u/KindestBlackTemplar

Like I think you should just make a video and speak your mind. But doing it through comics and shit just feels like kinda corny. I am not dissing the political opinions, but it feels not genuine. Left wing political comics feel too virtue signaly, and right wing comics feel like a middle schooler trying to be edgy.

Just stand behind your opinion and make a a video and talk about your opinion.

Political cartoons don’t feel as cringey because there’s layers and depths to it, but political comics are just so obvious.

I assume a lot of the Muslim ABDs out there will wait since Islam is strict about no premarital sex, and maybe some Christian ABDs too. Anyone? Just curious because I met a Hindu ABD guy who said he was waiting till marriage the other day and I was super surprised because Hindus don’t really do that and that’s not in ABD Hindu culture. Hindus are usually the most open to casual dating and hookups from what I have seen(as a Hindu myself). But tbh that’s because Hindu ABDs are not usually religious at all. Maybe like 1% of them if I had to guess. Just like celebrate garba and Diwali Hindus but not really believing or visiting the temples.

Aside from that guy, idk any other Hindu waiting for marriage, but know plenty of religious Muslims and Christian ABD women, and some men, who are waiting.

It made me curious, so I thought I would ask here!

I got a coworker who’s a chick from Indonesia and got a husband in Singapore(they’re both Indonesian though but she lived in Singapore before this). Brutal shit, I didn’t know she was even married cuz I know she’s slept with a couple of the guys from work, and is a party chick and goes out to party with her friends and shows others the pictures and the dudes she allegedly hooked up with.

She just casually dropped today in a meeting to a client that she is married and showed her desk photo of her husband and kid in Singapore.

Holy brutal. Her husband paid for her education and apparently works for the government over there. She is only here on a 1 year contract and will go back once it’s over. She’s gonna live up the year here I guess. She’s been here since June. Poor dude.

Afterwards some coworker asked about her husband and she said yeah she’s happily married and showed some photos of them back in Singapore and even some wedding pics. They all gathered around her, and were like “awww” etc. No mention of her cheating or anything. It’s like it didn’t even happen.

When I tried to make conversation with her a couple weeks ago because we were debugging some prod stuff together, I asked her how she’s finding America so far, and she said she likes it and “so much partying and hot guys here, how can a girl not like it”. I laughed and I didn’t care cuz yeah, I was under the assumption she was single.

Brutal world dude. I know she’s on the apps too, because she shows people the dudes on her apps to make jokes sometimes. She is 100% cheating on him, her own words. Unless they’re in some open relationship.

One of our department leads and manager at work left the company 2 months ago and they’ve been looking for a replacement and found a guy, and yesterday was his first day. Sweet older Mexican-American dude, in his 40s, around 5’5. The dude used to be a former lower tier NASCAR racer. He came in for his first day yesterday, and set up his office, and had photos of his racing days on his desk and some posters hung up. He made gluten free and nut free muffins for all of us, and came around and handed out his muffins to everyone and introduced himself, and talked about he used to race.

Me and him hit it off, I love cars and racing too, and I think it’s gonna be nice having him as one of the managers, he genuinely seems chill.

Anyway, he went to his office, and we all went about our day. I go to the break room for lunch and I hear two of coworkers talking. One lady was talking to another lady, they’re both normal people usually and have never given me any flack so I was surprised to hear this from them. They’re both around my age(24). Convo went like this.

Lady 1: “did you see [insert name], our new manager”

Lady 2: “yeah he baked muffins for everyone too, like what”

Lady 1: “stoooooop ikr”

Lady 2: “yeah he used to be a race car dude”

Lady 1: “talking about him being a racer and baking muffins for everyone even though he’s our manager lol… how insecure is he about his height do you think”

Lady 2: “no like fr stooooop, I was just thinking he probably had to race and do other shit to pull anyone back in the day, it’s all compensating”

Lady 1: “I can wear my kitten heels and still tower over him, he better not ask me to work overtime, I can’t do orders from men who gotta look up at me”

Lady 2: “stop that, you’re so mean”

I don’t remember exactly how it happened or who said what, but yeah convo was something like this.

Poor mfer can’t even exist. It genuinely ruined my day and I took a work from home day today I don’t wanna go in and have to work next to those people.

