u/Anxious-Mechanic-249

I’m thinking of quitting in the near future since I’m just not getting a lot of hours and I’ve been very frustrated. I make more here than at my other job but I barely get hours. It’s just idk it’s too much. Been here 5 years now.

I’m trying to get financially together and move out in 1-2 years. I have a cat that I will need to take care of because he requires medication and my mom refuses to help him.
Everything I’m finding (for two bedroom) is around 3k or more.
I have no clue what is normal and it seems like places that’ll take cats and don’t have a 1-2 star rating are more expensive.
I don’t know how I’ll ever do this.
People were telling me I can get a place for $800.
Is New Jersey just expensive?
Idk how I’ll ever afford this.
I work 3 jobs.
Currently getting back on my feet after ed treatment a few months ago and with my cats recent diagnosis my moneys all draining.

Edit I’d have a roommate

Hi I am a little I found out that we were there until we were probably 18 and I think he knows we know but he’ll die one day because he is very old. He is the reason we were in it. He was in charge. He hurt us and made us hurt them a lot of them. Our food issues saved us because when we got sent away they couldn’t find us and I think we’ve been free since then.

I’ve worked at petco for nearly 5 years now. I’ve gotten multiple raises and I do get paid a lot compared to my other job but they don’t give me a lot of hours yet they’re hiring people. My coworkers have complained about the same thing yet I haven’t asked them how many hours they get and I believe I get the least hours except one guy who only works Sundays and I feel replaced me in a sense.
My availability is currently Friday-Sunday and I am omni.
Previously it was everyday any time except Tuesday Thursday (it had been this was for 5 years except for November 2021 and starting at the end of last month when I got a job at Walgreens)
They knew I didn’t plan on leaving but have plans to move out and need additional income.
The problem is I love this job, I like almost everything about it. I don’t mind register, I don’t mind closing, I like facing, I love breaking down pallets, i like working truck and overstock and I don’t mind freshpet.
My cons are I am not as knowledgeable since I used to do SFS and have had to go on leave a couple of times because I had an ed I kept relapsing in.
I’ve made tremendous steps since 2021 and have really turned a lot of my life around while maintaining this job.
My manager of my position changed my review was not good in my opinion I felt she made up good things and asked me to do learning at home. She made it sound like I was dumb and incompetent.
Previously I’d gotten a raise every year.
Yes there was a position change in 2023 but it’s 2026 and it had never been that bad (she started at this store last year and doesn’t know me as well)
This particular manager gets on my nerves a lot with off hand comments that might not be the right word but if I take a freaking second to not do anything at register she says if you have time to lean you have time to clean.
She’s also shit talked my work bestie to me
But she’s driven me home when no one could so I didn’t have to uber
She also snaps when anxious which makes me scared to ask questions and ask for help.
She also essentially told me not to ask clarifying questions even though that’s how i understand things and how my brain works best.
I had no hours from Petco this week.
I work Sunday Saturday then Sunday.
The rest of the schedule isn’t out. It’s 8 hr shifts but before I was getting 0-15 hrs a week.
I made under $200 this pay period. That’s not enough for me and my cat recently got sick.
I can’t afford to leave this job right now and I’ll miss it but that one manager makes me anxious and I’m hardly making anything.
I think when I get adjusted more to Walgreens I’ll find another job but I don’t drive on my own I’m hoping to by September so it might be rlly hard since my main ride thinks my job needs to be 10 mins away and is upset that Walgreens is 15 away.
I guess stick it out till I’m comfortable driving?
That’d make the most sense right?

I talk to my manager manager on the 4th about the issue with the other manager since me talking to the person causing the issues resulted in me being told not to ask clarifying questions and I might bring up the fact that I plan on looking for another job in a few months because I can’t afford to move out take care of my cat and survive on the hours I’ve been given now and over the years. But I’ll give appropriate notice.

