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I got drunk & went to a clothes shop to try on pants. I (naturally) produce A LOT of sweat whenever I’m doing anything. Even more after consuming alcohok

I did sweat an insane amount while trying on pants. The store manager came up to me and asked me why I was sweating so much. I said it’s just how I am, and not something I could control. She said she never saw a woman sweat this much before.

Affer that I got out and cried on the sidewalk. I’m already insecure about sweating a lot as a woman. And I don’t even sweat at the pits. It all comes from my forehead and kneecaps. Which means I get abmormally sweaty on my forehead and my hair looks like I just washed it. I hate it too. I don’t get why people are pointing it out. I’d never point something like this out just in case the person is insecure. Not the first time this happened to me either. Literally 2 weeks ago a girl I just met asked me “why I was sweating so much” in the middle of a meetup with people from my uni and we were like 20 people. That question turned all the attention to my forehead. I hate this. I’ll cry more. And I’m only kind of drunk.

Context: I took the Aufnahmetest for Bachelor Psychologie and I’m pretty sure I will get accepted, but I am conflicted due to the supposed expenses of the training you need to do.

For the love of god, can someone tell me what’s up with the new law about becoming a psychotherapist? I read that before 2026, if you wanted to become a psychotherapist, you’d need to do your Bachelor’s + Master’s + a training, which tends to be really expensive. But in winter semester 2026/2027 there will be a rule change, and Master’s will now be “integrated” with the training.

What does this mean? I got really confused about the implications. Does this mean the price of the training will be lower at Uni Wien? If so, by how much? I’ve heard that the trainings usually ranged between 20-40k before the rule change. Please help me.

Hello, first of all this is not a question of diagnosis, but I am just very concerned. A guy I was friends with in first years of high school seems like he’s having problems and I am unsure of how to help/communicate with him.

In high school he was a very kind, very very calm and humble person, and he seemed fine mentally when we were friends. We went to the same city for university, but we had already drifted apart after the first years of high school. So I don’t currently talk to him at all. Other than saying hi when I see him around campus.

Now on his social media, he is spamming with a lot of posts, most of them talking about how awesome he is and how he is a brilliant individual etc. He is also suggesting that he knows people in high places now, that he is buddies with Trump (we’re not american, nor is he politically alligned) and even how his posts are written seems very “hyperactive” for the lack of a better word. And that is not how he was at all. This seems like some kind of psychosis and most people that have seen his posts agree. Forgive me, I am not a professional so this might be wrong. I think he is also abusing substances (from what I’ve heard), but the sources were not sure. He also claims he is enlightened and that he “reached godliness”. And he was an atheist when I knew him, so Idk.

I know he is not in contact with his family, and learned that he cut contact with all his friends last year. Both of us are in a foreign country for university, and I am very concerned about his condition, because he is all alone here. He might also get deported if he gets expelled from school and I don’t know if he has anyone to go to if he returns to our home country either.

Some of his ex friends contacted him to ask if he was ok and if he needed help, but they said he dismissed them and got angry at them. I want to help him in some way, maybe make him get help, but he doesn’t admit/think that he has a problem. I had a family member with very similar behaviours who turned out to have Bipolar 1 and I know how hard she had it before diagnosis. I don’t know if my friend has bipolar exactly, but I think I might still benefit from advice from you guys.

How do I get this person to get help? Or how should I talk to him if I reach out? Or should I reach out? We haven’t spoken in 7-8 years.

Hello, first of all this is not a question of diagnosis, but I am just very concerned. A guy I was friends with in first years of high school seems like he’s having problems and I am unsure of how to help/communicate with him.

In high school he was a very kind, very very calm and humble person, and he seemed fine mentally when we were friends. We went to the same city for university, but we had already drifted apart after the first years of high school. So I don’t currently talk to him at all.

Now on his social media, he is spamming with a lot of posts, most of them talking about how awesome he is and how he is a brilliant individual etc. He is also suggesting that he knows people in high places now, that he is buddies with Trump (we’re not american, and it doesn’t even align with him politically) and even how his posts are written seems very “hyperactive” for the lack of a better word. And that is not how he was at all. This seems like some kind of psychosis and most people that have seen his posts agree. Forgive me, I am not a professional so this might be wrong. I think he is also abusing substances (from what I’ve heard), but the sources were not sure. He also claims he is enlightened and that he “reached godliness”. And he was an atheist when I knew him, so Idk.

