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I’m 28 years old with a whole child and I’ve been playing Heartopia 😂 I genuinely feel like this is the kind of game I’ve been searching for my whole life, and I love how cutesy everything is.

I did see a post a while back where someone mentioned that even 5 year olds play it, and it honestly made me wonder if this is actually meant to be a kids or teen game or something 😭 For the most part, though, I just keep to myself, play by myself, and don’t really interact with anyone on the game.

I don’t have Louis Vuitton money or even Coach money 😂 but I’ve been wanting to treat myself to a nice, decent quality bag that I can actually afford. I feel like it’s time for a little upgrade.

She told my little sister “ you have no reason to be depressed”. Just needed to vent about this because it’s been pissing me off all day. She even had her take the test again and told her to answer honestly and it still came back the same.

Hi! I’m a 28 year old first time stay at home mom to a 10 month old.

Sometimes I find myself feeling a little sad and hard on myself because so many people my age, and even younger, are becoming homeowners while we’re still living in our one bedroom apartment to save up for a home. I know everyone’s timeline looks different, and I know this season of life won’t last forever, but it can be hard not to compare sometimes.

I’m also incredibly grateful that I get to stay home with my daughter and be present for these moments with her, even if it means putting some of my own goals on hold for now. I was just wondering if any other stay at home moms are in a similar situation or have felt this way too. I’d love to hear your stories and remind myself that we’re all on our own journey.

There was a period in time where I neglected myself and didn’t take better care of my dental hygiene & i deeply regret not taking care of it sooner. Started noticing problems right after i had my baby and had to get a surgical tooth extraction and bone graft, and now I’m saving up for a dental implant. It’s put such a huge financial strain on me. I’ve already spent thousands of dollars, and I’ll have to spend thousands more for the implant.

To make matters worse, I recently found out I have eight cavities and need a deep cleaning because I have a significant buildup of calculus behind my teeth that’s causing my teeth and gums to ache. I just can’t afford to take care of any of that right now because every extra dollar is going toward the implant.

This whole situation honestly sucks. It’s overwhelming knowing I need so much dental work but can’t afford to do it all at once. I keep wondering if anyone else has been through something similar. It would genuinely make me feel a little better to know I’m not the only one dealing with this.

A couple of days before my period, I feel so down. I start overthinking everything.. my life, my living room, every room in my house, my body, and even my past traumas. Suddenly nothing feels good enough, I get irritated over the smallest things, and I genuinely convince myself that my life sucks. Sometimes I even have thoughts that I don’t want to be alive.

Then as soon as my period starts, it’s like a switch flips and I feel like myself again. Does anyone else experience this? Is this normal?

I don’t have many friends, close family, or the money to throw the kind of lavish little parties I always see on my Instagram feed. I think a lot of the guilt comes from how little effort my parents put into my birthdays growing up. To them, it was just another day, and I hate that it feels like I’m doing the same thing to her, even though I know my intentions are completely different. We’re taking her to the aquarium instead and it still feels like not enough. Any other moms feeling the same way?

Mine is yes i’m changing - Tame Impala

I love my partner. We’ve been together for 8 years and have a 10 month old daughter together. I really dislike his mom, and some of his extended family is pretty weird too. We come from different cultures, and I feel like overstepping, coddling, and having very few boundaries are normalized in his family. My family is also toxic and weird in their own way but I am not afraid to set boundaries and cut them off.

Before we had our daughter, I felt like I could tolerate it. But ever since becoming parents, I have this overwhelming urge to stay away from them and have nothing to do with them. My partner understands how I feel to a certain extent, but I don’t think he truly understands why it’s so frustrating for me.

I don’t spend time around his family anymore and honestly don’t want to. He respects that, but things his mom does still bother me. For example, she’s constantly buying things for our baby, and it irritates me. His response is always, “It has nothing to do with you. It’s not for you, it’s for our baby.” And to give a little more context, my mil is an excessive gifter and partner has tried many times to tell to stop and he thinks I no longer should let it affect me because i guess you can say she “cut back” on gifting by no longer gifting me a bunch of useless items and just stuck to gifting my baby a bunch of items and my partner.

Even when he takes our daughter to visit his mom, I get angry. Part of me wishes he truly understood how I feel and would decide on his own to go no contact with his mom too, but I know that isn’t fair to ask of him.

I feel like this situation is draining me and it shouldn’t be like this. Being with him also means his family will always be a part of his life and i don’t want to be a part of that. Maybe i’m just selfish.

I know you’ll probably want more context, but I honestly don’t have the energy to explain everything right now because there’s just so much to it.

Going no contact also means I’m not really going out of my way to maintain a relationship with the rest of my family, since the only time I see them is at family gatherings my mom hosts. My dad divorced my mom a couple of years ago and started a whole new life. The thought of my baby not growing up surrounded by a big, close family honestly brings me to tears. My partner’s family has its own issues too, but that’s a whole other story I won’t get into right now. I feel guilty but i’m doing what’s best for my family and breaking toxic generational cycles.

