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I’ve been wondering about something and I hope it’s okay to ask. I’m genuinely curious about how different trans people feel about this.

If you could have magically chosen, from birth, to be born cisgender as the gender you identify with—for example, a trans woman being born a cis woman—would you personally have preferred that? Or would you still choose the experience of being transgender, knowing everything it entails? Is the fact that you started in one place and ended up in another important to you? Or would you sometimes prefer to have started out as the gender you identify with from the very beginning?

Hey everyone, just curious about something. There's this theory G2R may have the potential to attract an audience G1R has failed to mobilize and I wanted to test that theory. If you have time maybe you could shed some light on the issue with a vote.

Thank you and "Pass auf deinen Rücken auf!"

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Hi ich brauche Hilfe. Ich komme ursprünglich aus Portugal und will meiner Frau zum Jahrestag was aus ihrer Heimat kaufen. Sie mag gerne Halskettchen, die etwas weiter über das Brustbein reichen und Ohrstecker. Gib es da was Traditionelles das nicht so kitschig ist und in Südbayern (Grenze OÖ) getragen wird?

Hi ich (M37) hab eine Frage.

Die Oma (F83) meiner Frau (F31) kam gegen Ende von Covid ins Pflegeheim. Sie war damals schon leicht vergesslich und dem Umzug eigentlich zugetan.

Allerdings hatte sie einen Kater den sie wegen der Hausordnung nicht mitnehmen durfte. Sie wollte ihn auf keinen Fall an Fremde übergeben. Wenn sie nicht sicher ist, dass es ihm nicht gut geht dann zieht sie nicht um. Das hat sie mehrmals deutlich gemacht. Meine Frau ist leider manchmal ein Peoplepleaser und ich wiederum kann bei ihr nicht nein sagen. Am Ende hat ihn also meine Frau adoptiert damit endlich Ruhe in der Verwandtschaft ist.

Ich war dem Kater gegenüber neutral. Ich mochte nicht, wie er den Hund anging (Terrier Mix) aber den Großteil der Zeit verbrachte er eh im Gästezimmer oder draußen. Kuscheln eher selten aber dich hin und wieder. Die Ganze Zeit über machten wir Videos und Fotos um die Oma am laufenden zu halten. Hat also alles gepasst.

Das Problem begann mit dem ersten Kind. Die Wiege stand im Gästezimmer und Burli gefiel das gar nicht. Fauchen, kratzen, volles Programm. Aus dem Zimmer ausgelagert hat er sich nur mit dem Hund gezofft wobei der sich eine durchstochene Hornhaut eingefangen hat. Daraufhin habe ich ihn auf willhaben gestellt und er hat ein neues Zuhause gefunden.

Gesagt haben wir der Schwiegeroma davon nichts. Sie ist mittlerweile schwer dement und schwankt zwischen melancholischen und wütenden Phasen. Da wollten wir sie nicht weiter destabilisieren. Wir schickten ihr einfach immer wieder die selben Bilder. Sie freute sich, alles war gut.

Eskaliert ist das ganze jetzt letzte Woche beim Besuch im Heim. Sie hat den älteren (M3) immer wieder zum Kater gefragt und der fühlte sich zunehmend unwohl. Also habe ich reinen Tisch gemacht. Dass wir ihn weggeben mussten etc. Das es ihm da aber gut geht etc.

Die Schwiegeroma war außer sich. Nicht wütend sondern komplett am eskalieren. Wir sind daraufhin gegangen aber natürlich weiß es jetzt die ganze Schwiegerverwandschaft. Und die machen mich logischerweise verantwortlich.

Der allgemeine Tenor ist, ich hätte ihr schwer zugesetzt und hätte einfach weiter machen sollen wie bisher. Meine Frau ist hin und hergerissen. Aber ich denke mir was wäre die Alternative gewesen? Der Ältere redet jeden Tag mehr, selbst wenn ich ihn zum flunkern gecoached hätte, was ich nicht will, hätte er sich verplappert. Ist dumm gelaufen und tut mir auch leid aber musste halt sein. Wie seht ihr das?

