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Open na po ba offices now or closed pa rin?

Idk how else to describe what I need. Sometimes it’s to manage apathy sometimes it’s the feeling that I might be too emotional or too lazy or too idgaf.

Memorandum circular no. 131 is still technically a recommendation. Kamusta po sa company niyo?

and kung totoo yun, why the fuck did I have to be the one who has it? Alam mo yung feeling na sa kaloob-looban mo, hindi ka naman ganito. Hindi ka naman talaga tamad dapat. Hindi dapat nauuna ang stress over being unable to function pero the fuck I admit I just choose comfort everytime and work things off last minute. Buti nga sana kung nagiging chill ako during the moments na I don’t do something but no eh I’m not chill I’m stressed af over my inability to function!

Hello! Super worried na ko about myself, my unhealthy coping mechanisms, my behavior, and self-image. Malala ako mag introspect and I often tear myself apart while doing it. Also, may behavior ako na when I crash out, I need to be “seen” like kunwari need ko siya i-vent dito sa reddit or i-rant siya sa twitter. It’s so frustrating because I try to keep my problems to my own pero pag tina-try ko siya i-journal talagang wala siyang tulong sakin. Magsusulat lang ako ng 1 page tapos di na ulit magagalaw. I’ve had different attempts of talking to a therapist or a psychologist pero nothing really helps? I know you’ll probably ask what I mean by that pero they just end up giving a sense of false relief kasi nasasagot yung questions ko 1 time pero parang palaging may roadblock kasi di ko na na-aafford yung mga follow-up test na need and i don’t really bother anymore kasi nahahandle ko siya bigla until i end up crashing out again. I always think there’s something wrong with me until I talk about it and a person says walang mali saakin but then my behavior reflects otherwise. Can someone give me their thoughts about what I’m feeling rn?

Idk if it’s related but I’ve been flagged for ADHD but then wala pa kong next step in addressing that kasi mahal yung testing. Previously diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Yoko na. What eaf ma ma tai na lang charot

May I know kung paano kayo nagwowork? Like yung work set-up niyo po?

May mga commission-based workers ba dito na 9-5 nagwowork tapos walang SSS, PAGIBIG, or Philhealth? How does that work and is it legal?

May mga car sales agents employees ba dito? 9-5 din po ba kayo? Are you considered as employees or independent contractors?

Hi HR professionals! May I know if commission-based employees are allowed to not have benefits? One of the managers is insisting that this is allowed but I cannot find any laws that support this. I already told them about how if they insist on not giving benefits to these employees, they should be contractual instead.

Are there any HRs here? Specifically those who are under car dealers who have their employees work a certain schedule?

Help me out please!

Is it possible to get multiple issues sorted out in one session? Childhood trauma, religious trauma, eating disorder, possible adhd, workplace burnout. All of these problems trigger me and I want to sort out myself through these issues but I don’t know if it’s right to reach out to a psychologist/therapist about this because they are all about efficiency and I don’t really feel heard during the sessions I tried to take as I’ve observed they just want to get things done and over with. Idk if it’s just me having false expectations or what.

Edit: [F, 26, 5’1 at 70kg]

Hello! Pls be kind. I feel like I have a misconception on what dieting is all about. Food choices are really hard because I'm used to eating whatever I want. I'm a foodie by heart but I know that I also have an unhealthy relationship with food because it's my comfort. 70kg trying to lose weight here. I have some questions.

In dieting, my perception is that you just reduce food when you want to "reduce" as they say. But I have no healthy concept of it. I tried researching about it before but I really didn't get it. I think it's because I don't want to go too deep because I love food haha ​​but now I really want to understand more about it.

I tried calorie deficit before. As in I bought the kitchen scale and all and downloaded myfitnesspal but I got tired of not seeing results and uncertainty if I was doing it right.

Then came a time where I had no appetite due to my mental health decline, I even went for walks and gym just to let time pass. It was my most active and I reached 51kg (I don’t remember even lower). But because I felt like I really starved myself then. My brain was so slow. I was happier and more confident with how I looked and how I moved easily but I cried when I couldn’t think (being smart was kind of my thing).

