u/TooMuchDread

I'm 37 decided to divorce my wife

I don't have anyone and can't even share on reddit because most of the times i try it just gets deleted for whatever reason. So thank you for reading in advance.

She felt pure contempt for me, couldn't stand me and disrespected me on a daily basis. I've tried everything to solve it, it didn't work, so now we're pass that.

I can't stand life anymore after this, i gave everything for that, i really did go all in and couldn't imagine myself out of that life. I had nothing before her too, i've been some sort of loner my whole life and when i found her she convinced me of many things, i created expectations, i made incredible plans for the future, i made sure to demonstrate affection and love every single day, i didn't know what to do anymore so i had to end it.

The thing is, it's absolutely hopeless for me. Not because i can't find anyone, it's simply because i don't want to find anyone, this was a one shot, one i was certain would last forever, i don't even know what to do now.

Hopefully you don't see me as simply someone trying to be a victim, i'm just really in an existencial free fall. Even though i've always been some idiot who just read existential literary crap my whole life that probably helped me to be down already, it felt like there was still some mystery for the future and i had already accepted, back then, that i would never get married. Then i changed my mind and this happened, i think this thing will end up killing me, somehow.

TL;DR i'm just in melacoly because of divorce

Já tentei outrora 'conversar' com povo do outro lado do espectro político, mas a única coisa que sabem fazer é bater no peito para defender marginal.

Entretanto, não consigo entender como Bolsonarista apoia esse puxa-saquismo com o Trump, sendo que aquele é um lunático talvez sem precedentes em nossos tempos. Claramente movido pelo egocentrismo, usando o próprio país para sustentar a própria autoestima, e eu só me pergunto: como pode alguém achar que uma aliança com o país que está se tornando inimigo de todo o mundo ter qualquer chance de ser algo positivo para o Brasil?

Eu apoio acabar com esses líderes criminosos no BR, como PCC, CV e etc., isso é indiscutível, precisamos acabar com isso, mas esse tipo de comportamento de ir pros EUA e pedir ajuda pra tudo tira qualquer, absolutamente QUALQUER honradez do candidato, é um puppet, alguém sem personalidade, sem respeito próprio. O que pensam disso tudo?

Olá pessoal!

Moro na Itália há muitos anos, e fazemos trilhas em montanhas bem altas aqui sem qualquer medo de predadores, é bem tranquilo em relação a isso. No Brasil, devo me preocupar com onças ou coisa parecida? Se for, por exemplo, na serra da mantiqueira, ou na chapada dos veadeiros, diamantina, etc?

Para acampar inclusive.

Obrigado!

I've been watching youtube channels from Italians, but they all speak very clearly. I can understand pretty much everything i watch, but once i go out (i married an Italian so i live in Florence) it's so rare for me to understand when someone says something, it's crazy.

I'd like to know some channels where the person doesn't speak a 'clear' italian, but of course not one with too strong of an accent, i just need something where the person speaks in a regular speed, the same speed and pronunciation that it's spoken on a daily basis, please?

Travel vlogs would be great if you knew some. I watch a lot, but they all speak very clearly.

Thank you!

I'm asking this genuinely.

I've never had one, and a lot of people i ask say they like the iphone just because it's an Apple.

I'm sure there are advantages of it, but so many people have it just for the sake of the brand that sometimes it's a bit difficult to find out the real reasons.

My phone is getting a bit old and i'm starting to consider buying one. I'm also considering buying a MacBook since my laptop is also getting too old, and the Macbook i know the reason is: no Windows and great battery time.

Could you please help me with the iPhone?

Thank you!

There's this saying in Europe that french people are usually rude, but i've been to Menton, Avignon, Nice, Marseille and Monaco (although not France but, cmon...), and the people were incredibly nice, i mean overly nice even sometimes, i was impressed!

Anyway, is the saying just about Paris? Or simply a false one?

No such thing as spoiler!

Nothing ever happens, this thing doesn't evolve!

A quantidade de concurso bom para formação específica em contador não tá escrito!

Matérias tudo praticamente iguais!

TCE-SP; TJPR; Transpetro; SEFAZ-SC...

So i'm married for 3 years now.

