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i’m 19 but i have strict parents and i have never even gone to a concert without them before. but now that i’m in college, the opportunity has arisen- there’s a concert my friend and i would like to go to but it’s on a school night and my parents were not pleased with that when i brought it up to them. i know im technically a grown adult and this probably sounds silly bc any other person my age would do whatever they want, but i just am afraid of getting in trouble with them especially since i rely on them financially 😭 now the thing is- my friend already bought tickets for both of us just to secure a chance of us going, before i really had time to think it over how id pull it off. i go to college upstate ny and the concert would be in the city (home for me) so i would have to take the bus and miss like two days of class and a shift of my on campus job, i feel especially guilty abt that and if i can catch up on work.

im able to stay with the friend at her house and everything so that i dont have to tell my parents im missing school but im just really nervous abt running into my parents while im in the city and just overall terrified how they’d react if they ever found out. at this point im considering not going and just selling the ticket, i had to do this with another concert i had hoped to go to and it was on the weekend but id be going alone and i knew my parents would still disapprove. i hate that they still control my life but im just feeling super guilty about going behind their back (and about missing class too). i also have to add they pay for my tuition so that adds another layer of guilt and scared of ruining that. but i also haven’t been to a concert with a friend and overall haven’t been to a concert in 3 years (and only been to 2 in my life). i want to experience fun in my youth after being so sheltered but idk i feel stuck. any advice?

i’m 19 but i have strict parents and i have never even gone to a concert without them before. but now that i’m in college, the opportunity has arisen- there’s a concert my friend and i would like to go to but it’s on a school night and my parents were not pleased with that when i brought it up to them. i know im technically a grown adult and this probably sounds silly bc any other person my age would do whatever they want, but i just am afraid of getting in trouble with them especially since i rely on them financially 😭 now the thing is- my friend already bought tickets for both of us just to secure a chance of us going, before i really had time to think it over how id pull it off. i go to college upstate ny and the concert would be in the city (home for me) so i would have to take the bus and miss like two days of class and a shift of my on campus job, i feel especially guilty abt that and if i can catch up on work.

i am able to stay with the friend at her house and everything so that i dont have to tell my parents im missing school but im just really nervous abt running into my parents while im in the city and just overall terrified how they’d react if they ever found out. at this point im considering not going and just selling the ticket, i had to do this with another concert i had hoped to go to and it was on the weekend but id be going alone and i knew my parents would still disapprove. i hate that they still control my life but im just feeling super guilty about going behind their back (and about missing class too). also they pay my tuition so adds another layer of guilt and afraid of ruining that. any advice?

i am a college student and i want to get a tote bag and carry my laptop, stanley water bottle and one or two books maybe, which bag style do u guys reccomend? nervous abt it getting too heavy/dirty but i do rly want to use a tote rather than a backpack and have been obsessed with vera bradley lately 💗

i am in college about to go into my sophomore year and i got lucky to meet some amazing friends during freshman year recently. two guys and me- we all became a little trio and it was going so well. but i did notice that they were both closer with each other than me individually, and soon after they told me that they started dating. i sensed that this might’ve been coming and i am so happy for them, but i also can’t lie that i was terrified for what this would mean for the future of our friendship. also i am a hopeless romantic who has never been in a relationship or even had my first kiss so being single and seeing other people be in love is one of my biggest struggles. they promised me they didn’t want to exclude me and would try their best to make me feel valued but it’s been really difficult for me and i feel like such a terrible person because i know they don’t intend to hurt me and they’re amazing people. but it’s so hard knowing how close they are- that they call every night for hours and definitely talk about me behind my back, even if it’s nothing bad. i feel like i don’t have a solid relationship with them individually anymore- i did at first with one of them (ill call him mike) and then he introduced me to the other (ill call him jack) and so me and jack are less close than me and mike, honestly not super close at all. and now i don’t feel close anymore to mike. knowing that they’ll always prioritize each other over me hurts. every time we are together now (and keep in mind it is on facetime for now until we head back to campus), it’s always them bantering with each other which has been how they are even before they started dating but now it’s even more different and i just feel like im there to laugh at their jokes and be supportive but i don’t feel like they really care about me as me. even when i try and talk to them about my personal life, i feel ignored- thats a whole other tangent though that i won’t get into too much but tldr ive been struggling with my mental health and although they say they’re a safe space to lean on, every time i try and talk about how i feel their response is always vague support or leaving me on seen. they’ve expressed that it’s because they don’t know what to say but they still care about me and i guess i get it but it makes me feel like im too much for them. i just feel like overall this friendship is falling apart and im not truly valued by them and they’re just a package deal and i dont even have a chance to build a deeper relationship with them individually. and i have other friends ofc but i still don’t wanna lose them- we’ve grown so close in just one school year and one summer and we even are trying to get a trip planned for spring break and ofc some other hangouts but im dreading it a bit knowing that my friendship with them might be approaching its expiration date. im so sorry for the long rant idk what to do

