u/narcattack505

Hi guys. Sorry i am actually speeding typing this while i cry because this just happened like 2 minutes ago. And i also have no one to go to except my bf but now i wish i didnt message him either

So, i was sitting and my boyfriend's birthday is coming up in a couple of days so i have been shopping for him. My mom every single year judges the gifts my boyfriend gets me every single year she compares them to what i get him or make him. i am 1000 times more crafty than him and i love gift giving. he isn't crafty as much but i adore every single thing he gets me every year. This year im making him a letter book like the \_\_ letters for your \_\_ birthday thing. So im sitting on the kitchen island and she comes home and i tell her dont open the blinds because i cannot see the tv (i was watching and crafting). She then starts saying stuff like no and other things. Then she says something among the lines of "ur crazy for doing this" and then proceeds to say while smiling and being rude about it she says "has your boyfriend ever done all of this stuff for u" im like he gets me what i like and i get him what he likes then she scoffs and says "what has he got you that you like".

That was my last straw.

I got so upset i started off by talking back and being rude saying she is the type of mother people cut off after marriage. i told her i hate her then i went upstairs to my room to cry and do the crafting. then she came up their to say "oh now ur gonna make a mess here". i lost it i told her go away and i tried to push her out and she forced herself into my room. Then she starts saying shit i tried not to cry in front of her because she will weaponize that. Then i said a lot of swear words in my native language and told her to leave me alone that i hate her that shes the type of mother ppl don't talk to or hurt etc.

I feel bad for saying this shit but when is enough enough???
I always go through this bullshit. She always does it. My boyfriend has done nothing to her he always treats her thinks of her buys her things etc. yet she doesn't stop judging and trying to make me stop doing things for him. by the way she only believes in money and thats what matters when it comes to gifts. he spends a lot on me more than i do for sure. im so tired of this.

I got an impark ticket back in july during grad season and i didnt pay it. Then i got a notice about debt collection etc which i just saw today. what do i do? My parents are worried because i drive their car lol

Hi all, i was wondering how can i get a parking pass for both campuses? I am taking two courses one in each campus. i do know you need 6 credits at each campus to get the pass for both coquitlam and new west but i was wondering if there is any chance or other way to get a pass for both campuses? Am i able to get the pass for both then drop a class and keep the pass?

Hi all, I am a student from another college. I was wondering what is a good place to study at UBC? i was hoping to study at the Irving learning centre. Also what time do they open?

For context my brother is in the UBC FGL program and i have to transit with him to and from UBC and i have finals right now so i thought about studying while i am there!

Another question is... is there possibly a place i can leave my bag for about an hour? i was looking to go for a jog or walk and get my steps in while im waiting for my brother too.

Thank you!

Alright so the title explains all but i will explain more.

So I (22F) want to travel with my boyfriend (22M). We have been together for 3 years now and we have met each others families they love us and we always hang out when we can even until late during (concerts only tho).

Recently we have been wanting to travel and experience the world together. I have brought this up to my mom which once resulted in a fight and another two times we had a non-argumentative back and forth. I will add in that i am a Punjabi Indian, so my parents are very traditional and strict for some things. I am also born and raised in Canada.

His family doesn't mind as long as mines doesn't mind but honestly i doubt they would care too much as his mom believes in us living our lives etc.

Every single time i bring up wanting to travel either alone, with my brother (16M) or with my boyfriend it goes into her saying "not until marriage", "you can do it when you are married", "not allowed" etc. I don't agree with this at all, why should i need to wait to be married to live my life?

I have tried again and again to get her to get on board with being okay with it but she just doesn't get it. I know why, it's because she is worried we will have sex, i even told her we will book separate rooms etc but of course that doesn't matter. I always question her like "why does my life begin when i am married" etc and she just says that's how it is.

I have even said "i am going to do it anyways" and she told me two things. First thing was that she will not let me back into the house. Second thing is that she tried threatening me about how in my dad's side how they get rid of the women who "disgrace" their name blah blah. (mind you we aren't even close to the dads side)

The reason for me not allowed to go with my brother is because my mom is VERY strict and protective of him. I haven't been able to speak to my dad about this except once it was brought up that if we got this ceremony called "roka" done would we be able to and yeah well he wasn't even okay with that either.

I don't want to live like this, I am 22. I want to get married at 25, have kids hopefully before 30. what do it do? how can i try convincing them? do i just go? what if they won't let me in? these are all the questions i have.

