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My senior girl is 13 and will be 14 in November. She has slowed down quite a bit recently, and I’m really struggling with the question of when it’s time to let her go.

She is high-risk for anesthesia, so she can’t have surgery for anything. She still eats and drinks normally, which I’m grateful for. She also pees normally, although she takes quite a while to poop.
She has an old injury that causes her to limp, but lately it has gotten to the point where she can’t walk very far without wanting me to carry her. She’s about 60 lbs, so carrying her isn’t exactly easy, but of course I’ll do whatever I need to for her.

The hardest part is that my girl is incredibly resilient. She doesn’t really let me know when she’s in pain, so I constantly question whether she’s hurting more than I realize. Dogs can hide pain so well, and I don’t want to mistake her being a tough old girl for her actually being comfortable.

I keep asking myself: Is it time?

Not being able to have surgery for anything makes this even harder because I worry that if something serious happens, there may not be much we can do besides keep her comfortable.

For those of you who have had senior dogs, how did you know? What signs did you look for when your dog still ate, drank, peed, and had some good moments but their mobility was declining?
I’m not looking for someone to tell me “yes, it’s time” based on a Reddit post. I’m really looking for experiences and advice on how you evaluated your dog’s quality of life and knew when you were making the decision for them, rather than holding on because you weren’t ready.

She’s my girl, and I just want to do right by her. 💕

Half of my books are new; I need to downsize as I am moving. How do you guys sell books if you don't have Facebook? I don’t have socials, and I've seen people say to sell them on Depop on TikTok, but I wanted to come here to see if anyone has done that before. I'm most likely selling them for less, like $5. I'm planning on going through my books this week to get it ready to sell. Thanks in advance!

I’m curious to hear from both men and women: do you feel like dating has changed when it comes to effort?

It seems like a lot of people feel that the little things have disappeared like checking in, sending a good morning text, making plans, showing genuine interest, or simply making someone feel wanted.

What happened to putting in effort and actually trying to build a connection? Are people more guarded now because of past experiences, overwhelmed by dating apps, afraid of commitment, or have expectations just changed?

Do you think dating has genuinely gotten worse, or are we just looking for effort in a different way now?

Would love to hear perspectives from all sides.

I’m currently caring for my mom after she had two strokes and now has mild dementia. She’s also deaf, and we’ve been struggling to get her the level of care and communication access she really needs here in Connecticut. A big challenge is finding providers and support systems that can accommodate ASL, so for now I’m her primary caregiver.

I’ve been thinking about relocating to Massachusetts or New Hampshire in hopes of finding better healthcare options and possibly better housing for both of us—but it’s a huge decision, and I don’t know what the reality is like.

Has anyone here moved to another state for better care for a parent or loved one? Was it worth it? Did you find better resources, especially for someone who is deaf or needs more specialized support?

I’d really appreciate any experiences, advice, or even things you wish you knew before making the move. Thank you 🤍

We are open to senior housing (as long as they'll accept me)

I tried google image search, no luck. Anyone have any recommendations?