Update: I read every single comment & just wanted to say thank you so much for giving me a different perspective. I feel a lot better about this situation. It also feels good to know others can relate and i’m not alone.

I’ve been noticing a cavity in between two teeth. I’m feeling some achiness, but it’s not too bad. I’m getting an X-ray on Tuesday and I’m really hoping and praying that it’s just a cavity that needs to be filled because I honestly cannot afford a root canal or another extraction.

I’m also currently in the process of getting a dental implant for one of my recent surgical tooth extractions, so I’ve already had to spend a lot of money and I’ll be spending even more for the implant. I don’t have dental insurance and I’ve never had any dental problems until after I had my baby.

During my pregnancy, I was throwing up 4 to 6 times a day all the way up until the day my water broke, and I’m sure the constant vomiting and not being able to eat enough played a role in the condition of my teeth now. Please pray that I won’t have to take on even more unexpected dental expenses. 😭

How do you all manage it?? Especially busy parents!! It’s not just feeding them, it’s the cleanup too. Wiping everything down, sweeping up all the food they throw on the floor, washing the high chair, and then doing it all over again.

Not sure if it’s because i was throwing up every day & the stomach acid was messing up my teeth but i had to get a surgical tooth extraction & bone graft 2 months ago and now i’m noticing early decay on one of my bottom front tooth and achy-ness. I’m so upset. Never had any dental problems before having a baby.

We all know breast milk has many benefits and contains natural antibodies. When I was a couple of weeks postpartum, I realized I wasn’t in the mental space to continue breastfeeding. It was extremely difficult, and I wasn’t producing enough even though I tried my hardest to pump and do everything I could, including eating foods meant to help with supply.

I eventually made the decision to formula feed my baby, but I felt so much guilt. I kept thinking, “Why didn’t I try harder? My baby deserves the safest and healthiest milk. Will she grow properly? Will she get sick more often?” I felt awful and decided to try breastfeeding again, but by then my milk had already dried up, so I continued with formula.

My baby is almost a year old now and will soon no longer need formula. She has never gotten sick, she’s grown beautifully, hit her milestones right on time, and she is such a happy, healthy baby. She’s now in the 70th percentile, and I know percentiles aren’t everything as long as babies are growing consistently, but it’s still amazing to see how much she has grown especially because she was such a tiny newborn.

I’m sharing this because I know there are other moms who may be feeling the same guilt I felt. Formula did not stop my baby from thriving, and I’m so grateful she is healthy and happy.

It’s almost time for my baby to switch to a convertible car seat, and I’ve been wanting a Nuna for a while. My partner doesn’t want to get one because of how expensive it is.

I know realistically she’ll eventually grow out of it, so spending that much on something temporary isn’t necessarily the most practical choice. But I also love getting nice things for my baby, and honestly it makes me happy being able to provide those things for her.

My partner and I aren’t really on the same page about the car seat, and we even argued about it because sometimes I feel like he’s extra cautious with spending when it comes to our baby, even though we can afford it... His perspective is that she’s going to outgrow it eventually, and there are perfectly good car seats around $200 range that do the same job.

I do understand where he’s coming from. He’s thinking about being financially responsible and staying within budget, and honestly that’s part of the reason I’m able to stay home with our baby.

I think what’s frustrating me the most is that I’m a first time mom and a stay at home mom and not used to not having much control over big purchases like this for her.

Honestly i’ve been struggling mentality and feeling burnt out lately and the idea of brushing my teeth feels like too much work right now. I brush my teeth every night but today I just feel so extra shitty. I could easily just get up and brush my teeth rn instead of typing away on reddit but like i said it feels like too much work rn.

My baby is 9 months old, and I was wondering when I can start feeding her the same meals my partner and I eat. For example, if I make something like meatloaf for dinner, when would it be appropriate to offer her foods like that without having to worry as much about added salt, sugar, or other ingredients?

I’ve always been somewhat of an introvert, but I was drawn to the beauty industry and worked as a hairstylist for about three years. I eventually decided to step away because it became too emotionally stressful for me and I was around 20 weeks pregnant when I decided to leave.

I had my baby this past September, and I’m currently a stay at home mom. I do want to go back to work eventually, but hair is really all I know, and honestly the thought of returning to it feels scary. Starting over and trying to rebuild a clientele from scratch feels intimidating.

When I was behind the chair, I struggled with building a strong client base, not because of my technical skills, but because I’m naturally quiet and not the best at initiating conversation and i’m sure it’s made some people uncomfortable. I know that communication and building connections play a huge role in growing a successful clientele, and that part never felt easy for me.

Another thing that makes me feel hesitant about doing hair again is basically toxic work environment. I’ve been singled out, had managers that would triangulate, co workers would gossip about each other and managers would often have meetings with me to go over my numbers because I was always the stylist that had the least clients and would use scare tactics on me.

** Just wanted to say thank you to those that took the time to respond to this post! It made me feel better knowing that there are others that can relate.