u/SanFranPeach

Hi community -

I’m curious, did your period come on time while using vaginal progesterone after ovulation? Or was it delayed?

Thank you!

I took 5mg letrozole day 3-7. I didn’t feel a thing for any of those days, no symptoms, felt fine after stopping.

But suddenly on cycle day 14 (7 days after my last pill) I feel HORRENDOUS. Terrible headache, can hardly get out of bed, very nauseas, weird smell/food aversions.

I’m 100% not pregnant but many of the symptoms feel like when I was pregnant … especially the aversions to smells, foods, etc.

Anyway, it feels odd that it’s 7 days after my last pill that I suddenly feel so terrible. I’m trying to figure out if I have covid/some other illness or if it’s from the letrozole. Anyone else have such intense symptoms but super delayed? I honestly feel like I have the flu and was hit by a truck.

Thanks for any feedback or experiences!

I took 5mg letrozole day 3-7. I didn’t feel a thing for any of those days, no symptoms, felt fine after stopping.

But suddenly on cycle day 14 (7 days after my last pill) I feel HORRENDOUS. Terrible headache, can hardly get out of bed, very nauseas, weird smell/food aversions.

I’m 100% not pregnant but many of the symptoms feel like when I was pregnant … especially the aversions to smells, foods, etc.

Anyway, it feels odd that it’s 7 days after my last pill that I suddenly feel so terrible. I’m trying to figure out if I have covid/some other illness or if it’s from the letrozole. Anyone else have such intense symptoms but super delayed? I honestly feel like I have the flu and was hit by a truck.

Thanks for any feedback or experiences!

I took 5mg letrozole day 3-7. I didn’t feel a thing for any of those days, no symptoms, felt fine after stopping.

But suddenly on cycle day 14 (7 days after my last pill) I feel HORRENDOUS. Terrible headache, can hardly get out of bed, very nauseas, weird smell/food aversions.

I’m 100% not pregnant but many of the symptoms feel like when I was pregnant … especially the aversions to smells, foods, etc.

Anyway, it feels odd that it’s 7 days after my last pill that I suddenly feel so terrible. I’m trying to figure out if I have covid/some other illness or if it’s from the letrozole. Anyone else have such intense symptoms but super delayed? I honestly feel like I have the flu and was hit by a truck.

Thanks for any feedback or experiences!

I took 5mg letrozole day 3-7. I didn’t feel a thing for any of those days, no symptoms, felt fine after stopping.

But suddenly on cycle day 14 (7 days after my last pill) I feel HORRENDOUS. Terrible headache, can hardly get out of bed, very nauseas, weird smell/food aversions.

I’m 100% not pregnant but many of the symptoms feel like when I was pregnant … especially the aversions to smells, foods, etc.

Anyway, it feels odd that it’s 7 days after my last pill that I suddenly feel so terrible. I’m trying to figure out if I have covid/some other illness or if it’s from the letrozole. Anyone else have such intense symptoms but super delayed? I honestly feel like I have the flu and was hit by a truck.

Thanks for any feedback or experiences!

I took 5mg letrozole day 3-7. I didn’t feel a thing for any of those days, no symptoms, felt fine after stopping.

But suddenly on cycle day 14 (7 days after my last pill) I feel HORRENDOUS. Terrible headache, can hardly get out of bed, very nauseas, weird smell/food aversions.

I’m 100% not pregnant but many of the symptoms feel like when I was pregnant … especially the aversions to smells, foods, etc.

Anyway, it feels odd that it’s 7 days after my last pill that I suddenly feel so terrible. I’m trying to figure out if I have covid/some other illness or if it’s from the letrozole. Anyone else have such intense symptoms but super delayed? I honestly feel like I have the flu and was hit by a truck.

Thanks for any feedback or experiences!

Hello!

I’ve tried every other avenue I can think of with no luck so I’ve come to Reddit, as usual.

Flying from Seattle to London with three small kids. Flight was cancelled last night so we were put on the same flight tonight (24 hrs later), meaning we’ll be 24 hrs late picking up our already paid for rental mini van at Heathrow (rental is for 11 days, now 10).

We used Priceline to book and already paid for it. We’re not extending the reservation, just cutting it short by picking up a day late.

