How do I (38M) deal with this massive betrayal, by a friend (44M) and my ex (39F)?
My ex broke up with me last month and whilst the first week was really shit without her, I got over it and focused on movies, TV shows, gaming and seeing friends.
I had a friend come round mine tonight, which I thought was weird as we only see each other in group settings. He dropped a bombshell on me, saying they have been seeing each other. Felt like I knew this was coming but I'm still very very angry.
It's only been a month and I just feel so disrespected. Thing is, she was seeing him 1-1 right before we broke up and in her marriage 2 years ago, she was cheating on her husband multiple times. Now I feel like, was she cheating on me too near the end of our relationship?! Thing is, I knew this when we first started dating and I should have called it off there, saving me time and money. I was just so so invested in her, that I ignored the big red flag in front of me.
It's really fucked me up and I'm going to try to stay positive. I'm seeing friends tonight and Saturday, which I know will help. Needless to say, I said to the friend I no longer want to be friends with him.
PS, forgot to say, he was recently in love with a married woman and still lives with his ex wife. Like, both of them deserve each other!