u/shopaholic_life

Hi everyone,

My family and I are planning to go to Ayr beach during the summer with all the good weather coming and I was wondering if the water if safe to swim in because of all the Jelly fish and perhaps bacteria? I was also wondering if it would be okay to wear a bikini (not anything skimpy, lol) to swim in? I wont be walking around in it, i'd get changed to swim and then changed back into clothes again, but I dont want to offend anyone, especially those with kids or be judged.

Thank you for reading this! Have a good day!

Hi everyone,

My family and I are planning to go to Ayr beach during the summer with all the good weather coming and I was wondering if the water if safe to swim in because of all the Jelly fish and perhaps bacteria? I was also wondering if it would be okay to wear a bikini (not anything skimpy, lol) to swim in? I wont be walking around in it, i'd get changed to swim and then changed back into clothes again, but I dont want to offend anyone, especially those with kids or be judged.

Thank you for reading this! Have a good day!

Anything happening for under 18s? Any third spaces for them to make friends or anything? Bands, workshops, etc? I'm trying to help my little brother and sister lol

Hi everyone! My friend invited me to go to her church tomorrow, and she's stated that the attire is semi formal. I don't really know what that means if I'm being completely honest. I don't want to look Mormon with my extremely long skirt and frilly shirt (It's from my Norwegian Bunad), but I don't want to look trashy with my usual low rise jeans and strappy tops, and all I have left is very party/prom dresses.

Any and all advice helps! I have 17 hours lol

Hi everyone! My friend invited me to go to her El Salvador church tomorrow, and she's stated that the attire is semi formal. I don't really know what that means if I'm being completely honest. I don't want to look Mormon with my extremely long skirt and frilly shirt (It's from my Norwegian Bunad), but I don't want to look trashy with my usual low rise jeans and strappy tops, and all I have left is very party/prom dresses.

Any and all advice helps! I have 17 hours lol

https://preview.redd.it/caazc6lleyzg1.png?width=373&format=png&auto=webp&s=e3ba665615c5ba87aaaad0e12496632bd52716a1

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I'm going to Paris in the summer, and I kind of need to wear this dress somehow, but imo, it feels too beachy. Is there anyway/any accessories I can use to make this look intentional and fashionable?

https://preview.redd.it/ae6x9tswdyzg1.png?width=373&format=png&auto=webp&s=e6089f6c6c2cae95fad14a8663480218a0a51b82

https://preview.redd.it/4oqtfmpxdyzg1.png?width=381&format=png&auto=webp&s=645a0eb60e86836a72fdcb3f642321b08f95596c

I'm going to Paris in the summer, and I kind of need to wear this dress somehow, but imo, it feels too beachy. Is there anyway/any accessories I can use to make this look intentional and fashionable?

Hi everyone,

I’m 17 and interested in getting into digital marketing, particularly in creative advertising and media design. I’m especially interested in creating ads (picture and video), maybe some stuff for magazines, brands, movies, music, etc.

I just dont know where to begin and would appreciate some advice from people with experience. Do I just start creating random stuff on Canva? Do I need premium on Canva to be good? Are there better ways to build skills and a portfolio early on?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

Hi everyone,

I’m 17 and interested in getting into digital marketing, particularly in creative advertising and media design. I’m especially interested in creating ads (picture and video), maybe some stuff for magazines, brands, movies, music, etc.

I just dont know where to begin and would appreciate some advice from people with experience. Do I just start creating random stuff on Canva? Do I need premium on Canva to be good? Are there better ways to build skills and a portfolio early on?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

Any small gigs for teens coming up? Like any bands by teens for teens or anything?

Thanks for ur time

Background info: I have aspergers, high functioning, but I can’t see social cues or control my face/voice. Meg has been my friend for years, and I’ve known Grace for years but she’s mostly a friend of a friend. I only met Paula last week but we clicked instantly. I only met Peter the day this all happened, and only heard about his existence 2 days before. All fake names obvi. My ex J, had a somno kink and so did his girlfriend that he had a few years before me (somno kink is basically that you like having sex with someone while they’re asleep, and my friends took this as rape. I tried to explain blanket consent (Blanket consent sex is an agreement where a partner gives pre-approved, ongoing permission for certain sexual acts without requiring explicit, step-by-step consent each time. It is often used in established relationships or specific dynamics (like BDSM) to allow for spontaneous intimacy but must be retractable at any time), but they kept saying I was defending a rapist.

