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I am so exhausted. I fight my insecurities, my face and especially my body type, try to work on them and lose the will and then back again. It’s getting worse as I get older in my 30s. I see how much I have missed out on in life due to my insecurities. I have been dealing with the same issues since I was a teen. My life is so much harder than the women around me. I can’t wear what I want, I can’t eat what I want, I can’t have the life that I want. The only men who show interest in me are fuckboys. I just want to be normal. What else is there? I am so so so tired.

Should it be done everyday or once a week?

I am a late bloomer and just started going on dates. Due to my lack of experience and lack of friends, I have no idea what is considered normal these when it comes to dating.

I understand it’s subjective and we should do things as they feel right to me, but I just want get an idea so that I don’t write off somebody for the doing what’s normal.

Dates 1-3, making out, sex etc when does it all come into the picture for you?

Up until I was 18 years I used to be able to eat everything. After that I joined university and my anxiety skyrocketed to the point I used to have panic attacks. I remember I took anti-anxiety pills during that time. Nobody in my family has this problem.

Is it stress? Genetics? Somebody posted here vagus nerve simulation helped a lot. Can it be reversed to the point I can start eating everything?

It would make my life easier if I can start baking my bread at home. I would appreciate any recipes for fructan intolerant

I don't know if the men on these apps don't check height section or it’s a fetish because the number of short men liking my profile is a lot more than like taller than average 6’1+ men.

How is the experience for the tall ladies here?

ETA: before I get attacked, I am not bothered by it, just curious.

I don’t have anybody in my life to share it with, so wanted to offload what I experienced today:

I got ghosted after 3rd date. No communication at all for two weeks. He came back in the form of Snapchat request, his pic was in the dp so I thought maybe he wanted to reconnect. I added him back and he started off by asking what’s my name and where I am from . First I thought of digging more information from him but then revealed that it’s me. I thought he wanted to talk so I accepted it and that we went on 3 dates and that I will save him the awkwardness, goodluck!. He said did we? yes I remember, goodluck. It means he deleted my number and I somehow popped up in his Snapchat. We talked for over a month.

On our third date he held my hands, made out and kissed me goodnight.

Then I said, I am curious and asked the reason why he ended things abruptly and that to not worry I wasn’t looking to continue and not like we will ever meet again. He said didn’t feel the need to continue. When I asked to elaborate-attraction? Lack of connection? he was like lack of connection, I think.

I told him, okay all good, we didn’t have emotional connection, two different worlds. For the next girl, be upfront. He was like okay thanks. Then I unfriended him.

I have never been ghosted like this. I wasn’t invested in him but wanted to give it a shot cause he seemed decent, but it’s amazing how people switch. I am somebody who would have been okay being friends as well, cause I get it, things don’t work out with most dates. But the lack of courtesy bothers me. I hate that I added him back.I am embarrassed. One part of me is glad that I had this conversation, other part me wishes I unfriended him after he asked me about my name. I found his response quite dry. What did I do to be treated like this?

ie movies like Aparna Sen, Sir etc

Can you guys tell me more about Wah Cantt? My great grandfather apparently moved from there to Indian Punjab during partition. He moved by himself and we don’t know what happened to his family

I will forever be mad at life for giving me the kind of body that made others to body shame me. I have been hearing stuff since I was a kid and even now in my 30s I hear body shaming.

I have never felt at ease in my own body. I used to cover up wearing full sleeves in scorching hot weather so that I won’t hear something about my body. I still don’t go anywhere without having a second layer. This has impacted my confidence and every aspect of my life- be it friendships, love life etc. I could never relate to other women who would love going shopping to see how hot they looked or going to a beach or an event. I hated shopping and dressed like a bum. I always wonder how comfortable one might feel if they have a nice body. Wear whatever, being at ease and people admiring you. At the end of the day, I am myself not fine with how I look, even if I block the noise.

I am not sure why I got the body that I got. Both of my parents have normal and even great looking bodies. Most importantly, my lack of boobs. Every woman in my body has lean frame with big boobs, including my sister and mother, whereas I am almost flat chested and have been made fun of. Nobody has a body like me. Their lives are so different than mine. They love themselves and I have been scarred by body shaming and low confidence.I feel so unwomanly. Most of all, I hate that I still can’t wear the stuff that I want to wear and I am so fucking old.

I am trying to gain weight, but I can’t find enough things to eat

Matched with a guy, exchange the pleasantries and then he hasn’t responded since. Why bother wasting your like if you ain’t interested? is it to boost up your algorithm? Another wrote looking for emotional intelligence, and he himself turned out to be a fuck boy. Are men on apps emotionally stunted?