There's this ongoing trend of portraying older generations as dumb or naive for the beliefs they held or still hold onto. They are belittled and berated for knowledge that had not yet been gained when they were alive, and are accused of being bigoted for opinions that would only change decades after their death.

But here's the thing. One day it will be your turn. People from future generations will mock the ideas you hold dearly with the gift of hindsight. Your understanding of gender, politics, ethics and art. The things you just lectured grandpa about will all be scoffed at by some know-it-all high schooler a few decades from now.

The septum ring that you're wearing. You. Yes you. It's the codpiece of the future. A Mullet in the making.

Hi i have this weird question that ive been thinking about.

A friend of my wife works as a gynecologist in a Western European country. This includes a lot of prenatal care, including determining the gender of the baby.

According to her, quite a few times when she tells patients that the baby is a girl, they subsequently ask for a termination. Because of this, she will sometimes pretend that she cant determine the gender until after the legal limit for termination has passed. She says she does this especially often with patients from conservative religious backgrounds, particularly migrants from the Middle East or Asia.

Is this ethical or is she overstepping her boundaries? I honestly dont know what to think about it.

Hi i have this weird question that ive been thinking about.

A friend of my wife works as a gynecologist in a Western European country. This includes a lot of prenatal care, including determining the gender of the baby.

According to her, quite a few times when she told patients that the baby is a girl, they subsequently ask for a termination in their following checkup. Because of this, she will sometimes pretend that she cant determine the gender until after the legal limit for termination has passed. She says she does this especially often with couples from conservative religious backgrounds, particularly migrants from the Middle East or Asia.

Is this ethical or is she overstepping her boundaries? I honestly dont know what to think about it.

Hi i have this weird question that ive been thinking about.

A friend of my wife works as a gynecologist in a Western European country. This includes a lot of prenatal care, including determining the gender of the baby.

According to her, quite a few times when she told patients that the baby is a girl, they subsequently ask for a termination in their following checkup. Because of this, she will sometimes pretend that she cant determine the gender until after the legal limit for termination has passed. She says she does this especially often with couples from conservative religious backgrounds, particularly migrants from the Middle East or Asia.

Is this ethical or is she overstepping her boundaries? I honestly dont know what to think about it.

Let alone past the barrier that needs to be opened by Uriziel? I've only plaid the finale once and I chose to enter the temple behind the Orcs' back >!with Muk's help!<. Is there an explanation how the fanatics got to where we encounter them in the finale of the game? >!Thanks to me sneaking into the temple I had to kill both Ur-Nazkrog and To-Churnagg. Did I miss some dialogue because of that which would have explained things?!<

Edit 1: After seeing a couple of posts I still have questions but they are now more clear.

1.) Ur-Nazkrog saw you in her dreams and figured you were important to the awakening of the Sleeper. Still she required an Ulu-Mulu and for you to "create life from death" before allowing you to attempt to enter the sleeper temple. Why did Cor Kalom and his followers not need any of that? Even if we assume they also appeared in Ur-Nazkrog's dreams why did dozens of Novices get skip the line tickets?

2.) Why are there dead templars in the sleeper temple? Who killed them and why?

3.) Why are there novices behind the second barrier, the one that can only be destroyed by a recharged Uriziel. How did Cor Kalom bypass it? If the Sleeper is powerful enough to just let Cor Kalom through the secondary barrier why not through the primary barrier as well?

4.) Where did Cor Kalom an his followers go to after the seperation? In OG Gothic always assumed they headed straight to the temple. In the remake that would have been closed of by the primary barrier though.

5.) Why is the entire sleeper temple trying to prevent you from grabbing Uriziel, destroying the primary barrier, when said barrier is keeping the sacrifice (novices) from bein brough into the inner sanctum?

Hi. I wanted to use this as an opportunity to suggest a quick solution to the lock puzzles without requiring the devs to rebalance some of the more tricky combinations out there and without having to change an otherwise quite fun mechanic.

Personally, I like the mechanic, but some locks are way too time consuming. If it takes me longer than 3 minutes, whatever is in that chest can stay there. I don't want to spend 10–20% of my time in the game breaking locks, even when my OCD feels very uncomfortable leaving a locked chest behind. But it slows the game down and kinda distracts me from what I really want to do. Explore the world and all it has to offer.

