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I love my partner. We’ve been together for 8 years and have a 10 month old daughter together. I really dislike his mom, and some of his extended family is pretty weird too. We come from different cultures, and I feel like overstepping, coddling, and having very few boundaries are normalized in his family. My family is also toxic and weird in their own way but I am not afraid to set boundaries and cut them off.

Before we had our daughter, I felt like I could tolerate it. But ever since becoming parents, I have this overwhelming urge to stay away from them and have nothing to do with them. My partner understands how I feel to a certain extent, but I don’t think he truly understands why it’s so frustrating for me.

I don’t spend time around his family anymore and honestly don’t want to. He respects that, but things his mom does still bother me. For example, she’s constantly buying things for our baby, and it irritates me. His response is always, “It has nothing to do with you. It’s not for you, it’s for our baby.” And to give a little more context, my mil is an excessive gifter and partner has tried many times to tell to stop and he thinks I no longer should let it affect me because i guess you can say she “cut back” on gifting by no longer gifting me a bunch of useless items and just stuck to gifting my baby a bunch of items and my partner.

Even when he takes our daughter to visit his mom, I get angry. Part of me wishes he truly understood how I feel and would decide on his own to go no contact with his mom too, but I know that isn’t fair to ask of him.

I feel like this situation is draining me and it shouldn’t be like this. Being with him also means his family will always be a part of his life and i don’t want to be a part of that. Maybe i’m just selfish.

I know you’ll probably want more context, but I honestly don’t have the energy to explain everything right now because there’s just so much to it.

Going no contact also means I’m not really going out of my way to maintain a relationship with the rest of my family, since the only time I see them is at family gatherings my mom hosts. My dad divorced my mom a couple of years ago and started a whole new life. The thought of my baby not growing up surrounded by a big, close family honestly brings me to tears. My partner’s family has its own issues too, but that’s a whole other story I won’t get into right now. I feel guilty but i’m doing what’s best for my family and breaking toxic generational cycles.

Update: I read every single comment & just wanted to say thank you so much for giving me a different perspective. I feel a lot better about this situation. It also feels good to know others can relate and i’m not alone.

I’ve been noticing a cavity in between two teeth. I’m feeling some achiness, but it’s not too bad. I’m getting an X-ray on Tuesday and I’m really hoping and praying that it’s just a cavity that needs to be filled because I honestly cannot afford a root canal or another extraction.

I’m also currently in the process of getting a dental implant for one of my recent surgical tooth extractions, so I’ve already had to spend a lot of money and I’ll be spending even more for the implant. I don’t have dental insurance and I’ve never had any dental problems until after I had my baby.

During my pregnancy, I was throwing up 4 to 6 times a day all the way up until the day my water broke, and I’m sure the constant vomiting and not being able to eat enough played a role in the condition of my teeth now. Please pray that I won’t have to take on even more unexpected dental expenses. 😭

How do you all manage it?? Especially busy parents!! It’s not just feeding them, it’s the cleanup too. Wiping everything down, sweeping up all the food they throw on the floor, washing the high chair, and then doing it all over again.

Not sure if it’s because i was throwing up every day & the stomach acid was messing up my teeth but i had to get a surgical tooth extraction & bone graft 2 months ago and now i’m noticing early decay on one of my bottom front tooth and achy-ness. I’m so upset. Never had any dental problems before having a baby.

We all know breast milk has many benefits and contains natural antibodies. When I was a couple of weeks postpartum, I realized I wasn’t in the mental space to continue breastfeeding. It was extremely difficult, and I wasn’t producing enough even though I tried my hardest to pump and do everything I could, including eating foods meant to help with supply.

I eventually made the decision to formula feed my baby, but I felt so much guilt. I kept thinking, “Why didn’t I try harder? My baby deserves the safest and healthiest milk. Will she grow properly? Will she get sick more often?” I felt awful and decided to try breastfeeding again, but by then my milk had already dried up, so I continued with formula.

My baby is almost a year old now and will soon no longer need formula. She has never gotten sick, she’s grown beautifully, hit her milestones right on time, and she is such a happy, healthy baby. She’s now in the 70th percentile, and I know percentiles aren’t everything as long as babies are growing consistently, but it’s still amazing to see how much she has grown especially because she was such a tiny newborn.

I’m sharing this because I know there are other moms who may be feeling the same guilt I felt. Formula did not stop my baby from thriving, and I’m so grateful she is healthy and happy.

It’s almost time for my baby to switch to a convertible car seat, and I’ve been wanting a Nuna for a while. My partner doesn’t want to get one because of how expensive it is.

