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hello. apologies if this is not appropriate to here, but I decided to give some importance to this thought and the papers I've read doesn't give a clear answer.

to preface, I already have some PD's. I've AVPD (all but formally put a name on, the coveted paper is unobtainable here), some facets from DPD (also all but formally put a name on) and some facets from PPD (I had previously read that those with AVPD could show overlap with cluster A personality disorders and according to DSM-5 I may be meeting the minimum needed for a diagnosis).

With those in mind, I had done a Big 5 test based on IPIP-NEO-120 beforehand. In the test I demonstrated 86 Conscientousness. The score on facets were as follows: 15 Self-Efficacy, 12 Orderliness, 15 Dutifulness, 15 Achivement-Striving, 14 Self-Discipline, 15 Cautiousness.

Today I had read up on what OCPD is in a lot more detail. My thoughts on some of the criterion is as follows:

I do consider myself a workaholic and I guess I occasionally have miserly thoughts. But my Openness is also high (94) when OCPD would bring a low score to my understanding. And I think I might be decently flexible. I do pay attention to details a lot but I don't know whether it's excessive or not. Perfectionism was something I was mostly guilty of in my pre-teen years, I think my tendency to be one decreased. Having control over people and environment (though environment is less-so) is something I'm guilty of, but I don't know if the motive's similar to OCPD. I tend to control people because I don't trust people and I think that they will emotionally hurt me later on, or leave me because I'm too flawed. I also love putting things to order or structuring my time in a broad manner. I don't know if I insist on things being done in a certain manner. To others I can insist, but by myself I tend to not do such a thing.

I would appreciate any advice, non-medical of course.

hello. I want to switch to Sociology next year. For this end, I decided to fix my maths deficiency. I rediscovered my love for statistics. However I’ve seen that for quantitative research, a programming language is also required. But I had previously discovered that I hate programming. It feels so indirect and convoluted to me. Can I have success in quantitative research without learning programming? I’ve not discovered an area to use quantitative research yet.

I genuinely wonder. Today, I have learned a bit about a psychologist called Gabor Mate; whom posits that there are two basic, non-negotiable needs which are frequently in clash; attachment and authenticity. After blindly following authority figures, being an "easy" kid and never developing an identity I broke and I decided to strive for an identity after seeing that it was a requirement albeit it has been quite painful. I hate myself, but the resulting identity is something I really like. I think that it's the only thing of value I have. The only thing I've succeeded on. I've been shown that Attachment only amounts to disappointment and feels like backtracking. Authenticity made me feel emotions I never thought I could experience like superiority, a meaning, less shallow positive emotions etc. It's also something that feels more like a choice I've made. Attachment feels like a necessity I can't manage. So, I am a villain now. Don't get me wrong, I'm quite happy with my new role. I now have a spine. I create conflicts. I'm arrogant. I compromise instead of giving it all up. I deflect punishment attempts. That's something people have been lacking, or so I see. Maybe there could be a spectrum of people I can attract without sacrificing myself. Though I would run away before I could learn them. But I've recently been wondering, "Besides a villain, what am I? Without the villain, what remains? Or have I truly become the villain?" That's a question I've sat and sat with. I haven't reached an conclusion. I wanted to ask people possibly similar to me.

I genuinely wonder. Today, I have learned a bit about a psychologist called Gabor Mate; whom posits that there are two basic, non-negotiable needs which are frequently in clash; attachment and authenticity. After blindly following authority figures, being an "easy" kid and never developing an identity I broke and I decided to strive for an identity after seeing that it was a requirement albeit it has been quite painful. I hate myself, but the resulting identity is something I really like. I think that it's the only thing of value I have. The only thing I've succeeded on. I've been shown that Attachment only amounts to disappointment and feels like backtracking. Authenticity made me feel emotions I never thought I could experience like superiority, a meaning, less shallow positive emotions etc. It's also something that feels more like a choice I've made. Attachment feels like a necessity I can't manage.

So, I am a villain now. Don't get me wrong, I'm quite happy with my new role. I now have a spine. I create conflicts. I'm arrogant. I compromise instead of giving it all up. I deflect punishment attempts. That's something people have been lacking, or so I see. Maybe there could be a spectrum of people I can attract without sacrificing myself. Though I would run away before I could learn them.

But I've recently been wondering, "Besides a villain, what am I? Without the villain, what remains? Or have I truly become the villain?"

That's a question I've sat and sat with. I haven't reached an conclusion. I wanted to ask people possibly similar to me.

Hello. Apologies if this's a silly thing to worry about, but I've did the Holland Code twice and both are results I do not agree with. I think that I am ISC or SIC. However my results have been different both times from what I've expected. I got CSIR (I and R were the same score hence inclusion of both) and RCE. I did pick Sociology as my undergrad and I do not know if these scores should be a source of worry with this choice. I do not have anything solid post-grad yet if it helps and I chose this undergrad partially because it's non-vocational. Realistic dimension resonates with me to some extent admittedly. Artistic and Enterprising however, not at all. Maybe I have biases regarding Artistic due to witnessing first-hand how terrible art gets when it's professional. I would appreciate all help.

hello. I don't know if this question is too loaded for the subreddit, but I was wondering if identity development gets hindered by AvPD. I can pinpoint key moments in which my AvPD got it's roots and one of them is the moment where I ended up falling into "identity diffusion", when I was told in front of my parents that I couldn't pursue the career path I and everyone expected me to because I was not enough of a pencil-pusher. Hence the second part of the question.

