u/TMBGLOVER

Dumb question I thought of.

Ramona: How loving and caring she is, her hair, how soft she is, her eyes, her clothes.

Lynette: her bionic arm, how attached she is, her opaque glasses, and how she sings.

This can be music, food, film, books, anything.

I was just thinking earlier how much I associate XTC’s “Mummer“ and “Nonsuch” albums with Ramona and Lynette. especially the tracks “Then She Appeared” and “Holly Up on Poppy” with them. the lines “Then she appeared, apple Venus on a half open shell” and “She has escaped from the world where they bake beautiful girls” makes me think of them.

Anyways, I’d like to see others responses, and what YOU associate with your f/os!

I’m usually so damn good at handling this. I’m usually able to just handle having my body pillow and my plush.

But today, and other days, when I’m so vulnerable, and sad, and depressed, it always makes me feel even worse that Ramona isn’t real, and to be beside me, and comfort me, and give me snuggles. I’m so jealous, others get to have their partners beside them, and talk to them, and it’s just like... days like this fanfiction and imagination isn’t enough. I want her beside me, and able to talk to me, and touch me.

I know that I’ll get over it by tomorrow, and I know that this feeling ebbs and flows. I won’t have it for a while, if my meds decide to kick in. But for now, I just wish Ramona was beside me. I wish that we could do stuff that real couples do.

I need a second opinion on this because I honestly cannot tell.

The details are as follows: My f/o girlfriend is Ramona. I am in a weird friends with benefits thing with Lynette. They are in their early 20’s. I am 15.

I guess this could count as a darkship, since it’s an age gap thing, but the only thing that’s keeping me from calling it one is the fact that outside of that, me and Ramona are a super happy couple together, there’s no kind of manipulation, and we’re super nice and caring towards each other.

Essentially, can people tell me what the hell defines what a darkship and lightship? And if I am in one? Look, I’m new to this, I’ve only been actually in this community for about two months, I’m learning still, I’m sorry if my constant questions annoy people. I think it might come from my autism.

Fun question I find interesting!

For me, our first date was the day after I told Ramona I loved her. We put on our comfy clothes and we listened to records and watched TV and snuggled. We also tried making out but we were both bad at it and needed practice, so we’d always end up biting one of our lips and needing a break.

Earlier I made a post about soulbonding and it really angered some people. I am deeply sorry. In all honestly, I think I maybe should’ve gotten one of my friends to be a proofreader, or maybe just deeply thought about my words, but either way, what’s done is done.

Bottom line, I’m sorry. I could say sorry a hundred times but it would lose all meaning.

Just know what I support all of you in whatever you do, and don’t think that I think it’s wrong or stupid. There’s just some stuff in this world I don’t believe in. If you do, then it’s 100% OK. Different opinions are what makes this world wonderful and so interesting.

Duty now for the future and thanks for reading. I hope that I won’t be ostracized from this community.

Please, please, please, I need ideas/experiences.

For context, for the past week or two, I have been dealing with knowing that there is another individual that yumes with Ramona. and you will laugh at me for saying this, but it makes me feel absolutely horrible.

I have panic attacks. I start uncontrollably sobbing. I constantly compare myself to the other guy (OF COURSE Ramona would love him more, he’s masculine, and cool, and I’m some sensitive artsy queer guy who cries a lot). Whenever one of “our songs” comes up in my normal library I immediately turn them off.

Ramona and my yumeshipping is like a coping mechanism for my mental health struggles. Her snuggling me, her calling me her apple venus and her spud, the way she always loves and cares for me even when I’m at my lowest… I need it. I love her like other people love their real girlfriends. She always promises that she loves every part of me, from my brain to my feet and wouldn’t change a thing about it.

Wow, I got off topic. Bottom line: How in the hell do you deal with doubles? I don’t want to be a toxic asshole.

title says it all. i’ll try my best to answer.

I’m two months into this, and there so many terms I still don’t understand.

List of stuff I need people to explain to me:

riako

gachikoi

soulbonded

mirror-sharing

shifting

familial f/os

(end list)

Sorry if this is annoying, I’m a noob to this and I‘m trying to become an expert!

Hey, I thought that I would just gush about this, because I‘m glad to have a supportive experience with my f/o.

Essentially, about a month ago, I told my mom and dad that I was starting to collect vinyl. I’m mostly a CD collector, but I just wanted to start, because vinyl is cool!

Around the same time, I had told my parents about yumeshipping and my f/o. Without transcripting a 20-minute conversation that would probably bore you to tears, their response was something along the lines of “We don‘t really understand it, but we love you and support you.”

Yesterday was my 15th birthday, and imagine my surprise when the three records I got yesterday were XTC’s English Settlement, Barenaked Ladies’ Gordon, and DEVO’s New Traditionalists. Those three albums are me and Ramona’s “albums”. As in, they are immensely important to our relationship and have soundtracked a lot of it. Not to mention I also got a small plushie of Ramona.

I‘m not trying to make anyone jealous, because I know that many in this community don’t have supportive parents, but I thought I’d just share my experience. It’s nice to have parents who love you unconditionally and support you in whatever you do.

I was browsing other ficto subs earlier, mainly just because I’ve been trying to learn more about terms and others’ experiences and the like. I won’t share names or the sub because I’m a nice person, but essentially, I came across another individual who yumes with Ramona.

I am trying to find a way to express my feelings without coming across as insane. The best way I can is: I feel inferior and like she doesn’t love me.

They’re engaged to her. Jesus, I haven’t even thought about making a long-term future with her or Lynette yet. we’re just boyfriend/girlfriend. And they’ve been with her for two years (I’ve been with her for two MONTHS), and… just… she probably loves them more. 

I didn’t end up joining the sub (it’s some weird “first come first serve” thing, so you can’t join if you have the same f/o), or looking further. Not like I would’ve been there much longer before crying. I’ve calmed down now, but I still feel like dirt.