Navigating life as a woman being divorced

Got married to a completely avoidant who I was hopelessly in love with. Got divorce threats 2 weeks into the marriage until they became a daily occurrence. I was devastated because i was ride or die i thought like everyone else i got married this is my person i spend my life with him. He told his mom everything about me and she made my life miserable too i only got to spend 3 months with him post marriage before he went back to Canada with the the parents never applied for my visa. I waited 7 months at my parents house finally he moved to Dubai i went to be with him on a visit visa because again didnt sponsor me because guess what no financial anything from him the entire marriage. Lived at my sisters house with him for a month in Dubai as soon as he got his apartment divorce threats and once wr moved in 2.5 weeks later kicked me out for good and verbal divorce. That was April he is still doing the legal paperwork and talks shit about me to anyone who would listen while me and my family requested them to reconsider everything. I mean I am 35, he kept making me wait that we will have kids later and now divorcing me.

What’s pathetic is how depressed and hopeless I have been and still am and somehow I just keep praying that somehow Allah saves this even though I know he has no love or respect in his heart for me. But I married him man and honestly I never felt what a marriage is supposed to feel like or what having a husband feels like and now I am afraid I never might. What’s especially cruel is he knew how much I wanted to be a mother. Also that he blocked me everywhere and is ghosting my entire family.

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u/DirectionKey148 — 10 hours ago
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Ashura - the day impossible duas get accepted

A kind request to everyone praying on Ashura that they pray that just like Allah accepted all impossible seeming duas on this day may he accept my impossible dua too and my husband’s heart melts towards me and we reconcile and build our marriage back with love, peace and righteousness InshaAllah Ameen. Let this nikkah not be broken by anything and may Allah reunite me with my husband in this marriage with sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah and may we be each others partners in this world and the next. Ameen. JazakAllah khayrun!!

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u/DirectionKey148 — 12 days ago
▲ 56 r/Umrah

Ashura - the day impossible duas get accepted

A kind request to everyone praying on Ashura that they pray that just like Allah accepted all impossible seeming duas on this day may he accept my impossible dua too and my husband’s heart melts towards me and we reconcile and build our marriage back with love, peace and righteousness InshaAllah Ameen. Let this nikkah not be broken by anything and may Allah reunite me with my husband in this marriage with sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah and may we be each others partners in this world and the next. Ameen. JazakAllah khayrun!!

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u/DirectionKey148 — 12 days ago
▲ 33 r/shia

Ashura - the dua impossible duas come true

A kind request to everyone praying on Ashura that they pray that just like Allah accepted all impossible seeming duas on this day may he accept my impossible dua too and my husband’s heart melts towards me and we reconcile and build our marriage back with love, peace and righteousness InshaAllah Ameen. Let this nikkah not be broken by anything and may Allah reunite me with my husband in this marriage with sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah and may we be each others partners in this world and the next. Ameen. JazakAllah khayrun!!

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u/DirectionKey148 — 12 days ago

Will he face karma for his actions?

He was abusive af to me and had mentally abused many girls in the past also

u/DirectionKey148 — 19 days ago

Will my abusive husband face any consequences for the abuse and now divorce? Brutally honest please

He abused me emotionally mentally and once physically and has a history of mentally abusing women and discarding them with his family enabling him. Will they face any consequences ever?

u/DirectionKey148 — 19 days ago
▲ 102 r/DivorceHelp+2 crossposts

Any hope for a divorced 35 year old woman in this society?

