u/McDaddy__Cain

I’ve been trying to be way more intentional with my weekends lately, but it is so hard to completely unplug when your phone keeps buzzing with client messages. For a long time, I was just letting people text me whenever they wanted to book a time to chat, and it honestly felt like I was on call 24/7. It gets so draining always having your brain in work mode even when you are just trying to watch a movie or hang out with friends. Lately, I’ve been forcing myself to just send everyone to a booking system instead of doing the whole manual back-and-forth over text. It definitely helps set some healthy boundaries, and it feels pretty nice to just look at my phone on Sunday and see things organized without me having to micromanage it. But ngl, I still feel that weird tiny bit of guilt every time I don't reply to a booking request instantly. Anyone else struggle with this when you're first trying to automate things and step back? How long did it take for you to actually stop checking your schedule every five minutes?

been reading about the wheel for months. feels like the most "can't lose" strategy when you're just watching youtube videos about it

Decided to actually run it on a trading game sim first before committing capital. 30 DTE CSPs on SPY, 0.3 delta, the usual boring stuff

first week was great. collected premium, felt like a genius
second week SPY dropped 2% and im sitting in a sim position that's red by more than the premium I collected

obviously I knew that could happen. but knowing and feeling it are different things. Seeing those red numbers even on fake money made me realize I was way too confident about getting assigned at a strike I "didn't mind owning"

Sim doesn't teach you the real emotional side but it does expose holes in your thinking before real cash does. I would've been that guy panic closing a CSP for a loss if I went live immediately

gonna run it another month. see how it handles chop. the boring stuff is the point I guess

we just hit 50 employees which is great Im grateful. but also I'm starting to feel disconnected in a way I didn't expect.

when we were like 10 people I knew everyone's name. I knew most of our customers too. if someone called with an issue I could usually fix it myself or walk over to the person who could.

now we have departments we have managers. I have a calendar thats just back to back meetings about things I barely understand. someone was telling me about our phone system yesterday and I realized I didn't even know we switched it

I keep asking myself if this is what I wanted. I started this company to build something. now I'm just. managing. and I'm not even good at managing tbh.

any other founders feel like they're becoming a manager of their own company instead of the builder they used to be

just drove down dixie and I swear there are like three new cranes up since last month alone. Its actually getting exhausting trying to navigate around the constant construction and closed lanes

I mean its nice that the area is growing but it feels like west palm is just being completely paved over for out of state money. my landlord just gave me my renewal notice and the increase is frankly insulting. I spent all morning trying to see if there's any hope of the housing market cooling off here and ended up going down a rabbit hole reading some market breakdowns by larry mastropieri just to see the actual data. honestly seeing the average sale prices now just made me want to cry lmao

it just sucks feeling like you are getting entirely squeezed out of your own hometown because some developer decided we need another 40-story building of $5 million penthouses. Is anyone else at the point where they are just completely over this whole "development boom"?

anyone else here deal with the absolute mess of trying to sync actual physical store shelves with an online shop? we have a couple bottle shops and keeping the web stock updated in real time feels like a losing battle sometimes. we used to run into this issue constantly where someone would buy the last bottle of a specific scotch in the store, but the website wouldnt update fast enough. then like ten minutes later an online order comes through for something we dont even have on the shelf anymore. canceling orders on the backend is a nightmare because it messes up your merchant ratings and just annoys customers. i hear we are going to switch to WinePos, now the second a bottle gets scanned at checkout it pushes the stock update out to the web store immediately.

if you are trying to bridge physical retail and ecom just skip the third party sync plugins if you can help it. it is way easier to just use a system that handles the web stock updates natively instead of trying to patch things together.

i finally did it. went to my first aerial hoop class last night and i'm honestly not sure if i'm in love or if my body is just straight up mad at me lol. probably both.

the moves were so beautiful and i felt like a complete clumsy idiot for most of it but also i can't stop thinking about it. like i wanna go back immediately but also i can barely walk today.

i knew it would hurt but nobody warned me about the specific kind of pain?? it's like a mix of bruises and muscle soreness and something else i can't even describe.

was talking to one of the regulars after class and she mentioned i should try different leggings cause the ones i wore were too slippery.

