u/ThrowRA-throw0

Basically the title,

I’m aro, almost asexual and I have a high appeal and i’m always bullied by my friends. Because they don’t comprehend i couldn’t care less about women and they make me feel inadequate.

I feel desperate for people who are so primitive that they only use their cocks as their brains. Those people whose only aim in this life is to get laid.

I posted a picture of my thinning hair on a subreddit, there is a certain drug which prevents hair loss. Someone says: there are side effects. It kills your libido.

I was like, that’s okay. I don’t care about it anyway.

He was like, can i ask you a question? Why do you want to fix your hairline if you don’t care about women? Most people use these drugs and fix their hairline because they want to appeal to women.

This is beyond crazy to me.

I want to prevent my hair loss because i want to appeal to MYSELF. I want to look good.

Sorry for the rant. I want to see that there are people like me and im not alone.

Please tell me your thoughts.

When you wanted to know if someone has blocked you or nah, we used the encryption check method.

Unfortunately it doesn’t work anymore. I just checked it with my mothers WhatsApp and my own 2nd WhatsApp.

Sorry for our loss.

I don’t want to be aromantic. I want to be able to develop romantic feelings for someone and have intimate romantic relationships.

I’ve had two relationships in the past, both of which lasted two years. Both girls loved me very much, but I never felt even the slightest romantic attraction toward either of them.

I want to experience falling in love. I want to see someone and feel my heart race because of them.

Is this something permanent, or can it change over time?

Is there anyone here who would consider themselves alternative but ended up marrying a non-alternative (“normie”) person?

I’m not using the term as an insult at all, I just don’t know a better word for it.

For example, let’s say you’re goth, but your partner will probably never fully understand or appreciate your aesthetic the way another goth person would. Doesn’t that matter to you?

I’m a music producer and vocalist, and I honestly can’t even imagine being married to someone who has no interest in art.

As an artist, I want my partner to appreciate and understand my aesthetic and creative vision. Don’t you have similar concerns?

Hi everyone,

I’ve had two long-term relationships, both lasted about two years, and I never felt the slightest romantic feelings for either of them.

I’ve considered myself aromantic for years, and after researching aromanticism, I realized that it describes my experience pretty well.

The problem is that I can’t tolerate being alone. I’m 22 years old, and I’ve become incredibly obsessed with the idea of marriage.

How am I supposed to get married if I don’t experience romantic attraction? If there are any aromantic people here who are married, what is your relationship dynamic like?

I honestly can’t even imagine living my whole life without getting married. Loneliness drives me crazy.

I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts and experiences on this. Thanks.

Am I aromantic?

When I was very young, I experienced what I believe was real love twice. Those are the only experiences I have to compare anything to. Both times, whenever I saw those girls, my heart would race. I was completely and deeply in love with them.

However, over time I became a very emotionally detached person. I’ve had two serious relationships in my life, one in high school and one in university. Both lasted about two years.

I never loved either of them. Seeing them never made me excited, and I never felt anything romantic toward them. Not even a little.

Romance in general makes me uncomfortable. Whenever a movie has romantic scenes, I usually skip them immediately.

I also don’t feel much toward my friends. I don’t feel much toward my family either.

I have a cat, and I don’t love him/her either. It feels like I simply don’t have feelings of love toward anyone.

Does this sound like aromanticism, or could it be something else?

Am I aromantic?

When I was very young, I experienced what I believe was real love twice. Those are the only experiences I have to compare anything to. Both times, whenever I saw those girls, my heart would race. I was completely and deeply in love with them.

However, over time I became a very emotionally detached person. I’ve had two serious relationships in my life, one in high school and one in university. Both lasted about two years.

I never loved either of them. Seeing them never made me excited, and I never felt anything romantic toward them. Not even a little.

Romance in general makes me uncomfortable. Whenever a movie has romantic scenes, I usually skip them immediately.

I also don’t feel anything toward my friends. I don’t feel anything toward my family either.

I have a cat, and I don’t love him either. It feels like I simply don’t have feelings of love toward anyone.

Does this sound like aromanticism, or could it be something else?

She never gave me closure.

From January to May 2025, we went through a long and painful breakup. We couldn’t fully let go of each other. She gave me countless chances to change, but I never did.

Even though she loved me deeply, she eventually gave up and blocked me everywhere in May 2025.

After that, I messaged her from different phone numbers multiple times. At first she would reply, but eventually she stopped responding and would just block the new numbers as soon as I reached out.

I realized how badly I messed up, but by then it was too late. I’m not proud of this, but for about six months I would message her every couple of weeks. I wasn’t trying to get her back. I genuinely wasn’t. I just wanted answers to my questions so I could finally move on.