I would like to read your personal anecdotes. Have a nice day.

Whilst I’m not officially in it yet, I've been accepted as an Sociology undergraduate by those in the field I’ve recently learned about this sub. I want to put this out here. I want to be congratulated for I know there will always be someone to persuade me otherwise. like it's not a "trending occupation" (i picked this partially because it doesn't lead to a defined career path.) it's "four years of nothing" (i don't believe that at all, though I can't explain why) and so on...

but it gives me a goal, a purpose to strive for like others, and i love it. that's what matters right?

Hello. This is something I was thinking for a while now. I've read tales of people with PD's inventing things within the field with reflective thinking (like DBT.) After a while, I realized that my interest in Psychology was a form of projection for I have AVPD.

So, I was wondering why such a thing was happening. What mechanisms in the mind or other sorts of events are triggered in people with mental issues and an interest in Psychology; that do not occur in an ordinary, average person interested in Psychology?

Hello to all. My current university is an academic university. Whilst looking at it’s overseas opportunities I have learned that the Sociology department has exchange programs with an Applied Sciences university. I’ve probed further and found out that there are other such universities. So, I wondered how Sociology differs in an Applied Sciences/Polytechnic University. Does anyone have experience?

Back in puberty; my mother never believed that I struggled and thought I could do everything, I was just not wanting them enough. Struggling me was also a desperate me and that's partially why I was surrounded by enemies at high school. Then came university friends. They also didn’t want the struggling me except they went an extra mile and dumped me ASAP because struggling me was also an useless me.

I feel that I have to always exaggerate my difficulties so that I am believed and my struggles get deemed valid enough to get help. I never say “I can’t” because that’s not valid and I fear that I will be told that I am not trying enough. I always say “I am unable to”.

How do I stop this behaviour? How can I accept that my struggles will remain invisible or something more “healthy”? Can stopping this help me find people worthy of being called a “friend” instead of acquaintances that I shall forget about after their usecase ends?

hello. recently a thought popped up in my head, regarding this matter. to elaborate, I had recently thought if more "traditional" social activities such as going out to drink, betting on horses etc. could be the first things which would come up if a (self-identified) conservative person was asked to define "social activities". and likewise if more "recent" social activities would come up had the question be asked to a (self-identified) liberal person.

I do not have the sort of friend circle to verify such a thing. I was wondering if there really is a relation like I had thought.

Hi. I hope this is the correct sub. As the title says, I never mentally progressed much beyond 15-16. And yet, I am 19. And my family loves to remind me that, even though I don't feel I am at such a age in the slightest. Why that happened is a quite long story. What's important is that I became quite traumatized. I have AVPD and likely some facets from PPD and DPD.

Up until late last year I had:

*severe identity confusion

*no personality

*nothing to achieve

*perpetual stress and anxiety

*at times lack of a will to live

*no support systems

*no social skills

I have improved a bit since then. But even though I say otherwise I know the gap is too much to address. And I regularly beat myself up for not being recognized among my peers and I will likely never engage in the typical youth activities (I don't find them enticing in the first place.)

I have recently thought however that the best way to address the gap is to acknowledge it but also to not play catch up to something immeasurable and may very well just be something arbitrary and in my head. I want to focus on being a person instead. I think that would remove any comparisons and make me live in a more fulfilling manner. I also think, being a person is ever more important. How can I do all of that?

I have done some "hard" things since then that I don't think my peers have done. As an example, I have finally managed to find something that I want to study as my undergrad after years of aimlessness. From what I've seen, my peers choices are dictated completely externally (parents, money, reputation etc.) However; my choice was not motivated by such things, it was intrinsic and in fact nobody congratulated me in-person for my choices. I have told this for I think that it's a step in the direction I have written above.

Thank you in advance for the responses.

Hi. I hope this is the correct sub. As the title says, I never mentally progressed much beyond 15-16. And yet, I am 19. And my family loves to remind me that, even though I don't feel I am at such a age in the slightest. Why that happened is a quite long story. What's important is that I am now quite traumatized and I have AVPD and likely some facets from PPD and DPD.

Up until late last year I had:

*severe identity confusion

*no personality

*perpetual stress and anxiety

*at times lack of a will to live

*no support systems

*no social skills

I have improved a bit since then. But even though I say otherwise I know the gap is too much to address. And I regularly beat myself up for not being recognized amongst my peers and I will likely never engage in the typical youth activities (I don't find them enticing in the first place.)