After years of waiting I finally get married to someone last year (waited so long because overseas pakistani with a limited pakistani population and lost my father to cancer). I stuck by this guy through his parents being sick and him being jobless but believed in him so married him. I married him and from day 1 dowry pressure, his entire family getting together to bash me because he said i stress him out 2 weeks into the marriage. I get pressure to bring saal ka kharcha and what not. Bear in mind these people live in DHA and i did not even ask for a new walima jora wore his mums dress. Anyway every argument ended in a divorce threat and a i didnt even wanna get married. I find out later this guy has 2 broken engagement and yes a string of talking stages. Only overpampered son too. I heard a lot of i never even wanted to actuslly get married. Then he didnt get my canadian visa so off he went with his parents to canada and i went back home to the middle east. Waited 8 months prayed day and night for his job used to stay up all night and day in case he gets free to talk. Divorce threats continue. Everytime we make up his parents threw a fit that end it esp his mother. They took the engagemrnt ring they gave me and the munh dikhai back before i went back home to the middle east. In January his mother insists on a divorce asks him to choose her or me. Navigated that for a month. He finally camr to Dubai so we can be together. Stayed at my sisters for a month and they went all out for him. We get an apartment. Any small fight still divorce threats continue and any conversation or discussion can be a fight. I made mistakes too given my mental state in all this dragged fights and saw questionable things like him drinking or constantly looking at porn which I opposed. Another small argument escalated he swore at me hit me and gave me verbal talaaq we still made up but he asked me to leave a week later over a small argument. Overstayed dubai visa for 2 months as he didnt do my residency. Finally his parents told my family they are filing for divorce. We still tried to mediate anyway i think it has finally happened. So i got dowry pressure, no kharcha ever, a lot of emotional and mental trauma and now a divorce which I never wanted. All this when he knew all i wanted from a marriage were kids and he intentionally kept me waiting that next year. Didnt even tell his fam he wasnt trying for kids left them thinking we cant conceive. So all that happened how do I recover? Is my hope and dream for kids gone forever? What happens to me now? I didnt wanna be alone in life. The worst part? He is so happy in his decision and probably doesnt even think of me

Kindly pray that this time him and his mother especially face a lot of consequences along with the rest of his family. They tormented me, my poor mother who is a widow and so simple and honestly my whole family. My poor younger sister who is still unmarried and so beautiful but this will affect her

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u/DirectionKey148 — 19 days ago

Urgent Dua to save my marriage!

Assalamoalaikum! Please pray from the bottom of your heart and say Ameen to this dua from a helpless woman’s heart. Kindly pray that my husband SIP does not apply and file for divorce from LF. We both do not get divorced from each other and Allah calms the fire in my husband’s heart and mind and lifts the veil and softens his heart towards me and this marriage. May Allah guide him and his family esp his mother that she realises the negative impact she had on this marriage and she tries her level best to stop this divorce and fo a reconciliation. May Allah reunite us both in a beautiful way soon and tie their hearts in an everlasting love and guide them to paths of peace together in this world and the next. May Allah bind us both together with sakinah mawaddah and rahmah and grant them righteous children and a wonderful life in this world and the next!. May Allah cause this miracle to happen in a way that leaves everyone amazed! Ya Muqalibul Quloob, Ya Qadir, Ya Qadeer, Ya Muqtadir, Ya Jabbar, Ya Wadud, Ya Wahhab, Ya Latif, Ya Muqaddim, Ya Mujib, Ya Dhul Jalali Wal Ikram! Alahumma Ameen! JazakAllah Khayrun!

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u/DirectionKey148 — 20 days ago

Urgent Dua to save my marriage!

Assalamoalaikum! Please pray from the bottom of your heart and say Ameen to this dua from a helpless woman’s heart. Kindly pray that my husband SIP does not apply and file for divorce from LF. We both do not get divorced from each other and Allah calms the fire in my husband’s heart and mind and lifts the veil and softens his heart towards me and this marriage. May Allah guide him and his family esp his mother that she realises the negative impact she had on this marriage and she tries her level best to stop this divorce and fo a reconciliation. May Allah reunite us both in a beautiful way soon and tie their hearts in an everlasting love and guide them to paths of peace together in this world and the next. May Allah bind us both together with sakinah mawaddah and rahmah and grant them righteous children and a wonderful life in this world and the next!. May Allah cause this miracle to happen in a way that leaves everyone amazed! Ya Muqalibul Quloob, Ya Qadir, Ya Qadeer, Ya Muqtadir, Ya Jabbar, Ya Wadud, Ya Wahhab, Ya Latif, Ya Muqaddim, Ya Mujib, Ya Dhul Jalali Wal Ikram! Alahumma Ameen! JazakAllah Khayrun!

