u/FiveDinero

I'm not the steward but I contribute. There is a PTF that should be converted to regular. I've heard HR is not converting the PTFs to regular which is nonsense to me. The only thing I can think of is that they're finishing up doing route inspections in the state. So they maybe want to wait until that's settled in case a UAR would come into our station.

But we're not in a bid cluster and I'm wondering if this is OK to hold up these PTF's from converting.

Should I wait until all the inspections are done or should I start pushing the stewards to get this resolved?

I deposited to a website but the money wasn't in my bank account so it was declined by my bank but the payment processor already fronted the money. So I guess they tried to charge again but it was rejected.

To my surprise they didn't try to contact me at all and it was only a week ago. I got a text message today from InDebted saying they're a debt collector associated with that payment processor. They gave me a link to access my account.

I'm under the impression that I don't need to pay this debt because the company never contacted me or notified me. They just turned it over to a debt collector almost right away.

Any info on this?

I knew something seemed funny about how the mail was being run and the sudden "loss in volume" Well, I have a lot of 1st class mail, no doubt about it. But almost zero 3rd class mail. So where is it? I'm not sure how this drastic loss of 3rd class is possible.

I started to watch and notice for the last 6 loops I did and there was only a total of two 3rd class letters in those loops and it was all in the last loop I did. It seemed like they were old letters that took a while to come through as they looked like they were a little crumpled.

Always told how all we deliver is junk but I have quite a bit of mail and it's almost entirely 1st class. I was surprised to see the 2 letters of 3rd class in the last loop since I noticed there was ZERO in the other LONG five loops I did.

Something funny is going on. No doubt in my mind.

I'm considering switching to another pair of earbuds. People tell me its super loud when I'm crunching on a bag of chips or doing anything in the background. I've tried to put on noise cancelling but that seems more for my end and I think they still hear everything.

Suggestions on anything else?

We started talking again since Tuesday/Wednesday and then like clockwork its Saturday and she probably has her weekend filled with needy guys. Almost out of nowhere she starts to tell me how her friend thought I was ugly when we met. I told her I don't care what she thinks, and why doesn't she tell me what she thinks herself. She said "I thought so too."

I told her that's cool, but what do you think I thought about you? She's like oh you loved me. I invited you and you came thinking I was alone and we were going to do something. I said, "obviously I knew you were with your friend, why would you be there alone?" She's like "yea right. You definitely wanted to do stuff with me." I said "then why didn't I get a room for us to go to (like she wanted me to)" She said "Oh you have strong feelings and afraid to do that with me." I'm like, "So why did I go to the restaurant to meet since you think I went there to sleep with you?"

In the past I would kinda explain stuff but she kept asking these things for an explanation and I just flipped it on her with a question back instead of an explanation. She was saying I have all these feelings and want something serious. All of this out of nowhere. I said, "I do? What exactly would that do for me. What do you bring to the table?" I answered a lot of her questions with "well you know everything already." I ended up telling her she's in an alternate reality and delusional. She just told me the same thing back like "I know you are but what am I"

In the middle of all this she was telling me I was acting like a kid. She would say "we're not dating" (I never suggested we were) She told me that last time I stopped talking to her that I said she chose another guy over me. But actually I said she chose attention of random guys over true friendship.

She wanted to go on a date on Saturday and then have me get a room for us on Sunday. I said yea I'm not trying to sex a day after these other guys were inside of you. She's like "why not, if we're just friends" I said yea these men with low self-respect might do that but not me and when you're so active there's a better chance of getting something.

Basically I could see her doing all these things that were textbook narcissism and her life was a complete mess. I wasn't going to sit back and "let them suffer" without saying something. I'm an empath and I'd rather lose whatever we have than to stay silent that's how I am. I'm going to laugh with you and we'll have the best time but then I'm going to tell you if I have a real concern about something. I told her as she gets older this is going to get worse. I asked her if she thinks there's something wrong with a friend caring about another friend? She told me "You're acting like a kid, I gotta go" and hung up.