Idk I’m stressed it sucks and I’ll miss the job

Just needed to get this out there

Edit 9/10 times I was scheduled Friday-Sunday previously to getting my additional job and I told them I was not leaving

I posted a bit ago, my cat recently started peeing in my room all over the room in different spots twice in the past week. He doesn’t eat a lot started hiding under my mom’s bed and is always under my desk. He’s always been very vocal. I had someone suggest a urinary obstruction and I’m planning to take him to the vet Monday. But idk has anyone felt with this? What should I expect price wise? I think I get a discount bc we have a vetco at the store I work at but still I’m just worried I won’t be able to do what I need for him and I rlly care about him and I don’t know what this is going to look like and I’m just very worried. I looked into all this a bit but I need to take a break rn.

My cat twice in the last week has peed all over my room (he is usually in my room) the door was open and he’s never done this before. My mom and grandma fed him food that they thought had worms in it by mistake but we were told (over the phone) that it was anchovies. The peeing started the day after he consumed this. Over the past year he’s eaten less (he’s turning 13) we discovered he’s allergic to chicken and changed his food to a different flavor and began introducing chicken free wet food more frequently. He doenst throw up much anymore but he’s thin (you can feel his bones).
I love him so much and he’s very attached to me.
I’m going to have to pay if my grandma doesn’t help me because my mom won’t help and my dad isn’t talking to me.
I’d do anything for him.
My mom’s old cat had diabetes and my dad had to give him a shot everyday because she apparently couldn’t do it. I want to move out in 1-2 years maybe I’ll have to take him with me. Idk.
I just don’t want to put him down.
Does anyone think that’ll happen?
My mom seems so heartless about this and only cares about his brother (the cat whose close with her)

My cat is sick he started peeing all over my room and my mom is threatening to get rid of him. She refuses to pay for a vet even though it was her cat. I don’t fully understand if we get a discount as an employee or if we need perks and how much that takes off and if I’d need the yearly one. I’ll spend my whole paycheck on this cat I don’t care because i actually care about him unlike my mother. And hopefully my grandma will help me. Me and her are the only ones that really care for this cat. And they’re not open till Monday right?

I’ve had a lot going on lately and it’s been hard to cook and it’s been making being on my meal plan a struggle, any suggestions?

I work two part time jobs one doesn’t give many hours the other give at least 2 8 hr shifts a week. Sometimes 4. I make $16 at that job and 18.43 at the job with not a lot of hours. I do some stuff on the side that pays $100 an hr but is only a few times a year. My barrier is my mom not letting me drive but I’m hoping to be driving by September. I have a car and license. Apartments for one bed no roommates is 2k maybe a bit less. Idk how I’d even find roommates and I’m quite scared to live w people and a lot of my friends don’t want to move out yet or want to move in w their bfs.
Can I ever actually afford it making this much? I typically work 2 days a week at the other job but only 5 hrs.

I’m so confused only issue is my hormones specifically Free testosterone (Direct) and DHEA-Sulfate
Why would iron be making me feel significantly better… I don’t understand… should I stop taking it?

I got labs done for a full iron panel including ferritin yesterday. (Hoping I’m anemic so I can just get a solution since it’s been months of this)

2-4 days for results no clue if that’s weekdays or not.

Do I need another drs appointment after this?

I’ve had my period almost everyday since December saw a gyn and had an ultrasound all that is normal I can do Provera for 21 days to stop my period or birth control for 3 months.

Idk when to start it I wanted to wait till at least after labs and I think my period is my actual cycle rn since it’s heavy and I think I’m supposed to wait till it’s light again but idk and idek how to get in touch with my gyn, I could probably just call the office Monday right? I was thinking the provera.

Idk I’ve had headaches and felt weak everyday multiple times a day. There’s other symptoms but still and it’s been getting worse lately.

I work today and 4 times next week (2 5 hr shifts and 3 8 hr shifts) I’m dreading work bc I have to take it easy so I don’t pass out and I have not told my managers what’s been going on so I’ve been told things like I’m not working fast enough when I have to take a step back bc I’m worried I’ll pass out and I’m taking ibuprofen multiple times a day usually. It only sometimes helps.

It’s so bad that I feel like I can’t do anything all day bc I need to save my energy. Yesterday the only thing I did was meal prep for the week, today and the next two days I have work and so on.