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u/DirectionKey148 — 20 days ago

Urgent Duas to save my marriage

Dua to save my marriage!

Assalamoalaikum! Please pray from the bottom of your heart and say Ameen to this dua from a helpless woman’s heart. Kindly pray that my husband SIP does not apply and file for divorce from LF. We both do not get divorced from each other and Allah calms the fire in my husband’s heart and mind and lifts the veil and softens his heart towards me and this marriage. May Allah guide him and his family esp his mother that she realises the negative impact she had on this marriage and she tries her level best to stop this divorce and fo a reconciliation. May Allah reunite us both in a beautiful way soon and tie their hearts in an everlasting love and guide them to paths of peace together in this world and the next. May Allah bind us both together with sakinah mawaddah and rahmah and grant them righteous children and a wonderful life in this world and the next!. May Allah cause this miracle to happen in a way that leaves everyone amazed! Ya Muqalibul Quloob, Ya Qadir, Ya Qadeer, Ya Muqtadir, Ya Jabbar, Ya Wadud, Ya Wahhab, Ya Latif, Ya Muqaddim, Ya Mujib, Ya Dhul Jalali Wal Ikram! Alahumma Ameen! JazakAllah Khayrun!

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u/DirectionKey148 — 20 days ago
▲ 11 r/Madinah

Dua request

Assalamoalaikum! To all those frequenting Masjid e Nabawi a kind request from the depths of a recently married girl. Please pray for reconciliation and love between me and my husband. Please ask Allah to remove any influence, evil eye or sihr disruption our peace and union. Ask Allah to guide my husband SP back to me and remove the veil from his heart and mind and calm this fire in his heart. Please pray he never files the paperwork for divorce and sees reason. Pray my mother in law esp softens towards me and this marriage and realises it is the best for her son and I will love her and may she aid our reconciliation greatly. May Allah allow us both to be wonderful spouses to each other in this duniya and the next. Ameen. JazakAllah khayrun!

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u/DirectionKey148 — 20 days ago
▲ 15 r/Umrah

request for all those at umrah/leaving for umrah

Assalamoalikum everyone! Kindly make a lot of prayers at haram and madinah for my marriage to be saved and for me and my husband to be reunited with love and be guided back to paths of peace! May Allah preserve this marriage beautifully! May my husband not file any papers or send me a notice and May Allah melt his and my in laws hearts Ameen! May Allah enable us both to be the best of spouses to each other for this duniya and the next! Ameen and JaxakAllah!

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u/DirectionKey148 — 20 days ago
▲ 16 r/shia

Dua for reconciliation!!

Hey there! I am a Sunni who has heard a lot about wishes and mannats made at majlis coming true. Unfortunately I am unable to attend one myself (will try my best to attend one) but can I request everyone to kindly make dua for Laraib and her husband SP to stay happily married together and to not let any divorce or separation occur between us. May Allah reunite our hearts together strongly and guide us to paths of peace never to be separated again Ameen. Please pray Allah softens his heart towards me and this marriage completely and he actively pursues reconciliation and takes no step to end the marriage and may Allah remove any obstacles from reconciliation. Ameen. JazakAllah

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u/DirectionKey148 — 21 days ago

Duas to turn my husband’s heart

Please pray that Allah turns Sinan’s (husband) heart towards me and this marriage and he gets over his commitment issues and commits back to me and this marriage and does go through with a divorce or dissolution of marriage. Please pray Allah reunites us with sakinah mawaddah and rahmah between us and gives us a wonderful and blessed life together and God fearing children Ameen. JazakAllah. Allah is Al Qaadir anything is possible.

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u/DirectionKey148 — 26 days ago

Driving schools in Lahore

Hey there! I want to learn driving but the last time I tried Diana school the instructor was very misogynistic. So I am looking for a decent and reputable place with polite instructors. Please give dome recommendations.

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u/DirectionKey148 — 1 month ago

Driving school recommendation for women

Hey there! I want to learn driving but the last time I tried Diana school the instructor was very misogynistic. So I am looking for a decent and reputable place with polite instructors. Please give dome recommendations.

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u/DirectionKey148 — 1 month ago