i (19f) am in college about to go into my sophomore year and i got lucky to meet some amazing friends during freshman year recently. two guys and me- we all became a little trio and it was going so well. but i did notice that they were both closer with each other than me individually, and soon after they told me that they started dating. i sensed that this might’ve been coming and i am so happy for them, but i also can’t lie that i was terrified for what this would mean for the future of our friendship. also i am a hopeless romantic who has never been in a relationship or even had my first kiss so being single and seeing other people be in love is one of my biggest struggles. they promised me they didn’t want to exclude me and would try their best to make me feel valued but it’s been really difficult for me and i feel like such a terrible person because i know they don’t intend to hurt me and they’re amazing people. but it’s so hard knowing how close they are- that they call every night for hours and definitely talk about me behind my back, even if it’s nothing bad. i feel like i don’t have a solid relationship with them individually anymore- i did at first with one of them (ill call him mike) and then he introduced me to the other (ill call him jack) and so me and jack are less close than me and mike, honestly not super close at all. and now i don’t feel close anymore to mike. knowing that they’ll always prioritize each other over me hurts. every time we are together now (and keep in mind it is on facetime for now until we head back to campus), it’s always them bantering with each other which has been how they are even before they started dating but now it’s even more different and i just feel like im there to laugh at their jokes and be supportive but i don’t feel like they really care about me as me. even when i try and talk to them about my personal life, i feel ignored- thats a whole other tangent though that i won’t get into too much but tldr ive been struggling with my mental health and although they say they’re a safe space to lean on, every time i try and talk about how i feel their response is always vague support or leaving me on seen. they’ve expressed that it’s because they don’t know what to say but they still care about me and i guess i get it but it makes me feel like im too much for them. i just feel like overall this friendship is falling apart and im not truly valued by them and they’re just a package deal and i dont even have a chance to build a deeper relationship with them individually. and i have other friends ofc but i still don’t wanna lose them- we’ve grown so close in just one school year and one summer and we even are trying to get a trip planned for spring break and ofc some other hangouts but im dreading it a bit knowing that my friendship with them might be approaching its expiration date. im so sorry for the long rant idk what to do

this is so random sorry but i’m 19 and my mom wants me to invest money in a company but im scared to invest somewhere that supports israel 😭 is there any way to avoid doing so? i feel bad like she’s forcing me to open an account and invest and i wanna be ethical but idk where to begin

[19 F] hi so i’m still a virgin and i’ve never been in a relationship or even had my first kiss, and i am pretty sure i am bi and attracted to guys and girls but it’s difficult to know what i like when i’ve never even had any sexual experiences. like i am open to intimacy with both genders, but i am also not a hookup person and i def need to know that person well and preferably be in a relationship with them to think about having sex. and as i’ve said i’ve never even been close to being in a relationship before so it just feels hopeless that i’ll be able to figure it out. i guess what im saying is i always worry that maybe ill date a guy and have sex with him and think it’s good/fine but wonder if maybe im just settling and having sex with a girl could be more satisfying, but the other way as well i would also wonder what its like. basically i wish i could experiment but it feels impossible with my situation and i just dont even know anymore :( also romantically as well i dont quite know what would be right for me id be happy to have a bf or a gf but my preference changes a lot and i just dont know how to figure it out unless i actually get into a relationship which i am trying to but no luck. and i am not one to just get into a relationship one after another im looking for a serious commitment but at the same time im nervous abt accidentally maybe thinking im bi when i might be lesbian or even straight idk.