I know he is not in contact with his family, and learned that he cut contact with all his friends last year. Both of us are in a foreign country for university, and I am very concerned about his condition, because he is all alone here. He might also get deported if he gets expelled from school and I don’t know if he has anyone to go to if he returns to our home country either.

Some of his ex friends contacted him to ask if he was ok and if he needed help, but they said he dismissed them and got angry at them. I want to help him in some way, maybe make him get help, but he doesn’t admit/think that he has a problem. I had a family member with very similar behaviours who turned out to have Bipolar 1 and I know how hard she had it before diagnosis.

How do I get this person to get help? Or how should I talk to him if I reach out? Or should I reach out? We haven’t spoken in 7-8 years.

Hello, first of all this is not a question of diagnosis, but I am just very concerned. A guy I was friends with in first years of high school seems like he’s having problems and I am unsure of how to help/communicate with him.

In high school he was a very kind, very very calm and humble person, and he seemed fine mentally when we were friends. We went to the same city for university, but we had already drifted apart after the first years of high school. So I don’t currently talk to him at all.

Now on his social media, he is spamming with a lot of posts, most of them talking about how awesome he is and how he is a brilliant individual etc. He is also suggesting that he knows people in high places now, that he is buddies with Trump (we’re not american and he is not even politicaly alligned with trump) and even how his posts are written seems very “hyperactive” for the lack of a better word. And that is not how he was at all. This seems like some kind of psychosis and most people that have seen his posts agree. Forgive me, I am not a professional so this might be wrong. I think he is also abusing substances (from what I’ve heard), but the sources were not sure. He also claims he is enlightened and that he “reached godliness”. And he was an atheist when I knew him, so Idk.

I know he is not in contact with his family, and learned that he cut contact with all his friends last year. Both of us are in a foreign country for university, and I am very concerned about his condition, because he is all alone here. He might also get deported if he gets expelled from school and I don’t know if he has anyone to go to if he returns to our home country either.

Some of his ex friends contacted him to ask if he was ok and if he needed help, but they said he dismissed them and got angry at them. I want to help him in some way, maybe make him get help, but he doesn’t admit/think that he has a problem. I had a family member with very similar behaviours who turned out to have Bipolar 1 and I know how hard she had it before diagnosis.

How do I get this person to get help? Or how should I talk to him if I reach out? Or should I reach out? We haven’t spoken in 7-8 years. Also I am sorry if this sub is not suitable for his specific condition. As I said I am not a professional.

Hello, first of all this is not a question of diagnosis, but I am just very concerned. A guy I was friends with in first years of high school seems like he’s having problems and I am unsure of how to help/communicate with him.

In high school he was a very kind, very very calm and humble person, and he seemed fine mentally when we were friends. We went to the same city for university, but we had already drifted apart after the first years of high school. So I don’t currently talk to him at all.

Now on his social media, he is spamming with a lot of posts, most of them talking about how awesome he is and how he is a brilliant individual etc. He is also suggesting that he knows people in high places now, that he is buddies with Trump (we’re not american and he is not even politically alligned with Trump) and even how his posts are written seems very “hyperactive” for the lack of a better word. And that is not how he was at all. This seems like some kind of psychosis and most people that have seen his posts agree. Forgive me, I am not a professional so this might be wrong. I think he is also abusing substances (from what I’ve heard), but the sources were not sure. He also claims he is enlightened and that he “reached godliness”. And he was an atheist when I knew him, so Idk.

I know he is not in contact with his family, and learned that he cut contact with all his friends last year. Both of us are in a foreign country for university, and I am very concerned about his condition, because he is all alone here. He might also get deported if he gets expelled from school and I don’t know if he has anyone to go to if he returns to our home country either.

Some of his ex friends contacted him to ask if he was ok and if he needed help, but they said he dismissed them and got angry at them. I want to help him in some way, maybe make him get help, but he doesn’t admit/think that he has a problem. I had a family member with very similar behaviours who turned out to have Bipolar 1 and I know how hard she had it before diagnosis.

How do I get this person to get help? Or how should I talk to him if I reach out? Or should I reach out? We haven’t spoken in 7-8 years.

