▲ 34 r/NonBinaryOver30+1 crossposts

what do ambiguous presenting people look like as seniors 🫪

so I'm 32. I have a friend (cis man) around my age, and he's just hands down the most conventionally attractive person in the group. we all know it. his parents are early 60's, everyone pinned his dad as a DILF immediately. and we all know exactly what our friend is gonna look like as he ages. we've seen Dad's throwbacks to prove it.

this little running gag, "we all know what he's gonna look like," threw me. i laughed to another friend about it and she asked if I didn't really look like either parent.

not just that, but with my HRT appointment looming, I have no idea how my prospective gender euphoria works with telomeres and gravity in the mix.

if you don't have to turn on the retirement community filter on Redfin and you're feeling fully affirmed in a nondescript presentation, I would love to know what that looks like for you 😭 please drop an imgur/post link

if you're aiming for the middle and have some senior euphoria goals in mind, please share because I have no clue lmao

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u/blue_moon1122 — 7 days ago

it's fine I'm used to this

when groups of friends walked side-by-side at the mall or between classes, I was always the one to end up in the back.

I was always the one to miss out on an invitation for some bullshit reason.

even now, people have my number and they still choose to communicate to me through my partner.

I don't fucking care if you're the modern update to David Bowie (because personally, androgyny, sub out for whoever idc), all your skincare products start with pharma grade aloe juice, and you drink half your pounds in ounces like a proper hydrator. if you insert yourself in a conversation, plant your gorgeous ass directly in front of one of the homies, and they're looking uncomfortable, I'm telling you to fuck off.

u/blue_moon1122 — 8 days ago
▲ 207 r/twilight

Possibility by Lykke Li, but it's Charlie sitting in the living room for 16 years

"Twilight from Charlie's perspective" is something I hear a lot of, but I want to hear specific ideas for scenes 🙀

u/blue_moon1122 — 8 days ago

friendly reminder: THE Rabbit Authorities approve! (and I'm tired of having to tell the bunny people)

this is my bun Chamomile with some of her foster siblings, from my regional HRS chapter rescue. her affinity for kitties is what got her adopted. they mentioned she liked cats as we were finishing up our visit with some candidates, and I said "you could have led with that, we'll take her!"

we've had her for 8 months and our cats are sometimes overwhelmed with her affection. never a scratch, only one cat who does a retracted bop, and the 2 who were raised with rabbits tend to run away. one of them will gently push her (sometimes off the couch, i will try to get y'all a video 😭)

bunny people, well-meaning as they are, 10% of them can be overzealous dicks. cross-species socialization isn't for everyone, and you can only go into it if you're willing to accomodate total separation. here's some literature for any interested parties.

u/blue_moon1122 — 10 days ago

a former friend spent thousands of dollars for a gnome to repeat what I already told him.

so it was 2016, I was a 20-something coffee shop hipster in my hometown, most of the social circle at this establishment was other 20-somethings from high school. a few strays as well. a well-liked professor from the local college, I think he taught masters level math courses, in his 60's. a Russian expat from the cigar shop next door who chain smoked, never ate, and cussed like a sailor, she was older than me, but I wasn't sure if it was by 3 years or 13.

and Gavin (not his real name). a self-employed website designer who worked from the coffee shop every day. married with some young kids, in his 40's, but insisted that he fit right in with the 20-somethings at the shop (he didn't). he was interesting to talk to, because he was very bright, but he was always wrong about everything. I won't share his core beliefs, but remember, it was 2016, so I'm just gonna let you imagine the kind of person you think he is.

anyway, I'm in my early 20's and this person is offering to buy me drinks, so I'm like "fuck yeah, free drinks" (it's not gonna get gross, it's ok).

he just unloads on me about how his marriage is falling apart and he has no idea what happened. man is sobbing. he says he's tried everything. he doesn't understand. and his kids have to live with not knowing what love looks like.

