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Hi! I 18(f) am going to college about 5hrs away this August. The welcome week allows parents to stay for 2 of the days and my move in day is the first one so my mom wants to go. From the get go I knew I wanted to try taking the train to my college instead of going with her in the car. I guess theres a few reasons (I’ve heard the view is beautiful, I need to learn how to anyways, etc.) But the biggest one of all is that my mom smokes and I really hate it. She’s done it most of my life but as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized the smell sticks to me and my stuff too. She’s not aware I hate it because I always thought it would be wrong to say something. In fact she’s chalked me not wanting to go places & specifically in the car with her as me “just not wanting to be with her” which really isn’t true. Every time we go out I have to come home & shower because of the smell, and if I’m going to be bringing stuff with me I don’t want it all to smell.

We just talked and I told her I was still planning on taking the train because “I don’t want to sit in the car” and that’s when she got all upset and thought it was me not wanting to be with her. At this point I truly have no clue what to do.. I look horrible because my reason sucks but would it really be fair to tell her the actual reason? (If you have better excuses please let me know)

If you’re wondering why I care so much its not just because I personally hate it but I really don’t want to smell that way when I see people for the first time. I’m already really socially awkward and don’t want that to be my first impression and turn people away.

Edit: I realized I worded this a bit confusingly. She would still be driving down by herself since she wants to attend. She herself said she didn’t want to drive for 5hrs then got upset when I said she didn’t have to go. I am considering asking if she’d go on the train w/ me but I don’t know how the logistics of that would work out.

Hi! So I wanted to do Bio, Psychology, Chem, Calc 2, & Wrtg but if I’m calculating it right that would be over the 19 credits that I’m allowed to take per semester? is this true or am I just dumb
Bio-4
Psychology- 4
Chem-5
Calc 2- 4
Wrtg-4

Hi! So I was given a single in Genessee w/a bathroom because of my disability, which I applied for months ago and got approved. When I was told I was getting this room, I honestly assumed that since it's what they had available, the cost would be covered by the aid I received, but, come to find out, it isn't, and I really cannot pay the difference.

A single is a need for me, but I'm pretty sure it would be way too late to switch to Sue B, and I'm also not sure the singles have bathrooms there. I'm really not sure what to do at this point. I did email my financial aid person, but what's the chance of them actually covering it? If anyone knows anything, please let me know!!

I’ve always been a buyer but decided to list a few Cds I have an they surprisingly sold already. I am a bit confused however. Am I supposed to download the shipping label and print it? Also can I just buy a envelope (box??) at the office or should I get one beforehand. Also how do I make sure I’m not charged for shipping when I get there?
Package is 2lbs if that helps (:

hi hi!! i got a single w/ a bathroom in Genessee and can only find 2 of the most horribly taken pictures online 😭 I know the dimensions but that doesn’t really help & online it does look incredibly small. If anyone has any pictures too that would be great! I was also hoping to loft my bed but don’t know if that’s still an option in a single. Tysmm

This probably won’t make much sense but I’m kind of just looking for some input. I’m 18 (f) and have struggled mentally for years now. It began as body issues & disordered eating when I was 9. 12 is when I first began to $h (I still do.) and covid was quite horrible for everyone but I was definitely struggling a lot. Idk it’s weird though because for some time I genuinely felt like things got better. Freshman year was a complete turn around in comparison to middle school and I finally felt “okay.” and I was also clean.

Sophomore year my eating issues came back again and since then haven’t really left. Last summer though I all of a sudden started feeling really bad, and then Oct-Nov hit and I genuinely think I started struggling with Depression (I had SI, No motivation, Thought life was pointless, etc.) and on top of that my eating issues were super bad. I had to get my shit together in December for college apps but I was still in the “nothing matters” mindset.

Since then I feel like it comes and goes, there’s weeks I feel really bad and that hopelessness is still there but some days I don’t feel that “depression” that I did a bit ago. Mentally I really still don’t have much hope for my
life and think the same things but it’s more passive if that makes sense? I still struggle daily with SI but again it’s not “as bad.”

These fluctuations make no sense to me, I mean for some time I genuinely thought I had depression but wouldn’t that severely impact me everyday? I kind of feel like I’m just convincing myself I have things that I don’t??