I called Priceline and they were useless (said to call europcar). Called europcar and it’s just an automated pick up saying to use the online portal. Can’t change anything this late in Priceline app.

After having a flight cancelled and toting three kids back and forth I’m trying to remove another variable mentally …. Will they “give” my res away when I show up 24 hrs later and tell me I have to book a whole new rental on the spot + lose what I already paid for the 11 day rental?!

Any advice? I just need them to know I’m coming late but there’s no way to communicate that :(

Hello!

I’ve tried every other avenue I can think of with no luck so I’ve come to Reddit, as usual.

Flying from Seattle to London with three small kids. Flight was cancelled last night so we were put on the same flight tonight (24 hrs later), meaning we’ll be 24 hrs late picking up our already paid for rental mini van at Heathrow (rental is for 11 days, now 10).

We used Priceline to book and already paid for it. We’re not extending the reservation, just cutting it short by picking up a day late.

I called Priceline and they were useless (said to call europcar). Called europcar and it’s just an automated pick up saying to use the online portal. Can’t change anything this late in Priceline app.

After having a flight cancelled and toting three kids back and forth I’m trying to remove another variable mentally …. Will they “give” my res away when I show up 24 hrs later and tell me I have to book a whole new rental on the spot + lose what I already paid for the 11 day rental?!

Any advice? I just need them to know I’m coming late but there’s no way to communicate that :(

Hi!

41/f, 3 LC conceived in mid/late 30s with no issues. Been trying for a fourth for almost 2 years with 3 MMCs.

I ovulate around say 16 every cycle (with a 24-26 day cycle). I ovulate/get surges but my doctor said I could try letrozole after 18+ months of no luck and all other tests/scans being normal.

I’m curious for anyone who ovulates but still tried letrozole, did it make you ovulate earlier than normal? If so, by how much?

My husband will be leaving on cycle day 14 for a work trip but I’m wondering if letrozole is still worth trying this cycle as I’ve heard it can make you ovulate early (aka if I normally ovulate day 16 then maybe I’ll ovulate earlier and him leaving day 14 will be ok).

Thanks so much for sharing!

Hi!

41/f, 3 LC conceived in mid/late 30s with no issues. Been trying for a fourth for almost 2 years with 3 MMCs.

I ovulate around say 16 every cycle (with a 24-26 day cycle). I ovulate/get surges but my doctor said I could try letrozole after 18+ months of no luck and all other tests/scans being normal.

I’m curious for anyone who ovulates but still tried letrozole, did it make you ovulate earlier than normal? If so, by how much?

My husband will be leaving on cycle day 14 for a work trip but I’m wondering if letrozole is still worth trying this cycle as I’ve heard it can make you ovulate early (aka if I normally ovulate day 16 then maybe I’ll ovulate earlier and him leaving day 14 will be ok).

Thanks so much for sharing!

Hi community -TW: living children

41/F. Three LC had at 35, 37 and 39. Conceived 1st try with zero issues. Even though I am struggling with miscarriages now it’s not lost on me that I’m very fortunate to have my living kids.

Started trying for a fourth at 39 and it’s been 18 months with 3 MMCs and 1 chemical (3 D&Cs).

My cycles are 24-26 days. I ovulate day 15ish. This has always been the case, even in my 30s when I had my kids, maybe slightly longer cycles.

All three miscarriages came back as chromosomally normal (for the things they can test anyway). My RE thought this was very unusual. All blood work, SISs, tests, sperm tests, uterus exams, hormones etc have come back perfect.

It’s been 3 months since my last D&C and haven’t had a positive. My RE said I can try 5mg of letrozole to see if it helps, even though I ovulate. She said it can potentially help but not as much as it would if I ovulated.

Anyone have experience with this where they tried it even though they ovulate? Bonus points for 40+.

Would be so grateful for experiences or thoughts!

I’m on the fence about trying something and would love to hear from anyone who has tried this…

Hi community -

41/F. Three LC had at 35, 37 and 39. Conceived 1st try with zero issues.

Started trying for a fourth at 39 and it’s been 18 months with 3 MMCs and 1 chemical (3 D&Cs).

My cycles are 24-26 days. I ovulate day 15ish. This has always been the case, even in my 30s when I had my kids, maybe slightly longer cycles.