I've noticed that my wife believes i'm highly stupid, incredibly stupid. The more i live, the more that seems like it. I know i'm not (not that i am above average either, to be honest), the thing is that one quality of mine that many have mentioned already is humility. Because there are too many things to know in the world i usually prefer not to be too sure about things, so when i know something i say it, and if questioned i immediately question myself because i know i might be wrong about some things.

That being said, i've come to notice my wife is the opposite, she is overconfident and often arrogant. Historically i never cared of what people thought of my intelligence, i usually just read and keep the thoughts to myself, but as a married man i'd like to share things with my wife, and talk, and the whole thing that comes with companionship.

In the beginning she would listen to me, like she would listen to anyone, but now there's not a moment i can remember where she was interested on anything i have to say. At first i thought 'oh well maybe i got boring', so i started policing myself, trying to realise what is it that i'm talking about, but truthfully i'm not that talkative so i usually will talk when it's something that is not ordinary.

Today i had something to share with her, and it was some breaking point for me. There was this thing she's been talking about for a whole month now, a supplement. Last night, by absolute chance, i saw something that clarified some of her wonderings. So today during breakfest i mentioned "You know what i found out about that?", and her immediate response was "I don't but i'm sure it's irrelevant". That was harsh thing for me, so i just said 'i see' and obviously didn't share.

I've been thinking since then what is it that happened. I'm not this ultra passive guy who will do all sorts of stuff to give any reason for her to lose respect for me at this level. I have my own goals, i have my own opinions and i will disagree with her when i think she's wrong. How are you supposed to act in a situation like this? I've talked to her about this, by the way, many times. I've asked her why she doesn't like to talk to me, or why she believes i'm that stupid, what is it that i did that gave her this image of me. All of this i asked so i could get a feedback, but i didn't get anything from it.

I guess i can't just not change anything anymore, right?

I'm a married men, for 3 years. My wife, for some reason, completely lost respect and affection for me, sometimes i even think she despises me. I never did anything in particular to her, in the beginning we would talk a lot and i would always try to adapt things, try to make living together doable. I changed a lot for her, and i also do a lot of things FOR her, always trying to make her life easier (that could be the reason why she started despising me, i imagine).

I've tried talking a lot of times, nothing changes. She'll do things that she knows i absolutely hate, and if i ever bring it up she'll make it about something bad i did one day, no discussion is possible anymore.

So i've been thinking of divorce for a while, but damn it's difficult to go through it. The brain keeps bringing the good moments (that are clearly way past us), i don't know if it's hope deep down, but rationally i know it's all gone and that stops me from going forward. I'm stopped in time, it's a miserable life. How do you get the courage?

Obs: if my english is not perfect i apologise in advance.

Married for three years. I'm extra nice to my wife, have always been very passionate about her, did (mostly still do) many things for her, like her breakfast everyday (since i wake up earlier), leave everything ready for her to go to work (i work from home). I fill her with kisses and hugs many times of the day, as soon as she leaves the bed, when she's going out to work, when she arrives. I always thought that was necessary to keep things alive, and i was wrong.

Although i'm like this with her, i'm not like this with other people, ever. Me and my whole family have always been very cold, not out of hatred or anything else, but we don't show emotions to people, to anyone. If we're sad, we keep it to ourselves, if we're happy we don't overreact to it (even if inside we're incredibly happy), it's just how we are, nothing artificial.

With my wife i am different, exclusively with her. I tell more things, i get excited for her, i get sad for her, etc. With time she started disrespecting me, specially my intelligence. I've read a lot my whole life, enough to know that because there are too many things to know for me to be confident about anything, hence i prefer to always be skeptical about the facts i give, and even the opinions (since i'll never know all the variables). I think this characteristic makes it seem like i'm a bit stupid to her, and i've mentioned many times that i try to be the nicest but i won't take bs from anyone, ever. In the beginning she apologised when that happened (it wasn't that often), and we moved on.

Then time kept passing and it increased, add to that the fact that i can't remember last time i shared something where she actually said anything other than "hum...". Then she started disagreeing with everything i said, even if it was obviously correct, and the few things that she did agree she talked about it like it's the most obvious thing in the world, like i'm stupid to be even mentioning it. About two months ago i told her again that i won't be taking bs, we're married and we're supposed to fill each others void (or whatever we have in existence), not to compete on who's right or wrong. And this time she disagree that she does that, so i explained her the examples and she would pick one small example that i gave and changed the focus of the conversation to something else that i did wrong, like the fact that she asked me to do something this way and i ended up forgetting, for example.

