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I’m 27F and have been talking to someone for a couple months now. Within the first week he mentioned meeting up and I said I was down for it. He was leaving for vacation soon and mentioned again that we’d make something happen before he left. Well he left and we never met up the one day we were supposed to he kinda flaked and just said if we could do a different day cause he was finishing packing. He was gone for almost a month. Said we would meet when he got back before he started work because he travels for work. Well he got back and we never met up. Then he left for work so he’s not even here to meet up. Now he’s kinda being distant going days without answering me. He follows a bunch of girls and new girls daily. Should I just accept that it isn’t going to be anything?

I’m someone who is really sweet to the man I like. I might get attitude once in a while but majority of the time I am sweet, caring, giving, supportive, etc. like I just don’t want to ever be mean to my man. But I have no luck in love. I also see a lot of things saying that men like mean women. So is that true and why? Why wouldnt you want to be with someone who is sweet and would take care of you? I’m starting to feel like me being this way is pushing them away? Like men say they want someone like me (in terms of my character) but then I’m never the one they choose, they’ll end up choosing someone who is nothing like the type of person they say they want.

Sometimes I wish I could see myself as someone else. I wonder if then I would think I’m pretty. I think everyone is seriously so pretty. Unfortunately in today’s society, where getting work done is so normalized it’s getting harder and harder to just feel confident in my own skin. It seems like everyone has these cute perfect little noses, full plump lips, a nice body, good hair, good face structure, etc. like I really think everyone is so pretty but when I look at myself I feel like the ugliest person to ever exist and I feel like I’ll never find love because of it.

It’s so hard to feel pretty when you go on instagram and every girl looks drop dead gorgeous. Why does it seem like every person has perfect little noses, full lips, a nice body, etc. it’s also hard when you’re talking to someone or dating someone and they just keep following girls and liking their stuff when you look nothing like any of them. I try my best to remind myself not to compare myself to other girls and that someone out there will love me just the way I am. Sometimes it can just really get to me and make me feel so down that I just want to hide. I have a good heart, but more than once I’ve been thrown away for another girl and it just feels like I’ll never be pretty enough for someone to choose forever with me.

Does anyone else feel this way and how do you feel better about it and more confident?

i have memories back to 2017 and i know I most likely have over 5GB of memories but there is nowhere on the app allowing me to see how much storage i’ve use or an option to buy the extra storage. does anyone else still not have the option. i’m just worried about losing my memories

also just to note, there was a short period of time where the app was showing that i’ve used 0/0gb and the option was there but then it disappeared and now it shows nothing

I’m 27, i currently have an office job in a department that is slowly dying and may only have a few more years left before closing down. But there’s no windows, i hate being stuck at a desk all day. I wish there was a job where you just do random things, random errands, tasks, get outside, idk. I’ve always been really indecisive on what i want to do and i think i just don’t want to be doing the same thing everyday. are there jobs that are secure but where you just do a bunch of different random things?

After I hangout with people I find myself overthinking everything I said/did. I replay everything I said or did and start hoping that I didn’t say anything wrong or say anything that might have been taken the wrong way. Or I ask myself why did I even say that? How do I stop doing this and why do I even do it? I know 99.9% of the time I’m probably not saying or doing anything wrong so idk why I start to overthink. I’m usually not sitting there replaying what other people said or did or overthinking their words so why do I do it with myself?

It just breaks my heart to see him treat her so caring, loving, taking her out, being good to her and respectful when he never ever would do it for me. Never would do any activities I would ask him to do, lied to me, used me until he found her. Then he’s taking her out doing the things I asked him to do with me, being kind to her, taking her on vacation, dates, buying her flowers, loving her. But he never ever would do it for me once. I’m trying my best to move on. It just makes me feel awful and it has really hurt my self confidence. I feel ugly and like i wasn’t good enough. i wasn’t even worth a goodbye. he just stopped answering me, removed me from everything and erased me like i never existed. and now everyone loves them together and they don’t even know how much he hurt me. it just isn’t fair. idk why he hurt me, i never deserved it. all i wanted was to show him love, be there for him, but all he ever did was hurt me and now he’s giving her everything. and i just don’t understand why he wanted to hurt me when i never did anything wrong to him

Does anyone else feel kinda sad when they find out someone has had plastic surgery? not sure if sad is even the right word though. sometimes when i’m admiring someone and think wow they’re so pretty it kinda just makes me sad to realize that they had plastic surgery to look that way and it wasn’t natural. but i have no idea why i feel that way. people can do whatever they want with their bodies, im not saying anything against getting plastic surgery. but maybe it just makes me feel that way cause it reminds me of this unrealistic standard society pushes that people who are “attractive” a lot of the times need surgery to look that way.

it seems like so many people say things like “don’t get married”, “it’s not worth it”, “you’re not missing out on anything”, i’ve seen people say the people they know are “unhappily married”

i’m single, but why does it seem like more often than not people are saying things like “youre not missing out on anything” or saying things that talk down on marriages?

are majority of people genuinely not happy in their relationship/marriage? i want love, unfortunately none of my relationships have worked out for me so far. but when i hear people say this i just don’t understand it.

