u/SharpAardvark8699

My parents had me young and tbh I don't think they deep down wanted kids. They've always been too busy for anything children related.

I was expected to manage a lot myself. At the end of the day our money comes from our parents. If they don't give you any in that awkward stage before you get your first job, you're not much different to a child in Delhi with no money

At college (16-18) the govt used to give £30 a week to kids of low income parents. My parents took it saying I'd spent it. And they'd give me their money.After a lot of drama due to not getting enough for my life stage needing clothes, a phone etc, when I got the card back half of it was spent. Their excuse was really that money was because of their low income.

Then I went to University after taking a year out to earn any money. They struggled to help me at all, even for a bus pass or anything at all. And at one point asked me to take a loan for their mortgage.

When I had my first job it was expected for me to pay rent. All the while remittances were going crazy. That first job was also very heavy lifting 20kg tile boxes in a warehouse all day. I hurt my back there and was out of action for several years. I had money taken at one point from a box in my room which my mum told me or I would not have known.

I found to quite sad. The money was paid back but honestly I felt I'd have done better to move out and pay rent somewhere.

I had a mental health collapse after university. I cut my wrists in front of them and there was little change to reflect what I was going through. Arguments were constant and guests too till midnight. There was always open doors and house maintenance and all sorts

There were some good times but tbh not really. I was never really happy. They weren't too bothered about marriage until it suited their life stages. My job history wasn't stable so until 27 I couldn't move out.

There never seemed to be much sympathy for anything i went through. If I turned up sometimes they'd be going out. They did not really want to push their timings back. Other times they were at home, someone would turn up. Other times someone would phone for a long chat. I spent a lot of time lonely even if they were there in the room

And ty btw..better than using the bloody train

For me as an Ubereats driver with many new places locally I go to the same old ones in residential areas. One of them no one speaks English and that's partly why I go there. Because I don't want to make small talk

Also Iceland supermarket near me which now unfortunately has self checkouts. I used to like standing in the queue

Bit of a clickbaity title. Including city centres with no parking it's got to be Halifax town centre all round. That's including parking availability and driving experience

I did actually google something along those lines and apparently it's the worst place in the country for points and gets it every other year.

Parked in a loading bay. Traffic warden comes up and tells me to move it. I show him the bag and he insists. Park round the corner, pay my quid for the ticket and then he comes round and points out it's a disabled row(the signs about 7 cars back along the one way and I didn't have time to dawdle and check due to traffic). So ended up going all the way round, not even sure if I ended up in a pedestrian zone and finally found somewhere far away. It wasn't even like I was there for a jolly shopping experience or there's plenty of parking or that I even get national minimum wage.

Apart from that it's constant traffic that doesn't stop, doesn't give way, very congested town centre and no before anyone asks it's not "typical suspects" in the majority there

so there you have it. my worst across all of West Yorkshire including Bradford and Leeds (where parking is mostly difficult)

Ever since self checkouts came out. Since I shop at night I'm expected to scan my own. So I stopped going because it feels dystopian. I go elsewhere now or even corner shops and pay more.

Basically this delivery wasn't even well paid and it was a package. I had to force myself to drive to his house to Collect the package. When I got there, there were two very closely parked cars forcing me to squeeze through. The location wasn't that clear and I wasn't in the mood to climb this hill of an alleyway. So I drove back out and tried to find a potential front door. The door it could have been had a very long garden

And due to being shafted in the past by customers trying to fill my small car with their bin bags against the rules and Ubereats paying poorly, I decided at this time id rather go home than to the town 8 miles away and be forced to stay out for a couple of hours more. So I cancelled it and went to exit back into the main road at which point the customer was stood there with a single bag. He was not happy and I apologised. It was awkward TBF. Didn't know what more to say.

Mine was I used to start work at 9:30am most days due to flexi time. I had to arrive at 7am on one particular Monday for a health and safety course. Everyone laughed id never come in on time

Night before 11pm suddenly feel the urge to vomit. Not great but I thought I can still make it in. 3am woke up to vomit and realise it wasn't happening.

