u/Wild-Researcher-1360

What is your experience with FA men unblocking? Why do they unblock post discard/after a few months of no contact?

All my accounts are on private so im just confused

Girl was nothing short of amazing, it was your own trauma that ruined things

The girl was nothing short of amazing, your own trauma messed things up.

A guy I was discarded by, has unblocked me about 3 weeks ago on whatsapp and tiktok (our main methods of communication) but no message. Without judgement, what does this mean? When they unblock but dont message? My tiktok especially is on private so what is he thinking?? Things were amazing between us.the last time I saw him he told me how much he was falling for me etc...2 days later he pulled the plug on a random monday and blocked me for the 2nd time

He is severely Fearful avoidant. we are 3 months No contact post discard. I know I shouldnt feel like this but I still miss him. Please no judgement, would just like to know their thought process behind this...

So mine has unblocked me about 3 weeks ago on whatsapp and tiktok (our main methods of communication) but no message. Without judgement, what does this mean? When they unblock but dont message? My tiktok especially is on private so what is he thinking??

he is severely Fearful avoidant. we are 3 months No contact post discard.

The last time he saw him he told me how much he was falling for me etc we had plans for the future we never made it too. Then on a random monday he blocked, 2nd time hes done this.

So mine has unblocked me about 3 weeks ago on whatsapp and tiktok (our main methods of communication) but no message. Without judgement, what does this mean? When they unblock but dont message? My tiktok especially is on private so what is he thinking??

he is severely Fearful avoidant. we are 3 months No contact post discard.

The last time he saw him he told me how much he was falling for me etc we had plans for the future we never made it too. Then on a random monday he blocked, 2nd time hes done this.

So mine has unblocked me about 3 weeks ago on whatsapp and tiktok (our main methods of communication) but no message. Without judgement, what does this mean? When they unblock but dont message? My tiktok especially is on private so what is he thinking??

he is severely Fearful avoidant. we are 3 months No contact post discard.

The last time he saw him he told me how much he was falling for me etc we had plans for the future we never made it too. Then on a random monday he blocked, 2nd time hes done this.

So mine has unblocked me about 3 weeks ago on whatsapp and tiktok (our main methods of communication) but no message. Without judgement, what does this mean? When they unblock but dont message? My tiktok especially is on private so what is he thinking??

he is severely Fearful avoidant. we are 3 months No contact post discard.

The last time he saw him he told me how much he was falling for me etc we had plans for the future we never made it too. Then on a random monday he blocked, 2nd time hes done this.

Lets say the girl did you no wrong at all , but you abruptly ended things due to your own trauma/fears.

I have been unblocked 3 weeks ago on Tiktok.....

Lets say she was your dream girl, but you ended things out of your own fear/trauma.

I have no plans of reaching out but noticed an ex situationship who struggled with lots of demons which is why things ended, has now unblocked me on Tiktok. My account is on private so dont know what he is trying to achieve? He confessed his feelings before things ended and no doubt he did care, but he had so much trauma and attachment issues. I never forgot him, but have tried dating in the meantime..but no luck. This has just had me wondering. he is fearful avoidant, this is the 2nd discard which the first time he admitted hs issues with alcohol and trust issues etc.

He is fearful avoidant, struggles with various issues and there was no denying our connection. I still miss him somewhat, but currently still on the dating market but I do still think of our connection.

Why is it he has unblocked, especially on 1 app only? He confessed his feelings/love for me in Discard 1, and basically explained how he has all these alcohol issues and cant sustain a relationship I deserve better etc. I assured him we can work things out, we finally met in person, unreal date, sparks flew he said he was falling for me and then blocked 3 days later. I now noticed I have been unblocked on TT, why?

He is fearful avoidant, struggles with various issues and there was no denying our connection. I still miss him somewhat, but currently still on the dating market but I do still think of our connection.

Why is it he has unblocked, especially on 1 app only? He confessed his feelings/love for me in Discard 1, and basically explained how he has all these alcohol issues and cant sustain a relationship I deserve better etc. I assured him we can work things out, we finally met in person, unreal date, sparks flew he said he was falling for me and then blocked 3 days later. I now noticed I have been unblocked on TT, why?

Wondering why FA's do this?

Particularly avoidants, why do they do this?

Hey guys,

So he hasnt reached out but I’ve been unblocked on tiktok after nearly 3 months no contact/ghosting. Whatsapp still blocked i believe😭😭😭😭😭 I dont know what hes thinking.

