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I'm hoping to start studying at gatshead college in September, and was wondering if anyone has any advice. What's the college as a whole like? I will be taking an adult course, so how is that treat? Is it just the same as a 16-18 course? Good places to eat around the college? I've never really been around that part of gatshead so I'm wondering what it's like as I know it's pretty close to the quayside! Plus, will anyone else be attending the adult courses in September? Would love to meet new people 😊

Just want someone to chat to. I'm into gaming, reading and cooking! If you want to know more drop me a message. I'm trying to get my life together as I'm a caffeinated mess currently lol

Me and my boyfriend have been together 4 years. We have a 10mo and live together. My boyfriend works, but I don't. I'm looking for work but have barely heard anything back. I don't feel the love with him anymore, and unfortunately feel like we've grown apart. I feel like I'll be better off without him in the long run. But right now, I'm stuck. I have nothing and no one. No friends or anything. Just my son. What do I do? I want to leave but I will have nowhere to live, and very little money. I want to work hard and get a good job, but it's hard when they don't even respond 🥲. I feel stuck here and want to get out of this situation. I'm planning on going back to college (UK) but I'm not sure if I'm eligible for funding, and the college hasn't gotten back in touch. What do I do? I plan on waiting until I have a job, but I can't lead him on and live miserable. I still care for him but it doesn't feel like a relationship anymore. Just feels more like friends who have a baby together.

We both always wanted to try YouTube, and cook every evening so why not? Even if it doesn't get anywhere it's still fun to try. But we can't even come up with a name lol. Basically we're trying to go for an atomic shrimp type vibe but with our own twists ofc. The plan is, if he's cooking I'll record, if I'm cooking he'll record. Pretty simple. BUT anyone got any tips for channel names, video titles ect?

For context I'm 19 with a 10 month old, looking for work but really want to go back to college now that I feel I'm ready. My partner and I are on a joint claim, he works currently but unfortunately doesn't earn very much. I want to plan out my life and make sure I can provide a good future for our son. Can anyone help? Will I receive UC/ any form of funding for college? Thank you 😊

I'm 19 and thinking about going back to college to start my career as I don't want to be the stereotypical young parent. I want to prove to myself I can be more. My son is 10months now, and time is getting on. What employer is going to hire a 20yr old with no qualifications or experience? So I want to get back into college, and wanted to know other people's experiences who were in similar situations as me. My partner works and is trying his best which I appreciate so much, but it's not enough to get us off of UC currently. I'm searching for work whilst also thinking about college. Any advice? Or does anyone want to share their story?

Hi! I'm 19 and don't really have very much work experience or qualifications. I'm looking to get my life back together, and was wondering if any small business are looking for someone (maybe to train up). I'm hard working, reliable and very organised. Honestly I'm happy doing anything, but my dream is to work in a kitchen eventually! I have my CV that I can share if anyone would be interested 😊

Me and my partner have been together 4 years. We have a baby boy who is my whole world.

The relationship started off amazing! We were young and in love. We planned our whole lives together. He treated me like a princess, like I was the only girl in the world.

I then got pregnant. I was so so happy because I knew this was exactly what I needed and it just felt right. I was still sexually active for quite a while into my pregnancy, but then got into the 3rd trimester and seemed to get all the symptoms at once, so really wasn't in the mood most days.

Gave birth, waited the 6 weeks to heal and a few weeks longer because I was exhausted and had no energy. But eventually again became normally sexually active, maybe a bit less as we had a newborn and were both always quite tired.

We got amazing news that we were getting the house we both really wanted! So I stood outside waiting for details, (on his phone as mine was dead lol) whilst I was waiting I decided to scroll through his Reddit. Bad idea. It was all porn. Nothing of his favourite game, or songs or anything. Just porn.

We spoke about it and he just couldn't understand why I was so annoyed.

My pov, I have just given birth to your son, I have stitches down there, in pain, can't perform sexually without serious health risks. And you can't wait for me?? Am I not worth waiting for?

BUT

I decided to give him a chance and thought fine, he didn't get anything from me and I can't control him.

Things got better, we moved into the new place, we were both sexually happy (I believe) and exploring new things.

I was happy with my after birth body and finally started to feel like myself again. A few months go by, and I open his phone.

Not to purposely snoop, I trusted him. Until I saw his recommendations on insta. Then I thought wait... Lemme check his saved posts. Again, half naked women, unrealistic looks, but very similar vibe to me. Or at least what I was trying to get to after birth and a big move.

Again, I spoke to him. He said he didn't do anything with it. Then I remembered, he can't. Our WiFi has an automatic block for anything like only fans, and I just have forgotten to turn it off, cause what's the need really?

Again

I decided to forgive him, I get it they look nice whatever.

Now I'm stuck.

He finds girls who I envy. Not because he enjoys their content, but because (and I know how it sounds, but idk how to phrase it) I'm currently working on my makeup skills, trying to afford clothes that are the exact style, (just much less sexual), waiting to get my hair done that exact colour.

I hope I explained what I mean, I try not to compare myself to other girls, but they do give me inspo of how I'd like to present myself. And it makes me feel very very self conscious that it's those types of girls. Feels like I'm not good enough, like I'm useless. He likes what he likes and I know that, and I want to be that (not for him, for me) but I can't 100% because I have a baby and other priorities before always doing my makeup, always dressing a certain way.

It makes me feel like he's comparing me, which then makes me compare myself.

