AIO for disliking my friend and dad for their views?
I'll start with my friend then continue with my dad, then end with why I have opinions about this/why it's personal to me.
My friend, numerous times, said trans people aren't people, and women are for birth and pleasure, with him having a girlfriend of over a year! And she is mentally not sound, she is very depressed, has had an eating disorder, and parents are idiots and treat her like shit, my male 17 y/o friend is openly transphobic, and many times has made homophobic comments towards me (was gay man, now aroace gender fluid man) which made me and my family uncomfortable.
Recently, he messaged my mom "apologizing" about his views and what he said, and a conversation me and my dad had was "you can forgive people, just because you have opposite views, doesn't mean you shouldn't be friends" Which, as a heavily leftist person, disagree with, and I have hated talking to him because it feels like I have been forced to talk to him?! Which makes me so fucking annoyed, I tried having a conversation about this with my dad, and he hardly Listened, my dad isn't trans or homophobic, but he has a slight intolerance to homosexuals and people who are transgender, both me and my dad are autistic, but I don't believe that's an excuse or even a reason to be rude, back to my friend, we have been talking, and I have had this nagging feeling that I should just call him names and block him, or have a very formal fuck you, ~if you refer to my friend, use 🐊~
My dad and I have had a rocky relationship, I never really cared for him the last two years, after he referred to me, dissociating myself from him, as a worse loss then his death mother, which I thought was a dick move, and continually after that, he doesn't shut up about "my generation" (gen z) and Lgbtqia people has over doing it, and has said many times he doesn't believe I was gay (haven't told him I'm aroace and gender fluid, only my mum) I respect my dad as an individual, but not a parent rn, until he changes his attitude with me, and treats me a bit better with a lot more respect ~if you refer to my dad, please use 👨🏻~
And then me, I have switched my sexuality throughout my life, I have been raped, bullied, and hated against for my sexuality in my school, after being outed for being gay, and I have had enough, as a kid I was heavily protective to the people who where the minority l, and the people who get hurt and abused by idiots, and I don't tolerate and phobs or ists (eg homophobe, sexist) but I feel like I might either be overreacting or have gone off topic with both my dad and my mate, please be kind, don't make this racial or discriminatory, and please don't just call me an idiot, I would like a longer form text, not just "your a twat" ~ use 🤘🏻 when refering to me~
Am I the asshole, am I overreacting, or just extra?