I love me some gnocchi with homemade tomato sauce or with cream & mushrooms, but I’m trying to eat more protein, but I felt like nothing would go well with gnocchi since I always ate it in a vegetarian fashion before.

Do y’all have any recs? It doesn’t have to be meat, can be a plant based protein source as well.

Edit: thank you for all the advice, I’ll get either salmon or a steak (I’ll decide which one when I’m at the supermarket)

Well, I quit OMAD around 2 weeks ago due to not being able to get in enough fiber in one meal and having bowel issues because of that.

I feel like my appetite was the lowest on OMAD though and I loved the feeling of not eating frequently. Now I’m doing 2mad but I’m considering returning to OMAD. Maybe by eating my main meal first and then having a chia pudding “dessert” 1-2 hours later for fiber.

Nothing else to say, I just feel more motivated when I post. Omad is god’s gift for people with lower maintenance calories (mine’s 1700) who love eating big meals.

Just made a post for advice on how to get over my bf’s secret porn consumption (when he agreed he was against it, and wouldn’t want me to consume either), and how to move forward after feeling betrayed.

The men are calling me all kinds of names and making assumptions about my sex life or how often I “put out” or how insufferable I must definitely be. I feel horrible, it is really a struggle to be a woman in reddit. But I should have known a men’s advice subreddit would be toxic.

Even if I disagree w someone, I would never attack the person personally over their relationship problem. People are the worst, really.

And DONT comment if you want to jump on the hate train. I had enough today.

EDIT: Even my bf agrees with me Idk what y’all are mad about

tl;dr: I (24F) don’t know how I can forgive my bf (26M) of two years for consuming inappropriate content after promising me he wouldn’t.

A little bit of context: Before my current bf, I had another bf that I dated for 4 years. It was a very toxic relationship, and it was going downhill since he refused to cut contact with a girl friend who he was in love with before me and who was clearly hitting on him currently. And on the day I finally broke up with him, I went out of his appartment, then felt so sad on my way home that I returned back to his apartment (I had a key) to tell him that we could maybe work the problem out & found him satisfying himself to some inappropriate content on his bed (after like 5 mins of breaking up while I was crying). Then I of course didn’t get together with him, but that has been a trauma of mine ever since.

My current bf (26M) and I (24F) have been dating for more than two and a half years. When we first started dating, I immediately set up my boundaries because I did NOT want to go through a similar trauma again. I told my boyfriend that I am strictly against inappropriate content consumption, that I see it as cheating, and I would not change my mind and he should date someone else if he “needs” it in his life. He agreed and said that he is generally against inappropriate content consumption as well. I told him about the situation with my ex too, and stated why it’s particularly important to me that he doesn’t do it.

I believed him when he said he agreed with me, because he is a very kind and nice guy, and the least mysogynistic man I ever met in my life. We had a great relationship, I had some trust issues due to my former bf’s wrongdoings, but I always tried to correct my mistakes and I never restricted him of doing anything, I just communicated when I was feeling jealous, even if it was illogical, and we found a way to manage it.

One day, he said that a friend of his was in a new relationship and that they texted about it, and that he gave advice to his friend since our dynamic is so great. I asked if he could show the texts to me since I was curious, and he said yes sure. Then he fell asleep for a few hours, but I was so curious that I searched my name on the whatsapp chat he had with his friend (we know each other’s passwords).

When I searched it, I found an older message, and just below that, a disgusting chat. His friend was telling him that he “found a goldmine ;)” in reddit, and my bf asked him to send it. I didn’t understand at first, but when I clicked the link, it was inappropriate content on reddit. I was shocked about it, but what’s worse, my boyfriend had said that his friend was doing “god’s work” for sending it and that the girl had an unreal body and more disgusting stuff. I have never felt so betrayed in my life.

When I confronted him about it, he said that he didn’t even remember doing it, and that he probably texted those things to “shut his friend up”. I of course did not believe this. He bought me flowers etc everyday for a few weeks, was sweet to me, and swore he would never do it again. I finally caved in and we got back together, because I was so in love.