I’m not sure if this is the right sub to post to but i’m honestly just confused about this. I’m a girl so i’m going to be talking about guys but it obviously could go both ways.

But it seems like a lot of guys tend to go for the girls who are more of what they say don’t want. For example, let’s say they don’t want a girl who drinks a lot, has plastic surgery, dresses revealing or posts revealing things on social media, goes out a lot, talks to a lot of guys, materialistic, etc whatever it may be. But then they have a girl right in front of them who doesn’t do pretty much any of those things and someone who genuinely cares about them and he couldn’t care less. They’re still more interested in the girl who checks off majority of the boxes of things they say they don’t want.

Why is this? I’m someone who is more of a home body. I don’t drink, don’t smoke, only really hangout with my cousins, not really into materialistic things, I rather spend a day having fun and getting quality time together than blowing money on fancy dinners and buying expensive things.

I feel like guys just aren’t as interested in me as they are with the girls who like to go out, drink, and just seem to be more on the superficial side than on the genuine side. I’m starting to just feel hopeless like i’m never going to find my person. It’s been 2 months since I stopped talking to someone who I talked to for 2 years but he never wanted to commit to me and as soon as he ghosted me he committed to someone else and he’s been taking her on so many dates and doing things that I asked him to do with me and they already took a vacation together. I know her but not really personally, i haven’t spoke to her since high school. But she seems like she likes to drink often, she has multiple plastic surgeries/cosmetic procedures, and seems to be materialistic and seems to be full of herself. I’m not saying she’s not a good person, i’m sure she is I don’t know her well enough but based on the surface level things and based on what he’s said in the past she’s more on the opposite side of what he said he’d want.

So why do guys do this? Why do they act like they want one type of person when in reality they don’t? If you see Im not like that then why even start talking to me just to end up hurting me and wasting my time

It’s really sad how much you can genuinely care for someone. think about them all the time, hope they’re doing okay. pray for them. just want to help them. but they won’t let you. they don’t want to see you. they’ll never know how much you truly cared. how much you thought about them and took them into consideration. then they just throw you away for someone else and you’re just left feeling so alone, so worthless. so sad because no matter how hard you tried to show how much you cared they either never saw it or they just didn’t care. now he’s with someone else and being good to her. taking her on trips and giving her love. but i wasn’t worth that. he said women have done him wrong so many time that he didn’t want to even think about being in a relationship. he liked being alone and i wouldn’t change his mind. but he threw me away to immediately commit to her. i would’ve never hurt him. i would’ve done anything for him. but i was absolutely nothing to him. i’m broken. it’s been 2 months since i last talked to him and i haven’t gotten any better. i can’t believe he’s all in with her in such a short amount of time.

I saw an article today saying we could possibly reach singularity within the next 4 years or something. I didn’t really know what this meant so I started looking it up and it kinda seems scary? What do you think would happen if we reached singularity, would it be a good thing or a bad thing?

i’m 27F and i’m starting to feel like i might never find my person. I’ve always wanted to get married young and be a young mom but now the days are passing by so fast and i’m having no luck in love.

I am very shy and quiet. I don’t have any friends. I only hangout with my cousins, but they’re all married/in relationships now. I don’t drink so I don’t go out to bars. Honestly when I have to be around a lot of people I get soo tired and feel like i’m going to fall asleep. I’m not really comfortable using dating apps. I work with a bunch of people who are retirement age so there’s nobody for me to meet through work and I’ve dated someone I worked with before and I honestly don’t ever want to do that again anyways. I’ve had 3 relationships (first from high school, second I worked with, third was someone I knew from college). I was talking to someone for the past 2 years and he just ghosted me and committed to someone else right away when he never wanted to commit to me. to be honest i’m not really in the head space to talk to anyone else because im broken over him basically just throwing me away without even a goodbye. but at the same time, days seriously go by so fast. we’re almost half way through 2026 so im just not sure how or what i should do to meet people

he told me he didn’t want a relationship. ghosted me. and now he’s committed to someone else and they planned a trip out of the country within a few weeks of talking to eachother…. this girl also got out of a 2 year relationship a few months ago. now they’re with each other everyday. i just feel broken. and the thing to make it even worse is in the last week of us talking i literally mentioned going to this place with him. and now he’s actually going with her. they’ve been seeing either for a month maybe a little more at this point. i just can’t believe it

i decided to deactivate my instagram. after 2 years he ghosted me after telling me he wanted to be alone and didn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone. he avoided me, never wanted to see me or meet me and knew he was hurting me but kept doing it.