Either way, I'm suggesting that leveling Master Lockpicker adds a passive where every time you use up a lockpick, a random disc connection is broken and remains disconnected for as long as you pick that lock. This would mean that if you fail picking a lock over and over, it gradually becomes easier while still consuming lockpicks and requiring the player to pay attention. It would allow players to brute force a chest should they really, really want to know what's inside.

I think this would still reward people who are talented at this sort of puzzle without simply locking out other players. And yes, I know it's a skill issue. But I'm an old man with a wife, a baby and a toddler who can only play games when all of them are in bed, and I just want to make the best of my time enjoying a game that is otherwise growing on me rapidly in my second playthrough. Thank you for your consideration.

Meine Frau und ich sind beide in Haushalten aufgewachsen, in denen mit Nacktheit sehr unterschiedlich umgegangen wurde. Bei mir zuhause war die Thematik absolute Privatsache. Ich kann micht nicht erinnern, je einen meiner Elternteile unbekleidet gesehen zu haben, egal ob zuhause oder am Badeteich oder beim Camping.

Bei meiner Frau ist es genau umgedreht. Bei ihr ist es schon öfters vorgekommen, dass wir gemeinsam in der Badewanne saßen und ihre Mutter dann ungeniert hereinkam und mit ihr über die Nachbarin zu tratschen anfing oder fragte, was sie uns zu Essen kochen soll. Auch in die Saua geht meine Frau regelmäßig mit ihrer Familie.

Natürlich spiegelt sich das bei uns Zuhause wieder. Während ich selbst bei der aktuellen Hitze immer mindestens ein Shirt und boxershorts trage ist es bei ihr oft nur ein Bikiniunterteil oder auch mal gar nichts. Mich persönlich stört das logischerweise nicht aber wir sind ja mittlerweile nicht mehr alleine. Da wahrscheinlich weder ihre noch meine Familie den optimalen Zugang zu der Thematik haben wollte ich fragen was hier aktuell der pädgogische Status quo ist.

So I was wondering how you guys and gals feel about the G1R as a replacement of the original. Usually whenever I play remakes they tend to replace the original. For example with the existence of Diablo: Resurrected I never felt the need to go back and play the original. Same for Crash Bandicoot, Destroy all Humans, Dead Space or even more liberal remakes like Mafia.

This Remake however is different. After finishing it I immediately started a new run of the Original, albeit while running a few mods, because it simply hadn't satisfied my need for Gothic. My brain might register surface level similarities but G1R feels just too different. Like two seperate games losely connected by taking place in the same setting. One of which feels okay but ultimately pretty inconsequential. And the other which I would consider one of the most influental games of my life.

And before anyone says "Nostalgia". I regularly discover new games that manage to engage me with similar levels of intensity while being fairly new. Pathologic 2, Styx Master of Shadows, Days Gone, Blood West, Amid Evil, Remnant: From The Ashes. All games that I discovered well into my 20s and Early 30s which have had a similar impact on me as Gothic.

So I was wondering how you feel about this. Is G1R it? Does it replace the original for you? Is it everything you have hoped for? Or is there something missing?

Hallo. Ein Freund von mir braucht Rat wegen seiner Beziehung und ich weiß nicht genau, was ich ihm sagen soll. Er ist seit 5 Jahren mit seiner Frau zusammen und denkt nun an Kinder.

Wir haben uns ursprünglich über die Arbeit kennen gelernt und arbeiten seit Jahren freibruflich immer wieder an gemeinsamen Aufträgen. Unsere Arbeit ist remote und auf Honorarbasis, die Arbeitszeiten komplett flexibel. Als mein erstes Kind geboren wurde, habe ich meine Arbeitszeiten auf die Hälfte reduziert, um die Kinderbetreuung zu übernehmen. Das erschien dank nicht vorhandener Arbeitswege und flexibler Zeitplanung für mich und meine Frau am klügsten. Da wir alle Einkünfte über ein gemeinsames Konto regeln, war es mir relativ egal, weniger zu verdienen, weil die finanzielle Belastung geteilt war.