any other beginners here? how long before the pain stops being so intense? i'm not quitting but i'd love to know there's light at the end of the tunnel lol

my sister is getting ready to propose and somehow this has turned into a bigger debate than i expected. everyone keeps mentioning that whole "3 months salary" thing but, does anyone actually still do that? we've been looking at engagement rings for the last week or so and the prices are honestly all over the place. you'll see two rings that look almost the same and somehow one is twice the price of the other. she can afford a nice ring, that's not really the issue. i think she's just trying to figure out where the point is where you're paying for something that's actually worth it vs just paying more because you can.

who are already engaged or married, what did you end up spending? did you ever wish you'd spent more? or less?

anyone went with a lab diamond or a different stone and was happy they did? the internet makes it seem like there's a "right" number and i'm not convinced there is.

on my last few trips i kept renting cars from the big airport companies without thinking twice. the prices were always high especially for anything decent and by the end of the trips i realized i had spent way more than i needed to on just getting around.

i started using turo instead and the prices were so much better plus it was basically available everywhere i went. i could pick from actual cars people were renting out instead of the usual limited options at the counter and it saved me a good chunk of money each time.

has anyone else made the same mistake with car rentals or found better ways to get around without overpaying?

honestly just need to complain for a second because my head hurts from all the conflicting advice from advisors this week. We are closing a seed extension and one angel is breathing down my neck telling us we need to spend 10k a month on a broad corporate brand agency, while another says we should literally do zero marketing and just cold email people until our fingers fall off

It is so frustrating how everyone has a formula that "always works" but it usually just involves spending cash you don't have on bloated retainers

Im kinda leaning towards just keeping it tightly focused. A founder friend told us to just hit up a small b2b boutique like inked pr to handle some basic founder profiling/press and call it a day rather than over-engineering a whole department before we even scale

anyone else feel like half of being a founder is just filtering out the noise from people who haven't actually built a startup in ten years? structure is completely broken out there right now ngl.

I've had a rough run lately with stared places. I tried three different restaurants in three different cities, and all of them seemed more focused on looking good for Instagram than on actual flavor. One spot served me a dish that looked wild-gold leaf, smok bubble, the whole deal - but it was just bland. Salty foam on lukewarm fish. How does that even happen?

I don't know whn fine dining turned into a contest to se who can serve the smallest portion on the biggest plate. Maybe I'm just getting old and cranky.

Still, I miss when fancy restaurants focused on good cooking instead of putting on a show.

hey everyone im in australia and my current pans are starting to warp and the non stick is wearing off way too fast so im trying to find some better quality stuff that will hold up for years without falling apart after a few months of use.

what do you reckon are the best materials for everyday cooking that dont need replacing every year or two? any brands or types you have had good luck with long term?

I've been thinking a lot about how much difference the right support can make when you're growing up.

For those of you who are autistic, was there a therapy, support program, teacher, mentor, or even a specific person who genuinely made life easier for you? Not necessarily by changing who you were, but by helping you understand yourself better or making daily life less stressful.

I was recently reading about different support approaches, including some offered by Links To Life, and it made me curious about what people actually found helpful in real life versus what just sounded good on paper.

What made the biggest difference for you, and why?

I've had lower back pain for a few years now. Sitting at a desk most of the day made it worse, and my core is honestly pretty weak. A friend suggested pilates and I figured I'd try it before things get worse.

I started with mat classes a few weeks ago and I can already feel a difference in how I hold myself. Not dramatic, but real.

Now I'm wondering if I should invest in a reformer for home use. I spent some time reading about it, including an article on whether buying a pilates reformer is actually worth it, and it got me thinking more seriously. The cost is real though, so I'm still on the fence.