I decided to splurge on Hoka Bondi SR and they seemed nice at first. Maybe I didn't tie them tight enough but they seemed to give less support overall than the Nike's did. The cushioning by the ankle seem way better on the Monarch's compared to the Hoka's which feel like they sit lower or just don't have much padding in that area.

Overall I think the Monarch's may be the better shoe for me and all the walking I'm doing.

I'm interested in possibly trying some other sneakers that are considered the highest quality, like maybe Brooks Addiction but those too seem to have not as much support around the ankle and that might be fine for walking on flat ground but not as good for climbing so many stairs.

Just my opinion. What's your favorite shoe you've tried?

We started talking again since Tuesday/Wednesday and then like clockwork its Saturday and she probably has her weekend filled with needy guys. Almost out of nowhere she starts to tell me how her friend thought I was ugly when we met. I told her I don't care what she thinks, and why doesn't she tell me what she thinks herself. She said "I thought so too."

I told her that's cool, but what do you think I thought about you? She's like oh you loved me. I invited you and you came thinking I was alone and we were going to do something. I said, "obviously I knew you were with your friend, why would you be there alone?" She's like "yea right. You definitely wanted to do stuff with me." I said "then why didn't I get a room for us to go to (like she wanted me to)" She said "Oh you have strong feelings and afraid to do that with me." I'm like, "So why did I go to the restaurant to meet since you think I went there to sleep with you?"

In the past I would kinda explain stuff but she kept asking these things for an explanation and I just flipped it on her with a question back instead of an explanation. She was saying I have all these feelings and want something serious. All of this out of nowhere. I said, "I do? What exactly would that do for me. What do you bring to the table?" I answered a lot of her questions with "well you know everything already." I ended up telling her she's in an alternate reality and delusional. She just told me the same thing back like "I know you are but what am I"

In the middle of all this she was telling me I was acting like a kid. She would say "we're not dating" (I never suggested we were) She told me that last time I stopped talking to her that I said she chose another guy over me. But actually I said she chose attention of random guys over true friendship.

She wanted to go on a date on Saturday and then have me get a room for us on Sunday. I said yea I'm not trying to sex a day after these other guys were inside of you. She's like "why not, if we're just friends" I said yea these men with low self-respect might do that but not me and when you're so active there's a better chance of getting something.

Basically I could see her doing all these things that were textbook narcissism and her life was a complete mess. I wasn't going to sit back and "let them suffer" without saying something. I'm an empath and I'd rather lose whatever we have than to stay silent that's how I am. I'm going to laugh with you and we'll have the best time but then I'm going to tell you if I have a real concern about something. I told her as she gets older this is going to get worse. I asked her if she thinks there's something wrong with a friend caring about another friend? She told me "You're acting like a kid, I gotta go" and hung up.

Does anyone know how its recorded. LIke if I walk a loop but miss a package does it show the loop took longer to complete? What if at my route I do the loop in reverse like rather then me start at the bottom of the street and go up and down I go down and up instead.

What if I'm starting to walk a loop and have a little bit of a heavy package that I want to just drop off across the street and then go back to start the loop on the other side.

I want to know what information is being recorded if its saying how long a loop took or when it says I was done or something.

She tells me about her one friend a lot, about her messy dating and sex. I asked her "well what about you" and she's like oh I don't do that. But I was starting to think maybe some of these stories about her friend are actually about herself but I'm not sure.

Anyway I ended up bringing up how she's looking for surface level relationships from all these people rather than stability in a deeper relationship. I told her the dates she's going on right now is a waste of time and as she gets older things will get worse, so she should try to look at herself and fix things now. I didn't mention any label like narcissism.

She really tried to avoid everything I was saying as if she wasn't hearing it but her response was instead about her friend and saying "Yea I don't think she's ever going to find something serious."