After 2 months I still was feeling bitter about the whole situation and sometimes said some mean things to him whenever the topic came up - i.e. I said he was a coward for not saying “I have a girlfriend dude stop” to his friend after what he sent. One day my bf told me that his friend was quitting watching inappropriate content since his relationship had gotten serious, and I lost it, saying his pervy friend respected his new relationship more than my bf respected ours. We had a big fight which basically concluded with my bf saying that “I did not want to get over the situation” and that I always wanted to make him feel guilty about it, and that he couldn’t feel guilty forever, and that I wasn’t putting enough effort to heal the relationship and that I just wanted him to feel bad constantly. After that, I got a bit scared that our relationship would end, and started airing out my frustrations in my journal rather than talking to him about it.

Now he thinks everything is fine with us but I cannot get over it… I feel like it would be better if he were feeling guilty for longer geniunely, because when I put myself in his shoes, I would absolutely not snap back if he was rude to me bc of what I did.

I hate always feeling like I am not pretty or sexy enough, or feeling that for guys it is worth ruining a relationship with me just for consuming some inappropriate content. Or if I was more beautiful, he wouldn’t do that. Or if he truly loved me, he wouldn’t snap back. Which I know is nonsensical since he shows me daily how much he loves me and he’s perfect in every single way except
this.

How do I get over his betrayal? I don’t want to lose him, but I feel so worthless. Or how do I communicate what I’m feeling without being seen as malicious?

tl;dr: I (24F) don’t know how I can forgive my bf (26M) of 2 years for consuming porn after promising me he wouldn’t.

A little bit of context: Before my current bf, I had another bf that I dated for 4 years until the age of 20. It was a very toxic relationship, and it was going downhill since he refused to cut contact with a girl friend who he was in love with before me and who was clearly hitting on him currently. And on the day I finally broke up with him, I went out of his appartment, then felt so sad on my way home that I returned back to his apartment (I had a key) to tell him that we could maybe work the problem out & found him jerking off to some porn on his bed (after like 5 mins of breaking up while I was crying). Then I of course didn’t get together with him, but that has been a trauma of mine ever since.

My current bf (26M) and I (24F) have been dating for more than 2.5 years. When we first started dating, I immediately set up my boundaries because I did NOT want to go through a similar trauma again. I told my boyfriend that I am strictly against porn consumption, that I see it as cheating, and I would not change my mind and he should date someone else if he “needs” it in his life. He agreed and said that he is generally against porn consumption as well. I told him about the situation with my ex as well, and stated why it’s particularly important to me that he doesn’t do it.

I believed him when he said he agreed with me, because he is a very kind and nice guy, and the least mysogynistic man I ever met in my life. We had a great relationship, I had some trust issues due to my former bf’s wrongdoings, but I always tried to correct my mistakes and I never restricted him of doing anything, I just communicated when I was feeling jealous, even if it was illogical, and we found a way to manage it.

One day, he said that a friend of his was in a new relationship and that they texted about it, and that he gave advice to his friend since our dynamic is so great. I asked if he could show the texts to me since I was curious, and he said yes sure. Then he fell asleep for a few hours, but I was so curious that I searched my name on the whatsapp chat he had with his friend (we know each other’s passwords).

When I searched it, I found an older message, and just below that, a disgusting chat. His friend was telling him that he “found a goldmine ;)” in reddit, and my bf asked him to send it. I didn’t understand at first, but when I clicked the link, it was reddit porn. I was shocked about it, but what’s worse, my boyfriend had said that his friend was doing “god’s work” for sending it and that the girl had an unreal body and more disgusting stuff. I have never felt so betrayed in my life.

When I confronted him about it, he said that he didn’t even remember doing it, and that he probably texted those things to “shut his friend up”. I of course did not believe this. He bought me flowers etc everyday for a few weeks, was sweet to me, and swore he would never do it again. I finally caved in and we got back together, because I was so in love.

After 2 months I still was feeling bitter about the whole situation and sometimes said some mean things to him whenever the topic came up - i.e. I said he was a coward for not saying “I have a girlfriend dude stop” to his friend after what he sent. One day he told me that his friend was quitting porn since his relationship had gotten serious, and I lost it, saying his pervy friend respected his new ass relationship more than my bf respected ours. We had a big fight which basically concluded with my bf saying that “I did not want to get over the situation” and that I always wanted to make him feel guilty about it, and that he couldn’t feel guilty forever, and that I wasn’t putting enough effort to heal the relationship and that I just wanted him to feel bad constantly. After that, I got a bit scared that our relationship would end, and started airing out my frustrations in my journal rather than talking to him about it.

