It’s sad that such events need to happen but tourist should realise that Albania is not a sex tourism country, nor a passport bro destination. Respect the local culture , respect the local people , listen to them and behave , enjoy your time.
I was watching the news and apparently some women use this as a tactic to grab fast money. The problem is, this isn’t the West. No one gives a fuck. If you go complain to the police with some bullshit story, they’ll probably look at you like you’re crazy and move on.
Apparently it’s more common in the south, around Himara and Vlora. Pretty sad level of desperation.
Whenever posts like this appear, nobody focuses on the fact that men generally are being accused of sexual immorality with zero proof. Instead, everyone immediately debates the surrounding context: whether Muslim men prefer Latinas, whether they “use” some women and marry others, whether the stereotype is accurate, etc.
But the accusation itself gets treated like background noise.
dk if it’s the app or what, but you barely see any “traditional Islam” around here. Most Islamic subs feel like different shades of liberal washed Islam. You can tell from the posts, what people choose to emphasize, and the way they argue ,usually from the harm principle, not upsetting people, preserving social comfort, avoiding hard edges, keeping everything balanced and inoffensive. It’s visible.these are mostly secular / liberal values by which morality is filtered, not Islamic one.
That’s why I found this flair section strange. There aren’t just ‘progressives’ in the sense of people born in Muslim countries who no longer really believe; the progressive framework itself is also being rationalized and absorbed by people who still call themselves traditional Muslims.
Nuk e di po me duket shum kontradiktore kjo pjesa.
Ca funksioni luan nje qeveri pak me e mire kur nuk ke njerez? 😂 dhe neqoftese e eleminojm interesin e vendit dhe mbrojtjen e identitetit shqiptar si argument, prap ndikojn ne nje nivel personal zhvendosjet e popullsive , njerzit nuk i perkasin nje ekosistemi me kulture apo identitet te perbashket, kthehesh ne vizitor ne vendin tend; rruget nuk jan te sigurta sepse personi mesatar do te behet nje i huaj jo nje bashkatdhetar. Jam kurioz kto pederastat qe protestojn per projekte resorti apo pula deti, a e kan konsideruar faktin qe ne 30 vite shqiptaret do jene minoritet ne vendin e tyre? Nuk e di po me duket se nuk ju pengon mjaftueshem kjo pjesa, ka probleme me fundametale me shoqerine shqiptare dhe politikave pro emigrimit qe qeverite sjellin, jetojm ne nje shoqeri kurvash ku preservimi i flamingove merr me shum prioritet se preservimi i popullates lokale…
With younger generations becoming more dominant on social media, I also think the quality and manner in which these platforms are used have declined.
Or is internet mainstream culture just sample bias from Western Muslims and the lowest, loudest category of women, who are more expressive and visible but not necessarily the majority?
Turkey -Absolute power unit. The whole stereotype of the Balkans is basically cultural breadcrumbs from Turkish urban culture. You see these nations talking about “burek this” and “cevapi that,” and it’s just Turkish grade four cuisine packaged with Slavic names.
Serbia -Serbs are respectable enemies. We have to be realistic. They started four wars, they have that very badass historical aesthetic: Arkan with a stolen baby tiger, soldiers with masks in the background, more self respect as a nation, and they don’t suck up to Europe as much as us. Good hooligan culture too, looks cool. They produced cool weapons and can compete with us when it comes to mafia, so yes, respectable enemies.
Bosnia and Herzegovina -To be honest, I’ve said this before and one of my posts got removed for it, but I don’t believe Bosnia truly exists. What is Bosnia? What’s their origin? How did they even get here? It feels like everyone woke up one day and just saw that Bosnia existed without asking how or why. In my opinion, Bosnia is not actually real.
Greece -To be honest, I don’t know what to say about Greece. They’re supposed to be enemies, and they are, but something doesn’t make sense about them. They’re supposed to have this superior history, but personally, I have never seen or heard of an impressive Greek individual. Has anyone here ever seen an impressive Greek, or ever been impressed by a Greek? Whatever their history is, it has failed to manifest itself in individual brilliance. When someone hears the word “Greek,” there’s no real stereotype in it.
