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I weight like 100kg (220lbs), am 167cm (5'6) tall, and have been lifting for a little over two years. I had a DEXA scan a year ago and my lean mass was 52kg (116lbs). I'm currently on a GLP-1 and my goal weight is around 75kg (165lbs).

Right now my three rep max for back squat is 75kg (165lbs) and my one rep max for RDL is 100kg (220lbs), for bench press it's 50kg (110lbs), and for overhead press it's 30kg (66lbs). On pure weight alone, I feel like these are all pretty respectable however as a ratio of my body weight, they're low for how long I've been lifting. I've been consistently going to the gym 2x-3x a week and I really do feel like I'm putting in effort and pushing myself when I'm there. Comparison is the thief of joy and everything however I'm starting to get frustrated because apparently these body weight milestones are low hanging fruit and something you should hit within a couple months and obviously this has not happened for me. More to the point, I genuinely think I would hurt myself if I tried to back squat my body weight even though this apparently should be "easy."

Do I actually just need to try harder or am I allowed to take my body weight ratio with a grain of salt because so much of my weight is fat?

I lift two or three times a week and, although my focus is on resistance training, my average heart rate during these workouts is usually in the ball park of 145 and so I feel like I'm also hitting cardio. I have a class pass like type subscription and I want to start doing a class on the weekends to complement my lifting but I'm not sure what I should do.

Pilates: I've done a couple foundational/beginner reformer pilates classes and it feels like a very good rest day activity in the sense that it's not super intense. The only problem is that I have to pay an additional fee on top of my existing subscription and I don't know if it's "worth" it if I only go once a week.

Barre: I thought this was more of a cardio thing but apparently it's primarily a strength training exercise. A bunch of my friends do it and say it's fun but I think it might not be super effective for me because I'm already doing so much strength training.

Spin: My body does not tolerate HIIT and the one time I went to a spin class, I could only follow like half of the instructions and I still felt like I was going to vomit at the end. I don't know if this is a sign I should do no spin or if I should keep going back to spin.

Making this PSA because none of my friends knew about it.

If you are under the age of 30, you are eligible for a 50% Youth Discount on all concert tickets sold through through the Elbphilharmonie. If the concert is happening within 14 days, U30s can buy any remaining ticket for 12€ (REDtickets). Unfortunately this doesn't apply to external ticket vendors like ProArte or Eventeim but like the NDR concerts always get the discount and are fantastic.

If they're going to start charging 6€ for plaza access, you might as well see if you can get a 12€ REDticket.

Growing up in New England, my parents used to talk about preparing for "the big one" and they always meant a really bad storm. One of the smaller culture shocks I had when I moved to Germany in 2019 is that "the big one" is not a storm but a war.

I strongly believe there's a storm brewing over Europe but obviously it's very early and anything could happen. My husband is a German citizen and we had already thought about moving back to the US but it's currently taking 2-3 years for spouses to get green cards and so we decided to stay here for the foreseeable future. I also became a naturalized German citizen earlier this year and my goal is to be pregnant by the end of next year.

I've always jokingly called my US passport my "WWIII insurance" but I've been seriously thinking about when I would cash in on that. Obviously if my German citizenship is revoked, that's a pretty good sign I should take the kids and run but I worry that it might be too late at that point (e.g. $10,000+ for a plane ticket). I think either NATO being dissolved or Germany actually starting the process to leave the EU would also be good points to get out.

Have you guys thought about this at all? At what point would you go back and wait out the war?

My husband and I are currently staying at a beach resort outside of Athens and this is both of our first times in Greece. In our home country, water safety is taken *very* seriously and normal public beaches have manned lifeguard stands every couple hundred meters.

The beach club for our hotel only has one lifeguard for the entire beach and, when we were driving around, it didn’t look like the other beaches had lifeguards. Is the water so calm that people don’t need lifeguard? What about the brain dead idiots who take floaties onto the open water? Do they never need to be rescued?

I’m American, my husband is German, we both have a high level of fluency in each other’s languages. For this reason, we primarily speak Denglish at home and it’s pretty common for us to switch languages mid sentence or to have conversations where one people is speaking English and the other is speaking German.

As an adult, this has had a noticeable and negative impact on my ability to speak my own native language where, frequently, the thing I want to say will come to me in German first and then I have to actively restrain myself from just saying the thing in German. I’m worried about that modeling this behavior to our future kids will cause them similar problems but, at the same time, both my partner and I really like speaking Denglish and wouldn’t want to stop unless it’s absolutely necessary.

Is it actually “dangerous” to use language soup at home or does it not matter as much because the kids are legitimately bilingual and instead of having a first and a second language? Models and research be damned, we’re just going to use our own native language with the kids because anything else would feel unnatural and weird.

Deutsch ist nicht meine Muttersprache.

