u/Busy_Regret_6013

Im trying really hard to get sober, I have a baby on the way and I want to be the best dad I can be, but fucking hell it is hard to get clean. I want to fucking OD, Im trying so hard not give up, this fucking sucks

I love dating men or women, if Im a relationship with a man, I dont feel like I need attention from women, or vice versa.
The only thing I miss about men though is getting pegged, its the best kind of intimacy for me.

I dont know why Im really struggling to ask her, I mean she knows Ive been with men and she knows Ive been pegged my men, its not like it’d be surprising that Im into that. But I’m scared she’ll react weird, I’d also just be embarrassed if she said no and regret ever asking. I’ve kinda hinted at it a little, but she either doesn’t realise I’m trying to ask, or she just wouldn’t be interested in doing it and is avoiding the topic.

How tf do I ask? Did your girlfriends react well? Help me 🥲

I told this story for the first time recently and now I finally feel ready to talk about it. Im 21 and a guy for context.

When I was 13 I started to realise I was attracted to men, I was really confused at the time because I knew I liked girls, and silly little me didn’t know being bisexual was a thing at the time.

I felt really lonely and confused, so I took to social media to find gay guys to talk to, I ended up talking to this guy, he was in his early 20’s, and I told him I was 19. Looking back he must’ve known I was a child from the start, my behaviour absolutely did not reflect that of a 19 year old.

We talked for a while, he was always hitting on me, and eventually I told him I lied about my age, and that I was actually 13. He didnt change his behaviour towards me, actually he hit on me more and more. He started sending nudes and told me to send nudes back, and I did.

It got to the point where he wanted to meet me, he only lived an hour away from me. I knew I didnt want to, but I was afraid to say no to him, so I said yes.

He picked me up from my school and took me to his house, and he didn’t even pretend he wasnt only interested in my body. He was rubbing my inner thigh on the fucking drive.

He told me that it was different because we were both “men”, our age difference wasnt an issue because we were both male??? But I was stupid and I believed him.

He didnt go all the way but he touched me, and he made me touch him back. After he was finished he kissed my neck and stroked my hair, and then he cuddled me while he slept, while I lay wide awake feeling violated.

He touched me again in the morning, and then he took me home, and I went on like nothing happened. I kept talking to him for a while, and he wanted to keep seeing me, and I said no, which is when he threatened to send my nudes to people, but as scared as I was I held my ground, and luckily I never saw him again.

After that I tried to forget that I liked guys, I pushed all my feelings to the side for years. Eventually I came out as bi to someone when I was 18, only because they asked me, but now Im fully out.

Part of me still feels uncomfortable, Ive been with a few men now and I always feel on edge, when they kiss my neck a shiver runs down my spine, Im scared they have bad intentions.

I feel like he took so much away from me, being able to explore myself properly, and making me afraid of my own sexuality, but things are better now I guess.

I told this story for the first time recently and now I finally feel ready to talk about it. Im 21 and a guy for context.

When I was 13 I started to realise I was attracted to men, I was really confused at the time because I knew I liked girls, and silly little me didn’t know being bisexual was a thing at the time.

I felt really lonely and confused, so I took to social media to find gay guys to talk to, I ended up talking to this guy, he was in his early 20’s, and I told him I was 19. Looking back he must’ve known I was a child from the start, my behaviour absolutely did not reflect that of a 19 year old.

We talked for a while, he was always hitting on me, and eventually I told him I lied about my age, and that I was actually 13. He didnt change his behaviour towards me, actually he hit on me more and more. He started sending nudes and told me to send nudes back, and I did.

It got to the point where he wanted to meet me, he only lived an hour away from me. I knew I didnt want to, but I was afraid to say no to him, so I said yes.

He picked me up from my school and took me to his house, and he didn’t even pretend he wasnt only interested in my body. He was rubbing my inner thigh on the fucking drive.

He told me that it was different because we were both “men”, our age difference wasnt an issue because we were both male??? But I was stupid and I believed him.

He didnt go all the way but he touched me, and he made me touch him back. After he was finished he kissed my neck and stroked my hair, and then he cuddled me while he slept, while I lay wide awake feeling violated.