I know realistically she’ll eventually grow out of it, so spending that much on something temporary isn’t necessarily the most practical choice. But I also love getting nice things for my baby, and honestly it makes me happy being able to provide those things for her.

My partner and I aren’t really on the same page about the car seat, and we even argued about it because sometimes I feel like he’s extra cautious with spending when it comes to our baby, even though we can afford it... His perspective is that she’s going to outgrow it eventually, and there are perfectly good car seats around $200 range that do the same job.

I do understand where he’s coming from. He’s thinking about being financially responsible and staying within budget, and honestly that’s part of the reason I’m able to stay home with our baby.

I think what’s frustrating me the most is that I’m a first time mom and a stay at home mom and not used to not having much control over big purchases like this for her.

Honestly i’ve been struggling mentality and feeling burnt out lately and the idea of brushing my teeth feels like too much work right now. I brush my teeth every night but today I just feel so extra shitty. I could easily just get up and brush my teeth rn instead of typing away on reddit but like i said it feels like too much work rn.

My baby is 9 months old, and I was wondering when I can start feeding her the same meals my partner and I eat. For example, if I make something like meatloaf for dinner, when would it be appropriate to offer her foods like that without having to worry as much about added salt, sugar, or other ingredients?

I’ve always been somewhat of an introvert, but I was drawn to the beauty industry and worked as a hairstylist for about three years. I eventually decided to step away because it became too emotionally stressful for me and I was around 20 weeks pregnant when I decided to leave.

I had my baby this past September, and I’m currently a stay at home mom. I do want to go back to work eventually, but hair is really all I know, and honestly the thought of returning to it feels scary. Starting over and trying to rebuild a clientele from scratch feels intimidating.

When I was behind the chair, I struggled with building a strong client base, not because of my technical skills, but because I’m naturally quiet and not the best at initiating conversation and i’m sure it’s made some people uncomfortable. I know that communication and building connections play a huge role in growing a successful clientele, and that part never felt easy for me.

Another thing that makes me feel hesitant about doing hair again is basically toxic work environment. I’ve been singled out, had managers that would triangulate, co workers would gossip about each other and managers would often have meetings with me to go over my numbers because I was always the stylist that had the least clients and would use scare tactics on me.

** Just wanted to say thank you to those that took the time to respond to this post! It made me feel better knowing that there are others that can relate.

Hello! I’m a beginner plant mom and still learning how to properly care for Monsteras. A while back, I bought two potted Monsteras from Walmart and only recently discovered that each pot actually contained multiple plants crowded together. After separating them, I now have six Monsteras that need to be repotted.

At the moment, they’re planted in Miracle-Gro “for all indoor plants” Potting Mix because I don’t have a chunky aroid mix available right now. I’ve been researching chunky soil mixes online, but wow.. they can get pretty expensive when you need enough for several plants..

Does anyone have recommendations for affordable chunky soil mix options or DIY recipes that work well for Monsteras? I’d love to hear what has worked for you without breaking the bank. Thanks in advance!

I have an 8 month old daughter and I don’t want to leave her behind. I have this weird feeling i’m going to die.

I used to not be a believer because I had encountered many people who called themselves Christians but acted in ways that hurt my faith. It made me question whether religion was being used to control people or whether some people were using Christianity and church as a way to appear good rather than truly live it.

I’m still not the most religious person, but I am very thankful for everything God has done for me. I went through a very difficult time a year ago and felt completely hopeless. When I became pregnant, I thought things would only get harder from there. I remember feeling overwhelmed and turning to prayer, often crying and asking God to guide me and show me the right path.

Since then, I feel like He has continued to bless me. So many good things have happened for me and my little family in such a short amount of time. I’m now grateful for the difficult seasons because I believe they were preparing me for something better, and I will continue to be thankful for what is ahead. Now I continue to pray and thank god for everything he’s done for me.

Face is always looks swollen, body is so out of shape, i’ve put on a lot of weight and red stretch marks haven’t gone away. I know it takes a while to “bounce back” and i need to give myself some grace but i’m having such a hard time accepting this different version of myself. Wondering if anyone else can relate :/ ..

One side of my face feels so swollen i’m feeling a lot of throbbing pain where i got the extraction. Is this normal??

It’s been 2 days since i’ve gotten an extract & bone graft on tooth # 7. So far i’ve been eating soupy foods and noodles but now i’m hearing mixed things.

Whether it’s from your mother passing, having a mother that’s chosen to not be a part of your life or just dealing with any kind of loss, you’re not alone.