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After I saw how much my hair grew from this, I decided to give my scalp a two week break and get back to the braids again :)

My neighbor said he looks big. He is a 12 lb mini dachshund. Should I get him in a diet?

can’t say I’m fully where I want to be but I am doing a lot better! I grew up in a very religious family that was so controlling. My mother believed in the Amish way of living and that included Amish punishments where she would have the entire house ( I am the second oldest of 6 siblings) ignore you if you don’t obey. My mother kicked me out because I would sneak out to see my older sister when I was 22. My mother and step dad took all my stuff and made me pick up my belongings at a gas station dumpster. I did end up moving in with my grandma and aunt but again… it was another toxic home filled with religious abuse and control. During that time I met a man who came at a time I was truly deeply in a sad dark spot. He felt like Prince Charming. He was handsome and so romantic. I did see some red flags earlier in our relationship but I deeply was broken and he gave me love when no one has and I thought it was love… over time he started to get more controlling. I found out he was secretly seeing his ex gf who he refused to let go of. When I confronted him, he smashed an egg in my head and dump me for a week until I stop talking about it. I tried to tell my family but they blamed me and told me I need to be more forgiving to him and I must of did something to cause it. Over time it got worst… my family kept putting me down and my ex fiancé kept doing more cruel things to me. He kicked me out because I shopped at goodwill and told people and he said I made us look poor. He told me my art work can’t be hung on the wall because it makes our home look cheap. He told me I was ugly and I look like a naked mole rat without makeup. The first two photos I was 25 and was when I was at a point I gave up. I just didn’t feel happy anymore and I felt like it was always my fault. It wasn’t until I got my first real creative dream job in publishing that I started to get my spark back. My ex fiancé at this point got even more controlling. He always had a drinking and drug problem so not only I was dealing with his controll but his addictions and trying to monitor his substance issue, he also was forcing me to fix my family so our wedding look normal and I wouldn’t embarrass him with the fact I didn’t have as much family as he did. As we got closer to our wedding I notice that my support system was gone and I was only around his friends and family and he kept me around people in my family who didn’t care for me but only him. I started to get more sad and more alone and overwhelmed. He started to talk about having kids and my gut scream not to do it. So I sat him down and told him I don’t want kids… at first he was understanding but then he got more pushy about kids and then told me I lost my value as a women and I was a lotto ticket but not the jackpot. He spit on me and told me I was ugly and that I would live in the ghetto if I left him. (I’m half black and white so that one hurt because he’s white).

I finally left him, cut off my family and focus on the people who truly love me and slowly building a new family. I now have a few children’s books I illustrated and I am a graphic designer for Disney, Marvel, Dreamworks, Bluey, Netflix and a lot of big licensors. It’s been a tough and hard 4 years of therapy and showing kindness towards myself.

I am still growing but I really am allowing myself to finally love who I am.. learn what love is.. and to be the first women in my family to end the cycle of abuse. It ends with me ❤️

First off you guys been a major help with giving me some feedback on this car.

I spoke with the dealer and so far this has a clean report and updated maintenance! He said that the car didn’t have a transmission replacement and he will give me the history report and I’m aloud to have an independent mechanic come in to inspect the car.

This car is 38689 miles.

What do you think?

So my best friend was the one who found this car! I have to get a car soon! My previous car I had was a 2014 Honda civic I drove for 10 years! But sadly it got total. I only have my rental car for 3 days.

My best friend showed me this car and it’s a 2022. I LOVE the features and I love how it’s so convenient. I’m a VERY independent person. This would help me so much. But I kept reading negative things about this car and the transmission.

Be brutally honest.. what’s your thoughts on this?
Is this reliable? I would need this to drive to work and my job is 45 min away. I love road trips with my dog and it would be nice to go to homegoods and pick out furniture and not have to call a million people to see if they can help me.