u/mander4242

I've been in a professional career since my mind 20s. Im now 35, I work in operations.

Yesterday, my boss called me in and basically said they are asking me to leave the team and take 1 of 2 roles in another dept, they felt would be a better fit. Basically roles that minimize my communication/contact with execs.

Not because I did anything wrong exactly, but that my ability to produce the results they wanted wasnt adequate... Basically that thier unspoken expectations weren't being met. I've said it 1billion times that I NEED people to be direct and say what they mean/need. But execs are notorious for expecting you to pick up their wants and needs before they know or ask. Which in many cases I had/do... but the more recent incidents were literally not in my control but im being held accountable for them.

Anyway, its the first time ive been openly aware that my undx autism has lost me a job role. That my inability to fully catch insinuation, hinting, assumptions, reading between the lines had a severly negatively impacted and cost me my role. Im grateful they didnt terminate me, and felt i have great work ethic, skills etc but that it just wasnt the "right" role. Just sad and disappointed in myself.

So its just me and my near 3 yo.

My family is around but not SUPER involved. We visit them , they rarely visit us if at all.

My kid has 1 set of grand parents (mine) whom he adores. But again theyre around but not the type to take him for the day just because they want to. Or have him spend the night. Or "drop by to say hi". They dont celebrate any main stream holidays (including Christmas). Just usually a reasonable gift on his bday ($50-$60). His aunts and uncles are the same, a bday gift and maybe something at Christmas time...a stark contrast to how ive treated my nieces and nephews (aside from physical gifts, its babysitting, visits for quality gime/cousin playdates , trips to the movies, shopping trips, travel to see them (flights, car rentals, pto etc).

(Grandparents) With my sister's kids they bought $200-$300 worth of school supplies and clothes (per kid) my son got nothing, $150-$200 worth of birthday gifts etc ...and she has a fiance and his ENTIRE side of the family including step grandparents, who are all very involved.

Feel like because ive always been the "ambitious & responsible" one...ive been left to fend for myself ...even when im a single income, solo parent and not by choice lol.

Anyway its all feeling a bit raw at the moment because my sons bday is coming up, and I know my family will do the bare minimum to celebrate. The ones that live out of state won't fly in to celebrate (as I have done countless times for my nieces/nephews). His "wishlist" will continue to be just that. They'll wait until his bday party, and not show up on his actual bday.

I know it all feels a bit whiny, superficial and surface, but its not about the stuff, as much as its about the lack of involvement and effort. I have always been able to spoil my neices/nephews because I save, plan ahead and prioritize them. My sons just not a priority to anyone but me. And theres no "other side" of the family to count on.

I know they love him, but its at a distance and with as little effort as possible.

Anyway just weighing on my heart as im financially drained, have creditors at my heels, and my sons bday looms around the corner.

Might be a dumb question

We just moved into our first house and need to hire a mowing service. Its been crazy dry, and our grass hasn't grown much in the 2 weeks we've lived here, except where we have been running water to my kids splash pad.

Service is offering weekly or biweekly...but at the moment I dont see us needing a mow more than 1x a month haha

Edit: should add, that our grass/soil is CRISPY right now, and has had minimal growth in the near 2 weeks we've been here. In peak rainy season/spring I expect weekly mowing, but we're interested Sahara over here.

But ive not lived in a house with a lawn in a LONG time, and never in MO.

Edit: Open to recommendations

Had a random package delivered yesterday that was addressed to a previous tenant. Box was opened(tape was completely detached from box flaps and only attached at the very ends. So easily can see whats inside)

I have a ring camera and the deliverer was a random woman and street clothes, like literally looked like a civilian dropping off someone's belongings. But no identifiable postal/delivery company (ups, usps etc).

I can see a brand inside, but the box itself is for popcorn haha which is not the brand inside.

But its tech items (not apple/Microsoft etc, cheap but NOT cheap) so I feel back just giving it away or something. What can I do?

I thought this was my path

Went through a pretty significant career change right when I was turning 30. Now almost 6 yr later I feel... incompetent. I honestly suck at my job. Im far behind my peers, im burnt out, unmotivated, I spent the last few years honestly indifferent (in a positive way) about my job, now? I wake up dreading it. Dread the feeling of feeling overwhelmed, lost and incompetent.

Ok i THOUGHT this was my path, project management ive done loads of program/project coordination in multiple jobs, including as a data analyst/pm for a HUGE adult beverage company.

Then I had a baby, and my brain feels like mush, nearly 3 years later.

I just cant keep up. But cant afford to quit. Can't afford to take a break. I feel like im drowning every time I log in.

Idk what to do

Fight or flight has me feeling like hiding and quitting, and I just cant as im a solo parent. Am i just burnt out?