I know her friend exists and I've spoke to her friend. I believe her friend is an enabler and possibly a narc too. She told me her friend has no feeling about men. Any thoughts on this?

Radio was top tier. Great songs, top 10s, top 100s. Interviews with top artists and taking callers. Contest giveaways, etc. The radio is just not the same anymore its too bad. I listen to spotify and audible a lot but I wish the radio was as good as it once was.

I talked to this friend so much over the past 3.5 - 4 months. I have suspected them of narcissism but they haven't been so terrible to me. I do suspect they were trying to replace me with someone new to be their primary source of energy, at least that's how I'd describe it. I feel they were making other connections and felt I wouldn't leave, big mistake on their part. They essentially told me that they're single and I'm getting too upset by them seeing people. The thing is they aren't really single and I spent a lot of time trying to help them improve themselves. I feel like as they get older they're going to have an increasingly harder time if they don't do the work on themselves now. But they want to go on dates and present this fake life and wanting their ex-husband (separated) to sulk it up.

I tried to accept them back when they reached out because they seemed to realize my loss right away and I know they are very impulsive. But they really rubbed me the wrong way when talking to them and I just took a break away. This time longer than before.

I still wanted to be friendly but no longer was willing to give them my time. I would respond to them late and just keep it short. After ignoring their messages for a couple days they messaged me saying they were at a restaurant 5 mins from my house and I should come by. It would be my first time meeting them in person.

I was making the decision that I would hang out with them in person but no longer would talk on the phone to them. Our mutual friend told me that its a good idea if I actually want to be serious with her but that he would recommend not pursuing that kind of relationship. He said to just talk to her and leave it like that only friends.

But its in my head that I'm being used as a source during certain times. If I'm going to be used I need them to be making effort to meet in person. I think its better that way. But my friend now put us on the phone together and I feel like that could lead to us talking again. I have a hard time deciding right now and even communicating my dilemma.

It's very odd because I know a serious relationship with them would never work. And I'm almost wanting it for them more than myself. I have this attraction towards them. Then on the other hand if I'm being used as a source for friendship then I don't like being in a rotation of guys she bounces around from. That's what it seems like but if I'm wrong then I'm leaving a potential friend who is fine to hangout with.

I feel like they took me for granted but maybe now recognize some of my worth. I'm just caught in a dilemma now. I was fine moving on but they just kept reaching out and oddly enough invited me out. And it was fine talking to them they showed interest and stuff.

I'm just caught up not knowing if I should do the friend thing with them because it's not going to be the way it was before. Or I could just do the hangout in person thing.

I kinda hate that my friend put me in the position that he told her to call me after I hung out with her. I'm not sure I agree with him that I could just talk to her as friends. The whole thing about narcissism is in my head because I don't want to be an option.

tl;dr I have an odd attraction to a friend that I don't feel right being just friends and talking on the phone. I suspect them of possibly being a narcissist and I don't want to be seen as just an option. I want to know I'm being valued as a friend.

 talked to this friend so much over the past 3.5 - 4 months. I have suspected them of narcissism but they haven't been so terrible to me. I do suspect they were trying to replace me with someone new to be their primary source of energy, at least that's how I'd describe it. I feel they were making other connections and felt I wouldn't leave, big mistake on their part. They essentially told me that they're single and I'm getting too upset by them seeing people. The thing is they aren't really single and I spent a lot of time trying to help them improve themselves. I feel like as they get older they're going to have an increasingly harder time if they don't do the work on themselves now. But they want to go on dates and present this fake life and wanting their ex-husband (separated) to sulk it up.

I tried to accept them back when they reached out because they seemed to realize my loss right away and I know they are very impulsive. But they really rubbed me the wrong way when talking to them and I just took a break away. This time longer than before.

I still wanted to be friendly but no longer was willing to give them my time. I would respond to them late and just keep it short. After ignoring their messages for a couple days they messaged me saying they were at a restaurant 5 mins from my house and I should come by. It would be my first time meeting them in person.

