22 F i’m struggling with an eating disorder and my relationship is making it worse
Hi everyone 22 F. I’m really struggling right now and could use advice or even just someone to talk to.
I’ve suffered with eating disorders for about about 9 years. I struggled with binge eating for 6 years then anorexia for about 3 years. Over the last year I started binge eating again and gained some weight, but recently I’ve fallen back into restricting/starving myself.
Most days I only eat once a day and sometimes that one meal is high calorie and usually junk food so it feels like a binge. Since I started restricting again there are days I don’t feel hungry at all, and other days I feel starving all day. Sometimes I can’t even finish the one meal I make because of the mental block around food.
A big reason I think I’ve spiraled again is because of comments my boyfriend has made. Things like:
“If you were skinny would you still want to be with me?”
and when I told him I thought I was falling back into starving myself, he said:
“Well just do squats so you keep your butt.”
There have been other comments and actions that have really hurt my self-esteem and made me feel unattractive. I know this isn’t entirely his fault I’ve struggled with insecurity and eating disorders long before him but it feels like his comments are making everything worse.
Tonight I tried opening up to him about how hard eating feels for me right now, how sometimes I literally take naps so I don’t have to feel hungry while waiting for dinner, and how hard it is mentally to make food or eat. His response was basically “get over the mental block,” and it turned into a huge argument. He makes me feel stupid and says things like “you’re an adult, act like it.”
I feel really lost. i dont really have anyone to talk to and I don’t know how to help myself or what to do next. If anyone has gone through something similar I’d really appreciate advice or support. Thank you.