Went through a pretty significant career change right when I was turning 30. Now almost 6 yr later I feel... incompetent.

Ok i THOUGHT this was my path, project management ive done loads of program/project coordination

Then I had a baby, and my brain feels like mush, nearly 3 years later.

I just cant keep up. But cant afford to quit. Can't afford to take a break. I feel like im drowning every time I log in.

Idk what to do

Fight or flight has me feeling like hiding and quitting, and I just cant as im a solo parent

Been a super rough couple year tbh, but the last 2 or3 weeks ive been dealing with severe work stress/anxiety, a big move to a larger area and away from my family ( not far but amount an hr) im a single mom and my sons going throigh a rough age development and also really stuggling with the move.

Im so burnt out, my anxiety is really hitting me as this is the first moment ive had to really slow down in the last few weeks. Especially after the last 2 days of packing and moving and shopping, and cleaning and parenting etc now im sitting here and having adrenaline dumps (i have hyper pots and suspected mcas) and every few minutes boom 💥 honestly I think im having an anxiety/panic attack idk

My eye sight was off, then I felt like my throat was swelling, then I couldn't "remember " how to swallow. I have a lot of health related "death" fears, so always afraid im going to die and noone will know and my son will be alone and suffering etc its awful

Just sitting here crying, not regretting but regretting the move because im.now an hr away from my mom and not just 15min. Im 35.5 BTW haha

So my son turns 3 soon, and we are sending out bday invites. Heard you can send invites to different companies so was wondering if anyone had any good ideas, so far we have:

1. Monster Jam

2. Mickey mouse & gang

3. Handyman Hal

4. Nike

5. Little Trouble

6. Daniel Tiger (Fred Rogers)

Please pray for my mental state

Im a single solo mom to a toddler, I work fulltime remote, and have him with me 100% of the time.

My work performance has suffered from my dealing with health issues, being a FT SAHM while working FT. We're moving to a new rental this week and its been stressful trying to pack a whole home myself while working while being a mom, it was significantly more expensive to move this time.

My new supervisor doesnt seem to like me. And almost immediately made it apparent im not meeting the expectations of my role. She doesnt smile when we meet, she doesnt chat with me like others, she doesnt seem to WANT to engage with me unless she has to. Im afraid shes gearing up to fire me. My financial stability is something that causes me significant stress and anxiety especially after having my son. But ow we are also moving into a more expensive place and I cant help but dread it out of fear ive added an expense that will be my downfall if I get sacked.

Im constantly ill from my disorders (pots, pmos, adenomyosis) im physically, mentally and emotionally drained and exhausted. I feel helpless and like God has allowed me to suffer and be scared. I pray, and ask for help. I have tried to change things that I was doing that weren't Christian. Im struggling to manage my stress, irritability, temper because it all feels relentless. Unceasing, and im afraid its all building up to an explosion that will destroy not only my life, but my sons.

I feel so alone, and desperate for God to just make it better. Please God make it better, I cant do this anymore.

Sorry i can't find the edith/mary specific thread

I cannot stand that everyone makes Edith out to be the "miserable, insufferable" sister. She has these pessimistic moments of course.

But Mary is a MONSTER to her sister and so many others. But her treatment and comments towards Edith are just so... cruel ugh .

Of course the episode when she outs Edith to the Marquess ...just how angry, jealous, miserable beotch do you have to be to ruin your own sisters life!?

Then the cruel comments to her father, her absolute delusional self thinking shes innocent and the victim.

I just cant stand her. The ONLY time I find her remotely tolerable is when shes talking to Anna

Im deeply struggling. And have been for the last 2 years, trying to balance being a fulltime solo mom, and a fulltime career remote. Because childcare isnt readily available, my family doesnt help and I HAVE to work.

Today I basically got put on a performance plan at work. Or at least thats how im taking it, even though they said it wasnt that.

Meanwhile I feel like an absent mom, and im crying because i wish I got to be with my son entirely. Not absent minded "mhmm cool buddy" typing on computer

"Shhhhh, NO, please get out im in a meeting they cant see you in here" through gritted teeth so they dont see me talking to him during a video meeting

"Can't right now bud, im working"

" wish I could bud, im busy"

" sorry bud mommy has to work"

I wish I could just be his mom and not have the stress of having to be the sole breadwinner.

Was feeling fine, was cleaning up my sons room and was warm and a bit sweaty (given its 101+outside)

Anyway I went to blow up a couple balloons for my son to play with.

Within about 15-20min I went into a tachycardia event, was having dizzy spells/mini adrenaline dumps, and could feel i was going to have to go to the bathroom (but not diarrhea).

Anyone else have something similar happen? Im.not formally dx yes, still waiting to see a specialist.