Montenegro -Same issue as Bosnia. They’re above us, and sometimes I forget there’s an actual country there. I have never seen a Montenegrin. You know what? I’ve never said this before because it’s controversial, but for me, all these Slavic mini-nations are basically Serbs. It just depends what kind of Serbs they are, based on population and state power. Bosnia is more like loud Serbs, while Montenegro is westernised quiet Serbs. It’s just a spectrum of power.
Romania -I mean, they’re kind of cool in a way, I guess. They feel a bit distinct and ancient. No major individual value in terms of worldly influence, but still better than Greece. Romania has Andrew Tate. What does Greece have?
Slovenia -I’m not even going to enter there. There’s nothing to discuss about them at this point. Not relevant enough to belong.
Dje ishte nje njolle kombetare.
Ne nje dite kur u perfaqesuam si shtet, sportisti e promovoi ndeshjen rreth konceptit te te qenurit shqiptar. Ai pesoi nje humbje turperuese ne raundin e dyte, duke u larguar nga beteja i frikesuar.
Ky eshte njollim dhe kontribut negativ kunder identitetit shqiptar.
Ne momentin kur perdor identitetin shqiptar per te promovuar veten, ndeshjen dhe per te premtuar fitore, dhe pastaj deshton ta justifikosh ate investim, demi nuk mbetet me vetem tek individi. Demi kthehet drejt kombit tone.
Prandaj shteti shqiptar duhet ta konsideroje non grata per perdhosje te identitetit kombetar.
Shume boksier humbin, por nuk pretendojne te perfaqesojne nacionalitetin si bosht te gjithe narratives se tyre. Ata thjesht humbin duke perfaqesuar veten.
Problemi nuk eshte humbja ne vetvete. Problemi eshte konteksti qe na beri te dukemi keq.
I don’t even know what to call it. Lurking?
But honestly, this sub is entertaining.
The posts, the complaints, the simps, women warning each other about alt accounts, the gender debates.
It feels like a mini TV show at this point.
I’m curious what people see as ChatGPT’s biggest weakness. I often see very different complaints,and recommendations for other AI models,but they all end up being lumped together as if they’re the same issue.
I just want to see which complaint is actually the most common.
Edit : Same issue for me: it’s the high guardrails.
But I’ve realised that low guardrails don’t work unless they’re combined with strong reasoning and contextual focus. Otherwise, you just end up talking to an unfiltered troll, not an advanced machine.
That’s the issue with AIs like Grok.
The leap from:
X event happened
to:
therefore you learned to do Y
feels impossible to actually prove.
Most of the time it looks like a reverse engineered conclusion. A bad habit exists now, and then people search through your childhood to find some event they can attach it to.
“Ah, you do this because that happened.”
Maybe.
But that doesn’t prove anything.
Also, the whole idea seems to revolve around:
you had a bad experience, and that bad experience shaped you.
But that is unavoidable.
Hurt, fear, humiliation, failure.these are all normal parts of life.
Everyone has experiences that shape how they act later.
So if “trauma” just means:
an event affected your behaviour
then everyone has trauma by necessity.
And if everyone has trauma, then why even call it trauma?
At that point, the word doesn’t describe something distinct anymore.
It just becomes another way of saying:
life happened to you, and it shaped you.
Which brings us back to life before therapy language.
Back then, this was simply called life.
So in a way, I feel like trauma response is a modern interpretation of the raw realities of life clashing with the perfectionist expectations of a comfort-based society.Almost as if the purpose of the term is to tell you: “this isn’t normal.”
But okay, even if we accept that ,can you actually prove it could have been avoided?
Because that’s the part I don’t get. Life necessarily shapes people.
It often sounds like it’s treating the basic consequences of being alive as some abnormal malfunction.
Yeah, maybe it affects the person, but can you prove that a human being can go through life without being affected by life?
Now someone can say: “not all traumas are the same.”
But that kind of defeats the whole purpose of therapy language, because now you’re bringing comparison back into something that is usually framed as deeply personal and subjective.
And even then, it still misses the point.
Because the argument was never that every painful experience is objectively the same. Obviously they’re not. The point is that something doesn’t have to be objectively huge to still affect a specific person.
The leap from:
X event happened
to:
therefore you learned to do Y
feels impossible to actually prove.
Most of the time it looks like a reverse engineered conclusion. A bad habit exists now, and then people search through your childhood to find some event they can attach it to.
“Ah, you do this because that happened.”
Maybe.
But that doesn’t prove anything.