He touched me again in the morning, and then he took me home, and I went on like nothing happened. I kept talking to him for a while, and he wanted to keep seeing me, and I said no, which is when he threatened to send my nudes to people, but as scared as I was I held my ground, and luckily I never saw him again.

After that I tried to forget that I liked guys, I pushed all my feelings to the side for years. Eventually I came out as bi to someone when I was 18, only because they asked me, but now Im fully out.

Part of me still feels uncomfortable, Ive been with a few men now and I always feel on edge, when they kiss my neck a shiver runs down my spine, Im scared they have bad intentions.

I feel like he took so much away from me, being able to explore myself properly, and making me afraid of my own sexuality, but things are better now I guess.

My girlfriend is 17 weeks pregnant, and for the past month she has been super horny all the time. I just do not have the sex drive she has right now, I’m on antidepressants and antipsychotics and my libido is so low, I just dont feel like having sex very often.

She is asking me every day, multiple times, and when I say Im not in the mood she tries to turn me on anyway, she will touch me or herself and I feel like she’s crossing my boundaries, and if I dont have sex with ehr she seems upset. I’ve said yes a few times just because I feel bad, but the sex was really uncomfortable for me.

I want to please her, I just cant right now, and I dont know what to do.

I never really kept a note of when I stopped, but its probably been 3 years since I stopped cutting myself. I’m currently trying to get sober from drugs, and the urges to cut are really coming back, ive been thinking about it for a few weeks now, but especially this past week. My partner is 16 weeks pregnant which we found out last week, I’m definitely not ready and the stress it causing a lot of old and current triggers. I wanna stay clean but if cutting helps me stay sober from drugs maybe its better.

I was 14 days sober, I know thats not much but my recovery has been going slowly, but last night I relapsed and made a complete mess of myself, and ended up in the hospital.

My partner is 16 weeks pregnant, which we only found out last week, and the thought of not being clean for my child is terrifying me. I’m trying to sort myself out before the baby comes but its really hard and I’m scared I cant do it, but I will keep fighting.

I (21M) lost my dad to suicide last year, he struggled with drug and alochol abuse my whole life, and he always really struggled with his mental health. I can’t say he didn’t give me a lot of trauma, but I absolutely adored that man, and not one bit of him ever intended to hurt me.

He was my best friend in the whole world and its been really rough without him. I went down a very similar path to him, I’ve struggled with drug abuse for about 5 years, and especially since his death I’ve made a few attempts on my life.

A week ago I found out my partner is pregnant, and wants to keep the baby, and we’re already 4 months along. I’m super excited and terrified at the same time. I have been working on getting myself clean for just over a year, I’m in therapy and rehab, but I can’t say I’m not worried about fucking it all up.

I really wish my dad were here to support me, i’d give anything for his advice right now, but I know I want to be the best dad I can be, for my baby, but also my own dad. I want to make him proud.

I (21M) have been battling drug addiction since I was about 16, I grew up with my dad who also struggled with drug addiction and alcoholism, and it completely traumatised me.

I have been trying to get clean for the past year, I’ve been going to rehab, and Ive had therapy on and off, but things really arent getting better. I was sober for a couple weeks but Ive just relapsed.

A week ago I found out Im gonna be a dad, my partner is 16 weeks pregnant and wants to keep the baby. I want to be sober for my child more than anything, but with the stress of having a child and a lot of other shit going on I dont know how possible that is for me right now.

I want to be and Im trying to be sober, but if I cant be, would it just be safer for everyone if I stayed out the way? My relationship is already crumbling to pieces and my mental health is at an all time low, and my financial situation isnt great. I want to do whats best for my child, but I also have to be honest with myself that maybe Im just not well enough right now.

I (21M) have been battling drug addiction since I was about 16, I grew up with my dad who also struggled with drug addiction and alcoholism, and it completely traumatised me.

I have been trying to get clean for the past year, I’ve been going to rehab, and Ive had therapy on and off, but things really arent getting better. I was sober for a couple weeks but Ive just relapsed.