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I have been trying to make my schedule forever before registration, and this is the only one I can come up with that would work, although the times are really bad, and Monday is going to suck. For reference, Chem we need: Lecture, Workshop, Discussion, and Lab, and Bio we need: Lecture, Workshop, Lab

I am also doing Calc 2, which requires a recitation, and on top of this, I have a required writing class. I feel like the times are so bad, though. I might move my chem lab that way on Thursday, I'm done with everything earlier.

The calc and chem section is non-negotiable, and the chem discussion is only on Monday. Thankfully, Bio Lab is Biweekly

We’re both 18f & have beeb online friends for a year. We’ve been with each other through our ups and downs and what not. I am someone who LOVES a close connection (hard as online friends ik) and really struggle with distant friendships.

Around a month a go she started a full time to pay for college and the hours are ALOT, she basically wakes up goes to work and then sleeps, leaving us no time to talk. I admit this change has made me feel pretty upset. I don’t have many irl friends and so not having her to text has left me feeling really lonely. I want to clarify, I’m not upset AT her but I am upset at the situation. I also feel like when she does have time off she doesn’t put in the effort to try to reach out. I know this is probably very tiring and have done my best to be understanding. I am someone who would do anything for her, even if I was tired I would stay up and make sure we still talked, and while I know prioritizing yourself is important it’s just I feel like our friendship means so much to me that I would still do it despite how I feel. I feel bad for feeling upset & did tell her I felt she didn’t want to talk & she said it was because she’s not up to it with work (which again I understand.) I’m kind of just lost on how to deal with this, and with college coming up I’m sure our schedules will be very different and make it difficult to keep up.
Does anyone have any input?

It was 3am and I see this, only read the beginning line because I seriously don’t want to deal with this.
I actually graduated hs (im 18 dw) last week and he didn’t show up, and you know that’s kind of when it became real to me that maybe this wasn’t such a horrible decision because if he really cared, he would’ve shown up. I stopped texting him in January because he previously got mad at me in December because I asked him to come a bit later one day because I had to volunteer and he got all mad and started cursing at me. That anger really reminded me a lot of when I was a kid. I was never physically abused but I experienced a lot of verbal abuse & my dad did drink which didn’t help. I had to record a lot of the yelling for court and have listened to it back and genuinely hearing that broke me & made me grow resentful towards my dad. He changed the minute I moved to my moms in 2020 but that day in December really made me realize maybe he hadn’t changed completely??
I waited for him to reach out, he never did. You may wonder (like everyone does) why didn’t I reach out? I wanted him to care enough and put his anger aside and reach out, but he didn’t.
This has kept me up at night because I feel so incredibly bad, at the same time I always wonder why he didn’t love me enough to at least try to reach out yk?
I seriously want to delete the text and pretend it never happened, but I’m not sure what to do.

It’s freaking 3am and I see this, only read the beginning line because I seriously don’t want to deal with this.
I actually graduated hs (im 18 dw) last week and he didn’t show up, and you know that’s kind of when it became real to me that maybe this wasn’t such a horrible decision because if he really cared, he would’ve shown up. I stopped texting him in January because he previously got mad at me in December because I asked him to come a bit later one day because I had to volunteer and he got all mad and started cursing at me. That anger really reminded me a lot of when I was a kid. I was never physically abused but I experienced a lot of verbal abuse & my dad did drink which didn’t help. I had to record a lot of the yelling for court and have listened to it back and genuinely hearing that broke me & made me grow resentful towards my dad. He changed the minute I moved to my moms in 2020 but that day in December really made me realize maybe he hadn’t changed completely??
I waited for him to reach out, he never did. You may wonder (like everyone does) why didn’t I reach out? I wanted him to care enough and put his anger aside and reach out, but he didn’t.
This has kept me up at night because I feel so incredibly bad, at the same time I always wonder why he didn’t love me enough to at least try to reach out yk?
I seriously want to delete the text and pretend it never happened, but I’m not sure what to do.

It's getting super hot where I am, I mean, nearing 100 degrees, and it's becoming really hard to go out. I actively sh and it has become a problem. Thankfully, I haven't worn shorts in years to begin with, but it's the covering my arms that's becoming a problem. I can bear the heat in long sleeves, but my mom always points out I'm wearing them and never knows what to say. I have found some "cooler" long sleeves, but it still doesn't eliminate the suspicion.

