u/BoujeeBarbie22

I can list examples.

The first time was when I changed my phone number. She got mad and then forced me to get off the family plan. I didn't have a problem with this because I am a grown ass woman and I don't need her nor her money and I can pay for my own phone.

This time, she loaned me 618 and I used it to pay for my car insurance and electric bill. I gave her back 18 dollars and now I owe her 600. So today, I went shopping for groceries and she sent me 50. Then I ended up having to pay 15 extra and my mom wasn't trying to give me the extra money she paid. She caught an attitude and got mad.

I was okay with it and I was like "it's fine, I can subtract the 15 from the money that I owe you so you don't have to give me money" She refused that too. She even demanded that I don't pay her back little by little (like me sending her 20, 30, 50, you know) because "she didn't want the money in bits."

I hate sounding disrespectful, but she's coming off like an unreasonable that wants things her way or the highway. She knows I have issues with making money and with my job, so she's making petty demands to deliberately make it hard for me to pay her back because she loves reveling in how much I owe her money.

I have no issue paying her back and being responsible, but she is moving the goal posts and it deliberately making it hard for me.

It's like she wants to find ways to try to control me since I am no longer a minor.

I can list examples.

The first time was when I changed my phone number. She got mad and then forced me to get off the family plan. I didn't have a problem with this because I am a grown ass woman and I don't need her nor her money and I can pay for my own phone.

This time, she loaned me 618 and I used it to pay for my car insurance and electric bill. I gave her back 18 dollars and now I owe her 600. So today, I went shopping for groceries and she sent me 50. Then I ended up having to pay 15 extra and my mom wasn't trying to give me the extra money she paid. She caught an attitude and got mad.

I was okay with it and I was like "it's fine, I can subtract the 15 from the money that I owe you so you don't have to give me money" She refused that too. She even demanded that I don't pay her back little by little (like me sending her 20, 30, 50, you know) because "she didn't want the money in bits."

I hate sounding disrespectful, but she's coming off like an unreasonable that wants things her way or the highway. She knows I have issues with making money and with my job, so she's making petty demands to deliberately make it hard for me to pay her back because she loves reveling in how much I owe her money.

I have no issue paying her back and being responsible, but she is moving the goal posts and it deliberately making it hard for me.

It's like she wants to find ways to try to control me since I am no longer a minor.

I hated the people who used to bully me as a teenager, but with a family like mine, I am beginning to understand where my bullies learned their nasty attitudes from. A lot of them would reveal on social media about how they were raised in broken homes and messed up families...and I guess this is why they lacked basic home training.

I do remember one of my former male bullies talk about his narcissistic mother and about how she would whoop him for stuff his older brother did.

Another male bully of mine talked about how much of a hardass his father was and how his own dad tried to fight him.

While it doesn't excuse how badly they treated me, I can see why they ended up mean...because of how poorly they were raised.

I can list examples.

The first time was when I changed my phone number. She got mad and then forced me to get off the family plan. I didn't have a problem with this because I am a grown ass woman and I don't need her nor her money and I can pay for my own phone.

This time, she loaned me 618 and I used it to pay for my car insurance and electric bill. I gave her back 18 dollars and now I owe her 600. So today, I went shopping for groceries and she sent me 50. Then I ended up having to pay 15 extra and my mom wasn't trying to give me the extra money she paid. She caught an attitude and got mad.

I was like "it's fine, I can subtract the 15 from the money that I owe you so you don't have to give me money" She refused that too. She even demanded that I don't pay her back little by little (like me sending her 20, 30, 50, you know) because "she didn't want the money in bits."

I hate sounding disrespectful, but she's coming off like an unreasonable grown brat that wants things her way or the highway. She knows I have issues with making money and with my job, so she's making petty demands to deliberately make it hard for me to pay her back because she loves reveling in how much I owe her money.

I have no issue paying her back and being responsible, but she is moving the goal posts and it deliberately making it hard for me.