It’s leaving me feeling down and almost depressed because I’m unable to do anything I want to out of fear of being too weak to do the things I really need to do (like work and cook).

I don’t know if there’s anything I should be doing.

It doesn’t help that my mom (I’m in my 20s but live at home) constantly tells me I’m fine when Ik im not.

Idk any suggestions?

I went out to eat with my mom and grandma, they ordered me a Virgin strawberry daiquiri bc I felt unwell and they said it’d help. I took a sip I stg it was spicy I had my mom taste it she said there was no alcohol but now I feel sick. The server said there was no alcohol in it. But don’t non alcohol drinks have alcohol? I was almost two years sober. Did I ruin it? I should’ve just told her I didn’t want the drink.

In 2021 I had low iron but I don’t know if they tested for it since I had labs done in February and I looked and they did not test for iron I did not look at previous labs, 2021 was the only time this was brought to my attention.

In 2025 I was put on Risperdal, I was in and out of treatment facilities for mental health that year and when I told them that I lost my period they told me it was fine. In December 2025 I told my outpatient psychiatrist how I had only had my period twice that year. She immediately took me off of it and put me on my current meds.

I’ve had my period almost nonstop since December.

My psychiatrist recommended a GYN, I put it off out of fear. I was sent to Ed treatment. I don’t believe they tested my iron.

I started getting headaches occasionally as in almost every day once a day.

Most of the time I toughed it out since there was a flu outbreak (they were quarantining people) and I was afraid they’d send me home if I kept needing ibuprofen.

They told me they couldn’t do anything about my period even when it got so heavy I was bleeding through ultra tampons. (It’s typically light but has gotten relatively heavy again)

I saw a GYN Friday. Naturally my period was on its best behavior she said it might be stopping and how sometimes it does that bc of the medication situation.

Later that day I had work, naturally it got super heavy again.

I had an ultrasound yesterday, I get the results Thursday.

They didn’t order bloodwork bc I had it in April (I only have access to the labs from February) in those labs they did not test for iron.

I don’t know if I ask my GYN for a lab referral or make a drs appointment.

I’m calling someone tomorrow.

As for symptoms within the last few months (sometime after late April) symptoms have gotten severe.

I get painful headaches multiple times a day, I feel weak, dissociated, disoriented, and exhausted. Ibuprofen helps but not always. I hate how often I’m taking it.

I was recommended a medication to stop my period for 21 days or birth control

I haven’t picked up the med yet. I think I should talk to a dr first?

I’m not quite sure what to do.

It’s getting super severe for me.

I worked 8 hrs (till midnight) yesterday and have the same shift tomorrow.

I thought I was going to die.

I had to splash water on my face hide in the bathroom and take it easy. And at my other job I was told to speed it up because I’ve been having to slow down due to how incredibly unwell I’m feeling.

Right now I have a painful headache on my left side am dissociated tired exhausted and my feet are numbing (I took ibuprofen a few mins ago)

I really don’t know what to do anymore.

Sometimes I get scared I’ll die.

So I’m getting back on my feat after spending a few months in ed treatment and nearly going broke.
I now have three jobs, one is a few time a year while the others are part time. Next pay period (so two weeks) will be the start of when I have some extra money since this pay period will pay off my debt and with the extra money I should be able to get my glasses/sunglasses updated and a new pair. Next pay period the only thing I need is some driving lessons (I can drive just am not comfortable and don’t have people in my life to help me otherwise).
I don’t pay for too too much rn. Maybe $20 in subscriptions a month, car insurance, vision insurance (under 20) and some groceries (i live with my mom she buys house staples like milk).

I’m trying to get on my feet and have enough money to move out in 1-2 years. Rent would be at or near 2k in the area I want a month. I don’t know how much gas is a month since as of now my car is mainly used by my brothers but now that I got my contacts I am able to start practicing driving again.

I don’t know how many accounts I should have and if it’d make the most sense to keep everything with my current bank (TD) I don’t have a credit card yet (planning to get that when I have the money so I can build credit). I had a savings account years ago but had to pull all the money because I needed it.