I have recently thought however that the best way to address the gap is to acknowledge it but also to not address it, to not play catch up. I want to focus on being a person instead. I think that would remove any comparisons. How can I do that however?

I have done some "important" things since then that I don't think my peers have done. As an example, I have finally managed to find something that I want to study as my undergrad after years of languish. From what I've seen, my peers choices are dictated completely externally (parents or other sorts of authority, money, reputation etc.) However; my choice was not motivated by such things, it was intrinsic and in fact nobody congratulated me in-person for my choices. I have told this for I think that it's a step in the direction I have written above.

Thank you in advance for the responses.

Hello, I will be switching my undergrad to Sociology. I want to learn qualitative methods. However my maths foundation doesn't extend much beyond subtraction and multiplication. I know I shouldn't have survived, but I slipped through thanks to our not-very-harsh education system. I have learned the hard way however that fields without maths are mere distractions. And that, I have to gain a passable maths foundation if I want to do something beyond surviving. I have endured years and years of trauma from my bad maths foundation. Like recently one of my only friends teased me for still counting with my fingers. How can I start to learn things and stop being an inferior being? I have started from fourth grade math in Khan Academy but it's challenging. It's hard for me to grasp abstract concepts in the first place. that's why I liked logic in high school, it didn't feel abstract.

I would appreciate all helps. Thank you in advance.

Hello. I will get to sociology. From what I read, quantitative research is an oft-overlooked important part. For this reason and a desire to "best math", I want to get into quantitative research first. There's a problem though. My maths foundation is bad. I don't really have much knowledge in multiplication and division. I got by because my family pitied me and I showed a lot of success in non-maths areas. With this handicap in mind, can I learn statistics in a satisfactory manner? I know that the immediate answer is to learn multiplication and division properly; but I severely doubt I can really learn them, I didn't learn them for all these years. Is there any other way? My IQ is also not high at all at 98. I know it's not a static number but it won't ever rise to a level I find acceptable. Should I stay away from statistics?

Thanks in advance for the replies.

Hi. I thought that this could be the right place. I had wondered this question for a while. By "total silence", I mean digital silence where there is no signal at all coming from the recording. If we listened to this digital silence, could we say that we had experienced digital silence? Or are we experiencing something else? If we had removed all potential noise sources, would that be enough to experience total silence?

I am 19M. I had taken a gap year. I have used this gap year to catch up on mental and psychosocial development I had previously skipped over. Recently, someone had asked me what my purpose was. I was lost for words bar one in “learning.” Ever since then, I’ve started making a bullet list of purposes I could harbor from most sure to least sure; a reflection on my gap year in a sense. Learning was ,perhaps unsurprisingly, at the top. Today, it struck me to put "being a polymath" below learning. This was what I was looking for all along. I was already planning on pivoting into Sociology and it seems to me like something I could leverage towards being a polymath. I have decided to google this question and I saw a few posts in this subreddit. I have decided to read them and the reading styles they emphasize seems very daunting. I currently use the extremely inefficient method of translating the things I see to my native language. I want to change it to something else but I can't find a method that isn't complex and hard. I also saw that a physical aspect can be required and besides walking every day I don't do any sort of exercise. Other things I saw were being ok with being different from most people and I had actually written "being shunned" to third place beforehand. And I feel that, I am actively fulfilling this potential purpose with every breath I take. They also said that "curiosity as a passion" is required which I may have, I had considered curiosity a core value.

I hope this isn't long and scattered. I await responses. Have a nice day.

for background, I am 19M. I have had identity issues since puberty (and i have repressed myself a lot during high school) and i still struggle but thanks to therapy and a gap year dedicated to self-reflection i am a bit better and i will very likely switch my undergrad to sociology.

i wanted to switch to sociology for a myriad of reasons out of other social sciences and humanities because i think that it is a good "first step" into a future. why I think in this manner is mainly because whilst it might not land me into a job i have a bigger problem than finding a job in that my social skills are subpar and my personality is still undetermined, something which I should have already done according to Erikson. Sociology seems to me a good way to fix this "issue".

I know that the above sounds like a selfish reason but it also plays to my strengths (I love researching, I already often observe humans to name a few) unlike my previous degree which demanded a skillset that I didn’t have and I have been called a good fit for the area by someone.

What should I expect as I study Sociology? What are some things I can do as I wait for the academic year to start? I have been recommended to read up on Philosophy.

Apologies if this is too scattered.

apologies if this is a dumb question, but i often use it when i write for it's quite useful. nobody uses it however. could psychology tell us why the individual opts to not use semicolons? could it be linked to personality traits or some other sort of grandeur meaning?

beyler ben bilgi rts okuyordum fakat bölümden nefret ediyordum bu sene merkezi yatay geçişle bilgi sosyolojiye geçecektim okula çöktüler. msgsü sosyolojiye geçemediğim bir senaryoda herhangi bir üninin sosyoloji bölümüne geçsem orada okuyor gözükmem yurtdışında (almanya gibi) sosyoloji okumamı sağlar mı? cevaplarınıza çok müteşşekir olurum