Can someone advise? Will he reach out? This man was severely avoidant and admitted how much he was falling for me the night before he pressed block again🥺🥺 kind words only💘

Hey guys,

So he hasnt reached out but I’ve been unblocked on tiktok after nearly 3 months no contact/ghosting. Whatsapp still blocked i believe😭😭😭😭😭 I dont know what hes thinking.

Can someone advise? Will he reach out? This man was severely fearfully avoidant and admitted how much he was falling for me the night before he pressed block again🥺🥺 kind words only💘

I (F28) went on a second date with a guy (M28) and thought it went really well. We've been talking for a month now, hes consistant, good communication, took me on high value dates. I initiated most of the physical affection (hand holding, cuddling etc.) but he was always receptive. But he had said he hates cringy stuff, rejected my compliments a lottt, said he holds off on physical stuff and he has restrained himself to not do things so early to avoid getting hurt??

At the end of the night, we had been a bit touchy in the car. I asked for a kiss, in the spur of the moment we ended up kissing passionately, i told him i thought about kissing him all night and wanted him sexually but he was just kinda silent during all this, but i'd say it was a make out session like his hands were moving etc. but also said he likes to take things slow and wanted to build the tension. At the end he said he would have saved that kiss for date 3, and that "he wouldnt have done it in the car" which threw me a little. I knew I'd kinda blown it with the kiss, but I have never honestly dealt with a guy like this?

The next day I sent a light voice note saying I hoped he had a good day and just wanted to check he was comfortable with how things had progressed because I respected him and didn't want to overstep any boundaries. He replied a bit mehhhhh saying he likes to control the pace and prefers to keep things steady in the early stages.

Two days later he sent me a text saying I'm a lovely person, appreciated our time together, but the physical attraction had faded towards the end and he didn't want to lead me on...

I'm devastated because his actions on the date felt completely opposite to what he later said. Did I come on too strong and fumble this, or does this sound like someone whose attraction genuinely just faded after the date? Be brutally honest

I'm looking for some outside perspective because I'm genuinely questioning whether I've let my past experiences cloud my judgement.

For context, I'm 29 and she is 28. I've been hurt/lovebombed in previous relationships, so I naturally move quite slowly. I told this woman from the beginning that I like to get to know someone over a few months before rushing into anything physical or serious, and she said she was completely happy with that.

We messaged consistently for about a month with 2 dates, we live an hour away. She was always kind, honest, consistent, affectionate without being overbearing, respected that I have a demanding job and never expected constant replies.

We went on two dates.

On the first date, she initiated holding my hand and we got back to the car and I held her thigh while driving, initiated by her.

On the second date, she hugged me, we were affectionate while walking around shopping and in the car (initiated by her), she asked if she could put her feet up on me in the car (which I thought was funny), and I stroked her legs a little after she guided my hand. But I still made it clear in the car that I stop myself from anything sexual. I dont like it too soon. I asked her if she gets sexually frustrated a lot? She said if its someone I like yes.

the end of the night, when I dropped her home, she asked when she'd see me again. Then she whispered, "Can we kiss?" We ended up having a passionate kiss, and she told me she'd wanted to kiss me all night and that she really wanted me. She was obviously turned on

I told her I still wanted to take things slowly physically, and I wouldnt have done it in the car maybe in a more private setting. I also said I planned on kissing her on date 3. She seemed a little disappointed but jokingly said, "So, you won't see me again now," then laughed, we kissed again, and afterwards she texted saying she'd had a lovely evening.

The following day she sent me a voice note saying she hoped I had a good time at the cinema with my sister, but more importantly she wanted to check that I was comfortable with how physical things had become. She said she respected me, never wanted to overstep my boundaries, and wanted to make sure I didn't feel uncomfortable. I told her I don't really like things getting too intense too early, hate cringy stuff and just naturally ease in, and she replied that she respected that and that sometimes her attraction gets the better of her and we can move at that pace. She seemed a little anxious.

Despite all this, I started questioning whether she was moving too fast or whether something just didn't feel right. I ended up sending her a breakup message saying I lost attraction towards the end, I wasnt feeling it etc and Im sorry as I know its upsetting.

Looking back, I can't actually identify any obvious red flags. If anything, she seemed respectful, communicative and emotionally mature, kind to the waiter. Just veryyyy sexually inclined. She asked for consent, checked in afterwards, clearly a little little clingly but I do wonder why it was very touchy touchy/emotionally charged.

So my question is:

Does this sound like someone who was simply enthusiastic and genuinely interested, and have I potentially let my own fear or past experiences get in the way? Or do you think there are warning signs here that I'm not seeing?

I'd really appreciate honest opinions, even if you think I got this wrong. I'm trying to learn rather than look for validation.