Negative thoughts about my future husband,inlaws and kids.

I have some old beliefs that are so deep rooted in me due to cptsd .I keep thinking that karma will come back (even though I haven't done anything) and cannot have everything perfect in life.Whenever I think about my future family ,I feel an unknown sense of dread and doom.

For ex;My husband will be jealous of my success and try to sabotage me ,My in-laws will be very bothersome and try to break our family or if everything is good my kids will suffer or be disabled in some way.Basically I feel very paranoid .

I really tried to purge those negative thought but for some reason I find no relief.I understand that all those negative beliefs stem from my own previous experiences and whatever I saw growing up. Any tips to think more positively?Advice much appreciated.

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u/cadenzasilicra — 11 hours ago

Startups based in India catering to customers based in middle east,share your experiences.

I was wondering if that is possible.Any legalities to keep in mind as they have very stringent rules .Would love to hear your experiences.

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u/cadenzasilicra — 18 hours ago
▲ 6 r/vedicastromedia+5 crossposts

Need guidance about my career path,at crossroads.Will it affect my marriage/family life?

I will be taking a very interesting and unconventional career path/degree but also confused if it is the right path for me.I am worried if it will be a good decision as I don't want to burn out later on.Any insights about my career and how it will affect my family life later on ,I will be very grateful.

u/cadenzasilicra — 4 hours ago

What do you consider as mixed signals from female friends?

Sometimes due to different cultural contexts,people mistake friendliness for romantic interest.

Drop your perspectives guys.

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u/cadenzasilicra — 3 days ago

Jobs related to material science and metallurgy (Engineering/scientist).

I just want to understand what kind of jobs one can get related to this degree in UAE,I can't seem to find much information online.

Corrosion engineering, lab works, failure analysis etc .

I am trained to work in the semiconductor industry and do computational material science (research/industry)but ready to change fields if necessary.

Also does gender matter while seeking such jobs in UAE?

(Not a gcc national)

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u/cadenzasilicra — 3 days ago

Is it possible to manifest change of heart/mind of others?

For ex: Trying to get support from a conservative family

without breaking ties with them.Changing their beliefs and making them look at things rationally?

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u/cadenzasilicra — 3 days ago

Inlaws and husband(maybe?) have a problem with me earning more than my husband.

I have worked hard to be where I am today.I thought if the guy I marry is supportive everything will be fine and I can continue to be successful in my career.

I earn more than my husband and I made it very clear that I need a supportive partner who will share chores and stand by my side and not lead to burnout(very important),to which my husband agreed.I had childhood trauma where I witnessed inlaw power dynamics in my family and didn't want the same to repeat in my life.

However my inlaws are a bit old school and are slowly brainwashing my husband.They drop negative mysogynistic comments like "How can she earn more than you,she is your wife!","Is she taking proper care of you and the kids?" Etc

My husband has ADHD and is a bit sensitive to such comments as he has been super successful throught his life.He is slowly withdrawing support and not helping . When I brought it up ,my husband said I could leave my job and it would be better for the kids etc .Its kind of hard to counter argue with that kind of statement and it just breaks my heart.

I am in no position to divorce him(too drastic I feel) nor can I go back to my parents/friends.I have no support system .

I SIMPLY CANNOT "earn the bread and make the bread" anymore .I feel emotionally drained.I cannot afford to burnout again .I'm tired.

Any tips appreciated.

TLDR-Husband said he will be supportive and not let me burnout,doing opposite of what he promised because my inlaws are droping negative misogynistic comments and I have no one to go to,any tips appreciated

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u/cadenzasilicra — 3 days ago

Third culture kids of Indian origin,share your experiences!

Children of expats,or those who have lived in different countries etc. How do you cope with not belonging to one culture or not having a sense of belonging to one partucular place?

Not having a good social network or support system,not knowing the ways of life in India?

I would love to hear your experiences!

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u/cadenzasilicra — 3 days ago

Anyone doing computational material science?

Hey everyone,I would like to know about some good sources to get started with CMS!

I would also like to know if there are any groups I can join online!

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u/cadenzasilicra — 4 days ago

Will my career path be good?

I'm going to study engineering but my family is kind of against it as it has lesser opportunities.Am I taking the right decision?

My interpretation:

I'm overthinking and stuck in some sort of analysis paralysis .Support will arrive soon. I'm putting some efforts in the wrong place and being negative. Will grow in this path.

u/cadenzasilicra — 5 days ago
▲ 3 r/NaturalBeauty+1 crossposts

Books, websites, Youtube channels etc to know about how to "eat" your skincare?

p.s. by "eat" your skincare I mean things to add/remove from diet for healthy skin!

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u/cadenzasilicra — 5 days ago

German language(opportunities)

I know German and I was wondering if it would be useful to me in the Indian job market.

Will it be a good addition on my resume?

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u/cadenzasilicra — 7 days ago

Jobs related to material science and metallurgy (Engineering/scientist).

I just want to understand what kind of jobs one can get related to this degree in qatar,I can't seem to find much information online.

Corrosion engineering, lab works, failure analysis etc .

I am trained to work in the semiconductor industry but ready to change fields if necessary.

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u/cadenzasilicra — 7 days ago

Laptop reccomendations for :Scientific research -modelling ,computing, simulation softwares and AI/ML

Budget

max 1600 dollars

Screen size-Any

Weight limit: Any, but must be very durable and not overheat .I need to carry it everywhere so portability matters

Purpose:

I am an engineering and physics research student who will need to run software such as MATLAB , SolidWorks , Ansys, CAD etc. I also need to to be able to code in Python ,C++ and do AI/ML work.

Form factor-regular

Intended usage:

I will mostly be using my laptop for academic purposes and well as watching videos and downloading lots of files .Gaming is not a requirement .

-Good battery life(minimum:6-8 hrs) ,quick charging and supports hotspot wifi .

-Durable and will not overheat.

-preferable if it can be easily serviced incase there are any problem.

Looking for something that will last for a long time.

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u/cadenzasilicra — 8 days ago