One month ago, after a whole month of continued disrespect, i mentioned again. I've been trying really hard to keep this going, but i don't think it's possible anymore. My whole life i saw marriage as the greatest definition of partnership and companionship, that is the one person that will be on your side (who is not your mother), but it seems now that i live with the enemy. Of course we don't have sex anymore, i guess with this context it goes without saying. So i stopped hugging and kissing her, i don't feel it anymore. I still do other things but mostly to avoid drama, cause i'm out of patience for that anymore. Could there be any way out if not divorce?

Hello all!

I've been hiking with my wife for about 2 years. We do some moderate hikes usually, did a few hard ones (but not really hard). Usually inclination from 500 to 720m. Never camped or anything, always one day hikes.

I'd like to do some more difficult ones, but i fear doing it, specially with my wife, fear of getting into a point of insane difficulty where although i can go up, we might struggle to go down afterwards. Is there a trick to lose this irrational fear? And i say irrational because i know that a lot of the hikes i fear we could do it already.

Thank you!

E tenho dito.

Nunca vi brasileiro feliz com o sucesso alheio, exceto se família (e talvez ainda).

Nunca vi país tão bom em tentar nivelar tudo por baixo.

Pergunta livre de prejulgamentos, trata-se de uma dúvida autêntica.

Alguém escolhe o concurso/carreira com base em integridade, que sempre convirja com suas convicções e que talvez te ajude a mudar algo para melhor?

TCE-SP, auditor de controle para Contabilidade.

Alguém aqui viu aquele edital? A quantidade é literalmente desumana. Qual é o propósito? Eu entenderia se fosse um edital um pouco menor que eles aprofundassem bastante nele, para testar de fato um conhecimento focado, mas cobrar lei de saneamento para alguém que é formado em contábeis? Cobrar lei de diretrizes da educação brasileira, para um contador?

Não sei se isso é geral, mas tem parecido que o processo de criação dos editais hoje em dia é um cara chegando pra banca e vomitando um monte de assuntos genéricos e os caras enfiando tudo guela abaixo.

O que acham?

Have to say that after watching so many shows in my life, nothing comes close to Betty Draper from Mad Men.

How about you?

We've been married for 5 years. We don't do anything sexual; she dislikes me deeply even though i try to be as present of a husband as i can; she believes i'm stupid even though history shows i'm not; she'll talk to her colleagues about everything, but none of it she'll talk to me about.

If i ask anything, literally anything, she'll either completely ignore (acting like she didn't hear it), or it'll be a cold yes/no.

I can't remember the last time I shared any news about myself with her that she showed any kind of interest.

I also can't count how many times i mentioned all these things to her and somehow it became about all the bad things that i apparently am. Sometimes i even go through the humiliation ritual of apologising for nothing, just to see if i'll get any type of affection.

Why is it that i can't leave this misery behind?

TL;DR: i get zero affection or respect from my wife.

Hello all!

I don't know if happens to you as well, but here's how it works for me:

If i drink no coffee, my mood gets really bad, so it's something i considered not doable anymore (i've tried staying without caffeine for many months, it's just not worth it.

If i wake up and make a regular coffee, in one hour i have panic attacks - EVERY SINGLE TIME! Now that, as many of you must know, is DEFINETELY not worth it as well.

So i've tried finding alternatives, first with green tea, then black tea, but none of that did anything for me.

What finally worked?
I started mixing decaf with caffenated coffee. So i put around 30% of caffenated powder and 70% decaf. I get the benefits of the caffeine without the panic attack. At first i thought it might have been psychosomatic, but then thought 'even if it is, it's worth not having any panic attack', but the other day i simply forgot to divide and made a full caffenated coffee. I wasn't thinking of anxiety, i simply forget. And one hour later i had a panic attack, and only after i realised i forgot to distribute between the two types.

Does this happen to any of you as well?

It's like your home country is not where you should be. Then you move to another continent, and everything is even more different.

Then you isolate yourself and that's it, you can't feel like part of this world. How is that even possible?

Bom dia pessoal!

Estou um pouco por fora das datas e das novidades, mas lembro há alguns meses que disseram que em julho teria um julgamento final disso por uma corte aqui na Itália. Ainda está válido isso? Quando será?