u/SunBetter7301

I use Uber regularly, and I can’t tell you how often my drivers are beyond their 50s. Within the last couple of weeks, I’ve had a couple in their 60s and one in their 70s. I only ride with women drivers, too, so these are elderly women that we’re talking about. Idk if it’s just me, but I certainly don’t remember having Uber drivers any older than like in their 40s in the late 2010s through early 2020s.

It just makes me so sad bc is this what our society’s come to… making it so that the elderly have to taxi people around to afford living? I know that the internet loves to blame boomers for everything, but it seems like a good portion of them aren’t doing well themselves and are really struggling.

While school quality is obviously a spectrum, the knowledge gaps I’ve noticed between children in good schools vs. bad schools is honestly unacceptable. Here are some of the knowledge gaps I’ve witnessed in HS students at a poor quality school:

- Not knowing how to fill in a crossword puzzle

- Not knowing the difference between the words “god” and “goddess”

- Not knowing how to pronounce the word “photography”

- Many students having to listen to books because their reading comprehension and/or literacy skills aren’t developed enough to read literary works

What makes it worse is that some of the literacy issues extend to teachers, too. On a couple of occasions, I’ve witnessed teachers struggle to pronounce and/or incorrectly define words in their own lesson plans and words that any adult with a post-secondary degree should know how to pronounce and define.

Like, what is happening??

ETA: I’m the product of a mixed race relationship between a white woman and a minority man that failed. Wondering if other mixed raced people have noticed this tendency, and if they have any guesses as to why it occurs so often.

I’ve noticed that separation/divorce seems to happen a lot more often between couples involving a white woman and a minority man vs. couples involving a minority woman and a white man or ones between same-race couples. I’ve also noticed that this is particularly the case when children are involved.

Is it maybe bc of differences in gender roles/expectations across cultures?

Just curious since my 9 y/o family member just sent me a friend request. Idk if their parents know about it (I def gave them a heads up tho), but I certainly wasn’t on social media at 9. I started using it at 12; however, my parents had all of my social media notifications sent to their email, and had my password, so all of my interactions were monitored, and they could access my account at any time. Even with that, I think I was still probably too young for it at that age. Albeit, I also realize that social media didn’t really take off (with MySpace) until I was about 11, so the opportunity wasn’t really there for me at 9. Still, I find it really hard to believe that my parents would’ve been okay with me using it at 9, even if the opportunity existed.

Idk. Thoughts? Is this the new norm? I’m also childless, fwiw.

I (31F) have always wanted to get married, but still haven’t found the right person. I’ve always had a fulfilling dating life, and have always had many suitors to choose from… that said, every one of those once potential suitors, most of them now married or dating someone else, still follow me on social media.

Not only do almost every single one of them still regularly like my posts, but several of them regularly still try to communicate with me. I don’t interact with them, and have blocked most of them (only for those ones to create an endless number of new accounts and send me message requests through the new accounts before I’ve had the chance to block them). I do follow a few of the less egregious ones back simply so that I can let seeing their posts of their loving wives and families (while simultaneously trying to slide into my DMs) remind me what pieces of garbage they are. I’ve even considered reaching out to some of their wives to let them know of their husband’s behavior, but being that I don’t know their wives, and bc the guys don’t ever do anything that’s damning, I’ve never done so bc idk how well it’d be received by their wives. I’m also not trying to ruin a family all bc of behavior that I perceive to be suspicious. Then, there are the men that I engage with bc I don’t know them, only for them to reveal that they’re in “an open marriage” (I promptly stop talking to them after learning of such info).

Either way, it just makes me question how often this happens. Can you expect most married men to behave this way? Or, is it just the married men that still regularly use social media? Do their wives know about it? It honestly really concerns me when I think about marrying, myself, one day.

The estimate to fly an 8 week old pup from Richmond, VA to Denver, CO was $1700.

Is that a lot? The total includes the cost of airfare, the airline’s pet fee, and a flat rate charged by the company providing the service. They said it’s more rn than it normally would be bc airfare is really expensive rn. Is that true or am I just getting my head bumped?

Has anyone else ever paid for a service like this? If so, about how much did it cost you, and what travel distance did it involve?

People, generally, are honored when they’re asked to be a godparent… but, what if you’ve already decided that you don’t want kids? How do you explain that to someone, who’s asking you to be their child’s godmother, without offending them/making it sound like you don’t care about their child?

I came across this situation when my first niece was born. Luckily, my sister ultimately decided against getting my niece baptized, so I was never officially faced with that decision. Idk what I would’ve done if she’d gone through with the baptism, though, since my sister had no idea that I was reluctant to the arrangement. I love my niece dearly, but truthfully, don’t think I’d be a fit parent… at least not at this point in my life.

I (31F) haven’t made up my mind yet on whether or not I’d like to have children for a variety of reasons. The other day, declining school safety became another major consideration for me.

For the last several years, I’ve told myself that if I have kids, they’ll go to private school. Well, just this week, a private school near me was placed on lockdown bc of a shooting that occurred across the street from the school. While the shooting wasn’t on school grounds, it made me realize that essentially all schools in the US are targets for school shootings anymore.

With that in mind, I’d say that leaves 2-3 “safe” options for childhood education: homeschooling, private in-home instruction, and virtual schooling (for HS). I flat out can’t imagine myself homeschooling children simply bc I have ADHD (so I have a hard enough time managing even basic daily tasks), and also bc I know I’d feel terribly unfulfilled having to dedicate my life to doing that for 13+ years. At this point, unless the economy changes for the better in the near future, I probably won’t ever be able to afford private in-home instruction for future children. Meanwhile, a virtual learning experience just isn’t something I’d want for my children. All three options also raise the risk of my children having subpar social lives.

Have any other childless women considered this matter in making your decision on whether or not to have children? Is there really such a thing as safe, affordable, and socially enriching childhood education anymore? It kind of seems like there’s not, imho.

I graduated in 2012, and music from 2000 to like somewhere around 2013/14/15 is super cringe to me. I think maybe it’s bc those are the years I was in grade school (thru 2012, at least).

I’ve noticed that it’s usually one of the biggest things that sets me apart from core and elder millennials.