He still doesn't understand why I get upset. And then I said it was alright because I don't really want to control him, but he then focuses on certain girls (small following too, so seems more personal)over and over and it makes it worse.

Now I just want some male validation cause I feel horrible about myself. Like I'm not sexually appealing or can't perform good enough. I just want some guy whose my taste to tell me I'm pretty or something. He's the only one who ever paid any attention to me and even that is starting to fizzle away. I want to make him feel how I feel, but how do I do that? If I find some guy I find attractive and hyper focused on sexual posts of him he'd say I'm cheating.

Honestly I know the best thing to do is probably leave, but right now I can't. I will when the time is right. I'm not standing for this anymore. I love him and want it to work, but I've given him loads of chances. He said he would stop and never did. He said he'd tell me if I ask, still lied every time.

I'm from the UK, 19 looking for work. I want to plan out my career and figure out the steps to achieve the future I want, but not too sure who to speak to about it. I don't have experience and only have GCSEs for personal reasons. But I'm sick of being jobless and don't want to be stuck forever, so I'm trying to push forward and start my career journey.

Me and my partner have been together 4 years. We have a baby boy who is my whole world.

The relationship started off amazing! We were young and in love. We planned our whole lives together. He treated me like a princess, like I was the only girl in the world.

I then got pregnant. I was so so happy because I knew this was exactly what I needed and it just felt right. I was still sexually active for quite a while into my pregnancy, but then got into the 3rd trimester and seemed to get all the symptoms at once, so really wasn't in the mood most days.

Gave birth, waited the 6 weeks to heal and a few weeks longer because I was exhausted and had no energy. But eventually again became normally sexually active, maybe a bit less as we had a newborn and were both always quite tired.

We got amazing news that we were getting the house we both really wanted! So I stood outside waiting for details, (on his phone as mine was dead lol) whilst I was waiting I decided to scroll through his Reddit. Bad idea. It was all porn. Nothing of his favourite game, or songs or anything. Just porn.

We spoke about it and he just couldn't understand why I was so annoyed.

My pov, I have just given birth to your son, I have stitches down there, in pain, can't perform sexually without serious health risks. And you can't wait for me?? Am I not worth waiting for?

BUT

I decided to give him a chance and thought fine, he didn't get anything from me and I can't control him.

Things got better, we moved into the new place, we were both sexually happy (I believe) and exploring new things.

I was happy with my after birth body and finally started to feel like myself again. A few months go by, and I open his phone.

Not to purposely snoop, I trusted him. Until I saw his recommendations on insta. Then I thought wait... Lemme check his saved posts. Again, half naked women, unrealistic looks, but very similar vibe to me. Or at least what I was trying to get to after birth and a big move.

Again, I spoke to him. He said he didn't do anything with it. Then I remembered, he can't. Our WiFi has an automatic block for anything like only fans, and I just have forgotten to turn it off, cause what's the need really?

Again

I decided to forgive him, I get it they look nice whatever.

Now I'm stuck.

He finds girls who I envy. Not because he enjoys their content, but because (and I know how it sounds, but idk how to phrase it) I'm currently working on my makeup skills, trying to afford clothes that are the exact style, (just much less sexual), waiting to get my hair done that exact colour.

I hope I explained what I mean, I try not to compare myself to other girls, but they do give me inspo of how I'd like to present myself. And it makes me feel very very self conscious that it's those types of girls. Feels like I'm not good enough, like I'm useless. He likes what he likes and I know that, and I want to be that (not for him, for me) but I can't 100% because I have a baby and other priorities before always doing my makeup, always dressing a certain way.

It makes me feel like he's comparing me, which then makes me compare myself.

He still doesn't understand why I get upset. And then I said it was alright because I don't really want to control him, but he then focuses on certain girls (small following too, so seems more personal)over and over and it makes it worse.

Now I just want some male validation cause I feel horrible about myself. Like I'm not sexually appealing or can't perform good enough. I just want some guy whose my taste to tell me I'm pretty or something. He's the only one who ever paid any attention to me and even that is starting to fizzle away. I want to make him feel how I feel, but how do I do that? If I find some guy I find attractive and hyper focused on sexual posts of him he'd say I'm cheating.

Honestly I know the best thing to do is probably leave, but right now I can't. I will when the time is right. I'm not standing for this anymore. I love him and want it to work, but I've given him loads of chances. He said he would stop and never did. He said he'd tell me if I ask, still lied every time.

I'm currently starting Skyrim (I know I'm quite a few years late), I got through the intro a few years back and just never picked it back up until now! I know how much love the game has and I've played alot of fallot so know Bethesda games 😅. Just wanted to share I guess! Anyone wants to discuss anything about it or about whatever new game they're starting I'm all ears.

Anyone know a good tattooist close ish to town? Not extortionate prices either. Thanks!

My son is now 10mo and getting a bit too big for his car seat. We currently have the Joie i-Juva R129 i-Size Birth To 12 months. So would the next one be the Joie Elevate R129 Toddler to Booster Car Seat? I just want to make sure before I buy one that I'm getting it right and that he'll be safe! Thank you ☺️

As me anything and I'll answer. I'm bored lol

If so, are they any good or just scams? I wanna know your experiences!

I'm a first time mum, and also a gamer. My son is 10 months soon!! It's been a wonderful time, but I don't get the chance to play as often 🥲 now that he's older I'm hoping atleast on the nights or durning nap time a get a few sessions in. I was just wondering how other mothers who game are able to juggle it. I want to keep up my hobbies, but ofc my son gets most of my attention now!