u/ijustwannanap

Would anyone like scans

"But boymoder is a safety-" you know what I fucking mean. The whole "I'm just a shy moe clumsy inept girly >_<" thing that Big Boymoder seems to force as part and parcel with it. I hate it when cis women do it ("Girl math" and "I'm just a girl" makes me see red) and I hate it when trans women do it.

It feels like trans women now are forced into that puppygirl/boymoder box of "you're just a cute little boymoder with your shorkie who loves taking ket and watching anime and playing videogames" and it's insane to me. Can boymoder-chan not get a job? Or file taxes? Can puppygirl not progress into puppybusinesswoman? I am friends with a lot of trans women and they either are or know a girl that refuses to take responsibility for herself and expects constant coddling and all her messes to be cleaned up forever. They think being unable to cook or clean or do basic adult tasks is cute and their army of sycophants encourage them with the whole "you're such a silly girl!" stuff. I can count the number of self-sufficient ones on one hand probably.

(This also applies to trans men. Stop crashing out and being a whiner who hates on women and only eats instant ramen, you're pushing 30.)

I get it. Life is scary and you are trans. But you cannot be a teenager forever. You have to grow up at some point and take responsibility for yourself.

Whenever I see a BDD passing trans woman a part of me feels genuine physical pain because it makes me think of the trans women that don't pass and cannot pass without a lot of surgery. The ones who are forced to be manmoders or boymoders because otherwise they'd look like a crossdresser. The physical expectations of women are so so high and that is quadrupled if you're a trans woman, especially in this climate. A nonpassing trans woman is basically a magnet for danger.

As a trans man it's like, sure, it sucks that I'm not 6'3 with a build like Toji. I hate not having cheekbones or a jawline. But I don't really NEED these things to pass - I look like a skinnyfat young teenage boy at best and a dyke at worst if I really flatten my chest. I just look unattractive and vaguely feminine, so really all that irritates me about ftm bddpassoids is that they're usually hot but fishing for compliments.

Meanwhile trans female bdd passoids 70% of the time KNOW they pass but will deny and deny and deny to get you to pander to them. They have to be the most tortured and unlucky soul in the room or they start freaking out, but ironically they would probably be caught dead before spending time around a late transitioner or a genuine hon. It's evil. I don't even care if that's mean to say, it genuinely is evil. I think it's evil when I see the same behaviour in attractive cis women who go "i'm SOOOO ugly 🥺🥺🥺". It's cruel and it's evil and you should feel bad if you do it. Reflect on your conduct.

I should have bought it! I can't believe this game was released on disc.

I'm saying this because of something I just saw in the Novice Network. A guy said he was stuck at level 12 and couldn't progress any further. We were all "???" until he said that he'd read online that the MSQ was 250+ hours, so he asked AI (!!) the most efficient way to level up, and it told him to buy the skip from the cash shop. He is now essentially locked out of the game and down $25 because he didn't realise the skip just skips the story and doesn't level him up alongside it.

Since the game has an influx of new players after the Switch 2 port, I will say as a crusty old player that the most useful thing to learn is that you cannot outrun the grind. You are looking at hundreds to thousands of hours of interactive and important story in this game alongside a wealth of side quests, job quests, dungeons, and other unlockable content. You might find that you need to complete an ARR side quest to unlock another quest chain to unlock ANOTHER quest chain that unlocks a quest chain in Endwalker, for example.

If you're not particularly story-driven, my advice is to have a goal or aim in mind and work towards it. It can be as silly or serious as you want; when I started my goal was to progress to Machinist, and when I unlocked that my new goal became to progress to unlocking Solution Nine so I could get the Vamp framer kit. A goal will keep you motivated to play because while the story is amazing it can be a bit of a slog in ARR; I personally didn't really lock in until probably the post-Heavensward patch quests. You can skip every cutscene, but the game in my opinion is markedly more boring when you have literally no clue who anyone is or what's going on.

Overall, please have fun playing, but think twice about playing (especially in regards to spending money) if you're not a fan of very long games with a heavy focus on grinding.

Edit: for those who are saying it's fake

This is killing me how thin-skinned do you have to be to think that you should be allowed to be cruel to people with 0 consequences. She also seems to hate both passing and non-passing trans women??