Mein Schwiegervater war immer leicht übergewichtig aber vor ungefähr ein Jahr hat er angefangen, einfach so abzunehmen. Am Anfang hat die Familie das gefeiert aber laut meiner Schwiegermutter isst er super viel aber trotzdem hört die Gewichtsabnahme nicht auf.

The Elephant in the Room: Als Lebensstil macht mein Schwiegervater quasi Cancermaxxing. Er ist Kettenraucher, trinket täglich eine Flasche Wein, und isst fast ausschließlich Fleisch und hochverarbeitete Lebensmittel. Seit seiner Kindheit ist er Bauarbeiter und damals gab's das Konzept von Personenschutz nicht und heutzutage nimmt er das nur als eine Empfehlung. Das Haus, in dem die zwei seit 40 Jahre leben, befindet sich auch Mitte der Landwirtschaft.

Meiner Meinung nach ist Kombination von der unerklärten Gewichtsabnahme zusammen mit der langen Liste von Risikofaktoren ein sehr ernstzunehmendes Thema aber die Familie meines Mannes sieht das nicht so, vor allem weil es mein Schwiegervater immer noch relativ gut geht. Vor ein paar Jahre hatte meine Schwiegermutter eine Schilddrüsenüberfunktion entwickelt und sie ist überzeugt, dass er wohl auch "nur" Morbus Basedow hat. Sogar mein Mann glaubt, dass das nichts sein kann, da sein Vater immer noch arbeitsfähig ist.

Gibt's was hier zu tun oder müssen wir halt warten, bis es wirklich Berg ab geht? Ich nehme quasi an, dass es meinem Schwiegervater bekannt ist, dass er Krebs haben könnte, aber so lange er nicht zum Arzt geht, bleibt er kerngesund, was schwachsinnig und kindisch ist, aber am Ende des Tages seine Entscheidung.

Einmal die Woche fahre ich zum Milchhof, weil ich die Landwirtschaft gerne unterstütze und die Milch einfach supergeil ist. Was mir aufgefallen ist, dass dort fast ausschließlich Vorzugsmilch verkauft wird und dass ich anscheinend die Merkwürdige bin, die die pasteurisierte Milch haben will. Oft gibt’s dort sogar Familien mit Kleinkindern, die Vorzugsmilch kaufen.

Was machen die ganzen Leute mit der Vorzugsmilch? Man sollte sie ja vor dem Verzehr trotzdem abkochen aber macht das tatsächlich jemand? Gibt es irgendwelche Vorteile, wenn man die Milch selbst abkocht?

Ich bin nur ein bisschen überrascht, weil ich mehrere „crunchy“ Leute kenne, aber keine von ihnen Vorzugsmilch trinkt. Deshalb bin ich immer davon ausgegangen, dass dieser Trend Deutschland noch nicht erreicht hat.

Es ist mir auch klar, dass wir hier über eine absolute Minderheit rede aber trotzdem.

Here's what I'm imagining: FMC is in a position where it's assumed she's privy to certain information but isn't actually (think like daughter of a king who hates her, super sheltered mafia princess, assistant to someone in name only, etc). She's then captured/arrested/whatever and the MMC is tasked with getting this information out of the FMC through whatever means necessary. FMC obviously cannot provide this information but MMC thinks she's just really tough and keeps pushing. It's then revealed that FMC cannot possibly know anything and the MMC feels horrible about having tortured her for no reason and will do anything to earn the FMC's forgiveness.

This is probably a shot in the dark but the spicier the book, the better. The book can be as dark as it needs to be; I have no sensitivities.

Okay so I'm in Germany and I bought a dress from the Netherlands. The sender shipped it with GLS which is weird but pop off queen. The day of the delivery arrives, I'm following the online tracker, GLS claims that I refused to accept the package and it is therefore not deliverable. Cool this did not happen as they never attempted to deliver the package. After a couple emails, I get a response from GLS that the package was damaged in transit and was automatically sent back to the sender.

So this seems like a pretty cut and dry case for me to get my money back, right? Nope because this literally happened a month ago and Vinted is still refusing to give me a refund. In fact, they are refusing to even acknowledge that there is an issue with this order or allow me to report that there's a problem. I literally have multiple emails from GLS saying that the package will not be delivered but Vinted is insisting that I wait like two months "just in case." Even worse, there's a deadline and then apparently it's my soul responsibility to report an issue and, if I miss this deadline, my money is just gone.

I already tried to get an refund through PayPal... PayPal sided with Vinted. I reported this to Amex (I paid via Amex through PayPay) and hopefully they'll be able to work their magic because apparently the 3€ "Buyer protection fee" is a lie. I am never buying anything from this scam website again. Momox would never do me dirty like this.