Single parent here

Don't have many friends in the area as we have only been here a yr or two. My parents are in their mid 60s and with the hear, I just worry about them trying to help us move.

Tried looking at formal movers but they are just TOO expensive, I just cant swing another $800-$1200.

Any ideas where I could enlist reliable/safe help?

I can pay, just not hundreds and hundreds

Son will be 3 in about 6 weeks, he is highly energetic which i love, he just needs more physical activities and physical outlets than typical toy play offers.

We tried Gymnastics at 18mo, and again at 2.5 and both did not go well. He just wasnt patient enough to sit and listen for 10min long instructions then take a 10sec turn and get back in line to wait. It just wasnt the best set up for 2 and 3 yo.

Anyway, was thinking that a structured sport that requires high regulated discipline would maybe be a good idea.

A. Was your kid ready at 3 for MA?

B. Can you recommend a gym?

Looking for movers that are affordable

Single mom and toddler, 1 bedroom, 1 office and 1 playroom, livingroom and small kitchen.

Not a ton of furniture, ill have everything packed up, but really need help loading and unloading a uhual.

About a 40 mile trip

Do hourly movers charge while loading/unloading or drive time too (even if im driving the moving truck)?

Or anyone have any words of wisdom/ suggestions?

I. Hate. Her. So. Much!!!!!!!!!!!

Her predatory ways, her deplorable depraved trolloped ways!!!! Hrjajdudjzkxksjznd

Currently watching episodes around her raping Tom, and Anna's attack. I've watch these seasons probably 3times total, and every time... I HATE her!!!!

My sons birthday is the very beginning of Oct, as is his Bday party.

However we are scheduled to move into a new house at the end of this month.

We have a location picked out at a vendor place, but id love to have his party at the new house BUT obviously the timeline it tight. So which location?

Theme is Monster Jam, so have some "messy" activities planned

New house

Pro 1. Save $$

Pro 2. Have a bit more freedom in activities and planning

Pro 3. Set up can be dont the day before or early on

Con 1. Im afraid the house will fall through before we move in

Con 2. Very limited time to unpack/make the house homey even though the party would be outside.

Vendor location

Pro 1. Will be available, stable "for sure" option

Pro 2. Large indoor space for the toddlers

Pro 3. Affordable but still not "cheap"

Con 1. Cost couple hundred to book (if we dont get a discount

Con 2. Can only set up about an hour in advance

Con 3. Limited on what we can do activity wise

Formally Dx PMOS in Jan 2026, and Adenomyosis in April/MAY

Started taking Eu Naturals Inositol in Jan, and then switched to wholesome story in June.

I had long heavy periods before I began taking inositol. Especially after having my son in 2023. But I only had maybe 2-3 periods between his birth and being diagnosed in Jan. But now ive had "3" periods since Jan, BUT each "period" lasts upwards of 45days of active bleeding

Jan 2nd-Feb 10 (about 3days of 'no bleeding' and the. Started up again

April 14 - May 27th

July 4th -now still bleeding

I took Inositol pre pregnancy and it really seemed to regulate me. But now i just bleed consistently and constantly. It (and maybe metformin) has helped.lower my testosterone nearly in half. I've spent a small fortune on period products (pads, wipes etc) because I use them day and night. Ive had 6 iron infusions and limited on BC options because ive had a blood clot.

Any advice/ recommendations?

Anyone else affects my Inositol like this? Should I stop?

My pots adrenaline, anxiety etc gets 10xs worse at bedtime. The minute I lie down its heartbeating through my whole body, throat "tightness" , chest tightness, exploding head syndrome, jolts awake, adrenaline pumps, nightmares, intrusive thoughts, restlessness, hypocondria, limb tingles and more

Every night I dream bedtime, because im SO tired, but know it'll be a battle to get relief. It all got so much worse.after a particularly bad episode back in May, where i woke up and thought i.was going to die

One of the most severe episodes ive had ended up with paramedics and an er trip.

So went to see a townhome/duplex today, the neighborhood is beautiful, building and photos of inside also beautiful. The address was for one side... turns out the photos were for the other unit that had been upgraded a bit, better floor plan, larger sqftg.

So we get inside and its.just ...meh, aged, smells old (dont particularly mind), creaky stairs, florescent lighting in the kitchen, shallow stairs, tiny landing into 3 upstairs bedrooms (matter because i have a toddler, and work remote). Backyard is smaller and doesnt have the built in deck area, just a cement pad. It cost 100 less than the other side but imo significantly less "nice"

Anyway landlord messaged asking if I wanted to apply, not opposed, but would be more willing if the rent dropped more... they mentioned at the showing they hadn't had alot of interest because it's not as nice as the other side.