I was making the decision that I would hang out with them in person but no longer would talk on the phone to them. Our mutual friend told me that its a good idea if I actually want to be serious with her but that he would recommend not pursuing that kind of relationship. He said to just talk to her and leave it like that only friends.

But its in my head that I'm being used as a source during certain times. If I'm going to be used I need them to be making effort to meet in person. I think its better that way. But my friend now put us on the phone together and I feel like that could lead to us talking again. I have a hard time deciding right now and even communicating my dilemma.

It's very odd because I know a serious relationship with them would never work. And I'm almost wanting it for them more than myself. I have this attraction towards them. Then on the other hand if I'm being used as a source for friendship then I don't like being in a rotation of guys she bounces around from. That's what it seems like but if I'm wrong then I'm leaving a potential friend who is fine to hangout with.

I feel like they took me for granted but maybe now recognize some of my worth. I'm just caught in a dilemma now. I was fine moving on but they just kept reaching out and oddly enough invited me out. And it was fine talking to them they showed interest and stuff.

I'm just caught up not knowing if I should do the friend thing with them because it's not going to be the way it was before. Or I could just do the hangout in person thing.

I kinda hate that my friend put me in the position that he told her to call me after I hung out with her. I'm not sure I agree with him that I could just talk to her as friends. The whole thing about narcissism is in my head because I don't want to be an option.

tl;dr I have an odd attraction to a friend that I don't feel right being just friends and talking on the phone. I suspect them of possibly being a narcissist and I don't want to be seen as just an option. I want to know I'm being valued as a friend.

I talked to this friend so much over the past 3.5 - 4 months. I have suspected them of narcissism but they haven't been so terrible to me. I do suspect they were trying to replace me with someone new to be their primary source of energy, at least that's how I'd describe it. I feel they were making other connections and felt I wouldn't leave, big mistake on their part. They essentially told me that they're single and I'm getting too upset by them seeing people. The thing is they aren't really single and I spent a lot of time trying to help them improve themselves. I feel like as they get older they're going to have an increasingly harder time if they don't do the work on themselves now. But they want to go on dates and present this fake life and wanting their ex-husband (separated) to sulk it up.

I tried to accept them back when they reached out because they seemed to realize my loss right away and I know they are very impulsive. But they really rubbed me the wrong way when talking to them and I just took a break away. This time longer than before.

I still wanted to be friendly but no longer was willing to give them my time. I would respond to them late and just keep it short. After ignoring their messages for a couple days they messaged me saying they were at a restaurant 5 mins from my house and I should come by. It would be my first time meeting them in person.

I was making the decision that I would hang out with them in person but no longer would talk on the phone to them. Our mutual friend told me that its a good idea if I actually want to be serious with her but that he would recommend not pursuing that kind of relationship. He said to just talk to her and leave it like that only friends.

But its in my head that I'm being used as a source during certain times. If I'm going to be used I need them to be making effort to meet in person. I think its better that way. But my friend now put us on the phone together and I feel like that could lead to us talking again. I have a hard time deciding right now and even communicating my dilemma.

It's very odd because I know a serious relationship with them would never work. And I'm almost wanting it for them more than myself. I have this attraction towards them. Then on the other hand if I'm being used as a source for friendship then I don't like being in a rotation of guys she bounces around from. That's what it seems like but if I'm wrong then I'm leaving a potential friend who is fine to hangout with.

I feel like they took me for granted but maybe now recognize some of my worth. I'm just caught in a dilemma now. I was fine moving on but they just kept reaching out and oddly enough invited me out. And it was fine talking to them they showed interest and stuff.

I'm just caught up not knowing if I should do the friend thing with them because it's not going to be the way it was before. Or I could just do the hangout in person thing.

