u/pdggin99

Hi, I have two issues.

Issue 1: I work nights, 12 hour shifts. My boyfriend also works nights, he goes in anywhere from 10-15 hours. He works Fri-Mon, so when I work one of those days, my dog is alone for at least 13 hours including my commute. I want someone to check on her. The only family member I know who is available at nights isn’t very reliable. Are there rover sitters who would do a single drop-in overnight on those nights? She is a sleepy dog and is fine lounging around all night but I want her to have some human interaction and to be let outside once.

Issue 2: my dog has a history of being reactive. We’ve worked on it and she’s doing amazing, she was actually able to go to the pet store and let multiple people pet her. Which I wouldn’t have let happen if I wasn’t confident in her work to become less reactive. But she is very nervous around new people and is a big dog, so her barking can scare people. I would probably need to have whoever is coming to check on her meet up with her and I 5 to 10 times prior to meeting her alone. Is that appropriate and/or doable? I would be fine with paying a fee for those meet ups, I understand it is someone’s time and time is money.

Additional details: I generally work 3 days per week and usually would only need drop ins 2 days per week (it’s rare all 3 of my days fall between Friday and Monday. My dog is a pitbull/mastiff mix, about 70lbs. She is fed before I leave and when I get home, and has a full bowl of kibble to eat from as well, so I wouldn’t need her to be fed, I just want her to have some human interaction and be let out into the yard. I also have two cats and reptiles who don’t need any care.

Tonight I’ve done all of my own tech work besides vitals. Four bed changes, five instances of helping people to the toilet and cleaning them up, took out all the trash and linens, infinite water cup fill ups, you name something that we’re able to delegate and I’ve done it. I also of course had to pass meds and do assessments on my patients and had an admission. I’m not sure where the tech for my rooms is or what she has been doing, but it has not been helping me. Literally every call light for my rooms I’ve answered. The charge called me while I was on break to tell me my call light in one room had been going off for ten minutes, and I had to cut my break short to go answer it. And the patient just wanted a fucking water and to talk my ear off for twenty minutes about how his asshole hurts and some other shit about being a farmer, which would normally interest me, but because he was also talking about his asshole hurting (over and over again he would repeat the same shit about it, during the stories about the farm) I fucking hated it.

Last time I asked a tech to do something for me she rolled her eyes. And the time before that another tech bitched me out, calling me a lazy nurse and saying I’m the reason all the techs on my floor quit. I don’t ask them to do much, only when I’m actually not doing anything. But I do wish they would take initiative and do their jobs without being asked by me. How do I deal with this? I can’t keep it up. I was late with meds and assessments. I’m up and down every five or ten minutes to get a call light. And I’m tired of dealing with piss and shit for the night. I know it’s technically a part of our job description to do this stuff but it feels demeaning to do so much of it, like literally not having any help and doing it 100% on my own, when I literally paid for school to not have to do menial tasks like that and to get to actually spend my time on things I want to do/like to do. I’d be fine if I was doing like half of the work for my patients and the tech did the other half but I’m not joking when I say I’ve done everything besides vitals. Lately all my time is spent cleaning poop and pee, and I have to rush through or put off the real nursing tasks I don’t mind doing/enjoy doing (IV insertion, catheterizations, thorough assessment, wound care, thorough charting, etc). It’s making me burn out and I’ve only been a nurse for like a year and a half. I shouldn’t feel like this but I do. I hate this job when it’s 75% tech work and 25% nursing work, which is always for me.

They don’t want disabled ppl to “stay at home collecting government money” but when we get/ask for accommodations we need to be able to work, they get upset. Make it make sense

What triggered this is I posted on the subreddit related to my profession, a healthcare profession, asking about what accommodations I can get to make my current position work for me. I’m getting surgery in a few months so I can’t switch to a better position/job because I don’t want to tell them “yeah I have to leave for 2 months in July” and it’s already almost May. So I am trying to figure out ways to make my current position work. I made some suggestions based off of stuff I’ve see online and research I’ve done.

People were quick to tell me I “want to get out of working,” call me names like crazy and irrational and lazy, and in general became very hostile. I had a few nice responses that gave constructive criticism and pointers for how to get the accommodations I need but there were far more people telling me I’m lazy and don’t want to work and should have never gone into healthcare to begin with. I ended up deleting the post because it was causing me a lot of distress. But it seems like these people were upset/offended that I was even considering getting accommodations, based off of their wording and how they insulted me. IMO it’s like they think I want special treatment, when in reality I just want to get onto an even playing field with my coworkers.

I’m not saying I think that I was totally right, I think after some conversation with the kinder people in the comments that some of the accommodations I wanted most likely wouldn’t be honored by an employer for various reasons. But the whole point of my post was to gauge that, and get pointers on what accommodations may be a better fit.

It’s sad because this is a job in healthcare, where empathy is important and we come into contact with disabled individuals a lot. But these commenters were not nice at all about being vocally angry that I desired accommodations to be able to do my job. The particular position in healthcare I’m in is a very patient contact heavy position, so these people are definitely bringing this attitude to patients on the daily. Sometimes I wonder why it’s a stereotype that everyone in my job is a former mean girl. Then shit like this happens 🙃🙃