u/W8ngman98

Rant: Exactly what my title says. It’s an everyday thing and it’s weird. There is nothing wrong with being white (or any race for that matter), but to constantly see people ask if they could “pass” for white or identify as such is so bizarre to me. Just embrace the culture you were brought up in and move along. So many people that are mixed, Middle Eastern, and Latino (and yes, I know Latino/Hispanic isn’t a race) especially ask if they are white or label their results as “White American”, knowing the culture they were brought up in isn’t White American. Why not identify with what you grew up in? You can identify as White, but many of you have non-white roots that are equally as strong or even more relevant. Better yet, why not identify with being culturally Puerto Rican, Cuban, etc when talking about your background/revealing your results? I feel like a lot of you just choose White to minimize your ethnicity and conform to the racial hierarchy in America. These results seem to really get to your heads. Be true to yourself.

I’ve (28) been talking with this guy (25/26) on and off for maybe three years now. He’s… different. We’ve hung out a few times and when we do it’s pretty chill and then towards the end we slowly massage each other and then maybe start making out. We go some months without talking sometimes. This happens every once in a while, especially since he lives far. I feel like when I go a long time without watching porn i revert to talking to him over snap. He apparently is always horny (like 24/7 according to him) and he said that he gets hard by just sending me snaps of his boner, but he hasnt made it clear that it’s ME that he’s getting horny to. He has said that it makes him feel horny / sexy when he shows himself to me. One day i was actually irritable and told him i wasn’t trying to see snaps of his dick and he kept sending them! I cut him off for a while after that because like, wtf?

Fast forward to earlier this year, i reach back out to him because i did miss talking to him and still thought he was attractive. Sometimes i hint at coming over to workout together and chill with him and he doesn’t really invite me over to make out or anything or he says he doesn’t know when. The last time i did go over to workout with him he was too high to workout and wasn’t responsive to me when i hinted at cuddling while he watched Game of Thrones. I ended up leaving after about two hours since nothing was happening. We exchange snaps in our underwear from time to time and it’s mainly teasing with captions like “man, I haven’t bust in a while” or “don’t know what to do about this(boner)”. I go back and forth with him but I’m tired of the teasing and I’m wondering if he’s really just being egotistical with his snaps and playing games. Should I just leave this guy in the past? Thoughts?

From time to time I battle with POCD and sometimes find myself searching the difference between pedophilia and pocd. I also searched If pedophilia is genetic because I have an uncle who is a pedophile and I do not wish to end up like him. I have no desire to harm any child physically or sexually. I’ve dealt with groinal responses, intrusive thoughts, and excessive worrying regarding children. Recently some children that I previously worked with as a paraprofessional followed my art instagram page. The ones who still attend our school were removed from my follow list. I know it is generally discouraged to allow students to follow teachers, but since they no longer attend the school, I figured it would be ok. It’s more professional than it is personal so I allowed them to follow me BUT I DONT FOLLOW THEM and restricted their accounts so they can’t message me or write comments. Part of me feels weird about allowing them to follow me, although it’s only my artwork. They are in high school now , so they have moved on. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t be too lenient about them following me and liking my art posts, but I am proud of my artwork and like that it has a bigger audience. One of them is a former student that I had intrusive thoughts and an intrusive dream about (a weird scenario of us admitting to each other that we were crushing), so once he followed me I started to get ruminating thoughts about why I was happy to see them follow me and like my art posts. It’s been hell thinking about this stuff. On a side note, I also noticed that a coworker who is an actual teacher has several former students follow his TikTok. Any thoughts/advice on how to deal with my thoughts? I do genuinely care about these kids and want to see where they end up eventually, and I don’t wish to interact with them inappropriately or turn into a monster.

From time to time I battle with POCD and sometimes find myself searching the difference between pedophilia and pocd. I also searched If pedophilia is genetic because I have an uncle who is a pedophile and I do not wish to end up like him. I have no desire to harm any child physically or sexually. I’ve dealt with groinal responses, intrusive thoughts, and excessive worrying regarding children. Recently some children that I previously worked with as a paraprofessional followed my art instagram page. The ones who still attend our school were removed from my follow list. I know it is generally discouraged to allow students to follow teachers, but since they no longer attend the school, I figured it would be ok. It’s more professional than it is personal so I allowed them to follow me BUT I DONT FOLLOW THEM and restricted their accounts so they can’t message me or write comments. Part of me feels weird about allowing them to follow me, although it’s only my artwork. They are in high school now , so they have moved on. Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t be too lenient about them following me and liking my art posts, but I am proud of my artwork and like that it has a bigger audience. One of them is a former student that I had intrusive thoughts and an intrusive dream about, so once he followed me I started to get ruminating thoughts about why I was happy to see them follow me and like my art posts. It’s been hell thinking about this stuff. On a side note, I also noticed that a coworker who is an actual teacher has several former students follow his TikTok. Any thoughts/advice on how to deal with my thoughts? I do genuinely care about these kids and want to see where they end up eventually, and I don’t wish to interact with them inappropriately or turn into a monster.

I’m 28 years old now, but rewinding back to 3rd or 4th grade I was unsure about what one of my classmates was doing. He was a friend of mine and we often joked and acted goofy in class. One day, while sitting at the computer, he tried tickling me and at one point began to touch me on my lower back. Initially I just thought of it as him trying to tickle me, and I swat at him while laughing. However, he kept sneaking his fingers on my back and he even made it to my butt crack. He literally poked his fingers in my underwear to touch/tickle me but I swat at him again to stop. I think this may have happened more than once (at least one other day, I’m not sure). After he did that I thought it was weird so I did tell my mom and I think she told the school but nothing happened from what I can remember. From time to time I think about this with the rise of people revealing being assaulted whether they realized it at the time or not. Was this sexual assault/molestation in my case? Is this something I should just move on from or talk to someone about?

Gosh, it has been difficult trying not to think about death. I feel like people that I knew for years/met a long time ago have been dying as of late. A couple days ago my childhood principal passed away. Not too long ago a fraternity brother passed. I’ve heard of a few high school colleagues that passed within the passed few years. I know it’s inevitable, but it’s scary to think about those that are much closer to you dying eventually. I want to keep my mind off this .

Has anyone here gone through Montessori training? If so, how was it for you?

Has anyone here gone through Montessori training? If so, how was it for you?

How many dates does it take for you all to make it or break it with someone? Make it as in continue to talk or break it as in stop talking. One date? Two dates? I planned a date with a guy a week ago and it was fun, but I didn’t feel a spark (didn’t feel romantic but friendly). After the fact, I messaged him in the morning to make sure he got back home safe because I didn’t hear anything from him. I said I enjoyed the date and he said “me too!” and after that we haven’t texted at all during the week up until today. Wondering if I should give it another shot.