When I took a job, I lost time for gym and food became my friend every time I’m stressed. It also didn’t help that my bf and I love eating together. At first I believed it when my bf said “hiyang” lang but because I almost gained 20kg in weight, I got stressed again. Clothes don’t fit anymore, thighs are rubbing, chest is heavy. I don’t like it.

Recently I’ve been trying to diet again but subtly because I don’t like being told “are you on a diet?” idk if you get it but I do. My only fear is what if I can’t do it in a healthy manner? I don’t want to crash diet. I also don’t want to lose the ability to think again (starvation). But what I’ve been trying to do so far is really cut down on rice. I read something that he only eats 2 servings of rice and I tried having my rice just like that (but about 2-4 because those 2 are unhealthy idk).

Also note that my lifestyle has become sedentary because of work. I wake up at around 7, kilos for work until 9 and travel to work by 10. Get home at around 8 to rest/decompress, dinner, then sleep. Not that I’m trying to excuse it but I’m really tired from work because the nature of the job is super stressful. In my free time I just do a little housework/fixing.

Would love your kind thoughts on how I can improve my current journey and if there are any mistakes I’m making, kindly help me out please! Sorry it’s so long, I’ve been venting about my struggles with eating/dieting.

I don’t know what to do. Sobrang nakakatawa na ewan whenever religious people would say that it helped them and I should try prayer and coming to church. Hindi ko lang masabi na eh yang religion na yan ang isa sa mga triggers ko and what caused my psychosis. Parang tanga. Isa sa mga pinaka nakakahiyang moments ng buhay ko. Alam mo pa weird don? When I was having a mental breakdown my family fucking prayed over me???? Tangina I needed help! Psychological help! Professional help! Tapos dadaanin niyo sa dasal? I can’t believe people. Alam niyo guys what worked for your healing may not work for others so bakit kayo nag-iimpose on what a person should do. Filipinos love to judge or just really think about other people’s flaws just so they can ignore their own. Yawa.

Hi HRs baka pwedeng pasabon? Idk if sabon ba need ko kasi weak din ako sa criticisms pero nahihirapan kasi talaga ako.

My current job is something I treasure. HR Generalist in a small company. Sobrang tiring kasi sakin lahat pero it’s a company that trusted me. It’s a company that allowed me to practice my profession ulit kahit na hindi pa ganon kayaman yung experience ko. I entered this job thinking that I’ll do whatever it takes for the HR side to succeed kahit mag-isa lang ako but I feel like I’m failing the company.

The company has this somehow laidback culture, given na wala pang proper policies at close halos lahat. Tipong lenient sila sa behavior as long as things are done well. Given na passionate ang people, nagagawa naman talaga ang lahat. Pero di mo maiiwasan na andoon ang abuse and lack of discipline.

I wanted to retain the camaraderie they built. I saw it as very okay kasi nga malaya ka to express yourself as long as wala kang natatapakang tao. However iniisip ko ngayon na baka nagkamali ako. Baka kaya ayaw ko baguhin yung culture kasi natakot akong walang matitirang tao pag mas naging strict. Pero hindi na rin maganda yung leniency na meron yung company kasi minsan, just because they know na mabait ang heads at papayag, ginagawa na nilang normal yung dapat pang “once” lang. Feel ko tuloy super wrong move. Nawawalan ako ng confidence as an HR kasi parang “am I not doing my job well?”

To be fair, nagagawa naman namin mag-discipline at mag-send pa rin ng notices pag talagang problematic na. Pero parang ang dating rin saakin at sa ibang management ay kailangan pang maging “sobra” yung ginagawa ng employee bago putulin. Pero kasi ang thinking ko dun, we cannot judge an employee just by a single mistake. Kaya nga sabi ko, progressive discipline dapat. Verbal warning then written warning then final warning. Pero iniisip ko din, parang mabait ‘to masyado? Dapat ba written warning lang tapos final tapos dun pa lang may suspension? Naguguluhan na rin ako kasi bakit pag ibang companies nakikita ko nagwowork naman sakanila progressive discipline?