if im gonna be honest it feels so embarrassing to say but i think i have more of an emotional connection to guys and could see myself with a guy romantically, but with a girl im afraid if it would feel like just a super deep friendship. and i dont have deep friendships often with girls but i do with guys- not to sound like a pick me but it just has happened this way. so i dont even know how to be with a girl. i think i struggle heavily with Comphet tho- im sorry this is gonna sound rly heteronormative but i find myself wanting a boyfriend so i could like just feel like a princess and feel protected and like taken care of and im scared with a woman ill have to take on the “masc” role even though i am very aware gender roles shouldn’t exist in a wlw relationship. but unfortunately my brain has been programmed to feel like there is. but im still very much into women but idk im so confused as u can see as to what is going on with me when it comes to both. like with guys i wasn’t always physically attracted to them i used to neverrrr want sex with a guy but now id be open to it- but im very picky with the type of guy and scared i wont like it.

just to preface i’m 19 and still trying to educate myself about politics so please bear with me 😭 i am very left leaning, but i am not sure if i can call myself a leftist because i am not 100% sure about where the line is drawn between being liberal and leftist. i am against capitalism, hate trump, pro lgbtq pro choice anti ice, pro palestine, want free healthcare for all, the list goes on like all of the leftist values i can think of but i recently heard that being anti gun would mean i’m liberal, and i have to admit i am anti gun. so i feel like weird now bc i guess then people will consider me a liberal when truly i identify with leftist so much, but now i feel like an imposter. so yeah idk im sorry if i offend anyone i dont mean to be ignorant im just trying to learn

19f i don’t wanna get too much into it because it’s exhausting, but being at home for the summer has truly tested me. i have no privacy i don’t have my own room and never have- i have to sleep in the living room, sharing the space with my younger brother. my parents are always upset at me for no reason, saying that i do nothing and that im lazy, but ive literally applied to over 20 jobs and not heard back, believe me im trying to get busy and out of the house. and my younger brother gets his way with everything, whether it’s keeping the air conditioner on all day even when i wanted it off just for a few hours, or never having to do any chores, etc. no one treats me like an actual human being who deserves respect. my mom got so mad at me and took my headphones and broke them in half and threw them out in the trash. i feel so hopeless i’ve never felt so low and never wanted to go back to college more idk what to do

19f i am so insecure and i’m tired of it. i’ve been trying to love myself, and tell myself i don’t need anyone else and i don’t care what people think of me but the truth is i am so lonely and have had my feelings hurt so many times. i’ve been absolutely torn down- i’ve always struggled with friendships, friends not caring as much as i do, friends abandoning me, and it’s always made me feel like crap about myself and wonder what i’m doing wrong. i’ve never been in a relationship, never had my first kiss and barely any romantic attention from guys, and even if i think i’m generally pretty and would make a great gf it still hurts to feel like no one else is genuinely interested in me. it gets so lonely trying to convince myself that i’m fine on my own, i want someone to be there for me whether it’s being a loyal friend or being with me romantically, i want someone to love me and not leave me. i know the cliche advice that no one will love you if you don’t love yourself but to me that’s stupid and makes no sense. no matter how much time i spend on my own and tell myself i don’t need to accept bad treatment and if someone leaves me it’s their loss/that my time will come for romance and i’m still beautiful inside and out, the lack of physical evidence to prove that discourages me. and it’s just so isolating, humans are social creatures we need companionship! and i just keep wondering if im truly so amazing like i think i am, why can’t i attract/keep good relationships in my life? why am i alone? i don’t know what to do anymore :(