I kinda hate that my friend put me in the position that he told her to call me after I hung out with her. I'm not sure I agree with him that I could just talk to her as friends. The whole thing about narcissism is in my head because I don't want to be an option.

tl;dr I have an odd attraction to a friend that I don't feel right being just friends and talking on the phone. I suspect them of possibly being a narcissist and I don't want to be seen as just an option. I want to know I'm being valued as a friend.

I'm curious because I know some people have gone through hell, especially in longer relationships.

I spoke to this girl for close to 4 months. I met her through a mutual friend and the most we had was 5 people talking on the phone at the same time. 2 girls and 3 guys. The 2 girls talked on the phone a lot and they put me on the phone with them. The one girl then decided to block the other after some cattiness. What I saw was they were both at fault but it didn't seem like the suspected narc was gaslighting and kept throwing in little insults when we were all in the group.

So the suspected narc ended up kinda splitting the group in half and it ended up being me and her talking a lot. I was fine with that because she was funny and entertaining. I didn't always enjoy talking to the others in the group as it was usually more mundane.

As we talked a lot she would not really say anything nice about me. They weren't necessarily nasty or what I'd consider abusive but they'd talk about dating. And I'd be like yea I'm gonna find a girl too. And they'd be like "no one wants you"

In a way it was like they were joking but I didn't know if they really thought that so it would bother me they'd say it. Another thing they did a few times was say I was fat. At times I found the insult a little funny but at times it also came off as harsh.

Meanwhile I was always being a supportive friend. But I would at times jokingly say things about them but I think it was delivered in a much more comedic way.

When I would disconnect from them because they were disrespectful I was often called "sensitive" and told that its a turn off.

I spent a lot of time being a great friend to them and sometimes they'd push boundaries or say disrespectful things. When I'd disconnect from them they'd get crazy that I wasn't responding and tell me how I'm showing myself to not be a true friend.

I'm trying to gauge how bad this is for a 4 month relationship with someone. We mostly just talked on the phone and never met in person. But we'd talk every single day for 7-11 hours everyday.

I started up a friendship with this girl who was having a tough time. I knew she got a lot of boost from how people viewed her beauty. She'd call me to talk all the time and I'd say "Hey beautiful" or "Hey gorgeous" and she'd be like "ew don't call me that"

So I respected her wishes and didn't call her that. But then time past and I feel like she wanted to hear it again as she wanted me to say it.

I also offered to send DoorDash to her once but she said no.

They pretty much check off all the boxes of a narc so I'm not sure why they'd tell me not to call them beautiful.

I was talking to this girl for 3.5 months and we talked everyday for like 7-11 hours a day. Over the past month it was becoming 11 hours as her husband was out of the house due to a restraining order. She had been wanting a divorce all that time but stayed in a cycle.

I was a little confused by how attached she was to me and some of the relationship was confusing. But she awakened a part of me that had been dormant for some time. I started taking better care of myself overall. She encouraged me to eat better, dress better, workout etc. At times she would shame me for making bad food decisions but it was really keeping me accountable and good for me.

We talked about being friends with benefits, but they also wanted many friends with benefits. I was hesitant because they were still not officially divorced and had so much going on in their life.

When they told me they'd find other guys for sex, I told them that'd be a mistake. I really didn't like them making that decision. I disapproved for so many reasons. Some things I didn't like about them was how thirsty they were for men's attention.

I found out they were talking to guys on dating sites and going out on dates, our time talking started to lack. I tried calling them back one night and they ignored me, because they were chatting to guys and not wanting to tell me. I told them they valued that over our friendship so best of luck.

I started to get breakdowns of narcissism on instagram and it seemed this is who I might've been dealing with. I can't be too sure but they have so many qualifiers, might even check all the boxes.

I wasn't sure if they'd reach out but I knew they'd feel my loss. And for me, I missed them for a day but I'll be alright.

Anyway, they sent me some reels on IG close to a week later. I didn't want to give any time to them but I thought I would show that I wasn't going to completely ignore them so I just reacted to the reels they sent with a laughing emoji. Now tonight they texted me saying hey name how are you