Edit: i will add i do have family i can go to in the case of them kicking my out however they are in calgary im in vancouver. My bf has also offered for me to stay with his family because they have a spare room if stuff comes down to that but because he has traditional grandparents im not too comfortable. Also i have cousins my age however im not close to any, they don't really like me (idk why but i assume it is because i go against my moms beliefs a lot). only cousins that support me are once again, in Calgary.

Alright so the title explains all but i will explain more.

So I (22F) want to travel with my boyfriend (22M). We have been together for 3 years now and we have met each others families they love us and we always hang out when we can even until late during (concerts only tho).

Recently we have been wanting to travel and experience the world together. I have brought this up to my mom which once resulted in a fight and another two times we had a non-argumentative back and forth. I will add in that i am a Punjabi Indian, so my parents are very traditional and strict for some things. I am also born and raised in Canada.

His family doesn't mind as long as mines doesn't mind but honestly i doubt they would care too much as his mom believes in us living our lives etc.

Every single time i bring up wanting to travel either alone, with my brother (16M) or with my boyfriend it goes into her saying "not until marriage", "you can do it when you are married", "not allowed" etc. I don't agree with this at all, why should i need to wait to be married to live my life?

I have tried again and again to get her to get on board with being okay with it but she just doesn't get it. I know why, it's because she is worried we will have sex, i even told her we will book separate rooms etc but of course that doesn't matter. I always question her like "why does my life begin when i am married" etc and she just says that's how it is.

I have even said "i am going to do it anyways" and she told me two things. First thing was that she will not let me back into the house. Second thing is that she tried threatening me about how in my dad's side how they get rid of the women who "disgrace" their name blah blah. (mind you we aren't even close to the dads side)

The reason for me not allowed to go with my brother is because my mom is VERY strict and protective of him. I haven't been able to speak to my dad about this except once it was brought up that if we got this ceremony called "roka" done would we be able to and yeah well he wasn't even okay with that either.

I don't want to live like this, I am 22. I want to get married at 25, have kids hopefully before 30. what do it do? how can i try convincing them? do i just go? what if they won't let me in? these are all the questions i have.

Edit: i will add i do have family i can go to in the case of them kicking my out however they are in calgary im in vancouver. My bf has also offered for me to stay with his family because they have a spare room if stuff comes down to that but because he has traditional grandparents im not too comfortable. Also i have cousins my age however im not close to any, they don't really like me (idk why but i assume it is because i go against my moms beliefs a lot). only cousins that support me are once again, in Calgary.

Alright so the title explains all but i will explain more.

So I (22F) want to travel with my boyfriend (22M). We have been together for 3 years now and we have met each others families they love us and we always hang out when we can even until late during (concerts only tho).

Recently we have been wanting to travel and experience the world together. I have brought this up to my mom which once resulted in a fight and another two times we had a non-argumentative back and forth. I will add in that i am a Punjabi Indian, so my parents are very traditional and strict for some things. I am also born and raised in Canada.

His family doesn't mind as long as mines doesn't mind but honestly i doubt they would care too much as his mom believes in us living our lives etc.

Every single time i bring up wanting to travel either alone, with my brother (16M) or with my boyfriend it goes into her saying "not until marriage", "you can do it when you are married", "not allowed" etc. I don't agree with this at all, why should i need to wait to be married to live my life?

I have tried again and again to get her to get on board with being okay with it but she just doesn't get it. I know why, it's because she is worried we will have sex, i even told her we will book separate rooms etc but of course that doesn't matter. I always question her like "why does my life begin when i am married" etc and she just says that's how it is.

I have even said "i am going to do it anyways" and she told me two things. First thing was that she will not let me back into the house. Second thing is that she tried threatening me about how in my dad's side how they get rid of the women who "disgrace" their name blah blah. (mind you we aren't even close to the dads side)

The reason for me not allowed to go with my brother is because my mom is VERY strict and protective of him. I haven't been able to speak to my dad about this except once it was brought up that if we got this ceremony called "roka" done would we be able to and yeah well he wasn't even okay with that either.

I don't want to live like this, I am 22. I want to get married at 25, have kids hopefully before 30. what do it do? how can i try convincing them? do i just go? what if they won't let me in? these are all the questions i have.

Edit: i will add i do have family i can go to in the case of them kicking my out however they are in calgary im in vancouver. My bf has also offered for me to stay with his family because they have a spare room if stuff comes down to that but because he has traditional grandparents im not too comfortable. Also i have cousins my age however im not close to any, they don't really like me (idk why but i assume it is because i go against my moms beliefs a lot). only cousins that support me are once again, in Calgary.

