I'm someone that dont want to have kids in the future, so I'm kinda confused about natalism. What exactly is it? Do you guys think everyone should have kids, even people who don't want them? is it more encouraging people to have more children in general? What's the main idea behind it? I'm genuinely curious, can someone explain?
18f childfree here. Basically when I imagine having a child I get scared that I wouldn’t be my partner’s top priority anymore, even though I kinda know that’s not how it works in a healthy relationship but i still feel like I’d be replaced or less important, and that feeling is strong enough that I never want kids in the future. Also I was neglected as a child and my parents always chose my sibling over me, so I often felt less important or like I had to compete for attention. Because of that, I’m wondering if this could be a trauma response or connected to my past. I just want to know if anyone else is like me or if my feelings are legit.
So I stopped practicing Islam years ago but I’ve been going through a lot with my faith since then. hadiths really affected me n traumatized me, even some Quran verses honestly…and because of that I kinda stopped believing in islam and wasn’t really practicing my religion anymore. Now I’m starting to rethink everything and I feel like I want to start practicing again. But the problem is I just can’t bring myself to believe in some stuff and hadiths at all. They feel so extreme, culty, and disturbing that I can’t even read them. So I feel kinda stuck, and Deep down I still feel like Islam is true and god exist, but I’m struggling a lot with parts of it and I don’t really know how to move forward, I also sometimes wish I didn’t feel like Islam is the truth or didn’t feel like God exists so I could just be free and agnostic, but I can’t really change that feeling, which is why I want to come back. I would also really appreciate advice from people who think hadith r not part of Islam, because I feel like I need different perspectives to understand this better.
ok so this started happening today, whenever i try to open any website it says:
(Your connection is not private
This site may not be secure. Your sensitive information (for example, passwords, messages, or credit card details) may be exposed.)
it's happening on every site i try to visit not just one. can someone tell me why this is happening n how to fix it??
I'm 18 yo childfree/antinatalist, and I live in a pro reproducing country. According to people here, I'm a child hater, a failure to society and responsible for my nationality or ethnicity dying out if I don't reproduce.
How can humans be this dumb? What makes me even more mad is that the same people calling me a child hater are usually the ones saying everyone should have kids no matter what. Abusive? Have kids. Broke and can't afford them? Have kids. Mentally unstable? Have kids. Don't even want them? Have kids anyway. So how am I the one who hates kids here??? Simply choosing not to reproduce because bringing innocent souls into this world sounds wrong to me is somehow seen as more hateful than forcing children into situations where they're going to suffer.
I'm genuinely losing brain cells every time I hear this argument.
I'm 18 and I've decided that I don’t want kids and never wanted kids, not now not when I was 15 not when I was 10. I never had baby fever never played house and dreamed of being a mom NONE of it. But for some reason people act like thats fckn impossible to understand. Every single time I say I don't want kids I get hit with "u will change your mind oneday and it’s in ur nature to want kids" shut up. WHY is it so hard for people in my environment to accept that some women genuinely do not want children? Why do strangers think they know me better than I know myself? And then some people have the audacity to tell me I'm a failure to society and country if I don't have kids or they be telling me there is no point of wanting to get married in the future if I don’t want kids… I’ve even had people act like am personally responsible for my nationality or ethnicity dying out if I don't reproduce. how can human be this dumb? What makes me even more mad is that the same people calling me a child hater are usually the ones saying everyone should have kids no matter what. Abusive? Have kids. Broke and can't afford them? Have kids. Mentally unstable? Have kids. Don't even want them? Have kids anyway. So how am I the one who hates kids here??? like simply choosing not to have kids sounds way more hateful than forcing children into situations where they're gonna suffer?? I swear some people care more about babies being born than what actually happens to them after they're born. Make it make sense because I'm genuinely losing brain cells every time I hear this argument.
Ok so my parents have been sexualizing me (18F) and my little sister (14F) since we were like 10, and it's always made both of us really uncomfortable and disgusted. They make comments that sexualize us and our bodies, and honestly it makes me feel gross. Sometimes I even cry because of it. I don't know if this would be considered sexual abuse or not, so I wanted to ask. Is there a term for this? Has anyone else experienced something similar?
I'm an 18 yo, and for as long as I can remember, my parents have been physically and mentally and emotionally even sexually abusive toward me and my poor younger sister, but never toward my evil brothers (13 and 21 yo) but it makes sense cuz they r very misogynistic and loves boys more. One thing that's always confused me is my mom’s behavior whenever something goes wrong. It can be something small, like me getting a bad grade, not finishing a meal, getting sick, breaking a little plate, or something else that's completely out of my control. She'll start screaming, create a huge scene, and repeatedly hit herself very very hard. And then she starts to hit me too. She's been like this my entire life. Her screaming gets so loud that the neighbors can hear it and it's really embarrassing. What makes it even more confusing is that when my brothers do something bad ( which they do most of the times) she always take it out on me, basically I’m abused for absolutely no reason every single day. it’s so strange. Like I have nothing to do with the situation, I end up being the target. It is also really sad cuz I’m the only one that actually cares about my mom even besides how bad she treats me, when she hurts herself I always tell her to stop hurting urself and my brothers don’t give a shi. Yet I’m treated like the enemy. My dad always says it's my fault, but idk what is my fault, I never cause any problem I’m always quiet and never talk to anyone unless get asked, so I genuinely don't understand what I'm doing wrong. I'm not asking anyone to diagnose her, but is this a sign of a mental illness, or is it something else? Has anyone grown up with a parent like this? I'm honestly just trying to make sense of it at this point.
I don't really know who to talk to about this, so I'm posting here.
I've been struggling with a very intense porn addiction since I was around 13 and I'm 18 now. I watch it several times for hours uncontrollably, I feel so disgusted and depressed but Its like a drug for me. Whenever I'm really stressed, overwhelmed, or emotionally exhausted, it's the only thing that makes me forget everything for a little while. Life has been really harsh on me for a long time so most days I feel overwhelmed by everything that's going, also I don't drink or do drugs so it genuinely feels like porn is the only escape I have and can shut my brain off for a little while and give me relief from all the stress. The worst part is that I don't even enjoy it anymore. It doesn't make me feel good it just makes me feel numb for a few minutes n escape whatever is going on in my head, but afterward I just feel disgusted with myself and disappointed. I've tried quitting multiple times, but I always end up going back to it after a few days cuz when life feels unbearable, it feels like the only thing I can turn to and thats what makes it so hard to let go of. I guess I'm posting this because I want to know if anyone else has gone through something similar and managed to get out of it. I’d appreciate advice.
I don't really know who to talk to about this, so I'm posting here.
I've been struggling with a very intense porn addiction since I was around 13 and I'm 18 now. I watch it several times for hours uncontrollably, I feel so disgusted and depressed but Its like a drug for me. Whenever I'm really stressed, overwhelmed, or emotionally exhausted, it's the only thing that makes me forget everything for a little while. Life has been really harsh on me for a long time so most days I feel overwhelmed by everything that's going, also I don't drink or do drugs so it genuinely feels like porn is the only escape I have and can shut my brain off for a little while and give me relief from all the stress. The worst part is that I don't even enjoy it anymore. It doesn't make me feel good it just makes me feel numb for a few minutes n escape whatever is going on in my head, but afterward I just feel disgusted with myself and disappointed. I've tried quitting multiple times, but I always end up going back to it after a few days cuz when life feels unbearable, it feels like the only thing I can turn to and thats what makes it so hard to let go of. I guess I'm posting this because I want to know if anyone else has gone through something similar and managed to get out of it. I’d appreciate advice.