u/Desperate-Sleep-6302

Interested in taking Reta. When I (25M) started working out 4 years ago in the navy (got out 2 years ago this month) it was hard for me to eat a surplus. Now since I work nights primarily I find myself eating a bit more than maintenance. If I worked a regular schedule I would tuff it out with no food but I work 12 hrs from 5pm-5am. I usually pack my lunch, dinner, protein shake and a yogurt w my protein powder mixed in w fruit. The meals consists of chicken/ steak, cauliflower hash browns/protein pasta,veggies and cheese. But when I don’t have time to make anything I find myself door dashing cuz I can’t go the shift without eating.

I started at 120 four years ago. I’m 195-200 now. My core isn’t really developed and with working and school full time I can’t do cardio even tho I’d like to. That’s an extra 30 min I just don’t have time in my schedule for. I just look “big” not defined or lean but I do have some sizable muscle. I’d like to get my love handles under control.

I have a men’s health clinic near me so I wouldn’t be buying anything that’s online. I’ve heard Reta curves the appetite

25M. I got out of the navy 2 years ago at the end of this month. I moved back home to LI to live w my mom. I only knew my high schools friends. I met someone else through the weed dispensary (I don’t smoke anymore, I was dealing w a lot when I got out) that I was cool with but it never really formulated into hanging as friends. Just kept in touch until it fell off a few months later. She reached back out to me while I was in a relationship, long story short I had to cut contact, remove her cuz my ex was uncomfortable with it and later accused me of cheating when I accepted the friend request on snap and answered back and told her I had a gf and we just caught up from there.

Last summer one of my high school friends introduced me to his friend group he has. We’ve gone out a lot since last summer together but recently there was some drama and now none of them hangout together anymore. I wasn’t involved in that drama cuz idrc to be involved.

I find if I don’t text anyone to hangout or make plans no one texts me or hits me up at all. I have this philosophy of not watering dead plants after 2-3x of me hitting them up and they can’t do anything. After that it’s on them and it usually results in me never speaking to that person again.

My high school friends don’t initiate anything but we play Xbox together once or twice a week depending if I have work and all my school work is done. The new friends I made really don’t hmu since that drama stuff happened. I just keep in touch w them thru instagram dms. Instagram is the only form of social media I have nowadays. No TikTok, no Snapchat account (I found it easier on that to keep in touch but since that whole breakup messed me up I thought it was best to delete my account)

I’m not sure if this evens warrants a post or not. I may be overthinking or just being sensitive. I keep in touch w my navy friends as well. One of my friends is coming up to visit with her Gf so we’re going dancing in the city per her request.

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I’d like to acquire Amon and Jalen McMillan for James cook brain Robinson and a 2nd. What else should I add?

Both top 5 at the position, I feel like the value shouldn’t be that far off

**TL;DR:** My girlfriend (26F) and I (25M) have been together for 3 months. She keeps telling me she doesn’t feel prioritized, emotionally connected to me, or reassured enough, and I’m honestly confused because I feel like I put a good effort into the relationship.

My gf (26F) and my myself (25M) had a conversation just now over the phone while I’m at work. It stemmed from an Instagram dm she sent me about a post not prioritizing her and not wanting to know every move but would like to feel included, the post said: I'm not asking you to prioritize me all the time. I just hope you remember that there's someone waiting for an update from you. It's not that I want to know your every move, I just want to feel that I'm important in your life too.. was the post. I told her “Do I not do this? I prioritize you” she said “You do sometimes. I don’t think ur intentionally making me feel unimportant it’s just the long stretches of minimal convo make me start to feel disconnected”

I have said time and time again, I’ve repeated myself so many times now that idk what to do Anymore. I work nights from 5pm-5am, and for the summer semester at my college my class starts at 7am-1:30pm come home nap for an hour then work. The gym when I can. I sleep when everyone is awake and I’m awake when everyone is asleep. I text her like a regular person throughout that I’m I’m awake. The last month and a half I’m getting 2 hrs a sleep a day. I’m working and going to school full time using my navy benefits. I hangout with her on my off days (Thursdays and Fridays) and when I have my 4 day weekends every other weekend usually we hangout 2-3 times whether it be going to the movies going out to dinner or doing another activity or even just chilling at my house in my basement. I’m with her and spending quality time with her. So to say, I don’t prioritize her I think is not the correct thing to say when I’m making time to hang out with her. I also FaceTime her for a few hours while I’m at work which not many people say they can do while they’re at work. I work at a power plant as an operator. My job can either be very busy with a snap of a finger or I can have a lot of downtime and I tell her when I’m busy at work I’m busy at work and I can’t talk so if I don’t respond, that is why I tell her that often. I really do feel like I have a balance of my social life my work life, my schoolwork and my relationship and I feel like I do it well.

