u/calcato

<knock knock knock> Hellooooooooo??? Anybody home???? What seems to be the delay here?

I have known today was going to be the day of the party by the lake for months. Now that the day is here I don't want to go. I know it will be okay and I am committed to go, but I dread the whole getting ready (like "out-in-public-ready") and leaving the house. I have 2 hours and am starting to stress out a bit. Yesterday I was supposed to make potato salad for this lake party. But instead I cried about feeling the way I feel and bought potato salad.

I never want to go anywhere or do anything. What is this feeling? Is it anxiety? What is my problem?

In the vein of "Hmm, not for me!"

This guy committed premeditated murder and plead guilty in court. He's a murderer, not a hero. He's going to prison. Case closed. We can stop talking about him.

First of all, I don't care what your political leanings, extrajudicial killing cannot be excused for anyone. You cheer on one guy for doing this, and you may as well cheer on all of them, including the ones that come for you.

Secondly, and what is really insane, is the same "eat the rich" people would probably relate far more readily to the life and upbringing of Brian Thompson than that of Luigi Mangione.

We've all heard the adage, "Those who can not remember the past are doomed to repeat it."

So... what if the Delete button were pressed for absolutely every recorded thing from before Jan. 1, 2000? There's nothing written before that to refer to anymore (but you can get word-of-mouth lived experience from people who were alive before Y2K).

What would have happened between Y2K and today to rectify this situation?

I did a search and didn't find this specific topic, but just the same, I hope I'm not brining you a way-too-common question.

I was clearing out of a friend's house and holding the litter pan in front of the 2 bins, garbage and compost-only. Her cat litter she uses is basically pure wood material. Little wooden pellets that turn to sawdust. Neither of us were sure where to put it and I eventually put it in compost instead of bagging it and putting it in garbage.

At my house I use the silica-based "pretty litter" which I put in a container or bag and put in the garbage. Because god knows what that stuff turns into chemically when mixed with cat pee, and it doesnt ever fully evaporate.

But I do a lot of housesitting and people use all kinds of different litters. To be on the "safe" side I just bag it up and throw it in the garbage, even though I also think to myself "why is CLAY not compost? It's CLAY, right?"

Anyway, Id love to hear a definitive answer, and if there are different answers for different kinds of litter.

P.S. obviously poops get scooped up and are put in garbage, not compost... Im well aware of not wanting to let those toxins leach into in the water supply. But peed-on natural materials like wood and clay after the pee is absorbed and evaporated? Idk, compost or garbage?

I live in the Seattle area, and am nevertheless the last person in America to clue in that.our local Hero of Summer 2026 "Jimothy" the raccoon had become a national story.

Like, yes I saw him everywhere on social media, but I thought it was just from local sources. Yesterday I caught mention of him from a national podcaster out of Maine; when I told this to my sister in California she said "He's everywhere! Jon Stewart can't shut up about Jimothy!" So I googled the Jon Stewart reference, and Google has a freaking cartoon of him walking across the page and one of the top results was a British news source.

🤦‍♀️ And so, yeah I feel a bit old and dense right now.

Cheers, ladies & have a nice weekend 🦝

I know there are a lot of online services for mental health out there. They certainly seem cheaper than making an appointment and paying out of pocket (my crap insurance doesn't cover seeing a therapist) but they still cost a bit and I'm wondering if they are worth it. I feel compelled to try *something;* I cannot keep staying in this funk but what other options do I have. I already know I won't benefit from just talking it out with a friend or family member (in fact some of them tend to make me feel even worse about myself).

Why don't we celebrate Treaty of Paris Day?

ETA I am gonna rewrite this entire poorly written middle of the night cant-sleep post to be more specific, but later. So, just ignore for now.

(I mean "the man" as in the one from the proverbial "stick it to the man" saying - i.e. the system or power structure. )

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It seems like people scream at "victim blamers", and, that seems appropriate; it's not someone's fault when they are abused and get caught up in the abuse cycle.

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But then at the same time they'll scream at a former abuse victim who points out that people who are unwittingly manipulated into being part of, say for instance, a cult, are also victims. That focusing on the cult members themselves, shaming them, calling them names, etc. is as wrong as victim-blaming, and attention must be paid to the cult leaders who are victimizing and propagandizing instead.

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Apparently a different feminism sub doesn't want to bloody hear it, which truly makes me think they lost the plot.

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But what do y'all think over here?

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If the whole point of having any kind of life was only to have to box it up and give it to Goodwill, what was the f*cking point of any of it?

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If her antiques and "stuff" is so important that there is no place for anything of mine, why did I ever bother accumulating anything?

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If the entire point of my life was eventually moving back to take care of my mom in *her* old age, why did I even bother leaving to try and have a life of my own in the first place?

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I wish someone had just told me ahead of time. I would not have bothered having hope.

It wasn't the first break-in, but it was the one where they got caught.

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Have you hugged your plumber today?

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Also a good day to check that your smoke detectors are in good working order.

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Did you seriously move the Facebook navigation bar to the BOTTOM of my phone screen, where it is COVERED UP by the phone's navigation bar?

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Why? WHY?

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HOW is it your QA/UI people did not catch such things? Or did they catch it and you ignored them?

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No, I don't want to switch my phone nav to gestures.

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No. I shouldn't have to. This isn't my problem, it's yours.

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I can't believe you did this.

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Oh well. Did you know social media firms are losing loyal, long term customers left and right? Now ya do. Fuck LinkedIn and Google, too. You all went to shit.

I know this sub is for tips to "promote" your personal brand, but I am actually trying to do the \*opposite\* of that, and would love some advice.

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I'm having trouble getting any of my changes to "stick." So at this point I've just hibernated my account entirely in hopes it doesn't show up for anyone anymore.

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My goals are:

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1. To be able to better curate visibility. I have tried all of the options to make sections not-visible to certain audiences. At least, I've tried the obvious options in settings. But when I go through my friend's LinkedIn to view my account, everything is thebsame. I even waited the requisite 24-48 (or howevermany it was) hours, and nothing had changed. I know I hit "save" after making said changes.

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2. I have a lot of useless connections from a long time ago that I no longer need. Is there a way to mass-disconnect, rather than having to no down a list and disconnect one at a time?

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Thanks for any input you may have!

I didn't watch the UFC nonsense from yesterday, but of course it is unavoidable in all the commentary podcasts today.

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I can't even type the comments made by some of these people. The guy who made the comment about Michelle Obama? That one alone is reason enough for us to ask for our tax dollars back. I'm so pissed rn, at the use of public funding for private gain, at this administration thumbing its nose at ALL of us with idiots cheering it on not even realizing THEY ARE DISSING YOU, TOO. Just, disgusting.

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Sponsored by Bud Light, by the way.

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The irony.