Never lived it down.

Another one was a job where I just didn't feel well. Texted manager who started several hours after me. Told her I wasn't fit to drive. In any event I thought it hadn't sent. I deleted and went in because I could not face staying home either. Turns out it had sent

Week after my car breaks down on the way to work. Missed the day after

Made me look like a shirker. Had a week left after that and made sure I got there by hook or by crook so as to salvage any part of my reputation id built over 5 months

That behaves, does as they're told and becomes an asset

Or would you prefer to stay as is.

Just wondering whether to start putting the feelers out

I wanted to share my story because I see people asking about giving their notice in at a new job for a better job

Loyalty means nothing nowadays. And depending on your manager, most don't care about your hard work, especially for the first few years you have very little value if hard work is all you got.

Last year I got offered a really well paid job in my industry. This project was 3 years old and year 4 was the final year. At that point the site was also relocating 100 miles away.(Drastic downsize due to years of mismanagement)

This project had several managers. Also had several buyers which is what I was doing. Previously thered been two buyers. One of them several months prior to my arrival had walked in one morning, said she couldn't do it anymore and left with immediate effect. That left one guy who I was replacing who'd been under the cosh and unable to cope for several months

The whole thing was a mess. A lot of nonsense data to sort through. A lot of AI use but with incorrect data you'd get incorrect prompts regularly. Year 4 of this project and we are still finding items that were needed but never included in a BOM list of materials. We also have over £100k of stock we didn't need.

Despite my attempts to sort this, I was told to get on with buying stuff we didn't need. I was constantly challenged about why we didn't have items that didn't exist on the buying list. I had to set up a lot of new processes as hard as it is to believe. I had to follow processes with great gaps in them because the people in them didn't care, were understaffed or had been made redundant. I also got very little training. An hour of a certain aspect of which consisted of the trainer physically climbing over a 50 year old man with thick glasses and making him blush terribly

I was also bullied horrendously for my appearance (my height) and if this was the 80s I think some of them would have picked on my race too.

Why did I stick with it? TBF i got paid well. But I also thought it was stable and I would be allowed to complete the final 6 months for the sake of continuity and because that was the end point anyway. In any event I wasn't allowed to. I was dropped 6 months early into the worst job market in a decade

My point is despite what I had already offered as a new person I was given the shaft. So please don't think companies care. Look after yourself because for all you are loyal they might well let you go in a few weeks without a solid reason and you'll be two jobs down

So basically I took out Aadhar card a couple of years ago. I am NRI and was there for 6 months so I am eligible. My friend took me for fingerprint and biodata scan. We paid 500rs for speedy issue

Then he messaged me like 6 months later to say there was an issue and to make it go away we have to pay 10,000 rs which he negotiated down from 20,000rs

Then exactly almost one year later he said there has been a major bust (story is true I checked online) and police called him to Station . he told them he lost my number. and they might call again to ask for money. So he needs 10,000 rs which he negotiated down from 20,000rs.

Yes same wording. Only when I looked at the messages later I realised it was almost exactly one year later. It seems he has some annual expenses and uses me.

He told me FIR the police want is a major escalation and Will be expensive and will be hard for me to enter the city then.

Interested to know final steps from other people. Should I tell him I have instructed a lawyer and am coming from my home abroad to call his bluff? I think it's very suspicious this happened almost exactly one year apart.

I guess I just want some advice.

My job is 6 hours. 3 hours doing parcel sorting and 3 doing packing. 3pm I ask if I'm going to sort or pack. I normally get told sort and return at 6pm. 6pm I go to the main desk and ask for a bench for packing.

Yesterday I went there and the lady had done her shift swap over. Polish Manager is about to add me to his list and assign a bench when he asks me questions about where I'm from in the building. Then states it's too busy downstairs, he doesn't believe me, go back!!!