within a few weeks of ghosting me he immediately committed to someone else. i know her from school so id already been following her and to kinda make it even worse me and her are somehow related. she got out of a relationship like 3 months ago i think. now she’s posting the flowers he got her, the dates their on, activities they’re doing that i asked him to do with me and things he said we could do together when we first started talking. she likes all these reels about marriage and getting proposed to. i think they might be traveling out of the country together soon. posting notes about how she’s appreciated without asking and she’s finally getting the love she deserves. it just breaks me. because he hurt me so much but now he’s giving her everything i wanted. and i don’t understand how they’re that serious within a month? he sleeps at her house like every night, she’s liking things about marriage, are they traveling out of the country?? like i’m just broken and i couldn’t stand to see it anymore.

sorry this is going to be really long. i don’t have any friends so i don’t have anyone to talk to about how im feeling or what im going through.

i’ve been having a really hard time lately. my anxiety and depression has been so bad after basically being thrown away by someone who i talked to everyday for the past 2 years. he ghosted me, removed me from social media and is now committed to someone else. i’m having a really hard time processing and understanding it all. but i guess the hard truth is that he never cared about me or liked me and he just used me until he found someone he wanted.

today i was just thinking back and im coming to the realization that ive kinda just been sad my whole life. i’ve always gotten my hopes up. i had a best friend through elementary school and into middle school then we stopped being friends over something so stupid obviously cause it was in middle school. after that i never really had a best friend again. i never really got super close with people. i’d talk to people in class and stuff but never really hung out with people outside of school. at 15 i got my first boyfriend. he was my best friend, the only person who truly understood me, never judged me, etc. well my first job was kinda in a toxic environment, i let someone get in my head and convince me that my relationship wasn’t good and that i deserved better just because he wasn’t happy in his relationship. so he convinced me to break up with my boyfriend so he could breakup with his girlfriend. i genuinely felt like i was being controlled because i knew in the moment it wasn’t something i wanted to do. i was with that person for about 2 years and he ended up doing the same thing to me and left me for someone else. i was heartbroken but that was my karma and i knew i deserved it in a way so i got over it. a year after that breakup i started talking to someone else, i tried to set boundaries because i knew i wasn’t ready for anything serious but he pushed me and we ended up getting into a relationship that just turned toxic and i felt so uncomfortable around him. well that only lasted about 6 months and we broke up. i was alone and didn’t really talk to anyone for a year after that. then in january 2024 i started talking to someone, he came on really strong (always flirting, saying things we can do together, etc) but im very shy so hanging out after only a couple conversations is too soon for me. we never ended up meeting but we kept talking for 2 years. i always asked if we could do things together and meet but he always kinda brushed it off. we stopped talking a few times but he’d always come back. he knew it hurt me. but he did it anyways. and i’m stupid for letting him. but that was me getting my hopes up every time thinking maybe this time it’ll be better. but nope. in march he ghosted me. in april he removed me from all social media. and i find out that he’s committed to someone else, taking her on dates, doing things i asked him to do with me, sleeping at her house, etc. absolutely devastated. and im coming to realize that nothing has really ever worked out for me. i’ve always gotten my hopes up. in relationships and friendships. there was so many times in college where i thought maybe id end up getting close with some girl friends but it was never that. im 27 now and at this point i just feel so defeated in life.

i know this is really long. so if you got to this point, thanks for reading.

i’m honestly just so upset right now. for the past 2 years i let myself get my hopes up. a guy started talking to me and he came on strong always complimenting me, saying all these things we could do together, etc. i’m really shy so i kinda brushed off the first time when he asked me when he could take me out. we never got the chance to meet because eventually he told me he wasn’t looking for a relationship. when he told me this i said i would leave him alone because i didn’t realize he didn’t feel the same as me. but he kept talking to me. there were a couple times after that i tried to say bye cause it was hurting me. there were also times we actually stopped talking but then he’d come back. i tried to meet him multiple times. i also told him that he can just tell me the truth. if he didn’t like me etc. whatever it was. he knew it was hurting me. but he told me that he did like me, it wasn’t me, he was healing, etc. eventually he started telling me he liked being alone, relationships were a prison, etc. then he ghosted me and within a couple weeks was fully committed to someone else.

why couldn’t he just be honest and leave me alone? i know it’s also my fault for staying but why lie to someone? then he would say he didn’t want to hurt me and at the end he said he didn’t want to lead me on like genuinely what did you think you were doing for the past 2 years??? why didn’t you just leave me alone, i was never rejecting him. i just said if you don’t feel the same i’ll leave you alone but it seems he took that as an attack because apparently i was being dramatic and petty after being confused why he kept talking to me after i said i’d leave him alone. idk why i always give in and give so many chances to people who never cared about me.

I remember a few years ago, the day my ex broke up with me I could just sense something was wrong and something bad was going to happen. that night he broke up with me.

in december/january i just had a feeling that this year was going to be the year that the person who i’ve been talking to for the last 2 years was going to not be in my life anymore. and here i am, broken because he ghosted me, removed me from all social media, and is now committed to someone else after he would never commit to me. i hate that i kept getting my hopes up but i really liked him and never wanted to give up on him. but it’s just weird how i had that feeling.

has anyone else been able to sense when a breakup or something was going to happen? being able to sense it doesn’t make it any easier either. at least for me. i think when i sense it i ignore it because i don’t want it to be true.