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Very in the mood for some mystery as we get into fall. ideally not agatha christie because i already know about her, hoping to find something new! i love the knives out movies and would love something that feels like that.

bonus points if its autumnal, or a little gothic, set in a big estate or anything like that! i'm a big mood/seasonal reader so not interested in super hot summery books right now but if its reallllyy good let me know and ill still add it to my list.

just trying to figure out what to expect and get an idea of what i can afford! I know you dont usually get the exact posted rate, but i dont know if you usually get higher or lower? can you negotiate lower with big banks or only with smaller lenders?

my credit score is 'excellent', which im sure credit and risk play a big part as well

did anyone else have this happen? I have no idea what happened, and was not warned the price would change so drastically.

normally i play on custom settings that would be closest to pilgrim but probably even a little easier? (not sure)

i leave most things the same as pilgrim i think, but i turn off cougars and timberwolves, and make the wildlife passive. i dont put the world gets colder over time on, and i turn off scurvy and cabin fever. i also put on fire overcomes ambient air temp, fires prevent freezing, and wake up player when freezing near a fire.

that said, i want to do a survival play through thats slightly more challenging, but still semi easy. i dont want to struggle a ton and just die instantly, but i feel like i've gotten used to my settings to the point where i dont worry about anything. i still want to be able to enjoy it at my pace but i want a little more challenge. what do you recommend i change?

also, if i don't put passive wildlife on, how aggressive are the animals? like will they just sneak up out of nowhere and scare me?!

I have heard to leave them on the plant longer, but last night deer ate half the blooms i have, so theres only like 4 or 5 flowers even left on my hydrangea bush. I want to trim and dry them asap but i have no idea how to help keep their shape? the flowers are starting to go pink so i'm hoping since it's a little later in the season they may have a chance at keeping more shape than before when i tried!

zone 6 b (i think), and i was told it was fine to plant any time now until the first frost which i'm sure we are a ways away from. also any best practices or tips? the tag says it needs well draining soil, but how would that work if its planted in the ground? is there a certain type i should buy? and should i fertilize now or skip until spring?

thanks! newbie here! :)

i've had irregular cycles for the last few years. for a few years i'd have a one off 40 day cycle, but they've been becoming more irregular over the past year ish to where ive had multiple long or anovulatory cycles. (ranging 40-65 days).

now im worried about DOR. i had my FSH LH and Estradiol tested twice.

first time:

FSH: 9.7, LH 2.2, Estradiol: 47

this time:

FSH: 17.0, LH: 3.3, Estradiol: 56

i'm so scared that my FSH jumped up that much and is now 17!!! im trying to get my AMH tested but its not covered in my province so im struggling to find out how/where to have it tested. Has anyone else had a jump like that from one month to the next?

I have read a ton of Freida McFadden and really liked her stuff, but the more I have read the more they all feel the same. I’m in a massive reading slump and can’t find anything that grips me in right away and makes me want to keep going. Some books I loved for an idea of the vibes I like:

My husbands wife & beautiful ugly by Alice feeney
hidden pictures by Jason rekulak The house across the lake by riley sager Such a quiet place by Megan Miranda On a quiet street by seraphina nova glass

mine only lets me attach 6, or 5 with an article. just scrolled past someones note that has 19 images?! HOW?!

thanks!

idk how old they even are, and i'm only 30 but i prefer an older partner. some are still okay, but i feel like some of them seem like 20 year olds (sebastian, abigail, sam, haley).

does anyone else feel like that? i can see myself playing stardew still when im like 50 and i wont want any of these young ppl! LOL

honestly i just wish we could romance anyone, even the married people i wish we could be messy and split them up (maybe thats evil, idc)

i'm driving myself crazy waiting to talk to my doctor about my bloodwork results, but based on researching it seems like my FSH is on the higher end for my age, some websites say its high but still in the "normal" range (up to 10), others say its just a bit high and outside of normal.

i'm 30 years old, and my FSH is 9.7 on cycle day 3 test.

(edit) also my LH is 2.2, which based on my research a high fsh with lower lh means diminishing ovarian reserve.

i was dealing with irregular cycles over the last year or so. some really long cycles where it didn't seem like i ovualted at all.

initially had thyroid, testosterone and a1c tested - all normal. when looking into my cycle day 3 results, from what i'm seeing it could be a slightly diminished reserve. not looking for anyone to diagnose me or anything, just wondering if anyone else has gotten a similar result at this age and what it meant, if you could do anything, etc.

my last few cycles have been on the short side (both 20 days). i started taking myo-inositol a few months ago so not sure if that contributed. i dont know if the shorter cycles also mean diminished reserve or not.

*editing to add my LH

i really wanted pumpkin peanut brittle candle which appears to be online exclusive USA only. i know it'll be pretty expensive, but the resellers on ebay are even more expensive for OLD candles. i also have a few friends in the usa who i could potentially send it to and they could ship it to me, but i'm sure it would cost more for them than a shipping service.

had anyone done a shipping service with candles? if so, how much did it end up costing you?

also do we know for sure the usa online exclusives that are currently out wont be coming to canada? i dont mind waiting but im scared to wait and see and then have it sell out on the usa site too.

listen, i know they aren't the MOST well written books ever, but something about the world building and characters has just captivated me ever since i first read them. i'll be doing another re-read in prep for the new book, but i'm really craving a series that will be the next acotar for me.

love a slow burn but i do want good SPICE eventually, but also a good plot not JUST spice. i love detailed and beautiful world building! love enemies to lovers but not a necessity, love lots of yearning and a slower build up. ideally want there to be fae but open to other fantasy races.

don't mind if its a multiple book series that is unfinished, but ideally hoping for at least 2-3 books out already!

listen, i know they aren't the MOST well written books ever, but something about the world building and characters has just captivated me ever since i first read them. i'll be doing another re-read in prep for the new book, but i'm really craving a series that will be the next acotar for me.

love a slow burn but i do want good SPICE eventually, but also a good plot not JUST spice. i love detailed and beautiful world building! love enemies to lovers but not a necessity, love lots of yearning and a slower build up. ideally want there to be fae but open to other fantasy races.

don't mind if its a multiple book series that is unfinished, but ideally hoping for at least 2-3 books out already!

i really love anything thrilling and also somewhat paranormal/ unexplained. An example of a book i LOVED was we used to live here by marcus kliewer. it was just the right amount of thrilling and interesting enough to keep me engaged in the story, but it also made me feel really spooky and uneasy while reading.

I really want to treat myself to a fantasy book sub box, but are any really good? I feel like I’ve heard some not so great feedback and issues with some so I’m a little hesitant to try. Please let me know which is the best!

I’m hoping for pretty editions of popular fantasy or romantasy books, and ideally with a few extras if they’re good! I don’t want a bunch of random junk though so if you have one that is great but doesn’t come with all the Knick knacks that’s fine too!

i know ideally just don't eat that stuff, and while i'm at home i have not been. i have a road trip coming up where all there will be to eat is either fast food on the road, or we will be eating at restaurants and its a pretty rural area where the only restaurants are pub type places/ diner food.

i had a terrible flare up recently (i went to the ER for it) and now i'm SO scared to go away. i'm already nervously thinking about what i'll even be able to eat.

i plan to bring tons of my own snacks, but wont have a fridge for the drive, and only a small fridge and microwave in the room so options are limited for bringing my own food as well.

It's my favourite fall scent, i bought it one year on a whim and fell in LOVE. the next year they didnt have it, and ive only seen it like one other year since then. I miss it!!

editing to specify: if anyone has info for canada specifically? i know its been back in the USA a few times but their website no longer ships to canada anymore!