u/Lion-Resident

Neither of us is single. Not sure what to do. Should I ignore this feeling or try to find out if they are really interested? What would you do?

I always think people fancy me. I'm not the best looking person. I'm pretty average. But I think there is something sexy about me and I feel like people always pick up on this. Is this a known illness? Does everyone feel this way?

Buyer wants several unnecessary checks on the house. Fair enough but they have asked if I will drop the price if any defects are found. It's not a new house, minor defects will be found. I can't drop the price.

Trying to understand the thought process. If you like a house and you were going to pay a certain amount for it, why would you be willing to pull out just because the seller won't agree to drop the price?

Please help me to understand. Has this happened to you?

My issue is that most, if not all, tradesmen will find issues, as they want your money to fix those issues.

I cannot negotiate on price because I have my own costs on the house I am purchasing.

So my question is, is there any point in allowing the tradesmen to attend my property to carry out their surveys if I am unable to drop the price?

And how can I tell the buyers this in the nicest possible way?

I am not good at banter. My office is full of people who do banter all day, every day. I don't want to seem aloof. I laugh along but I hate it when I am drawn into it with the mention of my name and all eyes on me and the expectation to say something amusing.

Are you good at banter?

Can I have some tips so I can attempt to join in.

Seller and myself are ready to exchange.

Buyer has recently asked for 5 tradesmen to attend my property to carry out tests I feel are totally unnecessary. I also feel they should have raised these queries earlier in the process as they had the RICS ages ago.

The same "urgent" "issues" were flagged on my RICS when I purchased the property. I don't know why they make things sound like they are urgent when they are not.

Electric, gas, stopcock, asbestos, drainage.

I have zero issues with any of these things.

I work full time and have a lot of medical appointments recently. It will be difficult to accommodate and I am concerned about having multiple tradespeople in my home potentially damaging my property (which has happened before).

How can I refuse without them pulling out?

My dad is in a nursing home while he recovers from being in hospital. They just told him he has to have his finances looked at and has to start paying. He refused to give them info.

I am in a difficult position as I could give the info but that would be going against his wishes. They said they only pay for a few weeks of care then he has to start paying.

Not sure what to do.

My dad is in a nursing home while he recovers from being in hospital. They just told him he has to have his finances looked at and has to start paying. He refused to give them info. I am in a difficult position as I could give the info but that would be going against his wishes. They said they only pay for a few weeks of care then he has to start paying. Not sure what to do.

I used to work in a place where every hire looked very similar to the hiring manager.

No exaggeration.

The females would hire women who had the same ethnicity, hair cut, hair colour, same body frame, same height.

The males would hire men who were equally as bald, had a beard, same skin colour, height, same neurotype.

I know they say that people hire people who are like them, but this was just taking the p and it happened about 5 times while I was there.

Very odd indeed.

Is it ok for a 50 year old person to take a soft stim toy into the office and play with it?

How would this be perceived?

The person is low support needs.

Would this behaviour prevent the person from being taken seriously or promoted?

I am very proactive at work. I get things done. I will go out of my way to ensure processes are fixed, people are happy and things work.

I always have at the back of my mind, "am I stepping on people's toes" "am I doing too much" "am I annoying people" but no one ever questions me. They let me get on with it.

So my question is, do you think people just don't care enough to look into what I am doing, are they too busy with their own workloads to notice or am I just so good at my job, everyone trusts me to do the right thing?

40M & 40F

My partner has called me a C-word during arguments. I think it is disrespectful. I would like it to stop.

How can I make this stop?

Is it a lack of money? Is it a lack of care?

I am starting to realise that no one cleans their house and they don't have regular boiler checks or carry out any maintenance whatsoever on their houses. No painting, no maintaining the roof or gutter integrity. No fixing broken appliances.

I am genuinely interested in why people dont maintain their home. Does it not occur to them that the home degrades and requires maintenance?

Is it a lack of money? Is it a lack of care?

I am starting to realise that no one cleans their house and they don't have regular boiler checks or carry out any maintenance whatsoever on their houses. No painting, no maintaining the roof or gutter integrity. No fixing broken appliances.

I am genuinely interested in why people dont maintain their home. Does it not occur to them that the home degrades and requires maintenance?

Is it a lack of money? Is it a lack of care?

I am starting to realise that no one cleans their house and they don't have regular boiler checks or carry out any maintenance whatsoever on their houses. No painting, no maintaining the roof or gutter integrity. No fixing broken appliances.

I am genuinely interested in why people dont maintain their home. Does it not occur to them that the home degrades and requires maintenance?

I was happy to pay the price I offered assuming the house would be maintained like I maintain my house with frequent boiler checks etc.

Survey says no.

Sellers haven't had the boiler serviced in 9 years, they have a hot and cold water tank, neither have ever been cleaned or serviced in 9 years. There are risks of bacteria and legionella with this which concerns me.

Sellers have no invoices from alleged plumbing works carried out, so I don't know if they really had a professional tend the leak or they just did a bodge job themselves. The patch up job is shoddy and makes me concerned they may not have had the source of the leak fixed by a professional.

They have no warranties or paperwork for an extension build apart from planning permission. No fensa certificate for velux windows.

Roof work all needs sealing. Sellers say they haven't had any roof work done while in the property.

Unanticipated costs are mounting. Should I reduce the offer?

MODs don't ban this post. Faggots is a food item. UKFrugal abused me and banned me for posting this post because they didn't know what faggots were.

I saw some faggots in Iceland.

They were only 75p for two.

I've never had them before and wondered if anyone has had them and if they are nice.

They seem to be made of gravy, dough and pork.

The reviews were actually very good.

I wonder how a meat product can be that nice if it is only 75p!

Should I get some and try them?

I made a dish. I put a small bit of tomato paste. My partner doesn't love tomato and says the taste is quite overpowering. How can I decrease the taste of tomato? I want my partner to enjoy the dish.

The dish is beef, lentil, barley and spinach stew.

Thanks.

The RICS survey revealed a previous leak which has caused damage to the ceiling and walls in a couple of rooms below the bathroom. The owners have tried to patch it up and cover it. They did a terrible job.

Aside from having to redecorate, I don't know if the root cause of the issue was fixed. I am concerned that if I move in and use the bathroom, the leak will occur again.

Can I ask them for details? Will they tell the truth? What happens if they lie and the leak occurs again when I move in?

Would you say the bus service in Luton is good? Is it reliable? Are the buses regular and do they always turn up on time? Is it as good as London?