All three miscarriages came back as chromosomally normal (for the things they can test anyway). My RE thought this was very unusual. All blood work, SISs, tests, sperm tests, uterus exams, hormones etc have come back perfect.

It’s been 3 months since my last D&C and haven’t had a positive. My RE said I can try 5mg of letrozole to see if it helps, even though I ovulate. She said it can potentially help but not as much as it would if I ovulated.

Anyone have experience with this where they tried it even though they ovulate? Bonus points for 40+.

Would be so grateful for experiences or thoughts!

Hi community -

41/F. Three LC had at 35, 37 and 39. Conceived 1st try with zero issues.

Started trying for a fourth at 39 and it’s been 18 months with 3 MMCs and 1 chemical (3 D&Cs).

My cycles are 24-26 days. I ovulate day 15ish. This has always been the case, even in my 30s when I had my kids, maybe slightly longer cycles.

All three miscarriages came back as chromosomally normal (for the things they can test anyway). My RE thought this was very unusual. All blood work, SISs, tests, sperm tests, uterus exams, hormones etc have come back perfect.

It’s been 3 months since my last D&C and haven’t had a positive. My RE said I can try 5mg of letrozole to see if it helps, even though I ovulate. She said it can potentially help but not as much as it would if I ovulated.

Anyone have experience with this where they tried it even though they ovulate? Bonus points for 40+.

Would be so grateful for experiences or thoughts!

TW: living children, loss

Hi community ❤️,

I’m hoping to hear some nuanced personal experiences because I know mine doesn’t really line up with the research. I follow the data/science but also like hearing people’s one-off experiences. 
I’m a 40-year-old mom of three, and being a mom is my favorite thing. I’d really love one more baby. Between my living children, I’ve also had multiple miscarriages and chemical pregnancies, so I’m trying to be as thoughtful as possible. 

For context, I’ve lived a very healthy lifestyle for over 20+ years. I’ve always been active, eat very clean, have a healthy BMI, and all of my blood work has been great. I’ve had pretty much every test and scan my OB can offer, and so far there hasn’t been anything that needs to be addressed. I feel good about moving forward TTC. 

However, exercise has always been a massive part of my life. I’ve read the research. I completely understand that, for most women, continuing your normal exercise routine while TTC and during pregnancy is considered safe and healthy. I’m not looking to debate the science, and I know there are countless women who conceive while training for marathons, CrossFit, triathlons, etc. I’ve read the comments, stories and it’s wonderful! 

What makes me curious is that my own history doesn’t seem to fit and I’d be curious to hear from others.

During three of my miscarriages (all before 9 weeks), I was doing what had been my normal routine for years: strength training 4–5 days a week, plus cardio or hot yoga another 3–4 days a week. I was eating plenty, wasn’t underweight, and nothing about my routine was extreme for me. We had the miscarriages tested, and all three came back chromosomally normal. I know those tests don’t rule out every possible abnormality, but even my OB commented that it’s unusual.

What’s interesting is that all three of my healthy pregnancies happened during relatively short periods—probably only 30–60 days over the past decade—when, for one reason or another, I wasn’t doing heavy strength training or intense cardio as normal. I was still walking 10,000–15,000 steps a day and staying generally active, but I wasn’t pushing my body in the same way with weights and sweat sessions. Those are also the only times I conceived my living children. 

Maybe it’s complete coincidence. Statistically, it probably is. But after enough losses, it’s hard not to wonder.

I’m simply wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar to me. Were you someone who exercised intensely for years, but only conceived (or carried successfully) during periods when you unintentionally (or intentionally) dialed things back? Or did taking a break make no difference at all? 
I’m genuinely just looking for personal experiences from women whose stories might not fit the average. Thank you for reading, and wishing everyone here the very best on their journeys. ❤️

Hi favorite community,

Quick edit to clarify: I’m not talking big working farm… I’m talking mostly land/woods with maybe a chicken coop, single cow or goat and gardens. We’re not looking to work a legit farm.

Late 30s female, ~$14M net worth.

