u/Aqua_Toffana

How do I ask for accommodations for college when I don't even know what I might need? (autism and adhd)

So i already went through 12 years of school as per my country's system. It took me 5 years to recover from the severe burn out and depression it caused.

BTW i was onky diagnosed this year. Yay.

I guess you can skip the rest of my rambling, the question is exactly what it says in the title.

The rest might be too much since I ramble about manifestations of my autism a bit.

You see, i know i appear "normal" as per my high school teacher's quote. It was quite hurtful hearing that, apparently coming out about autism is harder than coming out about being queer, who would have thought?!

In any case, I don't want to constantly mask at school because a) I've mostly unmasked in my day to day life, and b) I'm really excited for the school, it took me a lot to get into it both mentally and financially, even with the scholarship I received.

They know i have autism, but not adhd since i didn't want to overwhelm them with that (I've told them that before my enrolment was finalised, so I didn't want to risk it). So far they've thanked me for trusting them with that info, so I kinda feel secure to ask for accommodations, but I have no clue what that would be.

Do I ask them what they have to offer or do I do research (fucking again) and see what may benefit me. I'm just so tired of doing all the work on this myself. Shouldn't there be someone at school who can help me without me chewing and digesting it for them?

Also, it sounds entitled to even ask! I'm "low support" (isn't that a fucking joke?! I was paralysed the whole day yesterday because neither of my usual options for breakfast were possible, so I just did not fucking eat for like 13 hours after waking up), so like what can they even do??

I'm lost and excited at the same time. Thank fuck i have time until September to decide. Ugh.

Thank you if you have any clue what I should do

Edited to add the part about diagnosis

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u/Aqua_Toffana — 16 hours ago

Do you ever look at the tags and go "yeah, so I'm definitely not the God's bravest soldier" because the combination of it all is terrifying and you are definitely not reading it, but at the same time you still want to leave kudos out of sheer respect

Like i didn't even know that was possible, let alone that i should filter it out.

No I'm not giving any examples. But people are so creative, like wow /gen

Please tell me I'm not the only one

(the picture is me rn, I'm celebrating 27 hours of insomnia)

u/Aqua_Toffana — 1 day ago

Me to my psychiatrist after bringing her a third new patient/client (not counting myself), already knowing whom I'm bringing next: so at what point do you start paying me for all the free advertising? (the photo below is from her office)

Look, she's my fourth psychiatrist and the first one to take me seriously, ok? I love her

Edit: Please refer to the picture above.

  1. Phychiatrists are not the same thing as therapists.
  2. There are countries, that are not the States, with different laws

Phychiatrists are medical professionals, their job is to assess people and give them medication if needed. And no, we don't all have the same diagnosis, because that would make her a shit doctor, and we don't all have the same medication plans because that would make her a shit doctor. Yes, finding a good provider is hell in my region.

There is no conflict of interest because she literally only does assessments and meds. We don't tell her our life stories because she's simply not a therapist, she doesn't have a degree for therapy. In my country you literally go to a different uni for that, there is no mix up. Why on earth would she tell us who's taking which meds?

Please don't go to the same therapist as your friends/family members, though. Maybe try looking up online therapy if you can't find someone around you. It's not as good (been there, done that), but it is still better than nothing 🩷

u/Aqua_Toffana — 4 days ago