Now he thinks everything is fine with us but I cannot get over it… I feel like it would be better if he were feeling guilty for longer geniunely, because when I put myself in his shoes, I would absolutely not snap back if he was rude to me bc of what I did.

I hate always feeling like I am not pretty or sexy enough, or feeling that for guys it is worth ruining a relationship just for consuming some porn. Or if I was more beautiful, he wouldn’t do that. Or if he truly loved me, he wouldn’t snap back. Which I know is nonsensical since he shows me daily how much he loves me and he’s perfect in every single way except
this.

How do I get over his betrayal? I don’t want to lose him, but I feel so worthless. Or how do I communicate what I’m feeling without being seen as malicious?

I’m based in Munich and twice now I have been approached by Korean christian missionaries talking about a Gottmutter (Mother God). I researched it, turns out it is a cult like group and they believe the Mother God is a 70 year old woman currently living in Korea.

This is a bit weird to me because I’ve been in Germany for 5+ years now, and I’ve been only approached by missionaries 3 times, two of them being by this cult recently. I’m curious if y’all had the same thing happen to you.

I’m an ex muslim but I pretended to still be one so that they’d go away but they stuck even more after that.

EDIT: It’s called World Mission Society Church of God. At least I think it is, based on the research I did. They themselves didn’t state their name.

Exactly what the title says. I am 5'2 (158 cm) and overweight at 72kg (159lbs) and I struggle a lot. I used to have such a big appetite, now it has significantly reduced after being on a diet for 40 days.

But my maintenance at sedentary (which I am, due to being a student who has to study a lot) is around 1700 cals, so I need to eat at 1200 cals for a 500 calorie deficit. Which isn't really an issue anymore since my appetite has reduced, it just makes life very hard on social outings. On days that I go eat out with friends/my boyfriend (which is usually once a week at least), I can barely eat at maintenance, and I usually go overboard if there's drinks involved. I've still been losing weight even if it is at a slower rate, I just want to vent about how hard it is to not be able to stay in a deficit while doing normal people stuff. And I am also aware that my maintenance will drop further and further while I lose the weight lol.

It's extra infuriating when you live with your boyfriend who's also on a diet, but loses faster than you while eating twice as much.

I need to move more after my exams.

Edit: Another instance to why it’s hard to be short on a weight loss journey: people do not understand. They’ve been downvoting this post left and right the moment they see 1200 on the post, but like… I never go below that, and it is the recommended minimum for an AVERAGE woman, who is much taller than me. What’s the issue?

Edit: I realize that I worded this post really badly. What I meant was that I did not like the pattern of stress eating/boredom eating that I was falling into, when I allowed myself to eat just because I was feeling some type of way. The amount of calories I "overate" was absolutely fine, I just don't like the reasons for said "cheat days". I don't really feel guilty when I overeat on special occasions, or at gatherings etc. And I don't think anyone should. The emotional eating is what makes me discouraged to continue because I get afraid (due to past experiences) that I will spiral more and more.

This might get a lot of downvotes but let me clarify: only some of us. And by “cheat day” I mean a day when you go over your maintenance.

I’ve been doing exceptionally well the last month, lost 10lbs/5kg and I was feeling way better in general. I also didn’t restrict what I was eating, just the deficit. I had a burger sometimes for example, as long as it fit in my caloric limit of the day. Although I did eat generally healthier for my own wellbeing.

2 days ago (mainly due to exam stress), I went over my maintenance by 100 cals for the first time in 40 days. It was fine and I didn’t feel too horrible about it, but the next day I found it way harder to stick to my deficit, this time I went 250 cals over my deficit. That isn’t horrible either, but today I am also finding it harder to not overeat.

I’m powering through it, but I realised that I and people who have the same issue shouldn’t really break the momentum we have going. Or when we do, we should make sure it will be worth it (vacation, special occasion, REALLY craving something etc) When I overate for 2 days, I wasn't even craving something, it was plain stress eating. That is what I "shouldn't" do if that makes sense. It just makes it psychologically harder to return to eating at a deficit, especially if you have an “all or nothing” mentality. I’m going to eat my occasionally more indulgent meals at least within my maintenance now, since I was already satisfied BEFORE going over my maintenance anyway. I just ate for the love of the game tbh.