First, I owe this community a huge thank you. A few years ago, you all were instrumental in helping me realize that I could actually retire and stay home with my kids. It was a terrifying decision at the time…. I was walking away from a very lucrative, relatively easy executive career… but it has been the best decision I’ve ever made.

I’ve posted here a handful of times over the years, and every time I’ve received incredibly thoughtful advice. So I’m back again.

One thing retirement has taught me is that leaving work was only the first step. I take being a mom really seriously, and because I chose to leave my career, my husband and I have tried to be very intentional about designing the life we actually want over the next 2-20+ years…. not just financially but as a family.

We’re at another crossroads.

We’re seriously considering leaving city life and buying 5–10+ acres somewhere (likely Northern California like Sonoma/sebastapol/sonoma coast or possibly the Carolinas, although we’re open to other ideas). We don’t want a giant house. What we really want is the land. Unfortunately neither of us have very close family (death, addiction, etc) so we’d be starting fresh. 

We’re a very low-tech, screen-free family. We care immensely about education, but we also want our kids to become capable, curious, useful humans. The kind of kids who know how to build things, solve problems, and aren’t afraid to get dirty.
Right now, it’s completely normal in our house to hand the kids a pile of 2x4s, some nails, and a hammer and tell them to go build something in the backyard.

We love the idea of them growing up with room for forts, treehouses, bikes, woods. gardens, maybe some chickens and goats and a cow, and just spending their childhood outside on land. Food is a huge part of our family culture, and I’d love for them to have an even stronger connection to where it comes from with big gardens etc. 

My husband and I also genuinely love being home. As the kids get older, we know they’ll naturally spend less time with us, and we love the idea of creating a place they’ll actually want to come back to, a property that becomes the center of our family life.

I see a lot of FatFIRE posts about buying the dream waterfront home, upgrading to a luxury neighborhood, or spending retirement traveling the world. I’m curious if anyone here went in almost the opposite direction.

Has anyone intentionally left city or suburban life for acreage and more of a “farm” homey life? Not because you wanted to “homestead” or disappear off-grid, but because you thought it would create a better life for your family?

What were the biggest surprises? What trade-offs ended up mattering more (or less) than you expected? Did your kids love it? Looking back, would you do it again?

For context, we’ve spent the last year and a half renting Airbnbs for a month at a time on acreage in different areas, and every experience has made us want it more. At the same time, I know there are countless things you don’t learn until you actually own the property and live that lifestyle.

One challenge we’ve noticed while exploring is that “country” can mean very different things. We’d love someplace with space and acreage, but still within 30–60 minutes of a city, with a strong community, excellent schools, and plenty of other families who intentionally chose that lifestyle. In other words, rural without feeling isolated.

Bonus points if anyone has recommendations for areas they’ve loved. We’d especially appreciate suggestions for places where you can have acreage while still being in an affluent, family-oriented community.

Would love to hear from anyone who’s made a similar leap once retiring early.  Thanks!!

Hi community ❤️,

I’m hoping to hear some nuanced personal experiences because I know mine doesn’t really line up with the research. I follow the data/science but also like hearing people’s one-off experiences. 
I’m a 40-year-old mom of three, and being a mom is my favorite thing. I’d really love one more baby. Between my living children, I’ve also had multiple miscarriages and chemical pregnancies, so I’m trying to be as thoughtful as possible. 

For context, I’ve lived a very healthy lifestyle for over 20+ years. I’ve always been active, eat very clean, have a healthy BMI, and all of my blood work has been great. I’ve had pretty much every test and scan my OB can offer, and so far there hasn’t been anything that needs to be addressed. I feel good about moving forward TTC. 

However, exercise has always been a massive part of my life. I’ve read the research. I completely understand that, for most women, continuing your normal exercise routine while TTC and during pregnancy is considered safe and healthy. I’m not looking to debate the science, and I know there are countless women who conceive while training for marathons, CrossFit, triathlons, etc. I’ve read the comments, stories and it’s wonderful! 

What makes me curious is that my own history doesn’t seem to fit and I’d be curious to hear from others.

During three of my miscarriages (all before 9 weeks), I was doing what had been my normal routine for years: strength training 4–5 days a week, plus cardio or hot yoga another 3–4 days a week. I was eating plenty, wasn’t underweight, and nothing about my routine was extreme for me. We had the miscarriages tested, and all three came back chromosomally normal. I know those tests don’t rule out every possible abnormality, but even my OB commented that it’s unusual.