Recently, she keeps saying that I don’t prioritize her and I need to be more emotional like a mush. I told her I’m not an emotional guy. She said that I don’t Complement her when she sends pictures of her outfits where I corrected her and said that I do and even scrolled up in our iMessage and I even found a “you look stunning” comment in a pic she sent of me with her, her mom and sister. I’m just not sure what she means by me needing to be more emotional because I do compliment her. I do tell her she looks good. We are intimate pretty frequently. I plan dates and plan activities. I brought her flowers three weeks ago and I also brought her a little stitch plush because that’s what her friends call her stitch and I saw it today in the mall while I was getting some watches sized up.

I asked her in the sense of an analogy standpoint. Do you want me to be like how a cat rubs up on someone’s leg and purrs? Do you mean like that in an emotional way she said when I gave her the flowers couple weeks ago I didn’t even say anything and just gave them to her and walked away, which was not true. Was I supposed to get down on one knee and give her the flowers or be more extravagant in my way of giving it to her? She said she needs to be reassured and I told her I don’t even know what I’m reassuring you on half the time when you ask for it. And I got to the point in the conversation where she said she doesn’t feel like there’s an emotional connection between us because I work so much. From today to last Saturday I’ve worked 84 hours. I’ve been covering people because they’re on vacation and such. I told her that I can’t control my time and this is my life.

When the emotional connection part came up, she asked how I felt at this point in the relationship, which we just hit our three month mark. This is my second relationship and is also hers as well. I just told her Im content with were we are at and I’m not about to say I love you because I’m not there, i just feel emotionally, stiff, awkward and I’m not sure why I don’t feel comfortable expressing my emotions. I don’t think I’m emotionally unavailable, but I’m also not this lovey-dovey guy per se. I compliment her. I’ve gotten her gifts. I tell her she looks good and I’m constantly making plans for us to hang out and be together. She said that she’s not sure if I even like her or not because I don’t really show it and I am just so confused. I Don’t what to do at this point. We talked about breaking up and the both of us didn’t want that and I just said we can give it some more time and if we’re still having the same conversation in a few months then it’s best to go our separate ways but I’m not putting a timestamp on that. I like her I like hanging out with her and I like being with her, but I just feel like she’s being needy because she keeps saying the same thing over and over and I keep telling her the same things over and over I have improved since she said she needed more words of affirmation in the 2nd week of our relationship. So I’m not sure where this is all coming from honestly

My time is limited, but I do feel like I prioritize this relationship. She said she’s understanding of my schedule, but I don’t really think she is. She’s my date to a wedding tomorrow but I feel like Ik what I need to do… she’s a really nice girl. I do enjoy my time with her, but perhaps I really don’t feel this emotional connection to where I can be all lovey-dovey with my first relationship that ended a year ago today it ended because I accepted a friend request of someone I knew that I never even dated that reached out to me. I had a conversation with them and caught up and I feel like in that relationship. I was able to express myself, but looking back on it it was just a really unhealthy relationship because she was projecting her trauma of abuse and trusted she’s on me because she said I was cheating on her that friend requesting was really our first issue & my first mistake. Perhaps one of the red flags I missed from that out of many was when I got a text from a random number before we were going into a restaurant and I showed her immediately and it was about the Yankees doing bad and my ex-girlfriend said the only reason this person is reaching out to you is to fuck you and to only fuck you you can have a woman friends from before me, but I don’t want you talking to random woman.

My current girlfriend now does not have trust issues and she really doesn’t care who I talk to, which is really different from what I went through last time that relationship was about five months long and I feel like if I end the current relationship that I’m in right now I just feel like I’m not capable of being in a long-term relationship. I started a therapy last year after all that happened which ironically is where I met my current girlfriend because she works at the office. I know I should not have shit where I eat. But if this ends mutually, I don’t see an issue with me continuing to go to the office.