Met a Desi friend online for gaming and he lives in bumfuck Virginia but he said theres a whole enclave there like there is in Edison and Dallas. Holy hell! We got Southern Desis?

I am a programmer turned PM and the only other Desis at work I know of are HR, and they rarely come into work, mostly remote, and I am usually the only Desi at work. But even if they came in more, there would be no unity smh.

Let me tell you something. These mfers require 5827 sign offs for the simplest shit, and when they do finally get the ball rolling it’s too late and I gotta go and explain why we can’t meet the deliverable deadline lol.

So for my Corporate Desis, I will never trust a HR Desi they all snakes 😤

We need a non-HR Corporate Desi Alliance to stand against the HR Desi tyranny boyos

Today I was scrolling through reels, and one of my old friends from high school, who is from Bangladesh, started using the racist gifs etc. I scrolled and saw his likes and comments, and he used the “allow me to explain your nations identity to you and how it includes me” gif and called UT the “p*j33t university” and talked about how Texas is being replaced by Indians in a comment.

This moron has a public profile and people saw his comment and went to his profile and obviously there were Indians/Indian-Americans calling him out, and he was racist to them, but there was this straight up Groyper dude who called him the same word(p*j33t) and this dude responded with how Bangladesh is not India, and how he was born and raised in America so he’s American. Yo, moron, they don’t give a fuck lol. He privated his profile shortly after the influx and then removed his pfp and made it his car.

Anyway, safe to say he is a former friend. Saw his page and likes and followers, he is fully Groyper now and reposts the America First Fuentes people.

There is a broader discussion though, I think a lot of South Asians are raised in their ethnic enclaves and don’t understand that to the average joe, we are all j33ts and terrorists whether you are Indian or whatever, Hindu or Muslim, etc, etc. I was raised in an enclave too, so I see people with this attitude, and now I live in bumfuck South Carolina where the sheriffs office in the next county over flies a Confederate flag above the American flag, sheriffs stop me “randomly”, etc. A lot of us could benefit from leaving our bubbles and seeing the diverse nation that America really is.

Also, since I mention the negatives, I gotta mention the positives. My best friends are Nepali and Pakistani and they’ve been my ride or die, and they stand up to Indian hate whenever they see it. My old boss was a Pakistani dude who took a chance on me, and he’s the reason I even have a career, even if this career brought me to this place lmao.

Just wish we had more unity folks!

Is a question I see being asked by newbies who are discovering heightism and/or the height pill. I have an old explanation I use, and would to hear y’all’s thoughts?

a) some tall women are heightist, so they can’t fight heightism when they help perpetuate it. So by heightism I don’t mean preference, that’s fine. But you’ll see many videos/posts/comments of tall women acting like a short man is inferior snd berating short women and saying they should get with short men in an insulting way. I’ve seen tall women shame tall men for having a child with a short woman and saying “your kids gonna be a gremlin” in various subreddits across the platform, and 2 instances IRL(they didn’t say gremlin but laughed when they saw a 6’2 guy marry a 4’11 chick and said they hoped his son would be short to “punish” them).

b) short women and average height women drown them out. Any genuine complains about unreasonable height preferences their shorter counterparts have get labeled as a tall woman being insecure and saying either “tall men choose us short women” or “don’t shame my preferences be better”. I’ve only seen this happen a lot more IRL, but it happens online too. So, eventually, a tall woman needs to either be okay with getting ostracized, or conform and be a “girls girl”.

c) tall women are relatively not viewed in a bad light. They are the ideal beauty standard and make up most of the modeling industry. They don’t face much heightism so it probably doesn’t register as a severe issue for them. There’s a difference between a short man struggling to just get respect in society and find a single person vs. a tall woman not liking her options and opting out and waiting for a taller man.

d) touched on this in b, but sisterhood. They care about their fellow woman. Men should strive to have these support networks and blind brotherhood, but we can’t. So many dudes would shoot their brothers for a chance at an attractive woman lol. Women simply support each other better than dudes do. So a tall woman is okay with her dating options being reduced to help a short woman find her tall person. Well off dudes very rarely look out for their not well off counterparts like that.

e) woman in general are more open to sharing a man than men are to sharing women. That’s just life. How many women are knowingly happily in a “roster” vs. how many dudes.

Thoughts?