What’s interesting is that all three of my healthy pregnancies happened during relatively short periods—probably only 30–60 days over the past decade—when, for one reason or another, I wasn’t doing heavy strength training or intense cardio as normal. I was still walking 10,000–15,000 steps a day and staying generally active, but I wasn’t pushing my body in the same way with weights and sweat sessions. Those are also the only times I conceived my living children. 

Maybe it’s complete coincidence. Statistically, it probably is. But after enough losses, it’s hard not to wonder.

I’m simply wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar to me. Were you someone who exercised intensely for years, but only conceived (or carried successfully) during periods when you unintentionally (or intentionally) dialed things back? Or did taking a break make no difference at all? 
I’m genuinely just looking for personal experiences from women whose stories might not fit the average. Thank you for reading, and wishing everyone here the very best on their journeys. ❤️

TW: living children, loss

Hi community ❤️,

I’m hoping to hear some nuanced personal experiences because I know mine doesn’t really line up with the research. I follow the data/science but also like hearing people’s one-off experiences. 
I’m a 40-year-old mom of three, and being a mom is my favorite thing. I’d really love one more baby. Between my living children, I’ve also had multiple miscarriages and chemical pregnancies, so I’m trying to be as thoughtful as possible. 

For context, I’ve lived a very healthy lifestyle for over 20+ years. I’ve always been active, eat very clean, have a healthy BMI, and all of my blood work has been great. I’ve had pretty much every test and scan my OB can offer, and so far there hasn’t been anything that needs to be addressed. I feel good about moving forward TTC. 

However, exercise has always been a massive part of my life. I’ve read the research. I completely understand that, for most women, continuing your normal exercise routine while TTC and during pregnancy is considered safe and healthy. I’m not looking to debate the science, and I know there are countless women who conceive while training for marathons, CrossFit, triathlons, etc. I’ve read the comments, stories and it’s wonderful! 

What makes me curious is that my own history doesn’t seem to fit and I’d be curious to hear from others.

During three of my miscarriages (all before 9 weeks), I was doing what had been my normal routine for years: strength training 4–5 days a week, plus cardio or hot yoga another 3–4 days a week (only while TTC, stopped this when positive test). I was eating plenty, wasn’t underweight, and nothing about my routine was extreme for me. We had the miscarriages tested, and all three came back chromosomally normal. I know those tests don’t rule out every possible abnormality, but even my OB commented that it’s unusual.

What’s interesting is that all three of my healthy pregnancies happened during relatively short periods, probably only 30–60 days over the past decade, when, for one reason or another, I wasn’t doing heavy strength training or intense cardio as normal. I was still walking 10,000–15,000 steps a day and staying generally active, but I wasn’t pushing my body in the same way with weights and sweat sessions. Those are also the only times I conceived my living children. 

Maybe it’s complete coincidence. Statistically, it probably is. But after enough losses, it’s hard not to wonder.

I’m simply wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar to me. Were you someone who exercised intensely for years, but only conceived (or carried successfully) during periods when you unintentionally (or intentionally) dialed things back? Or did taking a break make no difference at all? 
I’m genuinely just looking for personal experiences from women whose stories might not fit the average. Thank you for reading, and wishing everyone here the very best on their journeys. ❤️

Hi community ❤️,

I’m hoping to hear some nuanced personal experiences because I know mine doesn’t really line up with the research. I follow the data/science but also like hearing people’s one-off experiences. 
I’m a 40-year-old mom of three, and being a mom is my favorite thing. I’d really love one more baby. Between my living children, I’ve also had multiple miscarriages and chemical pregnancies, so I’m trying to be as thoughtful as possible. 

For context, I’ve lived a very healthy lifestyle for over 20+ years. I’ve always been active, eat very clean, have a healthy BMI, and all of my blood work has been great. I’ve had pretty much every test and scan my OB can offer, and so far there hasn’t been anything that needs to be addressed. I feel good about moving forward TTC. 