For anyone who started pilates as a beginner, did you notice results early on? And if you have back or posture issues, did it actually help?

got myself to make an appointment. found a place in greeley with decent reviews. went in this morning.

cleaning was fine, hygienist was nice, then the dentist came in and looked at my xrays for maybe a minute. then he said i have early stage periodontal disease and need a scaling and root planing. 950. i asked him to show me on the xrays where the problem is. he pointed to something but i couldnt really see what he was talking about.

then he said i should consider invisalign because my bottom teeth are slightly crowded. theyve been slightly crowded for 40 years its fine.

i asked if i could just do a regular cleaning and come back in 6 months. the energy in the room changed immediately. he got short with me the assistant stopped smiling lol

when i was checking out the front desk handed me a printed treatment plan for 3800. i threw it in the trash when i got to my car.

anyone know a dentist in greeley that just does the work and doesnt try to scare you into spending thousands

trying to plan an 11 day trip for me and my wife to portugal for late september since things calm down a bit then. originally i was gonna source everything myself like i usually do. book the tap air flights, grab individual hotels in lisbon and porto, rent a car for the driving bits or maybe take the trains. it usually takes me hours to compare everything on bookingcom and coordinates all the train times so we arent waiting around at stations forever.

well i got lost, i was trying to map out staying in sintra for a night then getting down to the algarve but the train schedules look like a mess and when i checked car rentals the prices were stupid high and the reviews for the local agencies are terrifying. my wife wants to do a douro river cruise too and trying to piece that together with the rest of the hotels just made my brain melt. spent like 3 hours staring at tabs and realized if i mess up one booking the whole timeline is screwed.
i gave up and started looking at pre packaged stuff just to see options and saw Indus Travel. looks like they bundle the whole itinerary together like hotels, transit, and some guides into one price. has anyone used them for portugal?

im usually a DIY traveler but this logistics headache is making me reconsider. do u guys actually book everything separate or is it worth it to just let a company handle it so u dont go crazy planning?

I've been practicing on and off for a few years now and genuinely struggle to maintain momentum outside of a studio setting. In class there's structure, a teacher cueing me, other people around, a dedicated time block. At home it falls apart almost immediately.

I'll roll out my mat with good intentions and then spend ten minutes deciding what to do, lose focus halfway through, or convince myself I only have time for a few sun salutations before giving up entirely.

A lot of people here practice primarily at home and I'm curious what actually worked for you. Did you follow a specific sequence every single time until it became automatic? YouTube teachers or apps? A nonnegotiable time of day regardless of how you felt?

I'm also wondering whether shorter practices done consistently are genuinely more beneficial than longer sporadic ones. My gut says yes but I'd love to hear from people with real experience.

Not looking for a perfect solution, just honest accounts of what helped the habit stick. Even hearing what didn't work would be useful. Home practice feels like the key to real progress and I haven't cracked it yet.

I've been thinking a lot lately about the gap between intention and actual impact when it comes to sustainable living. It's easy to swap out plastic bags, remember your reusable cup, or buy the occasional secondhand item and feel like you're doing your part. But how do you know if any of it is meaningfully adding up?

I started tracking my household's carbon footprint more seriously this year using a couple of different calculators online, and honestly the results were humbling. Transportation and diet swamped everything else by a wide margin. All the small swaps I was proud of barely moved the needle compared to cutting one longhaul flight or shifting toward more plantbased meals a few days a week.

I'm curious how others approach this. Do you use specific tools or apps to track your impact? Have you found any lifestyle changes that made a surprisingly large difference compared to what you expected? And on the flip side, are there any habits you thought were highimpact that turned out to be mostly feelgood gestures?

Would love to hear what frameworks or mindsets have actually helped you prioritize where to focus your energy, rather than just doing whatever feels visible or easy. There's so much noise out there and it's hard to separate signal from marketing.

had a mild heart attack at the firm yesterday. our local network had a hiccup right before a major e-filing deadline, and of course adobe decided right at that exact moment it needed to "verify subscription status" and completely locked up half the office

Came to find out a panicked junior paralegal was about to upload an unredacted deposition to some random "free pdf compressor" website just to get the file size down for the court portal. ngl my soul basically left my body. Those sketchy web tools literally cache uploaded client documents on their servers

it was a sudden realization of how much insane liability we take on by relying on SaaS platforms that require a constant internet handshake just to edit a local file. we're literally changing our policy this week to ensure the primary workstations have permanent offline editors like xodo installed so nobody is ever held hostage by an authentication server again.

just a heads up to maybe do a quick audit on what your team defaults to when your main tech stack temporarily fails. people will bypass every security protocol you have just to meet a 5pm deadline tbh.