Alright so the title explains all but i will explain more.

So I (22F) want to travel with my boyfriend (22M). We have been together for 3 years now and we have met each others families they love us and we always hang out when we can even until late during (concerts only tho).

Recently we have been wanting to travel and experience the world together. I have brought this up to my mom which once resulted in a fight and another two times we had a non-argumentative back and forth. I will add in that i am a Punjabi Indian, so my parents are very traditional and strict for some things. I am also born and raised in Canada.

His family doesn't mind as long as mines doesn't mind but honestly i doubt they would care too much as his mom believes in us living our lives etc.

Every single time i bring up wanting to travel either alone, with my brother (16M) or with my boyfriend it goes into her saying "not until marriage", "you can do it when you are married", "not allowed" etc. I don't agree with this at all, why should i need to wait to be married to live my life?

I have tried again and again to get her to get on board with being okay with it but she just doesn't get it. I know why, it's because she is worried we will have sex, i even told her we will book separate rooms etc but of course that doesn't matter. I always question her like "why does my life begin when i am married" etc and she just says that's how it is.

I have even said "i am going to do it anyways" and she told me two things. First thing was that she will not let me back into the house. Second thing is that she tried threatening me about how in my dad's side how they get rid of the women who "disgrace" their name blah blah. (mind you we aren't even close to the dads side)

The reason for me not allowed to go with my brother is because my mom is VERY strict and protective of him. I haven't been able to speak to my dad about this except once it was brought up that if we got this ceremony called "roka" done would we be able to and yeah well he wasn't even okay with that either.

I don't want to live like this, I am 22. I want to get married at 25, have kids hopefully before 30. what do it do? how can i try convincing them? do i just go? what if they won't let me in? these are all the questions i have.

Hi everyone, i was wondering if for my waitlist classes i would be allowed to fill out the student loan. For example im on waitlist for all my classes except one and plan on taking a loan. when naming my classes would i include the names of just the classes i have or the waitlist ones too? Also in the case i get the loan for all classes including waitlisted ones and then i don't get the waitlist classes what is the procedure with that? does the money get taken away or do i pay them when paying back my loan?

sorry if im being confusing

hey anyone know of any easy courses/electives that i literally don't need to put too much of my mind into and are overall just a breeze? i am taking bio 1203 next semester and health psychology so i just want another to keep myself learning.

anyone wanna give me cheap or free tickets to asap rocky on july 1st at rogers arena vancouver🥹

hi everyone i just got a job at bab and was wondering what to expect. I more so want to understand like what to do at each station as a worker? like what are the roles in each station? also i was wondering how does the till and scanning extra clothing etc work as well?

Hey everyone i was wondering if anyone has any extra tickets for the 2026 la matheson secondary school commencement ceremony? you can send me dm if you have any

Hi everyone. i am 5'8, 200lbs and 22 years old and a female. I need to loose weight before summer so mid june/ early july. my goal is 175/180lbs. is this achievable? i am willing on going to the extremes for this but obviously not crazy crazy stuff lol.

i plan on going to the gym 6 times a week.

for meals can i get some cheap meal plan ideas/suggestions? i just got fired lollllll

Hi everyone. i am 5'8, 200lbs and 22 years old and a female. I need to loose weight before summer so mid june/ early july. my goal is 175/180lbs. is this achievable? i am willing on going to the extremes for this but obviously not crazy crazy stuff lol.

i plan on going to the gym 6 times a week.

for meals can i get some cheap meal plan ideas/suggestions? i just got fired lollllll

how to rebuild motivation, discipline, increase productivity everyday?

Hello everyone! I will just start it right off. I am a 21 almost 22 year old female. i weigh 200lbs and i am 5'8. I go to college for 3 days. I just got fired (due to my own fault). My mom was in the hospital for about a week and so i lost all motivation. I eat like shit sleep like shit am basically shit and have zero motivation.

A day in my life when i don't have school looks like this:

slept : 1-2 AM
Wake: whenever usually past 11:30AM
breakfast: usually four pop tarts with milk or rusk cakes with tea.
Lunch: nothing most of the time
Dinner/ LINNER: only proper food because my mom makes dinner for us.

consists of staying in watching tv on the sofa for hours and procrastination.

i used to be motivated, healthy and was losing weight and had proper meals like egg with banana and milk for breakfast, some protein for lunch, a protein smoothie for snack and a light dinner. i was sleeping well too but this past month my life came crashing down.

i feel like after my mom was in the hospital i should've been able to get back on track but then i got my period which i don't do well with either. and i started school which are the only days where i feel barely stable.