A week ago I found out Im gonna be a dad, my partner is 16 weeks pregnant and wants to keep the baby. I want to be sober for my child more than anything, but with the stress of having a child and a lot of other shit going on I dont know how possible that is for me right now.

I want to be and Im trying to be sober, but if I cant be, would it just be safer for everyone if I stayed out the way? My relationship is already crumbling to pieces and my mental health is at an all time low, and my financial situation isnt great. I want to do whats best for my child, but I also have to be honest with myself that maybe Im just not well enough right now.

I really need someone to vent to, and I’m happy for them to vent back, if you wanna listen to some fucked up shit, message me lol

I dont know if this is the right place to go but Im looking anywhere for support.

Im 21, I’ve been trying to get clean from drugs for over a year, I’ve been in and out of rehab, but It’s been rough, and I still have a very long way to go.

Last week my partner found out they’re pregnant and 16 weeks along. They want to keep the baby and even though I’m in a really bad place I want to do eveything I can to be there for my partner and child.

My dad was an addict and even though he wasn’t abusive and I loved him, he absolutely traumatised me, and I’m scared to do that to my kid. I dont know if I should stay out the way until I’m clean, or be involved while actively working on getting sober, I do want to be a part of my kids life but I dont want to end up just like my dad.

I’m just scared I cant do it, my dad tried and he still failed and what if Im the same, the stress is killing me and it’s just triggering me even more, I dont know what to do

Hi so me and my partner are both 21M, we found out last week he’s pregnant and 16 weeks along, and he’s keeping the baby. Im honestly just asking for any advice on supporting him, Ik pregnancy can be a lot with dysphoria and I want to be as supportive as I can be.

Hi so me and my partner are both 21M, we found out last week he’s pregnant and 16 weeks along, and he’s keeping the baby. Im honestly just asking for any advice on supporting him, Ik pregnancy can be a lot with dysphoria and I want to be as supportive as I can be.

Me and my partner are both 21, a week ago we found out they’re 16 weeks pregnant, and they want to keep the baby. I dont know what to do, I would love to be a dad but I’m in no position to be right now.

I lost my job two weeks ago, and I wasn’t financially stable to begin with, I have no parental support, I lost my dad, who was my only support system, 6 months ago and I’m dealing with my own grief, mental health and addiction issues, I’m not suitable to look after a child and I don’t think my partner is either.

I want to support my partner and their decision but I don’t know how to handle this situation. I tried to talk to them about abortion but they just got mad at me because it’s not my choice, I wasn’t trying to force them, just have an open discussion, because if we bring a baby into this world chances are it’s going to get taken away, and that’s not the life I want for my child.

edit: for the millionth time I used protection

My mental health has been really bad, Ive been having the worst depressive episodes. Im struggling bad with drug addiction, ive actively been trying to get sober but its been really bad. I OD’d just a couple weeks ago and spent a few days in the hospital, and all I can think about is doing it again. Im not ready to have a kid, not when all I can think about is hurting myself, my partner wants to keep the baby and I dont know what to do. Theyre 16 weeks already and we only just found out, I wish I could be a dad but Im so sick Im gonna fuck everything up, I dont know what to do

Genuinely have never been more terrified in my life. My mental health is at an all time low, and I just found out I’m going to be a dad, Im excited but Im scared I will fuck it all up. What if Im not well enough? Ive never thought I would be able to be a parent if Im sick

I just found out I’m gonna be a dad at 21, my partner is 16 weeks pregnant. I am absolutely in no place to become a father, but I guess its happening, I need a lot of advice

Me and my partner are both 21, a week ago we found out they’re 16 weeks pregnant, and they want to keep the baby. I dont know what to do, I would love to be a dad but I’m in no position to be right now.

I lost my job two weeks ago, and I wasn’t financially stable to begin with, I have no parental support, I lost my dad 6 months ago and I’m dealing with my own grief, mental health and addiction issues, I’m not suitable to look after a child and I don’t think my partner is either.

I want to support my partner and their decision but I don’t know how to handle this situation. I tried to talk to them about abortion but they just got mad at me because it’s not my choice, I wasn’t trying to force them, just have an open discussion, because if we bring a baby into this world chances are it’s going to get taken away, and that’s not the life I want for my child.