u/Silly_Bee_28

At first, I wanted to be a behavioral therapist for children with autism. Get my bachelors in psychology with a minor in ABA, then my masters, become a Board Certified Behavioral Analyst, etc etc.

Here is my new goal:

\- Get a temporary job at a local psychiatric ward after getting my bachelors degree in psychology

\- Work there for a bit for experience with trauma, then either:

A. Become that behavioral therapist

B. Become a play therapist for children with autism/developmental disabilities

C. Study personality disorders (idk what I would do with that though, being a talk therapist isn't my thing)

Any advice on where to go, what to do after my bachelors, what certifications to get, even just what masters to get? Help??

As the title suggests, I'm FTNB and my partner is MTNB/MTF. Their family supports, mine is religious and doesn't. AMA!

I'm still dating one of them actually! Some I'm still friends with, others I've grown apart from. This was almost 2 years ago. Didn't go well (doesn't mean poly relationships don't always work out!)

Ive had mixed answers from friends, so I wanted more feedback. Some I'm sure are, some I'm not so sure. TW for descriptions.

Elementary School-

Boy 1:

- Tried to touch under my pants as the "rules to a game" in an indoor playground, with my little sister there

- Instantly ran and told my mom, the boy was never found

Boy 2:

- Would lead me near the gym bathrooms, touch me in places I didn't want to be touched, lifted my clothes, told me I'm his "toy" and how he's "just experimenting"

- Told the principal, got told he's special ed and didn't know what he was doing, and didn't think it was as serious as I made it sound

- Continued on for over a year, progressively getting worse, only stopped when he moved schools

Boy 3:

- Claimed I was his girlfriend (I never agreed to this, but was extremely anxious child so never said anything after the first few denials)

- Tried (and failed) to kiss me, would demand I walk with him in the halls, then would hit me if I wasn't "affectionate"

- Never said anything

High School-

Boy 4:

- Don't remember much

- Would email me about how he wanted me to be his valentines, tried touching me in the halls

- He stopped after I threatened to tell the teachers

Boy 5:

- I was in JROTC uniform, he made some comments I don't remember and tried to untuck my uniform, I mistook it as him fixing it, he then stuck his hand down my pants

- I ran away, never saw him again, never said anything

Girl 1:

- At prom, been on and off friends (toxic) for a couple years, pretty sure she was drunk

- Taking photos together, started joking about kissing me, admitted to having a crush on me (not the first time), I laughed nervously and started to step away

- Pulled me in and kissed me, other friends took photos and started laughing

- Asked them to delete photos, trying to be nice but didn't stand my ground, never said anything, cried after prom

Theres a few other details and even full instances I'm not remembering, I blocked a lot of it out.

Help?

Girl 1:

I'm earning a bachelor's degree in psychology with a minor in ABA. Ive worked with kids with autism, and been studying trauma disorders since I was a kid. I'm most interested in personality disorders, but psychology as a whole is a huge obsession of mine. Being ill myself has helped with my knowledge, so I have some first hand experience myself.

Theres a chance I won't have the answer to your question. If that happens, then that means we both grew curious over something, and ill likely research it later on. Means I'll learn something new!

Ask me anything

I (20NB) have been in college and living away from home for 2 years now. I'm mostly independent from my parents, side from keeping a few things at their house for space reasons and being on my dads insurance.

Last year, when I told her I was going to another state with my partner for the summer instead of home, she demanded I VIDEO call her every 24 hours minimum, so she can make sure I'm okay. I said I will be okay, I'm with people I trust, she said she doesnt know them and therefore isn't okay with any other arrangement. To satisfy her, I agreed.

However, I was working and helping my partner with summer classes and was pretty busy, so video calling every 24 hours at a time we were both free became difficult. I also felt this was a bit forced, and had become a dreaded obligation.

I called her one day and told her this, expressing that I was an adult and shouldn't be forced to call my mother in this fashion. She stated that if she didn't hear from me every 24 hours, she would call the police and report me missing- whether I had been texting her or not. I got upset at this, and said I would no longer be doing it. She insisted. We came to an 'agreement'- I'd call her every 48 hours. Had to be video call tho. She wouldn't compromise on that. She also wanted me to continue this pattern during school, despite being back in the same state as her.

It's been a year, and I've grown sick and tired of being treated like a child who has to drop everything to check in with my mom because she absolutely will call the police on my partners parents and cause a whole issue. Ive already tried talking to her about this still being an obligation, that if I want to call her, Ill do it on my own time, and that ill still text, but she won't budge. I don't always follow the 48 hour rule, and she keeps pushing for me to call more often.

I've had enough.

But I need to know WIBTAH if I just stopped calling her?

I (20NB) don't remember much of my childhood, much less anything about my dad. He's done some horrible things- kept me from my military mother for a year, made her miss my first steps and first birthday, was manipulative and verbally abusive to my mother (who took zero shits from it and divorced him), etc. He was put in prison when I was ~10 years old for inappropriate things against a minor.

