u/Potential_Shelter449

As someone who has been lifting for most of my life, I have your typical callous hands. My wife does not like it. I know some women say they like their men’s hands to be rough because it feels more manly and masculine… well mine doesn’t.

One big reason is, and this is going to get graphic, my hands are rough so during sex when I’m touching her around her body or even when I try to finger her, it doesn’t always feel great and even sometimes hurts. The issue is that she can’t orgasm through penetration so clitorial stimulation is the only way. So she even wants me to wear lifting gloves.

It makes me feel emasculated because I’ve always felt like men don’t use that. Also even when I was in high school wrestling when I first started lifting, my coach used to call the squat pads “p u s s y pads” so it’s drilled in my head that using pads and gloves is unmanly.

And plus I do like having some callous. It definitely makes doing yard work and lifting heavy objects around the house easier and less prone to cuts.

Not sure how to go about this. It’s not ruining our sex life but it’s definitely not allowing the best.

For August exam. 49% not sure what to think of that.

According to AI that’s a pretty low score.

Seems like according to a post yesterday many of you felt like the exams you just took was way different than Kaplan and you guys felt like it was way too difficult.

But I’m assuming you guys also did the official mock beforehand too? If so, how close was it to the actual exam you took?

Just did Schweser Q Bank with 100 questions and got a 57. Some I got lucky on guessing but that’s balanced out by a few that I got wrong from not reading the questions right.

Also did their checkpoint for book 3 and 4 and got a 43.33 percent. Feeling super defeated right now. I work full time and have a wife and child and feel like I don’t have time to study before August.

I’m going to be doing my first Mock exam this weekend. Going to do a GARP one first and then see how I do and then do a Schweser one in a week or so and then do another Schweser one sometime in mid January followed by a final GARP one maybe by July.

I get that some of you are going to be like “oh bro you have almost 3 months” but that doesn’t seem like that long of a time frame given my situation

You see it all the time. The high violent crime rate (I’m not even talking about drugs) in this population but blaming it on “systemic racism” instead of focusing on the cultural such as single motherhood and the culture of not promoting higher education and hard work.

Just look at Chicago, multiple stores have closed down due to theft and violent crimes and yet instead of blaming the community for doing bad things they blame the stores for doing it.

I’ll give another anecdotal evidence. There is a Walmart in my city that is probably the most ratchet Walmart I’ve ever been to. They tried self checkout for just 2 months despite spending all the money and then went right back to cashier check outs. And guess what, 85-90% of people that shop here are that population.

On top of that, you have ratchet behaviors. Look at longhorn steakhouse incident, look at spring break in Florida, look at the recent trending thing about teens kicking cars and breaking things, etc.

I even heard someone in THEIR community recently come out with the term “ratchet tax” where you have to travel further or spend more money to avoid ratchet people which he admitted it’s mostly his community.

The issue is that when you bring these issues up, the left just calls it “systemic racism” rather than holding their actions accountable and frankly people are tired of it. The concept of “fatigue” has been gaining momentum on social media over the past years.

The left teaches them “hey it’s not your fault! People who hate what you do are the bad ones. It’s okay to do what you’re doing” and all it’s doing is causing other populations to hate them more.

I think I’m experiencing the age old issue where the woman wants emotional support and husband wants to solve the issue.

Like literally last night, we were staying somewhere not home and she complained the room was hot and I was like “umm I’m not sure what we can do about it.” She yelled at me “just sympathize with me!!” I’m like wtf??

Also a few weeks ago, she wasn’t feeling well, I immediately went into okay what’s wrong? What can we do about it? And so forth. She’s like “just sympathize with me and show that you care and you understand how I’m feeling.

Or she’s complaining about work and not sure what she wants to do with her career, I’m immediately like okay let’s figure it out and how to proceed forward and she’s like “yeah hear me out. I just want you to listen. I don’t want you to solve my problems”

Like this kinda thinking makes no fucking sense to me. I told her while I can work on it, it’s not because I don’t care. I didn’t care then I wouldn’t be spending my time doing anything to help her. Because I’m going”okay my wife has something negative in her life she doesn’t like. How do I eliminate that negative thing?”

I told her it’s like you saying “hey I’m bleeding out here” and then getting mad at me for trying to bandage her bleeding with “I just want you to empathize with my bleeding”… like wtf??!! But she didn’t care about my logic. Like when shit happens and I don’t like it, I like to solve it and eliminate the issue. Not just go “oh this sucks. Please hear me complain” because that solves nothing.

She feels like not sympathizing is me not emotionally connecting with her.

As much as I dislike fielding and want to blame his kicks, his kicks are only a small part of the whole game. Now that he’s gone, we don’t have to worry about that anymore. But other than him there were just bad play calls.

What do you think were main reasons for our losses and what calls were bad and how do you think it’ll be different this year?

I know for me it seemed like once we beat Michigan, Day just didn’t care as much anymore despite saying he plans to win national championship back to back.

Like the game against Miami felt sluggish.. sayin was scared to throw the ball and if I remember correctly literally the final touchdown, our guys looked like they just straight up gave up.

I’m in my 30s now. I recently had a conversation with my dad about how I finally started taking meds (which he is very against) after diagnosis. He was not happy about it but accepted that as an adult he can’t control me anymore. My wife had complained about my adhd for years and I also know that I’ve barely been able to hold down good paying corporate jobs due to lack of attention to details when my job required that.

I told my dad that I’ve had it since I was a kid.. I couldn’t focus and I struggled in school.. although I did super well the last 2 years of high school because I was trying to prove that I can do well and also persuade him to let me learn to drive.

My teachers all said that I showed signs of it and he refused to believe it.. I then struggled in college too.. I said I just couldn’t focus and all my life growing up he just said I was lazy and I was nothing like him.

He grew up in a very poor rural part of China and got his PhD in immunology and came to the US. Said he would study like 10-12 hours a day in the past. He’s like “you think I wanted to?? I didn’t.. I forced myself to” and he felt like I just wasn’t willing to work hard and force myself to study.

It’s so frustrating that because he doesn’t trust doctors, even now, he won’t believe that I have adhd.

I remember him telling my teacher “well he can focus when he watches tv” and them going “that’s literally adhd symptom!!” And yet still nothing clicked.