It's like she wants to find ways to try to control me since I am no longer a minor.

I realized that when I acted negative, then people just simply won’t want to be around you. they’ll just cut you off and that’s it (but I did get the hate and rudeness, but I never got bullied for being negative).

However, I got way more hate when I portrayed myself as a positive person. I even got bullied by a boy when I was in HS for being a nice person.

I guess that was why I was so negative…because it protected me from being let down and hurt and bullied all the time.

Even on this very website and IG, I did face way more hate and scrutiny than I did when I was negative…because I held myself accountable and called people out on how they tend to blame others and refuse to look in the mirror.

Honestly, while I am still a mental wreck at age 33, I notice that when people would throw my past in my face, I don't react to it.

I will calmly just say that yes I was a "loser" in the past, but at least I don't let my past control how I treat others. Also bullying is effective if you allow their actions to bring you down (but bullies are still horrible people)

I still have issues controlling my anger and I do get angry at unnecessary rudeness, but I am still a work in progress.

I held some people accountable for how they love to stick around people when they are trainwrecks and then leaving when they change their lives and I got downvoted for it.

I even held a woman reality star for fumbling good men and lusting after horrible men (and how she obsesses over a terrible man who did her dirty) and I got downvoted for it.

Heck, I even held myself accountable for the things I did wrong and I had people mad...I guess it's because the hit dogs hollered and I indirectly called redditors out on how they love to play victim.

I was shocked at first, but any true fan of Ed, Edd n Eddy would have seen it coming.

There are many instances in which the kids and even the Eds really just couldn't stand Jonny and I can list examples.

• The episode when Jonny annoyed Kevin and Kevin wanted to get rid of him.
• In "Here's Mud in Your Ed" when Jonny annoyed Sarah and Jimmy and stole their shovel.
• In "Gimme Gimme never ed" when Jonny was being too demanding.
• In "Don't Rain on my Ed" when Jonny refused to let Eddy in the candy store.

These are just a few because it's been a long time since I have binge watched this show. I mean even in later seasons of the show, the kids were already losing their patience with Jonny and they didn't even show up to his arbor day party.

It made sense that someone else would take the Eds place as the outcasts given the nature of this show. It often relies on mean-spiritedness to keep it going.

I always see debates on who was wrong, but really I think everyone was wrong (except for Gabriella, Kelsi and Ryan).

Troy wasn't wrong for wanting to pursue his dreams, but the problem was that he was blind to his privilege. Sharpay only gave Troy those opportunities because she wanted to "steal" him from Gabriella and Troy would blow off his friends in some occasions in which he could have easily said "no." Plus while Troy meant no harm by hanging with Sharpay, I can see why Gabriella was peeved. Put yourself in her shoes: how would you feel if your BF was parading himself to the girl who obviously is trying to steal him from you? I don't even like Gabriella's character, but I think she was right to break up with Troy.

Troy's friends were also wrong it the fact that they would complain about stuff that honestly should have mattered. I felt Chad was whiny when he complained about how Troy didn't ask the Red Hawks to include them...like he felt entitled to an invitation (if you aren't invited that means the people don't want you there). While they were correct that Troy was blind to his privilege and he was losing himself in the process, they forget that Troy was the reason they even got jobs (and that Troy can't complain about Sharpay because that puts them at risk of them losing their jobs). Not to mention that they complained about Fulton being "a creep" when really that man was just doing his job.

When I think about it, I think she's the problem...and I am a 33 year old woman saying this with love.

I was 12 when Flavor of love came out and 13 when I love New York came out. I do notice that New York does have issues with men a lot.

I won't put all the blame on New York for Flav because Flav is trash and he mistreats women. However, I can hold her accountable for the red flags shown in the 2nd season about Flav not being too interested in her. Plus Flav curved her because he justifiably didn't want Sister Patterson as a mother in law.