Mein Freund befindet sich in einer ähnlichen Situation und plant in nächster Zeit, ein Kind zu bekommen. Das Problem dabei: Er hat genau mitbekommen, dass ich Arbeitstechnisch stark reduzieren musste. Er und seine Frau haben strikt getrennte Finanzen. Weil er Angst um sine Finanzen hat, möchte er nun ebenfalls eine Zusammenlegung der Konten. Seine Frau lehnt das als Besserverdienerin aber ab und schlägt stattdessen vor, er solle seine Arbeitszeiten verschieben und nachts arbeiten, da er keine fixen Arbeistzeiten hat. Nanny oder Ganztagskindergarten sind für beide keine Option, weil sie die Kinder „selber erziehen wollen“ und das in der Schweiz teuer ist.

Das Ganze hat sich bei den beiden so hochgeschaukelt, dass das Thema Kinder bei ihnen ins wanken komt. Generell hängt der haussegen schief. Mein Freund bespricht seine Beziehung eigentlich nur mit mir, und erhofft sich von mir Rat aber ich hab keine ahnung, wie ich ihm helfen soll. Hat irgendwer von euch eine Idee, wie die Situation de-eskaliert werden könnte?

Hi, I'm looking for some outside opinions from other parents.

I'm a married dad of two. I'm self-employed and work from home, so my schedule is flexible as long as I meet deadlines. The downside is my income depends on how much work I actually manage to do, and I usually get paid in chunks after finishing contracts or milestones. My wife has a regular job with fixed hours, including occasional night shifts when patients need urgent care. Because of that, I often take care of the kids during the week, which has reduced my work output quite a bit.

For us this isn't really a problem. We put all income into a joint account and share everything equally, so any drop in income is something we both deal with together. The reason I'm asking is because a friend of mine is in a similar situation. He is also self-employed, and we sometimes work together. His wife is a biochemist with a demanding job and frequent overtime. They're planning to have kids, but unlike us they keep finances separate, and she earns significantly more than he does.

They're now stuck. She says reducing her hours would hurt her career and isn't really possible. He would likely have to reduce his work or shift it to evenings and nights to take care of the kids, since daycare is extremely expensive in Switzerland. This has caused a lot of conflict. I suggested that if he reduces his hours for childcare, she might compensate him for the lost income, but she disagrees and says that's unreasonable. She has now started using birth control again until the issue is resolved.

Of course he is now asking for advice but I am not sure what to say since this wasn't an issue for me and my wife. What would you recommend him to do if you were in my shoes?

Hi, I'm looking for some outside opinions because I'm not really sure what to think about this situation.

I'm a married dad of two. I'm self-employed and work from home, so my schedule is flexible as long as I meet deadlines. The downside is my income depends on how much work I actually manage to do, and I usually get paid in chunks after finishing contracts or milestones. My wife has a regular job with fixed hours, including occasional night shifts when patients need urgent care. Because of that, I often take care of the kids during the week, which has reduced my work output quite a bit.

For us this isn't really a problem. We put all income into a joint account and share everything equally, so any drop in income is something we both deal with together. The reason I'm asking is because a friend of mine is in a similar situation. He is also self-employed, and we sometimes work together. His wife is a biochemist with a demanding job and frequent overtime. They're planning to have kids, but unlike us they keep finances separate, and she earns significantly more than he does.

They're now stuck. She says reducing her hours would hurt her career and isn't really possible. He would likely have to reduce his work or shift it to evenings and nights to take care of the kids, since daycare is extremely expensive in Switzerland. This has caused a lot of conflict. I suggested that if he reduces his hours for childcare, she might compensate him for the lost income, but she disagrees and says that's unreasonable.

I'm not sure what to think. My wife and I never had this issue because we share finances, so I'm surprised how difficult this is for them. I'd be interested in opinions, especially from women in similar situations.

Edit: Since a lot of people seem to be getting hung up on the word “compensate”, English is not my first language. I’m not suggesting he should be paid a salary or anything like that, which I thought would be clear since my wife and I are not doing that either.

I was simply referring to the idea of combining finances, so that both partners share the financial impact equally rather than it falling mainly on him. In that sense, “compensate” just meant having joint access to shared income, even if one partner contributes more financially than the other.