However, exercise has always been a massive part of my life. I’ve read the research. I completely understand that, for most women, continuing your normal exercise routine while TTC and during pregnancy is considered safe and healthy. I’m not looking to debate the science, and I know there are countless women who conceive while training for marathons, CrossFit, triathlons, etc. I’ve read the comments, stories and it’s wonderful! 

What makes me curious is that my own history doesn’t seem to fit and I’d be curious to hear from others.

During three of my miscarriages (all before 9 weeks), I was doing what had been my normal routine for years: strength training 4–5 days a week, plus cardio or hot yoga another 3–4 days a week. I was eating plenty, wasn’t underweight, and nothing about my routine was extreme for me. We had the miscarriages tested, and all three came back chromosomally normal. I know those tests don’t rule out every possible abnormality, but even my OB commented that it’s unusual.

What’s interesting is that all three of my healthy pregnancies happened during relatively short periods—probably only 30–60 days over the past decade—when, for one reason or another, I wasn’t doing heavy strength training or intense cardio as normal. I was still walking 10,000–15,000 steps a day and staying generally active, but I wasn’t pushing my body in the same way with weights and sweat sessions. Those are also the only times I conceived my living children. 

Maybe it’s complete coincidence. Statistically, it probably is. But after enough losses, it’s hard not to wonder.

I’m simply wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar to me. Were you someone who exercised intensely for years, but only conceived (or carried successfully) during periods when you unintentionally (or intentionally) dialed things back? Or did taking a break make no difference at all? 
I’m genuinely just looking for personal experiences from women whose stories might not fit the average. Thank you for reading, and wishing everyone here the very best on their journeys. ❤️

Hi community ❤️,

I’m hoping to hear some nuanced personal experiences because I know mine doesn’t really line up with the research. I follow the data/science but also like hearing people’s one-off experiences. 
I’m a 40-year-old mom of three, and being a mom is my favorite thing. I’d really love one more baby. Between my living children, I’ve also had multiple miscarriages and chemical pregnancies, so I’m trying to be as thoughtful as possible. 

For context, I’ve lived a very healthy lifestyle for over 20+ years. I’ve always been active, eat very clean, have a healthy BMI, and all of my blood work has been great. I’ve had pretty much every test and scan my OB can offer, and so far there hasn’t been anything that needs to be addressed. I feel good about moving forward TTC. 

However, exercise has always been a massive part of my life. I’ve read the research. I completely understand that, for most women, continuing your normal exercise routine while TTC and during pregnancy is considered safe and healthy. I’m not looking to debate the science, and I know there are countless women who conceive while training for marathons, CrossFit, triathlons, etc. I’ve read the comments, stories and it’s wonderful! 

What makes me curious is that my own history doesn’t seem to fit and I’d be curious to hear from others.

During three of my miscarriages (all before 9 weeks), I was doing what had been my normal routine for years: strength training 4–5 days a week, plus cardio or hot yoga another 3–4 days a week. I was eating plenty, wasn’t underweight, and nothing about my routine was extreme for me. We had the miscarriages tested, and all three came back chromosomally normal. I know those tests don’t rule out every possible abnormality, but even my OB commented that it’s unusual.

What’s interesting is that all three of my healthy pregnancies happened during relatively short periods—probably only 30–60 days over the past decade—when, for one reason or another, I wasn’t doing heavy strength training or intense cardio as normal. I was still walking 10,000–15,000 steps a day and staying generally active, but I wasn’t pushing my body in the same way with weights and sweat sessions. Those are also the only times I conceived my living children. 

Maybe it’s complete coincidence. Statistically, it probably is. But after enough losses, it’s hard not to wonder.

I’m simply wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar to me. Were you someone who exercised intensely for years, but only conceived (or carried successfully) during periods when you unintentionally (or intentionally) dialed things back? Or did taking a break make no difference at all? 
I’m genuinely just looking for personal experiences from women whose stories might not fit the average. Thank you for reading, and wishing everyone here the very best on their journeys. ❤️

Hi!

Curious which you’d prefer if money weren’t an issue? 5 days at a nice hotel in London seeing the museums, hop on hop off bus, castles, boat tours, etc. OR 5 days in the British country side (perhaps cotswolds or new Forrest or other? Any faves?)?

This would be in August.

We like the vibe of both but would be curious to hear what others would pick!