I feel like any healthy minded person would not want SP as a mother in law. I even witnessed my younger brother have a nightmare of a mother in law who wrecked his wedding plans out of spite. I'm even beginning to think that Sister Patterson is one of the reasons NY was single for a long time...no decent man wants to deal with a crazy ass mother in law like SP.

NY sabotaged her relationship with Tango for badmouthing his mom and never took accountability for it until she had that special back in 2020. She admitted to even sabotaging her relationship with Tailor Made and how abusive she was towards him.

I notice that New York seems to be drawn to thug like men like Chance and Flav and I bet she only picked Tango to appease her domineering mother (because if not for her, I bet she would have chosen chance). Even years later, she was unhealthily obsessed with Flavor Flav despite him being married. Any woman who is serious about finding love will realize how toxic men like Flav and Chance are (or probably will only mess with these men for fun lol).

NY may be engaged now, but I don't hear any plans for her to even get married to the guy.

I am 33 years old and I have never had not one single relationship for a variety of reasons. At first, it was because I was a homely and socially awkward girl who was always prone to getting bullied. Now as an adult, it seems to me that most men don't really seem interested in me outside of my looks alone and I tend to attract much older and much younger men (and rarely guys my own age). Being around men is making me feel insecure and not good enough for a relationship and it's bad for my mental health.

I feel like the only reason that I am miserable is because I had way more negative experiences with people rather than positive and people just refuse to see things from my point of view. They think that I owe people chances (when most people show me they don't even want them from me and they don't care about losing me). Most men have always treated me like absolute garbage and people expect me to just be open for relationships with them (and they don't seem to care about how toxic most men have been towards me). All my family cares about is me being a wife.

I can only vent on here because I can't say anything on social media without my family getting upset (of course I never post my business nor will I generalize all men, but I can never complain about my bad experiences with some men and how creepy some of them are towards me...this is why I no longer let them follow me on IG). I remember one time I said I didn't want to get married and my mom demanded I remove the post. I also said I hope the lover girl in me dies and my mom threw a fit...again that's them only caring about themselves.

I used to chase friendships and dating because I wanted to fill voids of never having a sister nor a female cousin to grow up around (and I never fit in with other women no matter how much I really want to) and I wanted to fill the void of having a terrible narcissistic and controlling girl dad. I am slowly accepting the fact that I will never fill those voids with people simply because they aren't willing to help fill them for me.

I realized that this was never my dream…it was a dream that was forced on me when I was a kid (it's funny how I was old enough to think about marriage but not old enough to pick my own clothes at age 11).

I have had too many shitty experiences with men to believe that I will ever be a girlfriend and wife. I just want to have sex at least once and get it over with because I am through with waiting for a nonexistent partner.

I even notice that I can’t even post my opinions regarding dating without my family members throwing fits…because I say stuff that they just don’t agree with me about. They think that I’m messing things up for myself and that I’ll never find a good man if I complain about my bad experiences with me, but the thing is…I was never seen as a good option to begin with by people.

I notice that I don’t even post about what’s going on in my life and nobody knows that about me, but I can’t post general opinions about subjects like family, friendships and dating on threads without my family members throwing a fit. This is why I deleted my account…because I was miserable each time I was on there anyway.

The thing is, my family members snitching on me years ago was somwhat justified because there were some things that I said that should have just stayed in the drafts. However, I can say something like "I feel lost" and my family will act like it’s the end of the world and that I want to hurt myself.

I can see why my classmates block their family members on social media…and I had to remove my family members as followers on social media because I was tired of feeling policed.

I feel like they are saying it because since they don’t understand our plight, they just say it to get us to feel better.

for me, I lowered my standards and I will no longer be waiting for a relattoon ship to have sex. I just want sex because looking for a relationship is close to impossible for me. I’m not girlfriend nor wife material because I attract men BUT the ones around my age. I also don’t want to be a virgin in my late 30s (I’m 33 and I’m about to be a 34 year old virgin).