Should I open a savings account? Something else? Both?

Anything and everything is appreciated.

Edit I bought a budget template the other month and have been budgeting hard core

Idk I’ve been confused again after seeing a post this guy made and now I’m questioning my gender again and it’s so exhausting bc I told myself I was gonna leave it alone and maybe use they/he pronouns if I don’t keep the they/them.
Ik I don’t like she yet most of my alters are girls with no chest. So it’s odd
I’m scared I’ll transition when I’m on my own and regret it.
I identified as a man for a year. Went back to they/them for two, thought I might be a guy again for a month recently then got confused again said no and now I’m I don’t know.
When I see myself married in the future I see a man and a women and I’m starting to wonder if maybe it’s because I’d be the man?
Ik we’re definitely attracted to women, men unsure but idk it’s so confusing and I feel like I can’t trust it cuz there’s like 800 of us.

Has anyone else gone through this?

I’ve posted here before I have 3 jobs now, got out of ed treatment, have all my drs appointments this week and am in therapy a lot…

I’ve been getting what I called “stress headaches” for months at res occasionally when stressed. I’ve felt unwell most mornings physically and today I woke up with I think some type of sickness and had to call out of work because there’s just no way I would’ve made it through.
I have a headache no fever things hurt I’m congested and I feel rlly out of it.

Idk is this from doing too much?

I realized before when I was trying to sleep it’s been the first real time I’ve had to just be in weeks and even though I feel horrible in a way it was nice.

I also have had my period for months but I’m seeing someone ab that this week.

Tomorrow would be my 4th shift since starting. I work an additional job that I was supposed to be at today, I took medicine, ate well, showered, took vitamins, did everything but I still feel like I’m dying. So I had to call out from Petco.
I told my Walgreens manager and asked her if there’s anything I need to do in advance in case I can’t make it tomorrow she said try to find coverage.
I asked in the gc bc I don’t even know how to go about this and like no one knows me yet.
I checked the store schedule.
One person has off and everyone but two people (that are not pharmacy or management) including me is working tomorrow.
So if either of those two people can’t I’m screwed.
I don’t believe I have sick time yet since it’d literally be my fourth shift.
It’s 8 hrs.
Will I have to show up anyways?
Granted it’s less demanding than Petco (I was supposed to help with truck stuff today) but still it’s 8 hrs tomorrow.
It’s likely be half online training half register.
I mean maybe I’ll feel okay tomorrow but I don’t know.
I was going to go to sleep and rest bc I feel that awful but now I’m all stressed.
What to I do?
What’ll happen if I can’t get coverage?
I don’t want to lose this job.

No joke I was trying to do yoga and I turned the other way so I’d have more room and I happened to be looking at myself bc there’s a mirror in front of me and now I want to cry because of my body and it’s making me want to not eat and never see this therapist again.

I’m not going to stop my recovery but I might cancel my last session with this therapist.

I just wanted to explain what she did that bothered me.

I had been saying how my brother had been making fun of my weight and body and I forget what I had said and she said is it because you’re bigger? And yes I technically am but there’s also a lot of people bigger than me but I also have no perception of what I look like anymore.

I’ve also only had 4 sessions with this woman and during everyone she had said something that bothered me.

She had also been saying how if the things my brother was saying I didn’t think were true they wouldn’t bother me. But I don’t think that’s how that works.

I put away my mat changed and got into bed.

I’m going to text her how I feel then cancel all our sessions.

Luckily I have a regular therapist and my old Ed therapist comes back in July

I’ve been in recovery for a lot of years now. And in treatment in and out for years now. It just I don’t know it feels like it’s actually working. I’m making changes in my life. I’m not as afraid. I’m taking steps I’m healing and I’m eating and I’m learning to when it’s scary, when it’s hard, when I don’t want to, when I’m sad, angry, unset, overwhelmed, just all of it. My meals don’t have to be perfect but I’m doing it and it’s so crazy and I don’t know how or why but I am I just am.