so I ask him about how they met, how they were in the beginning, and he tells me a story about how he laid eyes on her and thought "this woman is gonna have my babies." i explained how, based on what he said, the basis of the entire relationship was not love, or romance, or lasting connection, but procreation. from the very beginning, he saw her as a mother and not a whole person. everything else was just to support that, and if he cannot face that truth, he can't have that relationship.

so over the next few months, according to him, he throws himself into trying to repair the relationship and she's just not having it. mind you, he's still doing happy hour with 20-somethings on the regular. so... yeah. they separated.

that summer, he goes to Costa Rica, does ayahuasca, comes back, and tells me all about how the ayahuasca gnome taught him that his marriage wasn't built to last, because the purpose of it was to give him his kids. and he's ready to sign the papers.

that whole shit cost him like 5 grand.

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u/blue_moon1122 — 12 days ago
▲ 40 r/Rabbits

she's shaking down this nerd for its' lunch money

guess the foraging flower is now a throw toy 😅

u/blue_moon1122 — 13 days ago

I'm thinking of doing a stand-up routine about being an estranged orphan, here's one of the less traumatizing portions

so I was really into Little Orphan Annie as a kid. I think my mom randomly bought the VHS from a thrift store, because I have absolutely no formative memory of how I got so obsessed with her, I just was.

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for those of you who may be unfamiliar with this work, it's about a snarky ginger orphan in Great Depression New York. she's beloved by most of the other orphans, homeless people who talk to her about how the previous president Herbert Hoover fucked them over with tariffs (this was edited out of the movie, but i also had the original Broadway soundtrack on vinyl), random menial laborers around the city, and a stray dog that she rescues from animal control.

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right around the end of the Great Depression, when FDR takes office, and things are starting to get better, Mr. Clean's millionaire evil twin adopts her for a PR stunt. she ends up melting his icy millionaire heart and making everyone's lives super awesome.

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I was 3-4 years old, and my 3 takeaways from this franchise were:

  1. I require a large dog (still do, haven't yet gotten a dog of any size, my partner sometimes suggests breeds that aren't big enough to slow dance with and i just shoot a death glare)

  2. I want that coily ginger mop so bad (I've gone in a very different direction regarding my hair choices, but at the time, I tried to pluck out every strand of hair so I would need a wig and I could pick out one like that)

  3. orphans are cool (I can now appreciate this as foreshadowing)

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i estranged in 2019, and during COVID, I told my roommate about my childhood obsession with Annie. he shared a similar experience, but rather than romanticizing orphanhood, he noted that after she was adopted, all of the adults in her life were enthusiastic about her presence.

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all I could muster up in response was "I'm telling my therapist on you."

u/blue_moon1122 — 19 days ago

wondering if this is a thing: refusing to stop bringing up your worst exes

apologies if it comes off body-shamey. I wasn't roasting him up when it happened, he was just a chubby dude, and I knew his physique in different styles better than my mom did.

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not only did I have no interest in my ex's physical appearance, or even his continued existence, but my mom was more concerned about gossip than the fact that I'd gone from slightly overweight to nearly underweight in 6 months. talking about my ex who stalked me after I ended the relationship only served to alienate me. talking about his "dramatic transformation" which was comprised of questionable fashion choices, while I was in need of supportive care, only served to harm me.

u/blue_moon1122 — 21 days ago
▲ 27 r/Bunnies

y'all I'm crying 😭 the ointment ruined my baby's eyebrow

Chamomile just got a little corneal ulcer from hay poke. the vet says it's healing very well, but we got an ophthalmolic ointment to make sure it stays on course. everything is okay 🥲

reminds me of my first experience with a microwave waxing kit 💀💀💀 she thumped and tried to hide when I tried to get my shot, and she usually poses. she knows she isn't photogenic right now 😂

(her eye isn't weepy from the injury, this is from the application of ointment to prevent an infection. if a mod instructs me to change the tag, I will gladly do so!)