May mga notion minsan na pag may tao na medyo nagfafall behind, inaasar na sibakin na daw. Ayaw ko yun kasi parang instead of mapabuti yung employee, madidiscourage sila ayusin. Kaso madalas dahil hindi ko masibak, parang ang hina ko kasi even when I approach it with understanding ang ending nagfafall behind din naman talaga sila at nakakaapekto sa buong team.

I think my inability to be strict is my biggest downfall. I don’t think I’m doing my job well kasi hindi ko napaglalaban ang best interests ng kumpanya. Pero di ba, compliance to the law and retaining employees and understanding employee welfare is also the company’s interests? Kaso feel ko may mali talaga sakin. This is not my first HR job so parang dapat by now dapat nawala na sakin yung hirap na nararamdaman ko. Someone even told me na baka hindi kaya ng nervous system ko ang HR job and I think they may be right.

Halos araw-araw na ko umuuwi ng stress at bagot because of this. Natatakot ako kasi ganito din nangyari sakin bago ako mag-resign dati for my mental health. Got diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Iniisip ko, hala is it getting worst nanaman ba? Pero di pwede, I wanted this so bad dati eh. Idk what to do. I want so bad to be good at this job pero I’m approaching it wrong.

Hi HRs baka pwedeng pasabon? Idk if sabon ba need ko kasi weak din ako sa criticisms pero nahihirapan kasi talaga ako.

My current job is something I treasure. HR Generalist in a small company. Sobrang tiring kasi sakin lahat pero it’s a company that trusted me. It’s a company that allowed me to practice my profession ulit kahit na hindi pa ganon kayaman yung experience ko. I entered this job thinking that I’ll do whatever it takes for the HR side to succeed kahit mag-isa lang ako but I feel like I’m failing the company.

The company has this somehow laidback culture, given na wala pang proper policies at close halos lahat. Tipong lenient sila sa behavior as long as things are done well. Given na passionate ang people, nagagawa naman talaga ang lahat. Pero di mo maiiwasan na andoon ang abuse and lack of discipline.

I wanted to retain the camaraderie they built. I saw it as very okay kasi nga malaya ka to express yourself as long as wala kang natatapakang tao. However iniisip ko ngayon na baka nagkamali ako. Baka kaya ayaw ko baguhin yung culture kasi natakot akong walang matitirang tao pag mas naging strict. Pero hindi na rin maganda yung leniency na meron yung company kasi minsan, just because they know na mabait ang heads at papayag, ginagawa na nilang normal yung dapat pang “once” lang. Feel ko tuloy super wrong move. Nawawalan ako ng confidence as an HR kasi parang “am I not doing my job well?”

To be fair, nagagawa naman namin mag-discipline at mag-send pa rin ng notices pag talagang problematic na. Pero parang ang dating rin saakin at sa ibang management ay kailangan pang maging “sobra” yung ginagawa ng employee bago putulin. Pero kasi ang thinking ko dun, we cannot judge an employee just by a single mistake. Kaya nga sabi ko, progressive discipline dapat. Verbal warning then written warning then final warning. Pero iniisip ko din, parang mabait ‘to masyado? Dapat ba written warning lang tapos final tapos dun pa lang may suspension? Naguguluhan na rin ako kasi bakit pag ibang companies nakikita ko nagwowork naman sakanila progressive discipline?

May mga notion minsan na pag may tao na medyo nagfafall behind, inaasar na sibakin na daw. Ayaw ko yun kasi parang instead of mapabuti yung employee, madidiscourage sila ayusin. Kaso madalas dahil hindi ko masibak, parang ang hina ko kasi even when I approach it with understanding ang ending nagfafall behind din naman talaga sila at nakakaapekto sa buong team.