Terrance is one of my least favorite characters for how he treats his brother, but I fail to see how he was wrong in this episode.

If anything, Mac's friends were the ones who home invaded Mac's apartment. Bloo didn't care that he would have gotten Mac in trouble with his mom and brother...and we are supposed to think that Mac's friends were in the right and that Mac is unreasonable for protesting that they all get out of his house.

While it was still hilarious that Terrance got grounded at the end of the episode (to me, he deserved it for the things he did in other episodes), he technically didn't do anything wrong this time around. He would not have been an antagonist if Mac's inconsiderate friends didn't invite themselves into the house and broke the ceiling all for some pictures that Mac could have easily brought to Fosters to give to Eduardo.

I hate being told that I should wait "for the right person" to have sex when really I find it impossible to think any man will ever like me.

This isn't a whiny "woe is me, post either. It's about me being fed up with people forcing their standards and dreams on me.

Every time I talk about how I am not interested in relationships, people inconsiderately keep telling me to keep trying, while being so inconsiderate towards how I feel about my trauma with men. They don't care about the awful things that I was out through througout my childhood. They just want me to have a husband so badly.

I feel as though since the older women and the other women around me failed when it came to finding good men, they want to live vicariously through me and try to pressure me to fulfill that dream they never did...my mental health be damned.

EDIT: Most older people have always been bossy, controlling and forceful towards me growing up…with how they didn’t allow me to be myself, girly and dress how I wanted as a teenager and how I didn’t even have any hobbies and social life mainly because of them. That's why I still have identity issues at my big age and it's like no matter how much work I try to do to undue the damage of my shitty upbringing, it won't go away.

An unpopular opinion is when you say something that a majority of the people won't agree with you with. So if you get downvoted and you really piss people off over your opinion, then you are following the rules because an opinion that almost everyone agrees on isn't unpopular lol.

We always complain about how emotionally unavailable some men are and how some men refuse to put in effort when it comes to having healthy relationships, but I do believe a lot of women do the same with their women friends.

It seems to me that a couple of women friendships are built off of just complaining about the following: men, their kids, their jobs, and life in general. Some are even built off bad things, like gossiping about and hating people (especially people who did nothing bad to you). From my experience, if you suggested talking about positive things, the conversations shut down.

I kicked a girl out of my life because of how she would complain about not fitting in, but she would refuse to put in effort to obtain those friendships she wanted. I would suggest ways, but she would shoot them down. She would also refuse to talk about other things besides how awful people are and people who did us dirty in the past. She would never answer my calls but would definitely answer my texts when it comes to talking about negative stuff.

Heck I do remember being in a reddit group about "pretty punishment" and I did suggest we try to talk about the positive things that come with being attractive, but I was shot down for it and I was told that we would come off as "humble bragging."

I noticed that when I went to watch the episode on Youtube, the part when Kevin explicitely told the Eds that they were not invited was cut out.

EDIT: I saw it was changed to Sarah asking "who invited them?"

I went on TubiTv to try to watch it and the part was cut out again.

Why was this edited?

Just because I have issues with making women friends doesn’t mean I am aUtIsTiC or neurodivergent. It’s funny that I would get these comments from people I barely know and people who aren’t licensed professionals.

When I think about it, I realized that my issues stemmed from growing up in a traumatic household and not being allowed to be my best self by my overbearing parents. It doesn’t guarantee that I have any disorder. I think I was just mentally stuck at the age I was traumatized at and I just needed to work on my social skills.

I even remember my parents having licensed therapists run tests on me to see if I even had Asperger’s and other disorders due to my speech delay, but they all came out negative. If the doctor says I don’t have it, then the doctor is correct.

I mean having issues with friendships is a symptom of autism and neurodivergence, but I hate being labeled by people I don’t know. It feel insulting.

If you’re not a licensed doctor then don’t tell me about myself.

EDIT: I edited my own post to remove the personality disorder part.