I might as well get straight into this lol

Me, Meg, Paula, Grace and Grace's friend, Peter, went to a museum on Saturday, and at one point, we were talking about bad and horrible exes, so I talked about my exes, and, I guess I must've sounded casual because of my tone and facial expression which I can't control in any way–trust me, I've tried before–but everyone was fine with me talking about my exes, and they were talking about theirs, and then we continued hanging out for another 4 hours or so, but when we got home, Grace texted Meg yelling at her for 'letting' me talk about what my exes done so casually and monotone. And Grace said that she never wants to see me or talk to me, and if the group ever hangs out and I'm there, she won't go. Obviously she can do whatever she wants, and me and Grace aren't even friends, we only hang out because we're in the same friend group. So Grace kept texting Meg, basically yelling and blaming her for my actions. Meg phoned me and told me all of this. She was really upset and crying for hours. But Grace text and told Paula that "she had a great day and she was pretty quiet because she was tired" but she told Meg that "she hated today and was disgusted at what I was talking about and how I was talking so casually about it". Meg kept crying and was blaming herself, and I was comforting her. We then added Paula to the call and Paula was telling me the same stuff that Grace is being nice to her but not to Meg. They advised me to text Grace but I was saying that because Grace hasn't told me anything or that she has an issue with me or stuff, so I thought that I shouldn't text her because, like, yknow, if Meg didn't tell me what Grace was saying, how would I know? But anyway, I did end up texting her. I said: 

Hey, meg told me that I made you guys feel uncomfortable about what I was talking about today with my exes. I'm not trying to defend anyone's actions, not even myself. I know what I was saying was wrong and wasn't right for any time or place. Im sorry if i came off as insensitive. Im not trying to defend myself or anything, and I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but because i am autistic, i do struggle to know what to say, my tone, my facial expressions, and whats too much information/what's the right thing to say. Especially because it was my first time hanging out with alot of yous, like Paula, Peter, even you, and I was very anxious and awkward so I just kind of rambled and forgot what I was talking about. I know none of this is an excuse for anything I was saying and I'm not trying to say it is. I'm so sorry for everything and how long this message is, I didn't want anything ive wrote here to be taken the wrong way. I won't come to the cinema if you don't want me to, I don't want to make you uncomfortable in any way shape or form. Again, I am so sorry.

After an hour of Grace being online and texting everyone but me, She said: okay well im glad you apologised, the way you talked about that topic like it was nothing filled me with disgust, you should probably be more mindful of how you talk around a topic as serious as sexual assult and excusing that sort of behaviour. im not going to tell you to not come to a movie that you paid a ticket for tho, thats petty.

We all like this movie and we’re all planning to go see it together, and we’ve all paid £10 each to Grace for her to book it, which she has. But now idk if I should go because I don’t want everything to be awkward, and It’s not like im DYING to see the movie, I dont mind watching spoilers or anything and learning about it that way. But Meg and Paula said I should go and that they will talk to me n stuff but idk. 

It feels like she's complaining more about my tone than what I was saying about my exes. Like she's more focusing on how my voice and face was during my adding to the conversation. Paula and Meg agreed.

So, I said this back to her: Yeah, of course. I always try to be mindful, but sometimes everything gets away from me, again not excusing anything. I do try, but sometimes, like in circumstances like I mentioned before, my tone and, well, everything doesn't convey what i feel/am trying to say, like a lot of the time i try to sound happy but i sound very sarcastic. i really do want you to know that, and I always try to take a long consideration of everything I say. I don't want to ruin the mood/vibe of the experience of the movie for everyone, we could sit at separate sides of everyone iykwim, but I don't want to annoy or ruin your or anyone's experience, I'll just stick with Meg and Paula.

... she just sent me a thumbs up in response.

I'm just scared. Grace is friends with all of mine and what if she says I'm defending an assaulter, when I was just talking about my exes and stuff like everyone else was. Meg and Paula are still trying to be friends with Grace and Grace has texted them saying she hopes she doesn’t lose them as friends and stuff. They didnt tell me at the time, like in that 10 minutes i was talking about it, and afterwards Grace and Peter were laughing and talking to me, It wasnt until we got home that Grace started texting meg.