Also, the whole idea seems to revolve around:
you had a bad experience, and that bad experience shaped you.
But that is unavoidable.
Hurt, fear, humiliation, rejection, failure, shame .these are all normal parts of life.
Everyone has experiences that shape how they act later.
So if “trauma” just means:
an event affected your behaviour
then everyone has trauma by necessity.
And if everyone has trauma, then why even call it trauma?
At that point, the word doesn’t describe something distinct anymore.
It just becomes another way of saying:
life happened to you, and it shaped you.
Which brings us back to life before therapy language.
Back then, this was simply called life.
So in a way, I feel like trauma response is a modern interpretation of the raw realities of life clashing with the perfectionist expectations of a comfort-based society.Almost as if the purpose of the term is to tell you: “this isn’t normal.”
But okay, even if we accept that ,can you actually prove it could have been avoided?
Because that’s the part I don’t get. Life necessarily shapes people.
It often sounds like it’s treating the basic consequences of being alive as some abnormal malfunction.
Yeah, maybe it affects the person, but can you prove that a human being can go through life without being affected by life?
Now someone can say: “not all traumas are the same.”
But that kind of defeats the whole purpose of therapy language, because now you’re bringing comparison back into something that is usually framed as deeply personal and subjective.
And even then, it still misses the point.
Because the argument was never that every painful experience is objectively the same. Obviously they’re not. The point is that something doesn’t have to be objectively huge to still affect a specific person.
It seems like there’s an asymmetry that resembles dating apps and not truly a marriage matrimonial.
Women write about what men they are looking for.
While men seem to desperately try to prove their value.
“Umm I’m a witty guy 🥲”
It’s a bit sad.
Actual matrimonials are about a short background of the person writing and what they’re interested in, for both sides.
If I was a woman and I added height as a requirement, and a man actually found nothing wrong with it, I’d immediately lose respect.
Like why are you auditioning yourself to my shallow evaluation?
It’s actually a good indirect test for women to see who’s actually a man.
Because the moment she says “preferred height” and a guy reacts with:
“right here ✋ I’m 6’0”
you already know what you’re dealing with.
That’s the kind of person you could step over if you wanted to.
For some women, maybe that’s a good opportunity if they’re interested in a dynamic where she’s the man and he’s the one trying to qualify under her checklist.
But in terms of real attraction and healthy Islamic marriage, it’s a good test.
Not to see who qualifies by height.
To see who qualifies as a man.
Naseeb doesn’t mean there’s a prince out there waiting for permission from fate to reveal himself.
The simplified concept of naseeb is: whatever you get was meant for you.
Which includes not getting anything …
That’s it, not related to matrimonial but it’s just cringe seeing some of these on my feed
It might not be explicit adult content in the old sense, but it is still suggestive, implicit, and constantly pointing in that direction.
It’s always something like:
“when he does X and then…”
“when she says Y but…”
“pov: you understood the joke…”
Basically, it lets people use their imagination to connect the dots.
All under the disguise of:
“do you get it? hehe”
Even humour itself feels sexualised now. The internet idea of comedy is often just turning normal sentences into innuendo.
And I genuinely don’t get it.
People worry about what shows their kids watch or what websites they visit, but then those same kids can get the same kind of suggestive framing from 20 minutes of normal scrolling.
Not from searching for anything. Just from the feed itself.
The jokes, captions, comments, trends, memes,everything keeps nudging in that direction. It’s not hidden; it’s just softened enough to pass as humour.
It might not be explicit porn in the old sense, but it is still implicit porn, suggestive porn, indicative porn.
It’s always something like:
“when he does X and then…”
“when she says Y but…”
“pov: you understood the joke…”
Basically, it lets people use their imagination to connect the dots.
All under the disguise of:
“Do you get it? It’s about sex hehe 🤭”
Even humour itself seems to be porn now.
The internet idea of comedy is basically:
SEX!!! 🤭 ahahahaha
And I genuinely don’t get it.
People worry about what shows their kids watch, what websites they visit, what “bad content” they might find, but then those same kids can get that and worse from 20 minutes of scrolling social media.
Not even from searching for anything.
Just normal scrolling.
The feed itself leaks sexualisation everywhere.
The jokes, the captions, the comments, the trends, the “relatable” posts, the memes.
It’s not even hidden anymore. It’s just softened enough to look like humour.