u/blue_moon1122 — 22 days ago

seeking EPO deficiency DX without elevated BUN/creatinine

I have unilateral renal agenesis due to MRKH-2. for the past 2 years, I've had alternating high MCV and low MCHC levels. if it's not one, it's the other. I can't explain it with any nutritional deficiency, and I don't drink excessively. the majority of my health philosophy is make sure I don't wreck my one kidney. hydration, fruit, lean protein, all of that.

and yet, I've struggled with chronic fatigue for years. we've already ruled out hypothyroid, and narcolepsy/IH were inconclusive because I took my PSG before washing out on my antidepressant. the pinpricks in my extremities and consistent borderline-high glucose (always normal A1C), on the other hand, are newer developments.

my old primary happened to be a nephrologist, and left the practice for his specialty. we had a pretty good rapport, and I happened to be able to find where he's setup. I'm calling back on Monday to make sure they take my insurance.

from the bit of homework I've done, BUN/creatinine don't have to be compromised before EPO deficiency can start presenting, and the combination of lifestyle management and misdiagnosis can delay treatment for years.

are these symptoms and my singular kidney enough to justify an EPO test?

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u/blue_moon1122 — 24 days ago
▲ 127 r/Bunnies+1 crossposts

birthday cake :3

we're getting ready for our first vet visit, and I just noticed the estimated DOB for my Chamomile is next month. the cats all get a big portion of tuna and cheese "cake" for their birthdays, so it's only fair that she gets a birthday cake as well.

I have plenty of hay and pellet dust for homemade hay treats, and she's a bunny of simple tastes. she's only turned down fresh mango (dried is fine) and papaya, and one-off attempts at frozen produce (understandable, but we have no confirmation for un-dried berries). banana is obviously great.

drop any homemade treat recipes you're happy to share, TIA. 💙

u/blue_moon1122 — 25 days ago

the wings are fucking phenomenal, y'all

two men having a seahorse baby is a function in my brain that I can't turn off for some reason, I'm great at it but gfdi

u/blue_moon1122 — 27 days ago
▲ 581 r/TrollCoping+1 crossposts

just had to wait 2 weeks to develop side effects first

you think something like a congenital systemic insufficiency would be adequate proof, but yeah, I'll take a jab and a pee cup 🙄

u/blue_moon1122 — 28 days ago

cessation aid for Effexor

the typical adjuncts and bridge SSRIs have all been exhausted, and I'm 2 weeks in on 42mg.

it's working and my sleep schedule is correcting. my first side effects were fatigue and vivid dreams, so I knew I was experiencing severe REM rebound. I'm now only having vague impressions, like "it was post-apocalyptic, and I had a bodyguard" instead of making a reasonably accurate guess about the name of my friend's dad's former workplace.

dry mouth and nasal congestion still suck. i sometimes wake up with a dry, hacking cough. I have a non-steroid nasal spray (so I can take it every day) and a ginger chew/fiber gummy/stick of gum/cough drop.

I ruined a nearly full bottle of ranch, and almost lost some milk, so it's having ADHD on hard mode. but unlike lamictal, my recall isn't impaired. very happy about that.

I've been experiencing some loss of color contrast perception in not great lighting conditions, and my hands were staticky when I woke up today. both of those are potential blood sugar issues. gonna take it up with my psych on Friday.

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u/blue_moon1122 — 1 month ago

would it be really obnoxious or genuinely helpful to make an illustrated guide for pet sitters?

just a low-effort sample.

even some of our oldest friends can't tell the 11's apart, and all 3 cats are brown tabbies.

our pre-free run checklist is a bit tedious, and I figure the best way to see it gets done correctly is to show exactly what needs to be done. if we go through an app service, we might not have the opportunity to guide through every service provider, and it might be good to have a reference?? especially re: bunny care. it could save on a lot of communication.

u/blue_moon1122 — 1 month ago