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She had always been a “picky” eater as a child. As in only wanting plain nuggets, pizza, burgers, pasta etc. it was never a huge concern to me until she turned around 10 and the behaviour was still going on. She got more and more picky- would only drink milk and started refusing to drink water and apple juice (used to love apple juice). Generally just never increased her food intake. now that shes nearly 13 its continued. She will only eat sugary food when really hungry. When we go on long hikes she won’t eat for the entire day when we’re out, then when we get home she still tries to get out of eating anything. I started to notice her hiding her food and pretending to eat it/lying about eating it... She would go into the bathroom in the morning and bin all of the food given to her from the evening before. Today, we were out for 7 hours hiking and she didn’t eat a single thing until we got home, I then found her binning her pizza which was her only meal of the day that she accepted to eat.

I had always assumed she was just being picky and difficult, however, she made a comment the other day about how she stays skinny by not eating - so I have a feeling there is more to it.

it’s beginning to get pretty irritating if I’m being honest, the amount of food she is wasting every day by letting it rot is pretty disgusting. my parents have spoken to her a bunch about how she needs to eat more and at least take vitamin gummies, but she proceeds to bin these gummies after pretending to eat them too. Is there anything I can do or will she “grow out” of this?

me(20f) and my boyfriend(21m) have been together nearly two years and have always been sexually active. this isn’t something that ever used to happen to me but now, it’s something that happens basically every time - if my boyfriend makes me finish, or if he tries to get me to touch him, I’ll just freeze up and burst into tears. This has only started around a month ago - it happened once and I wasn’t really phased by it but now it feels uncontrollable. I thought it might be governed by my period but it isn’t that either. It’s like this wave comes over me and I start freaking out.

deep down I know the real reason for it - when me and my boyfriend were both 18 and we just got together, he used to be extremely cold after we had sex. as in just not looking at me or talking. Leaving my place immediately after to see his friends Etc. he’s fixed all of these things for over a year and has never done it since I mentioned it. But it feels like something that still lingers in my mind constantly because it upset me so much at the time. As well, the first time we did anything sexual I almost felt pressured by him. i never mentioned it and it’s not something that ever happened since, but I just didn’t feel into it. Now I feel like whenever we do anything I just get reminded of the pressure I felt the first time. I feel like he literally does everything for me and is lovely to me. But it’s like no matter how sweet he is to me I have a mental block from what he was like when we were first together... I don’t know if I talk to him about it because I’m not sure if it would make me feel any better. I’m not sure if I would ever fully feel better from it.

has anyone been in a similar situation/can you give me some advice. Please don’t villainise my boyfriend either, he is completely unaware that he made me feel like that.

me(20f) and my boyfriend(21m) have been together nearly two years and have always been sexually active. this isn’t something that ever used to happen to me but now, it’s something that happens basically every time - if my boyfriend makes me finish, or if he tries to get me to touch him, I’ll just freeze up and burst into tears. This has only started around a month ago - it happened once and I wasn’t really phased by it but now it feels uncontrollable. I thought it might be governed by my period but it isn’t that either. It’s like this wave comes over me and I start freaking out.

deep down I know the real reason for it - when me and my boyfriend were both 18 and we just got together, he used to be extremely cold after we had sex. as in just not looking at me or talking. Leaving my place immediately after to see his friends Etc. he’s fixed all of these things for over a year and has never done it since I mentioned it. But it feels like something that still lingers in my mind constantly because it upset me so much at the time. As well, the first time we did anything sexual I almost felt pressured by him. i never mentioned it and it’s not something that ever happened since, but I just didn’t feel into it. Now I feel like whenever we do anything I just get reminded of the pressure I felt the first time. I feel like he literally does everything for me and is lovely to me. But it’s like no matter how sweet he is to me I have a mental block from what he was like when we were first together... I don’t know if I talk to him about it because I’m not sure if it would make me feel any better. I’m not sure if I would ever fully feel better from it.

has anyone been in a similar situation/can you give me some advice. Please don’t villainise my boyfriend either, he is completely unaware that he made me feel like that.

Went to look at a car earlier for my first car, 2012 AYGO, 34k miles.

failed MOTs back in 2024 and 2025 for severe sub corosion. When asking the salesman if he had receipts that this had been fixed he said he had no receipts but it passed the recent MOT... looking ant the bottom of the car there was a LOT of rust. alarm bells were ringing at this point. When driving the engine made a really really weird noise- he says this was wheel bearings and it would be fixed prior to sale. Clutch felt sticky and would stick to the floor a bit. Handbrake was janky and could be shaken around. he also only let me test drive it for 7 minutes… up the road and back. Says he wouldn’t put a new MOT on sale as the MOT was from March.
told me at the end he’d take the price down to £2300 To cut me a “deal”

My parents told me I’m overthinking it and the car is fine. proceeded to tell me I was being a “princess” and that I’m wasting their time by not buying the last couple cars we’ve looked at. The pressure is getting me overthinking a bit. AITAH?