In the musical Wicked, there’s a song called Dancing Through Life. These are the lyrics:

>Dancing through life, no need to tough it
When you can slough it off as I do
Nothing matters but knowing nothing matters
It's just life, so keep dancing through

Is there a name for this style of depression? I just got though a phase where I had zero of the normal depression symptoms and was frankly vibing but, underneath that, I felt overall pretty apathetic towards life and my general desire to be alive/will to live was like zero. I also frequently felt kind of angry that I have to continue living. My mood, energy, ability to concentrate, etc were all totally fine and that was pretty much the only actual symptom I was having.

Ich bin Hobbybäckerin und nutze das folgende Friends-&-Family-Modell: Wenn jemand meine Kekse möchte und ich genug Zeit habe, gibt mir die Person <50€ für die Zutaten und irgendwann später bekomme ich dann als Dankeschön ein Geschenk, das idR nicht einfach nur Geld ist. Bisher hat das immer gut funktioniert, weil das nur im Freundeskreis stattfindet, ich keine große Erwartungen vom Geschenk habe, und ich so wenige "Bestellungen" bekomme, dass es mir immer noch Spaß macht.

Nun hat eine Freundin einer Freundin ein Café geöffnet und sie hat Interesse daran, meine Kekse dort zu verkaufen. Etwas Ähnliches ist schon ein paar Mal vorgekommen, aber ich habe jedes Mal abgelehnt, meine Kekse auf diese formelle Weise zu verkaufen, weil meines Wissens nach ich das gar nicht darf (kein Meistertitel, keine gewerbliche Küche und keine Lust darauf, das als Gewerbe anzumelden).

Die Cafébetreiberin hat mir nun angeboten, mir neben dem Geld für die Zutaten jede Woche ein paar kostenlose Getränke im Café zu spendieren. Eigentlich finde ich dieses Arrangement völlig in Ordnung, sofern ich dadurch keine größere Haftung übernehme. Endet die Haftung beim Café mit der Betreiberin, oder könnte ich ebenfalls haftbar gemacht werden? Bin ich möglicherweise verpflichtet, ihr keine Kekse zu geben, wenn ich weiß, dass sie sie dort verkaufen möchte?

When I google this, the results I get are pretty much what you'd imagine so I figured I'd try asking here.

I'm not any kind of health care professional but, back in the day, I watched a lot of news segments and specials on the horrors of the ICU during the pandemic. It's been over five years since this happened... What happened to these patients? I'm sure a lot of them died but what about the ones who didn't? If someone was on ECMO in like 2022, would they be back to normal today? Or is this not really something you fully recover from?

Again, this is a completely genuine question because I think I watched a million videos on people fighting for their lives with COVID but none of them actually recovering from it, I'm guessing probably because the recovery is super bleak.

Weiß jemand zufälligerweise, ob es Milchhöfe in der Nähe von Hamburg gibt, die verarbeitete Milchprodukte wie Butter verkaufen? Aktuell fahre ich einmal pro Woche zum Milchhof Reitbrook, aber dort werden nur Vollmilch und Joghurt verkauft. Der Milchhof Wriggers ist mir auch bekannt, aber laut der Website wird dort ebenfalls keine zB Butter verkauft. Klar kann man Butter aus Vollmilch selbst machen, aber ich arbeite leider Vollzeit und bekomme das zeitlich nicht hin. ;)

Mir geht es vor allem darum, die Milchhöfe direkt zu unterstützen. Natürlich gibt es in Biomärkten solche regionale Milchprodukte, aber dabei gibt es eben viele Zwischenhändler, die ebenfalls bezahlt werden müssen.

Ich belege aktuell einen DGS A1 Kurs. Wörter selbst mit dem Fingeralphabet zu buchstabieren habe ich schon sehr oft geübt aber Wörter von anderen zu lesen ist ein komplett anderes Thema.

Für ASL gibt es einige Apps und Websites (asl.ms, Fingerspell etc.), mit denen man gezielt das Lesen von Fingerspelling quasi als Spiel üben kann. Das amerikanische Fingeralphabet unterscheidet sich jedoch leicht vom deutschen, und außerdem möchte ich das auch mit deutschen Wörtern üben. YoDGS ist mir bereits bekannt, aber das geht eher in Richtung allgemeiner Sprachpraxis und reines Fingerspelling lässt sich damit leider nicht besonders gut üben.

Kennt jemand vielleicht solche Apps für DGS?

I spend a solid 8 months out of the year wearing a Patagonia fleece and needless to say I was devastated to learn how badly these puppies shed micro plastics. I’ve been looking for an alternative but all of the cute pullovers are polyester and all of the wool ones are not cute. I’m also not convinced that wool will work with my lifestyle as I am messy and I’m not going to start going to the dry cleaners every other week.

Does anyone know of a cute, casual pull over that is spiritually similar to the synchilla fleeces? I live in Germany so it would be great if the company is based out of the EU so I don’t have to deal with the Zoll.