I also lost my job two days ago. I do have an interview on Monday however for another job that starts in September.

I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 3 years, stable and happy and i know he wouldn't leave me because of anything like weight gain etc but that fear still comes to creep on me. I am not at my healthiest weight or anything at the moment.

I used to be 70kg about 2 years ago but overtime i gained healthy relationship weight and a bit of depression weight. and now just unhealthy binge eating and bad food weight.

How can i regain my confidence? motivation? move forward and develop a healthy life style? Perhaps some tips on weight loss as well? i did go to the gym today but i am a tad bit sick and only did 45 mins of cardio burning around 170 calories.

Any tips are appreciated deeply!

should also add i have an addiction to what we assume a person who has nothing to do at night to be doing.

Hello everyone! I will just start it right off. I am a 21 almost 22 year old female. i weigh 200lbs and i am 5'8. I go to college for 3 days. I just got fired (due to my own fault). My mom was in the hospital for about a week and so i lost all motivation. I eat like shit sleep like shit am basically shit and have zero motivation.

A day in my life when i don't have school looks like this:

slept : 1-2 AM
Wake: whenever usually past 11:30AM
breakfast: usually four pop tarts with milk or rusk cakes with tea.
Lunch: nothing most of the time
Dinner/ LINNER: only proper food because my mom makes dinner for us.

consists of staying in watching tv on the sofa for hours and procrastination.

i used to be motivated, healthy and was losing weight and had proper meals like egg with banana and milk for breakfast, some protein for lunch, a protein smoothie for snack and a light dinner. i was sleeping well too but this past month my life came crashing down.

i feel like after my mom was in the hospital i should've been able to get back on track but then i got my period which i don't do well with either. and i started school which are the only days where i feel barely stable.

I also lost my job two days ago. I do have an interview on Monday however for another job that starts in September.

I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 3 years, stable and happy and i know he wouldn't leave me because of anything like weight gain etc but that fear still comes to creep on me. I am not at my healthiest weight or anything at the moment.

I used to be 70kg about 2 years ago but overtime i gained healthy relationship weight and a bit of depression weight. and now just unhealthy binge eating and bad food weight.

How can i regain my confidence? motivation? move forward and develop a healthy life style? Perhaps some tips on weight loss as well? i did go to the gym today but i am a tad bit sick and only did 45 mins of cardio burning around 170 calories.

Any tips are appreciated deeply!

should also add i have an addiction to masturbation and reading smut. not watching porn tho but reading it yes.

Hello everyone! I will just start it right off. I am a 21 almost 22 year old female. i weigh 200lbs and i am 5'8. I go to college for 3 days. I just got fired (due to my own fault). My mom was in the hospital for about a week and so i lost all motivation. I eat like shit sleep like shit am basically shit and have zero motivation.

A day in my life when i don't have school looks like this:

slept : 1-2 AM
Wake: whenever usually past 11:30AM
breakfast: usually four pop tarts with milk or rusk cakes with tea.
Lunch: nothing most of the time
Dinner/ LINNER: only proper food because my mom makes dinner for us.

consists of staying in watching tv on the sofa for hours and procrastination.

i used to be motivated, healthy and was losing weight and had proper meals like egg with banana and milk for breakfast, some protein for lunch, a protein smoothie for snack and a light dinner. i was sleeping well too but this past month my life came crashing down.

i feel like after my mom was in the hospital i should've been able to get back on track but then i got my period which i don't do well with either. and i started school which are the only days where i feel barely stable.

I also lost my job two days ago. I do have an interview on Monday however for another job that starts in September.

I have a boyfriend and we have been together for 3 years, stable and happy and i know he wouldn't leave me because of anything like weight gain etc but that fear still comes to creep on me. I am not at my healthiest weight or anything at the moment.

I used to be 70kg about 2 years ago but overtime i gained healthy relationship weight and a bit of depression weight. and now just unhealthy binge eating and bad food weight.

How can i regain my confidence? motivation? move forward and develop a healthy life style? Perhaps some tips on weight loss as well? i did go to the gym today but i am a tad bit sick and only did 45 mins of cardio burning around 170 calories.

Any tips are appreciated deeply!

should also add i have an addiction to masturbation and reading smut. not watching porn tho but reading it yes.