He was only sentenced to 10 years, got out in 8 for good behavior, and he immediately got my contacts. He called me sometimes while he was in prison, but a lot of the time I would dread it and refuse, which my mother respected. Now that he's out, he texts and calls without warning, multiple times a week ofc, sometimes every day. He says how much he loves me, how I'm his baby, how he wants to support me, how he wants to be in my life after being away for so long. How he wants to make up for all those years and all the "mistakes" he made. He gives me money sometimes too (I accept it because I'm a broke college student).

Some of my friends said I should've cut contact long ago. Others say I need to now (I have an anxiety disorder and feel super bad doing so now). Some respect my decision to stay in contact, because he's my father and at the end of the day it's my decision, but insist I at least take advantage and take his money more (he hasn't paid child support).

Please note, there's a difference between "you should cut contact" and "youre the AH for keeping contact".

So, AITAH?

EDIT: I get your points. I may end up cutting contact after all. I feel horrible about it, because he's done nothing but support me since he got out of prison, but what he's done is not forgivable.

Mine was hardly spanking, and the excuse was "the Bible says to not spare the rod"

I started using a cane at 18 years old, shortly after I started college, but honestly needed one a couple years prior. I slowly began losing the consistent ability to walk around the end of my 19th year, and- while I'm functional most days- others I'm completely bed bound. Thats when I got a wheelchair. Now, I struggle with tics, seizures, leg weakness, difficulties walking, fainting, tachycardia, high blood pressure, stuttering, difficulty speaking, and more. AMA.

TW: mentions of suicide and abuse (nothing explicit)

i (20NB) was severely depressed and anxious, I had childhood trauma, I was bullied, I was abused, all of that. I made an attempt on my life at a very early age, and again every so often from there.

Long story short, when I was 17, I got back from an extremely stressful national school competition (I did enjoy it, but I was juggling having just finished a rough year in high school, plus a week-long military 'boot camp' of sorts, plus college classes), and I had reached a limit. I was watching my little sister at the time, supposed to be anyways. I went to my room and- I'm not going to go into the details- but before anything happened, I had decided to try the 988 hotline. 'One last time, for a bit of comfort', I told myself.

I realized then I couldn't do it. Not with my little sister a room away. So they encouraged me to call 911. And I did. I was taken away in an ambulance right as my mom pulled into the driveway.

That was my first hospitalization. I was diagnosed with several things, including a personality disorder.

Each time is a different story. Each time something new happened. But the process is somewhat the same.

AMA. I'm an open book.

I use xe/xem/xyr and ze/zir/zirs. Only a few friends know about these or use them, and I've never proclaimed this before, so I'm a bit nervous. No, I don't use meow/meowself or anything like that. Yes, I have other pronouns, like they/them, that people can use instead if they're not comfortable.

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I have a list of regular labels that I use for everyday basis, but a list of labels for myself and a select few friends that would get me a lot of judgement. I'm nervous to share but excited at the same time.

I tell everyone in nonbinary and pan with they/them pronouns, but here is who I actually am!

**Gender Identities:** Nonbinary, Agender, Xenogender

**Microlabels**: Gendervoid, Agenderfluid, Androgyne, Proxvir

**Pronouns**: They/He

**Neopronouns**: xe/xem/xyr/ze/zir/zirs

**Sexuality**: Panromantic, Sex-Neutral Asexual Spectrum

**Microlabels**: Nebularomantic, Cupioromantic, Graysexual, Triple AAA

So yeah! Ask questions about the labels, or my life with microlabels in general!

I went in extremely out of it and was immediately separated from my partner so they could register me. Makes sense. They started asking me a bunch of questions, many I couldn't answer, but I managed to tell them that I have FND.

They asked if I take seizure medication, I said no, they asked what treatment plan I follow, I said I'm starting CBT and physical therapy soon and they seemed confused and frustrated when I said I have trouble walking sometimes. They then asked "why do they call it seizures then if you don't take medication for it?" At this point I was crying because I was confused and barely knew where I was and I just said I dont know.

I later found out that same nurse was talking to someone else and, while talking about me and my FND, said "that sounds fake".

She was also rough pulling out the IV and was giving an attitude the entire time.

I feel so invalidated and frustrated and I want to cry all over again. I was discharged and told to follow up with my neurologist because there's nothing else they could do. I feel bad being " that patient ". The one that has issues they can't solve.

What else am I even supposed to do when I have that many seizures, or such severe symptoms? It's getting harder and harder to function.

Please share your good hospital/doctor experiences so I can feel a bit hopeful.

I won't go into the details, but my father was sentenced to only 10 years in prison for doing things against a child for multiple years. It was bad. He got out two years early for good behavior and is now on parole, unable to leave the state he lives in.

Yes, I'm still in contact with him, I text him and he sometimes calls me and gives me money, assumingly trying to rekindle some form of relationship, but I keep my boundaries. However, one winter I agreed to see him for the first time in over 10 years, travelled alone to his state, and was terrified for the next week. Nothing happened, but I realized he sees it as a "mistake". I'm ashamed to be his child. I'm ashamed to be related to him.

AMA.