I think my inability to be strict is my biggest downfall. I don’t think I’m doing my job well kasi hindi ko napaglalaban ang best interests ng kumpanya. Pero di ba, compliance to the law and retaining employees and understanding employee welfare is also the company’s interests? Kaso feel ko may mali talaga sakin. This is not my first HR job so parang dapat by now dapat nawala na sakin yung hirap na nararamdaman ko. Someone even told me na baka hindi kaya ng nervous system ko ang HR job and I think they may be right.

Halos araw-araw na ko umuuwi ng stress at bagot because of this. Natatakot ako kasi ganito din nangyari sakin bago ako mag-resign dati for my mental health. Got diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Iniisip ko, hala is it getting worst nanaman ba? Pero di pwede, I wanted this so bad dati eh. Idk what to do. I want so bad to be good at this job pero I’m approaching it wrong.

May ganon ba? Yung pag sobrang ang lala ng panic attack and thoughts na nagre-race sa utak mo, may pwede ka makausap for talk therapy? Alam ko kasi hindi naman ginagawa ng mga psychologist yon. Baka mamaya ang mangyari ulit is mag-explain ako ng sitwasyon ko tapos bigyan ako ng .pdf ng exercises daw na gagawin ko para sa nararamdaman ko (???) di siya kasi effective sakin, sumasama lang loob ko.

Minsan tumatawag ako sa hotline pag ganito, pero di naman na ko nagkakaron ng s- thoughts so better siguro if professional talaga? Di ko alam. San ba pwede lumapit pag ganito?

Gusto ko lang sana i-rant yung panic na pinaparamdam ng ulan para sa isang worker na katulad ko. As someone na moveit ang primary transportation papuntang work, sobrang laking parusa everytime uulan ng ganito at hindi ko mavalidate sa sarili ko umabsent for the sake of walang masakyan tapos doble pamasahe pag Grab or Indrive na lang ang option. HR pa ko so di ko magawang mangatwiran katulad ng ibang workers kasi nag-eecho na sa isip ko yung “HR ka pa naman” at mas lalong naiisip ko na yung ibang mga ka-work ko nga nakapasok. Iniisip ko pa rin hanggang ngayon paano papasok sa work habang may mga nagmemessage na sakin na di sila makapasok dahil sa tindi ng ulan. Nakakapagod.

Idk how to start this kasi I’ve been trying to avoid this topic to myself lol pero gusto ko kasi makarinig ng HR insights about this.

Yung hirap sa HR profession is not only about the different demands of the profession itself, but rather, how your morals, ethics, and philosophies get twisted based sa culture ng company niyo. It’s hard to be the backbone of the organization when you don’t believe in the core values of your organization.

Here’s my problem, I’ve been to 4 companies already in a span of 2 years. Yes, may job hopping tendencies pero let’s just say nasabayan ng existential crisis yung early career ko. I’ve gone to the point of wanting to get out of the profession as I’ve posted many times here pero I’m still here kasi nilalabanan ko lang.

Some of my peers who started out as HR already pursued other jobs as well. Parang ako lang yung hindi makatalon. Wala naman din kasi akong problem talaga sa profession, I even found it noble. Pero in reality being an HR is knowing how to perform in sticky situations.

I’ve been in a company na may safety hazards almost everyday. I’ve been in a company who used my newbie mistakes to update the company policies (like yung tipong naka-spill lang ako ng coffee, nag-release na agad ng memo? take note, nilinis ko pa yung spill na yun even tho sinabihan ako na pabayaan na). I’ve also been to a company na akala ko okay na kasi lahat ng HR facets may dedicated employee na, pero na-bully naman ako dun. Sobrang frustrating. Sa work ko ngayon, okay naman somehow. Small pa pero I feel like hindi ko rin siya deserve kasi I feel like they need a seasoned HR. Kahit anong effort ginagawa ko, I feel like I’ll always fall-short kasi di ako seasoned HR.

