this. A lot of people I’ve met. It’s just aggravating.
Hi! It’s been months of me having a “tolerable-hate” relationship with being an HR. May times na nakaka-spike siya ng pag-worsen ng mental health ko at may times na it feels noble. Today, the “down” part visited me once again.
I hate being the “enabler” of the company. I hate being the one who people rely on because I might understand them first before anyone else does. It feels like ako yung pinupuntahan kasi ako yung magtatanggol sakanila kahit may mali silang nagawa.
Today I tried to serve an NOD to someone for a grave offense leading them to losing their job. They begged for a chance. I knew I couldn’t give them any because it would be a conflict to the policy and the strength of the disciplinary aspect of our HR. It feels so awkward to be put in this position and I hate being the one to receive their pleas. Not because I am desensitized, but because I want to favor them but doing so would be not doing my job well.
La lang. Di ko alam kung kaya ko pa. But it’s this economy ig.
May avail pa ba na Matcha Mcflurry? :(
title! pref keri for delivery tonight :) or recos pls
Hello everyone. I need your advice in my career situation. Natatakot po kasi ako maging stagnant, pero alam ko na an HR career is not for me.
I’m at my 4th attempt at an HR job, pero still hindi pa rin ako nakakapag-adjust and gusto ko na mag-resign. The last time I resigned, I told myself na maghahanap na talaga ako ng non-HR role but life happened and I had to pursue HR ulit kasi need ko na ng work.
May mga HR po ba dito na nag-career shift? How was it?
Do you know jobs that are not as mentally straining for someone with anxiety?
I know parang mema but actual na napaparalyze ako tuwing stressful situation. I just wanna get out of this loop.
Will appreciate your advice.
Meron ba kayong sagot dito na hindi logical? HAHA like hindi dahil sa economy yung sagot?
Ang hirap mabuhay lately…laging nakakapagod…I wanna feel whimsy
Good evening. I’d like to ask you guys if enough na bang proof of medical excuse yung reseta. Such practice stemmed from the idea that medical certificates are additional expense on top of check-ups, professional fees, and medicine.
Sa previous work ko, since I worked in a govt-subsidized company and since mwe majority ng workers, iniintindi yung ganito. I worked at a BPO naman so mas strict health requirements doon so med cert talaga. Current is kind of lenient talaga sa employees but we try to make it situational and less stressful if hindi naman necessary.
What do you guys think?
Tama ba yung flair ko? As much as I expect na baka mag-flop to, I somehow want to “pa-check” kung sakin lang ba nangyayari to 😭
For me yung HR stereotype na tagapag-mana ng kumpanya. Hindi lahat ng HR ganito! Kung ganito man, sana alam niyo na owner pa rin nasusunod at the end of the day.
Sa totoo lang, lagi ako nasa hotseat kasi mahilig ako magremind ng labor standards or lagi ko sinasabi na “baka ma-demoralize yung employees” feeling ko masyado na kong maluwag para sa HR.
Also yung stereotype na pag-HR ka, ikaw may control sa sahod ng mga employees. Like…kahit gustuhin ko pang taasan sahod niyong lahat, kung di naman i-recommend ng manager niyo or kung walang open spot for promotion, wala akong magagawa 😔