10s later a girl from my exact shift gets given a bench

I found it aggressive, hostile and accusatory. This is a place that just isn't like that. There are ways to conduct yourself.

I'm also planning to leave anyway. My line manager is usually at that desk in which case no problem as she is both professional and knows how it works. I'm not taking offence at working downstairs which is the strenuous job. It was his aggression. But if he is there again, I'm not going upto that desk. I'll finish off downstairs and hand my resignation in at the end of the day

HR is on the way out. Will it make a difference to lodge a complaint. If they speak to him great. There are vulnerable people working here and he should not speak to them like that

Anecdotally a lot of the more reliable ones I know are on the cusp or have retired. The ones that remain and know a lot are more interested in the profitable work like MOTs. That leaves a hell of a lot of cowboys and novices out there putting cars onto ramps and making things worse

I guess it's inevitable with time. But our ancestors came as Commonwealth citizens. There was a certain respect and commonality even for FOBs(who admittedly were also a different breed to now)

Ever since the EU opened to Poland I've realised we've slowly been displaced, especially Indians as the model minority. Poland is now a holiday destination and I see a lot of comments saying Britain is part of the EU(and EU culture)

I can remember when Polish people came. They were often very rude and seen almost as Russian. English people generally decided they liked us more as we're less direct

More for Muslims and for those who feel the question is relevant

It was pretty common back home and also your village was your relatives. Here in UK some people walk in , the whole is not familiar with them and it totally ruins the vibe and there's nothing important to talk about , it's nonsense and gossip.

So I get it for the first generation but some FOBs and those not willing to adapt to the closed doors and fast paced culture have enforced it on others

More for Muslims and for those who feel the question is relevant

It was pretty common back home and also your village was your relatives. Here in UK some people walk in and it totally ruins the vibe and there's nothing important to talk about , it's nonsense and gossip.

Do you just stay prepared and get recovery on RAC.

And stay prepared to always buy something new?

Had a really good one last time. Lasted two years for a grand. Then with a good wage came mission creep. Threw £1800 at one and it was a money pit. Got conned £1200 by the mechanic for no improvement at all on it guzzling oil. Yesterday had a breakdown and today. So that's £250 in two days as I have no cover and with repair.

So now I'm heading for something for £500

Do people pay their own if offered a job. I've been told it will be paid back if I'm successful but I don't believe that because the contract will be with the employer not recruiter. I've also been asked for the one off passcode

All normal? I guess I'll have to swallow the cost

Guessing it's partially a staffing issue but I'm sat trying to study at 23:10 and there's a car that with every rev has a machine gun sound going off. Surely it cannot be a vote loser to ban these

What exactly does it contribute to the economy or society? In fact I can say many people avoid going out to their local towns exactly because of these and the culture of dangerous driving they encourage at least where I am

it may shock people to learn this is simply a £50 penalty. These people spend hundreds of pounds they can clearly afford to harass others while they work and sleep. It should be hundreds more.

Anyone finding this in their area? Small Asdas are coping. Large ones are hit and miss. And for me lately Morrisons is just a miss miss. Had one on my way home about 2-3x today and not ready one single time.

Doesn't Ubereats also realise Morrisons contract with Deliveroo and Amazon mean word will spread and their own orders will dry up as customers move elsewhere for Morrison orders?

Had a few ridiculous ones recently too. Customer service is just really shit there. Had one last thing at night for a single pack of coffee. And they wouldn't pack it. Someone has literally paid premium price to have it ready for the morning. What on earth was the point of Morrison's offering quick delivery

I can remember the first ones were really good. You'd usually have the boss who was talented and then a deputy slightly less and the third person who is a trainee, who'd change every couple of months

I went to my usual. The boss doesn't work anymore even tho he's only in his 30s. Had the deputy work on my hair and made a horrendous mistake going fast.

My experience seems to be the same in every Turkish Barbers I go to now. It's just hit and miss