u/Ok-Highway-5247

I really want to succeed and do well at this job.

I gave them my hours. Want to begin training. I’m free anytime. They said they were making the schedule.
I got 0 hours this week….

It’s nepotism hires fr….They hire their own grads and family members over someone else.

No wonder so many people are NEET now, you have to know somebody who knows somebody to get hired.

I wasn’t really bullied but women had it out for me at jobs. I’m female. One manager (an older woman) told another manager she didn’t want want to work with me anymore even though I did my job in a grocery store. I was always told to clean the toilet and do the most physical labor. I got accused or things I didn’t do. Someone claimed I tried to poison someone else. Why would I do that? Older women in their 50s and 60s were horrible to me. It got to the point my dad said no more jobs.

I think I could meet better people.
I don’t like the direction some of my friends are going in. We are in our 30s and some refuse to work. I want better friends and to meet teacher friends. I went back to college this year. Working towards another degree. I applied and got in at the district close to me. It is a very good district and I do know some teachers there who are good people.
However, I was bullied out of this district as a child. I went to a different elementary. I wouldn’t have to sub at that elementary. Would I be crazy to sub in a district I was bullied out of? Everyone tells me this is a good place for me and I will make better friends. Even two teachers from the elementary school I was bullied out of told me I should try.

I think I could meet better people.
I don’t like the direction some of my friends are going in. We are in our 30s and some refuse to work. I want better friends and to meet teacher friends. I went back to college this year. Working towards another degree. I applied and got in at the district close to me. It is a very good district and I do know some teachers there who are good people.
However, I was bullied out of this district as a child. I went to a different elementary. I wouldn’t have to sub at that elementary. Would I be crazy to sub in a district I was bullied out of? Everyone tells me this is a good place for me and I will make better friends. Even two teachers from the elementary school I was bullied out of told me I should try.

He had a grandfather from Turkey so he counts as Asian American. He is the whitest person to act like an Asian parent, I can tell you that. Grades and studying are very important to him.

He only wants me to work in a specific school district that I was actually bullied out of. It is a nice school district and I could avoid the building I was bullied out of. I never went to the feeder high schools because I was bullied out.

He keeps boasting how the district is number one in academics and so nice. That the people are so nice. Yes, I agree! There are nice people there. I have staff who are friends. It really isn’t a bad district at all and maybe one day I could work there but I still have trauma. My dad says this is the only place he wants me to work and have connections. I’ve told him there is too much trauma associated. There are other school districts but this is the only school district good enough for him. My dad says he wants me to work in this district and thinks it is a place I would be treated well. Uh….

I am at my wit’s end. Telling a person in their 30s where to work is weird.

I’ll never have a house. I’ll never have a family. I’m in my 30s and dependent on him because he said studies were more important than work. It stinks watching people my age have things I don’t. I finally just found a job maybe I can have those things someday. My dad is insane about grades. As were more important to him than having savings, grandkids, or me learning to drive. I’m not even Asian but he acts like an Asian parent. His grandfather was from Turkey anyway so technically Asian.

I’m not Asian, I am a white woman who was a child in the 2000s and 2010s in the US. I grew up around plenty of Asian classmates, friends, and neighbors. I do believe a lot of Americans are ignorant towards Asian Americans sadly even in 2026.

Now and then, I tell a story about dining at an infamous Asian buffet in my area in my childhood. This buffet has since closed. One evening, I was dining with family when two servers who literally both looked like the actress Zhang Ziyi got in a verbal and physical fight right in front of my family. There was a time period in elementary school at this buffet when the owner was literally employing the most gorgeous women, and having them dress in heels, tights, and nice dresses. I am not saying they both looked like Zhang Ziyi because they were both beautiful and Asian but they seriously did resemble her. It was wild watching two women who look like her fight because I was a fan and still am of her work.

Does this sound like a microaggression? Am I overthinking it? Is there a way I can word this better? I want to be sure I’m not saying anything that could be taken as hurtful because I’ve definitely heard people say ignorant things about Asian people. Asian people have contributed a lot to US history and they aren’t a stereotype.

There are reasons a student might be quiet. Whatever those reasons are they do not deserve harassment.

I’m a healthy female in her 30s in northern Appalachia, USA.

My parents are very healthy and in their 70s. Most of my family members are 75+ and doing well.

My uncle is 75 and a doctor. I’m scared he could catch hantavirus. During Ebola a decade ago he refused to see any patient who went to certain West African countries was a smart choice in his private practice. I assume maybe he can refuse to see anybody who went to Argentina?

My cousin and his wife just had a tiny preemie baby who has weak lungs. I’m terrified he could get sick.
I never had chicken pox and am planning on getting the chicken pox shot for him….Now this hantavirus happens. I want to keep him safe.

Please help!

Learning Swedish, want to read some Swedish YA books preferably by Swedish authors. Tack!

The Burkes moved to Texas right before D4vd started high school.

I’ve worked in US schools. I also know upper middle class families who pulled their problem child out of public school or moved away before 9th or 10th grade. I know someone who was an heir to a grocery store brand who got expelled and his family was super hush hush about it. They sent him to live with another family member. I to this day don’t know what the final straw was for the kid to get expelled.

I’m busy today so here’s the short of it: my theory is D4vd probably said creepy stuff and/or was watching creepy stuff on computers in the New York school. He was probably submitting weird assigmments. Teachers probably had concerns and raised this to his parents. I’m also highly willing to bet he found ways to use technology inappropriately at school or a library. No one has outright came out and said D4vd was being severely bullied in New York. He was probably a loner and more socially excluded but not beat up take your lunch money. Depending on the school he might have gone to a magnet school for nerdy kids NYC has good schools like that. So he might not have been a bullying target by kids at his school in the traditional sense.

D4vd’s parents probably didn’t want people finding out their son was a weirdo and moved away. If D4vd went to high school, he might have been placed in psychiatric care. The schools would have given him an IEP and placed him in emotional support. Some schools in Houston might not have even had emotional support in the late 2010s and wouldn’t accept D4vd if this is the case.

I graduated in 2012 from a rural high school.

I can admit my own flaws. I was pushed along and passed to 9th grade when I failed Honors Algebra I in 8th grade. I was a kid who frankly needed to repeat and cried before her 8th grade graduation because I knew with my ADHD and late birthday I wasn’t ready. I wish I had been redshirted. My mom’s birthday is September 7, and she started at 4 so she assumed I’d be fine because she was.
My parents were very strict about academics and grades. I had to come home and study. When I failed math they took it even further. I studied math every night with my dad. I wasn’t allowed to have a job in high school. I also wasn’t allowed to drive or have a car until I was 22 because they felt academics are more important. I wasn’t allowed to play sports. My life was nothing but homework and reading sometimes. I was told it was partly because I failed and that isn’t happening again.

I’d say 75% of kids I knew at my school failed a class and their parents let them have jobs, bought them a car, play sports, extracurriculars, even told them grades don’t matter until college. Study halls at my school were kids sitting and talking and you got laughed at if you pulled out homework. My dad told me I needed to do homework at school but I didn’t want to get bullied.

How many parents are this permissive about school? When did it get this way?