Ang struggle ko lang naman talaga na gusto i-express ay kung gaano kahirap humanap ng company na supportive or appreciative sa HR efforts. Isipin mo, magtatanong sila ng proper process to address a situation, tapos pag sinuggestan mo ng progressive discipline, magagalit na dapat daw suspension or termination na agad? Mangangailangan sila ng employee na ready to start anytime, tapos maisipan lang na dapat magpa-medical exam, dapat daw gawing requirement (pero ayaw naman na sagot ng company). Pati pag-announce ng minimum wage na nirequest din naman ng manager, dapat daw di na in-announce at inantay na lang sa payslip. It’s really weird that these are considered as concerns.

Karamihan ng companies ngayon, nagiging pro-people na. Pero yung company na ganito, parang pa-backwards na mag-isip. Tiring maging HR sa ganito sa totoo lang. Idk if HR is not for me lang kasi maka-manggagawa ako or talagang off lang yung company dito.

Hi HRs! I finally found a way to ask this question without being generation-specific (IYGWIM) lalo na't hindi lang naman Gen Zs ang good on paper but such dilemmas like what I've written here in the title are present in every generation naman. I think some of these employees just hasn't attained maturity yet in the workforce setting and I'm not one to judge because I know I definitely have breakdowns every now and then malala at sadyang dito ko lang ini-air out sa reddit. Anyways, this question is important for me because I cannot accept in my heart that employees with high potential but weak productivity end up getting booted. I believe that with the right support, they can thrive but it's just that not all teams or companies are willing to go the extra mile to do so. The problem is, as HR, I cannot bypass naman management decisions, but only suggests what they can do such as pwedeng ilipat sa ibang teams. But when such an option is not available, what do you guys do? Do we just suck it up and remain black and white and execute termination?

and how did it came to that set-up?

Hi! I’d love to know your insights if it’s okay to not follow progressive discipline. It’s always been one of my blockers in sanctioning employees. I know progressive discipline is there to protect employers as well from disproportionate disciplinary action but what if it is also used by employees to commit infractions with confidence?

Would it be okay to provide a sanction of final warning with 1 day suspension, or is that an attempt to be sneaky? The management believes that a final warning is too light so they want to suspend the employee for 1 day but I told them that no previous cases regarding the matter has been reported to me and they haven’t been sanctioned for a final warning before. For context, they went 1-day AWOL. They are a supervisory position so absent resulted into delays and disruption as they did not assign anyone to do their work as well.

Looking forward to your insights.

Problem/Goal:
I feel like I’m too maawain for HR or not fit for HR at all.

Context:
I entered this profession trying to shy away from being desensitized. I want to be as considerate as I can be to people but I believe it’s hindering my professional growth in being an HR. I’ve told myself numerous times that I want to quit being an HR because it’s not for me but I push myself strong because other than it being my only means for survival, the longer I stay the longer I learn more about myself as well.

I’m finding it hard to accept that in HR, you really have to see people as resources because being merciful is just coddling them and not really contributing to their growth.

It’s just that I really cannot stop myself to think that they’re human too.

I’m having a hard time talaga and once again I am at a dilemma of thinking if HR is for me. But this time, I’m more open to the idea that maybe it’s not for me because my being maawain is a sign of my incompetence.

Previous attempts:
Idk, I just try to survive everyday. Umabot pa to sa point na naging topic of problem ko siya na tinawag ko na sa mental health hotline haha sabi try ko daw mag-apply sa ibang work pero di ko rin kaya kasi di ko alam kung ano ipupursue ko pag di ako nag-HR.

Sobrang nakakapagod siya parang love-hate relationship aq dito haha

Hello to my fellow HRs. I entered this profession trying to shy away from being desensitized. I want to be as considerate as I can be to people but I believe it’s hindering my professional growth in being an HR. I’ve told myself numerous times that I want to quit being an HR because it’s not for me but I push myself strong because other than it being my only means for survival, the longer I stay the longer I learn more about myself as well.

I’m finding it hard to accept that in HR, you really have to see people as resources because being merciful is just coddling them and not really contributing to their growth.

It’s just that I really cannot stop myself to think that they’re human too.

I’m having a hard time talaga and once again I am at a dilemma of thinking if HR is for me. But this time, I’m more open to the idea that maybe it’s not for me because my being maawain is a sign of my incompetence.