Up until about 3 or 4 months ago, I kept trying. For the last few months, though, I haven’t contacted her at all.

The truth is, I don’t think I’ll ever fully get over her. We were both artists, and we understood each other’s aesthetic and way of seeing the world perfectly. She was the most loyal, beautiful, and honest person I’ve ever known.

Do you think it’s possible to get closure after enough time has passed? I’m considering sending her a friendly message on her birthday a year and a half from now. Not to get back together, just to see if there’s any chance of having a normal conversation and finally getting some closure.

I feel like if I never get that closure, I’ll carry this with me for the rest of my life. I’ve developed self-destructive tendencies, and my life has fallen apart since the breakup.

Hello,

When you completely delete your WhatsApp account and create a new one with the same phone number, is it going to automatically unblock everyone you blocked before?

I’m planning to delete my account and create a new one with the same phone number and I have got a really long block list. I wonder whether I’m gonna have to block them all one by one again.

edit: I have absolutely zero experience in drawing.

I’ve been wondering whether I should attend a regular art course or take private lessons from a girl who ranked first and got accepted into the best university in my country — which is also the university I want to get into. Since I’m completely new to drawing, I’m trying to choose the option that would help me improve the fastest and build a strong portfolio.

Art courses seem helpful because they provide structure, discipline, and a chance to practice fundamentals consistently. However, I feel like private lessons from someone who already achieved the exact goal I’m aiming for could be even more valuable. She probably understands what the university expects from applicants, which skills matter the most, and how to avoid common mistakes.

I think personalized feedback and direct mentorship from someone experienced might help me improve much faster, but I’m still unsure whether that would be a better choice than studying in a more traditional classroom environment.

What do y’all think?

I’m trying to decide between joining a regular art course or taking private lessons from a girl who got into the top art university in my country as the first-ranked student (also the school I want to attend).

I’m completely new to drawing, so I’m wondering which option would help me improve faster and build a stronger portfolio. A course seems more structured, but learning directly from someone who already achieved my exact goal also sounds really valuable.

What do y’all think? I can’t even draw a stick figure. Competely new.

I’ve been wondering whether I should attend a regular art course or take private lessons from a girl who ranked first and got accepted into the best university in my country — which is also the university I want to get into. Since I’m completely new to drawing, I’m trying to choose the option that would help me improve the fastest and build a strong portfolio.

Art courses seem helpful because they provide structure, discipline, and a chance to practice fundamentals consistently. However, I feel like private lessons from someone who already achieved the exact goal I’m aiming for could be even more valuable. She probably understands what the university expects from applicants, which skills matter the most, and how to avoid common mistakes.

I think personalized feedback and direct mentorship from someone experienced might help me improve much faster, but I’m still unsure whether that would be a better choice than studying in a more traditional classroom environment.

What do y’all think?

i’ve never drawn before in my life. how many months do you think it would take me to reach a level where i can prepare a portfolio? i have enough free time to practice 5 hours a day, 5 days a week.

is it realistically possible for me to reach portfolio level within a few months, or would i need to work on it for at least one or two years?

hello everyone. after my last relationship ended, i started questioning something a lot: does getting bored around someone mean you never truly loved them?
in my previous relationship, we actually had so much in common. she studied fashion design, i studied music. we both loved art and understood each other’s interests. on paper, she was probably the perfect match for me.
but despite that, whenever we met, i would feel bored after a while and want to go back home. we didn’t even meet that often because of me — once a week felt enough. and even then, after hanging out for two or three hours, i’d usually make up an excuse and leave early.
the weird part is that after she left me, all my feelings completely changed. suddenly i started missing everything about her and realizing how valuable she actually was to me.
so now i genuinely can’t tell:
was i bored because i didn’t truly love her? Is there a correlation between getting bored and not loving the person?

i want to study fashion design but i genuinely dont feel like a creative person.

to explain it better, im also a music producer and i have the exact same issue there too. most of the things i make are heavily inspired by other artists. i have a very good ear and i can instantly tell when something sounds good or bad, but creating something “original” feels extremely hard to me.

its like i have taste without creativity.

sometimes i wonder if creativity is actually a skill you build over time or if some people are just born with it. because when i look at talented designers, producers, artists etc they seem naturally imaginative in a way i’ve never been.

another problem is overthinking. i analyze everything too much and it kills spontaneity completely. i also struggle with perfectionism pretty badly, so if an idea doesnt immediately feel amazing i lose motivation fast.

did any of you start out like this and eventually become more creative later on? especially people in fashion, music or design fields.

i’d appreciate honest answers.