Hiya! When I register for my Biology lecture, do my workshop and lab teacher have to be the same? I'm trying to give myself a block schedule and have a pretty good plan so far, but I've heard you need the same teacher for everything, which will mess everything up lol. The same goes for chemistry, and then my calc recitation. Thankss

Sorry, I know scheduling hasn't really started yet, but I'm beyond anxious lol. I see that for Bio, there's the option of a 2-hour workshop or the lecture, which is either 3 days a week or 2, then I know I need a lab.

I'm just confused because for chem I need to take 4 classes?? So I didn't know if this was the same

I am a Biochem major, but my strong suit has always been the humanities. In my opinion, I can already write at a college level and would prefer not to take the course.

I took AP Lang and got a 100 in the class, and did AP Lit this year. It says I could substitute it with another class, but it doesn't specify which one. Could I just use part of my humanities cluster to fulfill it or something?

I 18(f) graduate on Saturday (yippie!!) but my graduation will end extremely late so my Mom said we can have my dinner the day before or after. There’s this hot pot restaurant I really like that’s quite pricey and so I typically only get to go there on my birthday since it’s a special occasion. Unfortunately my sister 15 (f) HATES this restaurant, like I mean she’ll basically just pick at the food and maybe take a bite or 2. There is a very small “buffet” area that has chicken nuggets, fries, fruit, and usually some sweets, but it’s not like a full buffet. Even then she never really eats anything when we go.

I told her that if she finds somewhere else to go then we could go there instead (this part is probably my fault) and she chose a restaurant 40 mins away that we usually go to when we’re up in CT for the bigger mall (im in NY.) I do like this restaurant but honestly I don’t feel like sitting in the car for that long just to go out to eat, and so I told her this and said (again) find somewhere closer or we’ll just go to the hot pot restaurant. She keeps insisting on the farther restaurant and I mean I kind of feel like the AH because technically I did tell her to pick somewhere else.. and well she did. She knows I don’t like long car rides though (yes I know this isn’t THAT long) and I’ve previously declined wanting to go here for that reason.

I just feel bad because I feel like there’s no winning in this situation. If we go to the hot pot place then she’ll be miserable and if we go to the farther restaurant I’ll be miserable.

I just want everyone to be happy to be honest so maybe I’ll just suck it up but I’d rather come to an agreement, she’s not really working with me though.

And yes I know it’s my dinner but I feel so guilty and don’t like asking for stuff.

I know at many colleges there’s a lot of rules as to what you can and cannot bring/ put up but I can’t find much online besides the obvious. I wanted to hang stuff on the walls and maybe the ceilings (like vines or something) but not sure if it’s allowed.
Also I know candles aren’t allowed of course but do you think it would be okay to get a candle warmer (it would double as a lamp)?
Tysm!

I’m a senior so I’m going to be graduating but taking Calculus 1 over the summer so I was just wondering. Precalc was so bad for me but I also think it’s because I genuinely couldn’t bring myself to care about it since no place takes credit for it 😭 I have always been quite bad at math but hear some people say calculus is different??

I emailed advising because I was confused why my dual enrollment class wouldn’t allow me to get credit for biology (mind you I have 8 credits for general bio 1 and general bio 2 combined.) I applied as a Biology major and I guess they wont take them because of that anyways??

Is there anyway I could fight against this because honestly I’m pissed. The credits were expensive and I seriously don’t want to take Bio again (I literally got an A in the class.) It was also AP Bio.

I just have to fulfill my premed requirements anyways so maybe I should just switch my major? I could probably switch it to Chem because I got a 3 on AP so wouldn’t get anything for that anyways, and at least then they would accept my credits.. maybe??
edit: never mind realized changing my major wont do anything because it still “wasn’t on a college campus”

I genuinely cannot afford a new computer even with student discounts. My computer is an early 2015 MacBook pro, I got it when I was around 8 😭
It works perfectly fine but it is slow sometimes and INCREDIBLY loud because of the fan, too many tabs and it sounds like an airplane taking off. Sometimes it’s so slow that nothing works but usually shutting it off solves the problem.
I am going to be a Biochem major (pre-med track) and hear that sometimes we need special programs that macs cant run?
Am I cooked..

I will be having my own room because of my disability and while I know roommate doesn’t equal immediate best friend I am still a bit worried. I also have a bad habit of isolation and am incredibly introverted 😭 Maybe I should attend study groups or something?