So I made out with a guy for the first time in my 30 plus years of life. I am attracted to men, but I have no innate desire to hold or see a man’s dick. I see women going crazy over it. I think dicks are weird/alien looking and I don’t fantasize about a naked man. I feel neutral when I see a hot celebrity half naked . Is this normal? Am I really straight? Is this because of lack of experience?

So I was making out with a guy on a 3rd date. I am in my 30s with no experience whatsoever and the guy had no idea that I was a virgin. He was my first kiss. While kissing on the 3rd date, he asked me to grab his dick. I didn’t as it was awkward and I didn’t have the courage, and then he proceeded to place my hand in it and I held it for a second and let it go. He then asked, do I need to direct you to do things and I said yes you do. Mind you, we did the same thing on the second date and I held on to his dick for quite some time while we were kissing. I asked what he wanted me to do and he said hold it. I don’t know why I got awkward on the third date, when I was a lot forward on the second date. Anyway, then his energy dipped and seemed like he lost interest, even though we still kissed and he walked me to my car and kissed again. He didn’t contact me again.

We both agreed that we wanted something serious, he suggested going to the back seat of his car when we were making out into passenger seats on the second date and I said not so fast.

What’s your take on this situation? Should I have shown initiation and interest in him? Going forward, how should I take things- should I disclose my lack of experience before? I know women do a lot more to show their interest sexually especially at my age

What’s your gender and dod you sleep with them?

I got ghosted after 3 dates. We made out, held hands and had dinner. This is my first time experiencing this. He told me he wanted something serious leading up to marriage. I told him I am looking for the same. We are in our 30s. He even kissed me when we said bye.

I know he was looking for some action, but why say you are looking for something serious? There are plenty of women who are willing to get laid, so why go after women looking for serious stuff and waste their time? Why can’t people be honest about their intentions? I would have respected him more. He could have been upfront about either wanting to get laid or simply not feeling it. I am totally fine with it, and I know sometimes you are just not feeling it. They say everything else except what’s truly on their mind. Bunch of cowards claiming to be men.

I think I am getting ghosted after third date. Everything was going pretty much the same as last one except towards the end he said shall we go home? When I asked he said his energy dipped but I could tell that something changed, and I asked him couple of times if he was good and he said yeah, but his face said otherwise. Last time he kept asking me to stay longer and he messaged to ask if I got home okay but this time it's radio silence. Everyday he messages me good morning but nothing so far.
We met out all this time and made out on date 2 and
3. My question is, should I ask him or take a hint and move on? He kissed me before I got into my car.

ETA: Made out with him and held hands. The only thing I can think of it is that he asked me to grab his package while we were making out ( which I did last time) and this time I grabbed it for a second and just left it there. I think he wanted me to take charge and show more interest because he indirectly asked me if he should tell me what do and I said yes. I think that’s when he changed. I am in my 30s and he i basically my first kiss, and he doesnt know it

I think I am getting ghosted after third date. Everything was going pretty much the same as last one except towards the end he said shall we go home? When I asked he said his energy dipped but I could tell that something changed, and I asked him couple of times if he was good and he said yeah, but his face said otherwise. Last time he kept asking me to stay longer and he messaged to ask if I got home okay but this time it's radio silence. Everyday he messages me good morning but nothing so far.
We met out all this time and made out on date 2 and
3. My question is, should I ask him or take a hint and move on? He kissed me before I got into my car.

ETA: Made out with him and held hands. The only thing I can think of it is that he asked me to grab his package while we were making out ( which I did last time) and this time I grabbed it for a second and just left it there. I think he wanted me to take charge and show more interest because he indirectly asked me if he should tell me what do and I said yes. I think that’s when he changed. I am in my 30s and he i basically my first kiss, and he doesnt know it

Everything was going pretty much the same as last one except towards the end he said shall we go home? When I asked he said his energy dipped but I could tell that something changed, and I asked him couple of times if he was good and he said yeah, but his face said otherwise. Last time he kept asking me to stay longer and he messaged to ask if I got home okay but this time it’s radio silence. Everyday he messages me good morning but nothing so far. We met out all this time and made out on date 2 and 3. My question is, should I ask him or take a hint and move on? He kissed me before I got into my car.

ETA: Made out with him and held hands. The only thing I can think of it is that he asked me to grab his package while we were making out( which I did last time) and this time I grabbed it for a second and just left it there. I think he wanted me to take charge and show more interest because he indirectly asked me if he should tell me what do.I am in my 30s and he is basically my first kiss, and he doesnt know it

Everything was going pretty much the same as last one except towards the end he said shall we go home? When last time he kept asking me stay longer. Last time he messaged to ask if I got home okay but this time it’s radio silence. Oh well, atleast I got some experience under my belt