£1750, full service history, only 2 failed MOTs, 2 owners.

my parents are advising me against getting a car with high mileage, but I feel like 100k for a cheap first car isn’t bad, especially as it has full service history and has been looked after.

thoughts?

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i have only received my shifts for next week, no sign of the next two rotas we are supposed to have. With this in mind, Im Always unable to make plans because I’m unsure what days I’ll be in and I can’t continuously use holiday for every day I want to make plans. If I was to not make a shift due to these plans and the consistent late rotas, can I even be papped?

thanks

I had been previously using the Mugler antiperspirant spray and it was amazingggg! But theyve since discontinued it so I need another recommendation. “Luxury” perfume brands are fine just need something that really works with no aluminum!

Essentially, my hair started falling out around December last year. I was never able to find out the cause but every doctor told me it was due to stress. I’m talking absolute clumps of hair would come out every time I showered - like a sparse handful. I would get out of the shower crying every single wash day for hours on end. I ended up just leaving my hair up between washes as I didn’t want to deal with the stress.

eventually, I realised I could just avoid all stress if I avoided hair washes in general. As the hair fall got worse I couldn’t bare the thought of washing it. So I decided to just not wash it. A week or so passed and I just decided to keep it going. I would let my hair down to brush it and detangle it because it would get so matted being in a bun all the time.

i realised looking back I was in a deep state of depression and before I knew it two months went by of no hair wash. My hair was so unbelievably greasy, my scalp was SO sore. I also have scalp dermatitis and it became out of control in these two months. it Took months to get my scalp back under control. I ended up having to use steroid ointment on my scalp because it became so inflamed over the two month course.

luckily, my hair fall stopped almost completely 3 months after it started and I did start washing regularly again. But looking back I’m so ashamed… it was probably the lowest point of my life.

I absolutely adored this car, and the dealer was a guy that my dad had known a few years and had cars off of him previously.

essentially, I was ready to buy it until I test drove it. The previous owner was a young girl, who got the car in 2020 as her first car. She sold it in March for “no reason” according to the dealer.

now I’ve only driven a few cars as I’ve not long passed my driving test, but the clutch on this car felt really weird. First of all the squeaking noise it made whenever I’d press on the clutch pedal was really weird. It was like a grinding/squeak but VERY loud, every time I pressed down on the pedal. Second of all, it would almost get “stuck” as I lifted my foot back up, just after the bite point, and was VERY stiff. My parents said the pedal felt fine. when I mentioned it to the dealer he said I could just put WD40 on the pedal and it would be fine, it was just stiff from not being driven.

when I told him I’d go away and think about the car, as I wasn’t sure after the test drive he had a slight attitude. I messaged him the next day and asked if it would be okay for me to look again. He responded stating I an only welcome to look again if I intend to buy the car, he’s busy and doesn’t want his time wasted. my dad then expressed his opinion, in that I had missed out on a good deal as the car was so cheap but also that I was overthinking and being difficult.

Overall, I feel like it was a red flag and I got out lucky. but part of me wonders if I was just overthinking it all and I missed out on a decent car…

I absolutely adored this car, and the dealer was a guy that my dad had known a few years and had cars off of him previously.

essentially, I was ready to buy it until I test drove it. The previous owner was a young girl, who got the car in 2020 as her first car. She sold it in March for “no reason” according to the dealer.

now I’ve only driven a few cars as I’ve not long passed my driving test, but the clutch on this car felt really weird. First of all the squeaking noise it made whenever I’d press on the clutch pedal was really weird. It was like a grinding/squeak but VERY loud, every time I pressed down on the pedal. Second of all, it would almost get “stuck” as I lifted my foot back up, just after the bite point, and was VERY stiff. My parents said the pedal felt fine. when I mentioned it to the dealer he said I could just put WD40 on the pedal and it would be fine, it was just stiff from not being driven.

when I told him I’d go away and think about the car, as I wasn’t sure after the test drive he had a slight attitude. I messaged him the next day and asked if it would be okay for me to look again. He responded stating I an only welcome to look again if I intend to buy the car, he’s busy and doesn’t want his time wasted again. Overall, I feel like it was a red flag and I got out lucky. but part of me wonders if I was just overthinking it all and I missed out on a decent car…

Have worked with the company a year and a half- do I email with my notice period or do I print out a letter and physically hand it to my manager…

also, what rank of manager should I give the notice too?

is my notice period 2 weeks?

