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I’m trying to understand what the differences may be and what I might be dealing with.

Is a relationship with someone bpd any easier than npd?

My son is newly 6 in first grade. He has such huge loud emotions. And most of them are just bawling when he doesn’t get his way. It’s obviously no longer age appropriate and kids are bullying him for it. I always just hear “John is being John again” (john not his real name, but you get the point).

We started therapy every other week about two months ago and I haven’t seen any improvement. If anything, it keeps getting worse. Albeit of course this takes major time.

He got pushed by another team mate on a sports team last weekend and got laughed at and of course it was the biggest theatrics that have the town could see. It’s that bad.

I’m over being embarrassed. I don’t want to tell him not to feel his feelings. We do say things like you gotta toughen up, kids will bully you etc. my husband wants to punish him, but idk why it feels wrong if there’s actually something wrong.

I’m at a loss. His father isn’t the best role model and Is admittedly very dysregulated himself and possible narcissistic personality disorder. He kinda just sucks as a human so I minimize interactions as much as I can.

What else can and should I be doing?

An actual pumpkin scent with a dash of cinnamon. Please.

Been with my husband 10 years. He’s very much an out loud narcissist. I’ve endured about as much as I think i can take. My children don’t even want to be left alone with him, they come with me everywhere and I don’t get any breaks.

Anyways… is it wrong of me to back pocket a lawyer even if I’m not ready to jump to divorce immediately?

I have so many questions swirling around and I want to feel confident about my exit (both in my plans, and in my feelings).

Also does anyone know any answers to the below:

1. If I want to buy him out of the house can I start working with a mortgage officer to see if and what I’d get approved for WITHOUT HIM KNOWING? Would I have to have the house appraised again to understand how to buy him out? Right now I’m on the deed but he owns it.

2. one of the scariest parts of this all is not being able to monitor his parenting. My children are not in physical danger but he’s just a bad person. He’s such a bad role model. He’s a giant bully, he’s angry, disregulated, he provokes them, gets angry at every accident. Etc. he does more harm than good for my kids. My daughter has developed terrible anxiety around him. But he’s also their father. How do I best manage this? Is it enough to ask for supervised visits? Can I order anger management or other resources for him to see them? Do I need solid evidence that he sucks?

I dropped off the bandwagon for a while. I had way too many candles.

I’m ready to make a purchase now. But what are some good scents out now? Help me decide.

I’ve always been suspect. I have very high ANA and inflammation markers. I deal with bottom foot pain, shin pain, puffiness everywhere, trouble losing weight, tmj and jaw pain. Those are my biggest symptoms

For someone who lacks true human connection, he’s been on my back lately. Saying I don’t love him, touch him, etc. sometimes it’s not even sex sometimes he asks why I don’t hug him for example. we just had a baby 2 months ago and I’m distracted. That and he is who he is and most times I just despise the thought of initiating affection. But why would a narcissist ask for affection? I thought they hated that stuff? Maybe ego boost?