i’m 19f and my whole life my mom my dad and my brother and i have lived in a one bedroom apartment. we’re not poor- my brother and i both go to private schools so they’re paying for that, and we’ve always had more than enough food and water and like material possessions idk how to put that properly, but i suppose it’s really hard to find an affordable place to live in our area because i know that this isn’t a situation my parents wanted us to be in. they’ve always wanted to move but we never have and honestly at this point it frustrates the hell out of me because i think any place would be better than where we are. i’ve never had my own room- the bedroom is my parents’ room, and my brother (who is 16) and i have always slept in the living room. we have our own beds, and i do have one of those bamboo folding screen things and a little curtain attached to it to create a closed off area, but closed off is a very generous word because i still have no walls and anyone can enter whenever they want, which happens all the time. i have privacy to change ofc, but still if the lights are out at night for my brother, they’re out for me so i can’t even go to bed when i want to. i can’t really talk on the phone with my friends without listening ears, can’t watch shows or play music comfortably without headphones, so much more. and my brother is always in the way, whether playing video games or working out and he’s so noisy and it drives me nuts. i’m so used to it at this point but i just wish my parents would finally find a way for us to move and honestly resent them for this even if it’s out of their control i guess because i feel like it gets to a point where you have to prioritize this over other expenses. and you might be thinking why not just move out but i am nowhere in the financial position to afford that, as a broke college student. hopefully by the time i graduate (in two years) we will have moved but if not then honestly i feel like what a waste anyways because eventually i will move out, if not right after graduation then as soon as i get my $ up.

19f i am so insecure and i’m tired of it. i’ve been trying to love myself, and tell myself i don’t need anyone else and i don’t care what people think of me but the truth is i am so lonely and have had my feelings hurt so many times. i’ve been absolutely torn down- i’ve always struggled with friendships, friends not caring as much as i do, friends abandoning me, and it’s always made me feel like crap about myself and wonder what i’m doing wrong. i’ve never been in a relationship, never had my first kiss and barely any romantic attention from guys, and even if i think i’m generally pretty and would make a great gf it still hurts to feel like no one else is genuinely interested in me. it gets so lonely trying to convince myself that i’m fine on my own, i want someone to be there for me whether it’s being a loyal friend or being with me romantically, i want someone to love me and not leave me. i know the cliche advice that no one will love you if you don’t love yourself but to me that’s stupid and makes no sense. no matter how much time i spend on my own and tell myself i don’t need to accept bad treatment and if someone leaves me it’s their loss/that my time will come for romance and i’m still beautiful inside and out, the lack of physical evidence to prove that discourages me. and it’s just so isolating, humans are social creatures we need companionship! and i just keep wondering if im truly so amazing like i think i am, why can’t i attract/keep good relationships in my life? why am i alone? i don’t know what to do anymore :(

does anyone know why my iphone 13 overheats like anytime i’m using it not even just when it’s charging! i use it without it charging and it’s still like actually hot uncomfortable to use and this happens multiple times a day. i’ve been thinking about getting a new phone eventually but overall it isn’t like broken so im gonna hold off but why might this be? it’s so frustrating

so sad that the nyc planting tomatoes screening is sold out already :( does anyone think the waitlist will actually do anything bc i signed up. i’m literally from
nyc born and raised i could’ve hopped on the train. got an email from seated at 12pm today which is how i found out but when i clicked they were already gone! it’s not the end of the world though :,)

i’m 19f and still a virgin and i feel so behind, i’ve never even been in a relationship or had my first kiss, so i feel like hooking up with a stranger wouldn’t be a good idea. but like i also don’t want to wait till marriage and i really want to have sex but i feel like even if i wanted to do casual it wouldn’t be a good idea for my first time. and honestly i do crave a connection as well. it’s just hard because i can’t do anything about this until i get a boyfriend which is a whole different thing, im still waiting for that to happen. i feel ashamed as a girl like no offense but i feel like there’s way more virgin guys than girls

hi i’ve never had a boyfriend before not even my first kiss or even held hands romantically and i’ve been trying to manifest for years. i tell myself i already have a boyfriend/i will meet him he already exists, i also tried that technique where you write down every trait you want in a partner in detail and then put it aside. im always looking into manifesting and learning to manifest other things as well and it seems the key is just to let go and forget about it but that feels impossible since i really want this with all of my heart. does anyone have any tips?

hi i’ve never had a boyfriend before not even my first kiss or even held hands romantically and i’ve been trying to manifest for years. i tell myself i already have a boyfriend/i will meet him he already exists, i also tried that technique where you write down every trait you want in a partner in detail and then put it aside. im always looking into manifesting and learning to manifest other things as well and it seems the key is just to let go and forget about it but that feels impossible since i really want this with all of my heart. does anyone have any tips?