UK here, so credit card fraud is a wishy washy crime. Essentially, as it’s a crime against the credit card company and not me, I can’t press charges. And also, it was only £1000 of charges on the credit card. So the company doesnt care and didn’t look further into it. But it has been wiped from my credit report. I’m now keeping on top of my credit report, and have my report locked with a password to ensure this doesn’t happen to me again.

enough of the backstory. I am now essentially in the position of my first year of university being over, but as I found out only a month ago, I wasn’t able to extend my housing agreement over the summer. I now have no choice but to move back home for 2 months. Unfortunately, even if I could extend my housing contract I probably wouldn’t due to the financial side of it. My university city is extremely expensive and I feel like the best financial thing for myself is to save as much as I can so I don’t have to rely on my parents going forward. If I chose to stay here and not move back with my parents, I’d probably be paying £3000+ more over summer. Which is kind of hit when I’m trying to save for a car and all.

luckily, from next year I have a contract that goes through the whole summer, so I won’t be needing to go home again. Once I pass my driving test I will also be getting a new part time job. So I can make a proper income thats relevant to my career, and essentially work full time through each holiday break I have.

I know I’m going to be so miserable going home but I suppose it’s for the best for my future financially. I considering claiming estrangement with my university but I realised I wouldn’t get any more financial help if I cut contact, so I was pretty stuck.

I still don’t understand why this was an ongoing issue for so long.

looking back, my family were extremely poor and so I was never really taught basic hygien. And our flat was constantly dirty/old/rundown. My mum would never get me tablets for it so the worms would just keep coming and going on and off. I got so used to it that I never did anything about it myself and would just wait for it to go.

now I’m 20 I realise how abnormal that was

I think everyone has had a flatmate that made shared living a total nightmare. What’s your best (worst) story?

im a university student and it’s not new behaviour that my flatmates have been using my things. Bowls they take and leave dirty, cutlery they steal. Ive lost so many pieces of kitchenware because they’ve either taken it and confusing it with their own or they’ve hidden it around the flat when drunk to be funny. I don’t mind too much because I can just buy new chopping boards and cutlery etc. I have already bought this up to them politely, but they won’t take any notice and continued to do so. So I decided to just be petty instead.

But finding out one of them was using my washing up sponge really irked me. I don’t get why he wouldn’t just buy his own sponge. so after hitting my breaking point a couple days ago and finding this out, I decided to deep clean my fridge with said sponge too. As in really scrub away all the gunk at the bottom of the fridge with it. I then followed up with cleaning raw chicken off my chopping board with said sponge, too. Then I left it on the side by the sink where I normally would, and proceeded to watch him sneakily use it without me seeing. Which I obviously saw now I was aware. I now use a new sponge which I keep away in my cupboard.

This was definitely one of the more petty things I’ve done and definitely an asshole thing to do. However, I’m not the one using other people’s things.

Essentially, I had been out all day with end of year exams and I come home to my housemates having gone snooping through my fridges, using my food and using all of my dishes so they could host a garden party. without me. Bear in mind they did this whilst I was away In order to be sneaky, thinking I wouldn’t be home until later. When I confronted them they apologised, but continued to not clean any of my things they used. Or buy the food they used back for me. For a whole day and a half the dishes were unwashed. I eventually caved and cleaned mine and my buddies dishes they used. Because I thought of a grand plan.

I had a revelation that I could just trip the electricity in the kitchen by using both microwaves in unison. (We had problems with this all year) So I waited until everyone had gone to bed. I snuck downstairs to the kitchen at around 1am and tripped the electricity in the house. I timed this perfectly so that I had eaten pretty much all of my food, so none of mine would be spoilt and go to waste. i also did this during a crazy london heatwave, so the food was going to be destroyed. I then woke up at around 8AM, went down and called the maintenance guys to come and switch the electricity back on. I did this 3 days in a row so that the temperature of their food was dropping and rising constantly. But I obviously didn’t mention it to my flatmates that the fridges had turned off. they then continued to eat all of their meats like normal, ignoring the fact that there was an odd smell to most of their things. They then proceeded to have food poisoning in various degrees. They all assumed it was just a stomach bug going around because they were going to a ton of parties at the time.

to this day they have no idea. I understand this is probably psychotic. But the amount of food hazards they would create and not be bothered about, mixed with the constant disrespect to my things I grew tired of it. I see it as karma for being such nasty people initially. Making my year with them pretty miserable honestly.

I do understand if you all want to rip me to shreds in the comments though. It is probably the worst thing I’ve ever done. this story is from a couple years back and I wouldn’t do anything of the sorts now…

EDIT// I had spoke to them privately about this. But they proceeded to try and dodge me in the house to avoid the awkwardness. And continued to not repurchase my food they used. I thought we had a civil relationship up until this point, but they clearly have no respect for me and talk badly about me behind my back. I even heard them discussing how I was overreacting for asking them to rebuy me all of the items they used, and calling me “bitchy”. Which was pretty upsetting as I had always been generous and polite towards them